Ingaba umntwana wakho omncinci uyamgquma entloko? (Intloko ibetha) – Ungakhathazeki, masithethe ngale nto!

Mama nootata, kufuneka nikhathazeke kakhulu xa nibona umntwana wenu omncinci ngamanye amaxesha ebetha intloko yakhe ebhedini, eludongeni, okanye kwiithoyi, akunjalo? Kuqhelekile ukuba izinto eziliwaka ezifana nokuthi "Owu, kutheni umntwana wam esenza oku? Ngaba kukho into engalunganga ngaye? Ngaba oku kukuqala kwengxaki enkulu?" zifike engqondweni. Akumangalisi ukuziva usoyika kakhulu kwaye ukhathazekile ngelo xesha. Nangona kunjalo, uya kuziva ukhululekile kancinci xa usazi ukuba oku akusoloko kuluphawu lwengxaki enkulu njengoko ucinga. Namhlanje, masithethe `(Ukubetha kwentloko)` okanye ukubetha intloko ngendlela elula kwaye ufumane iimpendulo kwimibuzo emininzi esengqondweni yakho.

Kutheni abantwana bethu abancinci ngamanye amaxesha bebetha iintloko zabo ngolu hlobo?

Kunokubakho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zoku. Isizathu esifanayo asichaphazeli wonke umntwana. Ngoko ke, ngaphandle kokukhathazeka, masizame ukuqonda ukuba yintoni unobangela.

1. Ukuzivuselela

Cinga ngako oku, ngamanye amaxesha sijika imilenze yethu, okanye sihlale nje esitulweni size siqhubeke sishukuma. Ngokufanayo, iintsana ezincinci zinokufumana ulonwabo okanye ukuzola kule ntshukumo inesingqisho. Njengoko inkqubo yazo yemithambo-luvo ikhula, ezi zinto ngamava amatsha kuzo. Kufana nokufunda ngemizimba yazo kunye neentshukumo zazo. Ezinye iintsana zinokubonwa zishukumisa iintloko zazo kwaye zishukumisa iintloko zazo ngendlela enesingqisho ngale ndlela nangaphambi kokuba zilale.

2. Indlela yokuzithuthuzela (Ukuzithuthuzela)

Njengokuba ezinye iintsana zincanca oobhontsi bazo okanye zizishukumisa, oku kungaba yindlela yokubathuthuzela. Ingakumbi xa beziva bediniwe, okanye bexhalabile okanye bengaphumli, basenokuzama ukuzithuthuzela ngokushukumisa iintloko zabo ngale ndlela.

3. Indlela yokukhulula oko kusengqondweni yakho (Ukukhathazeka/Ukukhulula Umsindo)

Iintsana ezincinci azikwazi ukuveza iimvakalelo zazo zosizi, umsindo, okanye ukukhungatheka ngamazwi. Ngoko ke, xa ziziva zicaphukile kakhulu okanye zinomsindo, ezinye iintsana zinokuzibetha iintloko njengendlela yokukhupha umoya. Kufana naxa sibamba amanqindi ethu xa sicaphukile, okanye ngamanye amaxesha sivala ucango. Ekubeni zingakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zazo okwangoku, zisebenzisa iindlela zomzimba ukuzikhupha.

4. Ukuphelisa iintlungu (kunqabile)

Oku akusoloko kubonwa. Nangona kunjalo, kunqabile kakhulu ukuba iintsana zikwazi ukubetheka iintloko zazo ngale ndlela ngenxa yentlungu yendlebe, iintlungu zamazinyo, okanye ezinye iingxaki zomzimba. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ukongeza ekubethekeni iintloko zazo, umntwana unokubonisa nezinye iimpawu ezifana nokukhala, ukwala ukutya, nokubamba iindlebe zakhe.

5. Ukufuna Ingqwalasela

Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba unomdla kakhulu kwaye unika umntwana wakho ingqalelo eninzi xa ebetha intloko yakhe, unokutolika oku ngokuthi, "Xa ndenza oku, umama notata baya kundijonga baze basondele." Emva koko, unokulingeka ukuba enze oku nangona efuna ukufumana ingqalelo yakho.

Ngoko ke, oku kubetha intloko kuba yinto eqhelekileyo nini?

Ixesha elininzi, oku akuyonto ibalulekileyo, ingakumbi ukuba:

• Ubudala: Lo mkhwa udla ngokuqala malunga neenyanga ezi-6-9. Ubonakala ngakumbi malunga neenyanga ezili-18-24 (iminyaka eyi-1 1/2 - 2), kwaye uhlala uphela ngokuzenzekelayo emva kweminyaka emi-3-4.
• Ukuba akukho okunye ukulibaziseka kokukhula: Ukuba umntwana wakho uthetha, uhamba, kwaye udlala nabanye ngesantya esifanelekileyo kubudala bakhe, akukho nto ifanele ixhalabe ngayo.
• Ukuba ayibuhlungu: Ukuba umntwana wakho ubetheka entloko aze angabangeli nxeba okanye isilonda esikhulu, okanye ukuba bomvu kancinci, oko kusenokuba ngaphakathi kwemida eqhelekileyo.
• Ukuba ukwenza oko okwethutyana: Ukuba ukwenza oku imizuzu embalwa kuphela uze ubuyele ekwenzeni enye into.
• Ukuba ukwenza ngamanye amaxesha kuphela: Hayi ngamaxesha onke, kodwa kuphela xa udiniwe, xa uza kulala, okanye xa uziva uxinezelekile.

Khumbula, ayizizo zonke iintsana ezifanayo. Ezinye iintsana zisenokungaze zikwenze oku. Ezinye zinokukwenza okwethutyana zize ziyeke.

Singenza ntoni njengabazali xa umntwana ebetha entloko?

Kulungile, makhe sibone ukuba ungenza ntoni ngexesha elinje.

1. Ukhuseleko luza kuqala!

Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Nciphisa amathuba okwenzakala komntwana kangangoko unako.

• Ibhedi yosana: Qinisekisa ukuba ibhedi yosana ikhuselekile ukuze intloko yosana lwakho ingabambeki phakathi kweentsimbi. Ukuba ibhedi yosana ixhomekeke eludongeni, yibeke ukuze ingabambeki phakathi kweendonga. Abanye abantu basebenzisa ii-crib liners ezifakwe i-pad , kodwa lumka ngazo, kuba zinokubangela iingxaki zokuphefumla kusana lwakho. Khetha indlela ekhuselekileyo ngokweengcebiso zonyango.
• Susa izinto ezibukhali neziqinileyo: Lumka kwizinto ezineekona ezibukhali, njengeetafile nezitulo, kwiindawo apho umntwana wakho ehlala khona kwaye edlala khona. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, zisuse okanye ubeke ii-corner guiders kuzo.
• Ukuba udlala phantsi: Beka into ethambileyo ngokupheleleyo (umathi wokudlala) phantsi.

2. Musa Ukusabela Ngokugqithisileyo

Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive ukhathazekile kwaye ulusizi xa ubona oku. Kodwa, zama ukungayithathi njengento enkulu kangangoko. Ngamanye amaxesha le ndlela yokuziphatha inokwanda xa ukhalimela, ukhwaza, okanye ujezisa. Kwakhona, ngenxa yendlela osabela ngayo kakhulu, umntwana angayisebenzisa njengendlela yokufumana ingqalelo.

3. Jongana nonobangela oyintloko.

• Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhathazekile: Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhathazekile okanye unomsindo, mfundise enye indlela yokuzibonakalisa. Mgobe uze umthuthuzele. Mbuze izinto ezinje, "Ukhathazekile, sithandwa?" "Unomsindo?" uze umxelele indlela avakalelwa ngayo.
• Ukuba udiniwe:Yenza indawo apho umntwana wakho anokulala kakuhle. Misela inkqubo yokuzola , equka imisebenzi enceda umntwana wakho aphumle ngaphambi kokuba alale. Umzekelo, ukuhlamba umzimba womntwana wakho, ukufunda incwadi, okanye ukucula ingoma ethambileyo.
• Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba kukho iintlungu: Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhala ngaphezu kwesiqhelo, ubambe indlebe yakhe, okanye uyala ukutya, funa ingcebiso kagqirha ngoko nangoko.

4. Yazisa ezinye iindlela zokuzola

Ukuba umntwana wakho ubetha intloko yakhe ukuze afumane isingqisho aze azole, ungamfundisa ezinye iindlela ezinesingqisho nezikhuselekileyo.

• Dansa kancinci xa uphulaphule umculo.
• Bavumele bacofe kancinci idrama yokudlala.
• Qhuba kancinci kwi-swing.
• Yibambe esandleni sakho uze uyishukumise kancinci kancinci.

5. Nika ingqalelo eyakhayo eninzi.

Xa umntwana wakho engamthinti intloko, mncome kakhulu xa edlala kakuhle, encumile, okanye esenza into entsha. Thetha naye, dlala naye, kwaye umgone. Emva koko, uya kufunda ukuba akufuneki amthintise intloko ukuze afumane ingqalelo yakho.

Sifanele sithethe nini nogqirha ngale nto? Zithini "izibane ezibomvu"?

Nangona oku kudla ngokungakhathali, kwezinye iimeko kubalulekile ukufuna ingcebiso kagqirha. Qaphela ezi "mpawu zibalulekileyo":

• Ukuba kukho ukulibaziseka kophuhliso:
• Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ukulibaziseka kokuthetha komntwana wakho okanye ukulibaziseka kwemisipha ngokucacileyo kusemva kwezinye iintsana ezineminyaka yakhe.
• Ukuba abayiqondi imiyalelo elula ehambelana neminyaka.
• Ukuba uneengxaki zokunxibelelana nabantu:
• Dlala nabanye (ingakumbi abanye abantwana) kwaye ujonge emehlweni ukuba akukho mdla, okanye ukuba akukho mdla ungako.
• Ukuba awuncumi kwakhona xa uncuma, abasabujongi rhoqo ubuso bakho.
• Ukuba awunamdla wokubonisa abanye izinto zakho zokudlala okanye ukwabelana ngovuyo lwakho.
• Ukuba ukubetha kwentloko kukhulu kakhulu okanye kwenzeka rhoqo:
• Ukuba ubetha intloko yakho izihlandlo ezininzi ngemini kwaye ixesha elide (ngaphezulu kwemizuzu eli-15-20).
• Ukuba inzima ngokwaneleyo ukuba izilimaze (kangangokuba ifumana amanxeba kwaye yophe igazi).
• Ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha yenza kube nzima ukwenza imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla (ukutya, ukudlala) ngokufanelekileyo.
• Ukuba uyaqhubeka nokwenza oko nasemva kweminyaka eqhelekileyo:
• Lo mkhwa uhlala uphela emva kweminyaka emi-3-4. Ukuba uyaqhubeka okanye uba mandundu emva kweminyaka emi-4-5, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kufuneka ubone ugqirha.
• Ukuba kukho ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha eziphindaphindayo:
• Ukongeza ekubetheni intloko, ukuba kukho ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha eziphindaphindayo ezifana nokuqhwaba izandla, ukuhamba ngeenyawo, ukujikeleza ngendlela efanayo, kunye nokudlala ngethoyizi elifanayo ngendlela efanayo ixesha elide.
• Ukuba unamathandabuzo okanye uloyiko olukhulu:
• Nangona kunjalo konke oku, ukuba unamathandabuzo, uloyiko, okanye inkxalabo malunga noku, kusoloko kungcono kwaye kukhuselekile ukufuna ingcebiso kagqirha. Kuya kunceda ekunciphiseni umthwalo engqondweni yakho.

Ngamanye amaxesha ezi mpawu zinokunxulunyaniswa neengxaki zophuhliso lwemithambo-luvo, ezifana ne-Autism Spectrum Disorder. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba wonke umntwana obetheka entloko unale meko. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukubona ugqirha ukuze kufunyanwe isifo esifanelekileyo.

Kwenzeka ntoni xa usiya kugqirha?

Xa usisa umntwana wakho kugqirha, ugqirha uya kwenza ezi zinto zilandelayo:

• Ubuza iinkcukacha: Umntwana uqale nini ukungquba intloko yakhe? Unexesha elingakanani esenza oku? Ukwenza kangaphi ngemini? Ukwenza ngaliphi ixesha lemini? Ngaba kukho umntu kusapho lwakhe obe nalo mkhwa? Injani imikhwa yokutya nokulala komntwana? Uza kubuza imibuzo emininzi aze afumane iinkcukacha.
• Kuza kwenziwa uvavanyo lomzimba: Umntwana uza kuhlolwa kakuhle. Baza kujonga ukuba akukho monakalo entloko okanye ezinye iingxaki zomzimba.
• Uvavanya uphuhliso: Ujonga ukuba umntwana ukwinqanaba lophuhliso elifanelekileyo ngokweminyaka yakhe.
• Icebiso: Ixesha elininzi, oku akuyonto ibalulekileyo kwaye uza kwaziswa ngento omawuyenze.
• Uvavanyo olongezelelweyo ukuba kuyimfuneko: ​​Ukuba kukho amathandabuzo, ngamanye amaxesha ukuthunyelwa kwezinye iingcali (iPediatric Neurologist, iDevelopmental Pediatrician) kunokufuneka.

Ngoko ke, zeziphi izinto zokugqibela ekufuneka uzikhumbule? (Umyalezo Wokubuyela Ekhaya)

Kulungile, masishwankathele amanqaku ekufuneka uwaqwalasele kwinto esithethe ngayo:

• Kuqhelekile ukuba njalo: Ukubetheka entloko yinxalenye eqhelekileyo yokukhula komntwana. Kungaba yindlela yokufumana intuthuzelo, isingqisho, okanye ukukhulula iimvakalelo zakhe.
• Cinga ngokhuseleko: Kubaluleke kakhulu ukucwangcisa indawo ukuze umntwana angonzakali.
• Musa ukusabela ngokugqithisileyo: Ukusabela kwakho ngokugqithisileyo kunokubangela ukuba ukuziphatha kube kubi ngakumbi. Hlala uzolile.
• Qaphela "iimpawu eziyingozi": Ukuba kukho naziphi na iingxaki zophuhliso kunye neengxaki zobudlelwane nabantu esithethe ngazo, qiniseka ukuba ucela ingcebiso kugqirha.
• Soloko ubona ugqirha ukuba unamathandabuzo: Ukuba unamathandabuzo okanye iingxaki, kungcono ukuthetha nogqirha uze uzisombulule.
• Awuwedwa: Asinguwe wedwa umzali odlula kule meko. Abazali abaninzi bajongana nezinto ezinje.

Ngoko ke, xa ubona umntwana wakho ebetha entloko, ungoyiki, khumbula ezi zinto, funa ingcebiso kagqirha ukuba kuyimfuneko, kwaye ndiyathemba ukuba uza kufumana amandla okujongana nale meko ngothando nangomonde!

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