Ngaba uziva ulusizi emva kokuba nomntwana? Ungakhathazeki, masithethe ngokudandatheka emva kokuzalwa!

Akumnandi na ukwamkela umntwana omtsha kusapho? Kodwa kwangaxeshanye, umama omtsha usenokuziva enovalo, exhalabile, ediniwe, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha edanile kwiiveki ezimbalwa zokuqala. Le yinto eyenzeka koomama abaninzi. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ezi mvakalelo zinokuba nzulu ngakumbi kwaye zihlale ixesha elide. Yiloo nto siza kuthetha ngayo namhlanje.

Yintoni ukudandatheka emva kokubeleka? Awukwazi na ukonwaba?

Kwiintsuku ezimbalwa zokuqala okanye iiveki emva kokuba nomntwana, oomama banokuba nosizi, utshintsho lweemvakalelo, kunye nokulila nje. Oku sikubiza ngokuba yi "Baby Blues." Oku kudla ngokuphela emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa, ubuncinane kwiiveki ezimbini. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba olu sizi, ixhala, kunye nokuziva ngathi awukwazi ukwenza nto kuthatha ixesha elingaphezu kweeveki ezimbini, okanye ukuba ezi mvakalelo zinamandla kangangokuba kwenza kube nzima nokunyamekela umntwana, yiloo nto siyibiza ngokuba yi-postpartum depression. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba oku akusiyo impazamo yakho okanye ubuthathaka bakho . Le yimeko enokuchaphazela nabani na. Eyona nto ilungileyo kukuba kukho unyango olusebenzayo loku. Ngonyango, uninzi loomama lunokubuyela kubomi babo obuqhelekileyo kwaye lonwabe ngomntwana wabo.

Zithini iimpawu zokudakumba emva kokubeleka ? Sizibona njani?

Le meko ayibachaphazeli bonke abantu ngendlela efanayo. Oko kuthetha ukuba iimpawu zinokuhluka kumntu nomntu. Kodwa kukho ezinye iimpawu eziqhelekileyo. Jonga ukuba ufumana nayiphi na kwezi:

• Ndihlala ndiziva ndibuhlungu, ngathi akukho themba, kwaye ndiziva ngathi ndiyekile yonke into.
• Ndisoloko ndiziva ndinoloyiko, ndixhalabile, kwaye ndixhalabile kakhulu.
• Bayazityhola nje.
• Ndikhala ngaphandle kwesizathu, ngamanye amaxesha kangangokuba andikwazi ukuyeka.
• Andonwabanga, ndisoloko ndinomsindo, kwaye imo yam itshintsha ngokukhawuleza.
• Ukulala akuhlali ixesha elide, okanye ulala ngaphezu kokuba kufanele.
• Ukutya akunancasa, okanye utya kakhulu.
• Kunzima ukugxila kuyo nayiphi na into, kwaye ndivakalelwa kukuba inkumbulo yam ayinayo.
• Andifuni ukuthetha nabahlobo bam okanye usapho lwam, okanye ukudibana nabo.
• Andiziva ndisondelelene kakhulu nomntwana, kwaye ndiphelelwa ngumdla wokunyamekela umntwana.
• Andisafuni ukwenza izinto endandizithanda ngaphambili.

Ayilo lonke ixesha xa unenye okanye ezimbini zezi mpawu, ibizwa ngokuba yi "postpartum depression." Kodwa ukuba unezinye zazo kangangeeveki ezingaphezu kwezimbini zilandelelana, kungcono ukubona ugqirha.

Zinokuba yingozi, kodwa iimpawu ezingaqhelekanga kakhulu

Kunqabile kakhulu, oko kuthetha ukuba kunqabile kakhulu, abanye oomama banokuba neempawu ezinzulu ngakumbi. Ezi azifanele zityeshelwe konke konke:

• Kuvela iingcinga zokulimaza umntwana okanye wena.
• Ukubona nokuva izinto ezingekhoyo ngokwenene (oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-`(Imibono engemihle (''utsho'), okanye ukurhanela (''iimvakalelo zeParanoid'') zivela ngokungathi wonke umntu uchasene nabo kwaye uzama ukubenzakalisa.

Ukuba unale mpawu, kuya kufuneka uye esibhedlele ngokukhawuleza okanye ufumane ingcebiso kagqirha ngokukhawuleza. Le yimeko engxamisekileyo.

Kutheni kukho ukudandatheka emva kokubeleka? Zithini izizathu?

Ngamafutshane, akukho sizathu sinye sale nto. Yindibaniselwano yezinto ezininzi ezibangela le meko.

• Utshintsho kwihomoni : Emva kokuba nomntwana, umzimba kamama utshintsha kakhulu amanqanaba ehomoni. Olu tshintsho lunokuchaphazeleka ngequbuliso kwabanye abantu ngokweemvakalelo ngale ndlela.
• Utshintsho ebomini: Ukunyamekela umntwana omtsha luxanduva olukhulu. Ulahlekelwa bubuthongo, ulahlekelwa kukuphumla , kwaye uzive udiniwe imini yonke. Konke oku xa kudibene kunokubangela uxinzelelo. Khawucinge nje, abanye oomama kufuneka bavuke ezinzulwini zobusuku ukuze bancancise baze bashukumise iintsana zabo. Kudinisa kangakanani oku xa kuqhubeka iinyanga?

Nangona le meko inokuvela nakuwuphi na umama, abanye abantu banamathuba amaninzi okuba nayo. Umzekelo:

• Ukuba wakha waphathwa luxinzelelo ngaphambili (kusenokuba luxinzelelo emva kokubeleka).
• Ukuba kukho nabani na kusapho (umama, utata, abantakwabo noodadewabo) onesifo sokudakumba .
• Ukuba ubunexinzelelo olukhulu ngexesha lokukhulelwa .
• Ukuba ubuneengxaki zempilo ngexesha lokukhulelwa okanye emva kokubeleka.
• Ukuba akukho nkxaso ingako ekhaya, kumyeni, okanye kusapho. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Umama omtsha udinga uncedo lomntu wonke ngexesha elinje.

Ungazi njani ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba olu luxinzelelo emva kokubeleka? (Ukuxilongwa)

Ukuba unezinye zeempawu ezikhankanyiweyo apha ngasentla, eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukuxelela ugqirha wakho, ugqirha wengqondo, okanye ingcali yezengqondo. Baza kuthetha nawe, bamamele iimpawu zakho, baze bakuxelele ngqo ukuba unale meko okanye akunjalo. Ngamanye amaxesha umama uyaluqonda olu tshintsho ngokwakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha, umyeni, ilungu losapho, okanye umhlobo osenyongweni uya kulubona utshintsho aze akhuthaze umama ukuba afune ingcebiso kagqirha.

Ziziphi iindlela zonyango zokudakumba emva kokubeleka? Ngaba ziyanyangeka?

Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo! Kukho unyango olufanelekileyo loku, kwaye ngonyango, oomama abaninzi bayaphila ngokupheleleyo. Unyango lunokwahluka. Kuxhomekeke kuhlobo lweempawu zakho, ubukhali bazo, njl.

• Ingcebiso : Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho nomcebisi oqeqeshiweyo kunokuba luncedo kakhulu. Kungakunika nesikhokelo sendlela yokujongana nale meko.
• Ukuzinyamekela: Oku kukwayinxalenye yonyango ngokwalo.
• Lala ngokwaneleyo. Kunzima ukulala ngokwaneleyo nomntwana. Kodwa thatha ikhefu elincinci xa kunokwenzeka. Fumana uncedo kumalungu osapho.
• Yitya ukutya okunesondlo.
• Ukuzilolonga. Nokuba uhamba nje ixesha elifutshane kwanele.
• Fumana ixesha lokwenza into ekwenza wonwabe kwaye ikhulule ingqondo yakho (umz. ukufunda incwadi, ukumamela ingoma, ukuthetha nomhlobo).
• Amaqela eNkxaso: Ukuthetha nabanye oomama abakwimeko efanayo nawe nokwabelana ngamava kuyanceda kakhulu. Kuyathuthuzela nokwazi ukuba awuwedwa.
• Amayeza: Ngamanye amaxesha ugqirha wakho unokukunika amayeza. La mayeza anokunceda ekunciphiseni iimvakalelo zakho zosizi kunye nokuxhalaba. Kukho amayeza akhuselekileyo anokusetyenziswa ngoomama abancancisayo. Ngoko ke ungakhathazeki ngawo. Nangona kunjalo, musa ukuthatha naluphi na unyango ngaphandle kwengcebiso kagqirha.

Ukuba ndifuna uncedo, ndilufumana phi uncedo?

Ukuba unezinye zeempawu ezikhankanyiweyo kweli nqaku, nceda ungalibazisi ukufuna uncedo. Okukhona ukhawuleza ukufuna uncedo, kokukhona ungachacha ngokukhawuleza.

• Okokuqala, bona ugqirha wakho wosapho (`uGqirha woSapho / ugqirha wezilwanyana`), ugqirha wakho wokubelekisa kunye nogqirha wezifo zabesifazane (`VOG`), okanye ugqirha wabantwana womntwana wakho (`uGqirha wabantwana`). Banoku:
• Bhala amayeza ukuba uyawadinga.
• Uthunyelwe kwingcali yezengqondo, kwingcali yezengqondo, okanye komnye umsebenzi wezempilo yengqondo .
• Ngamanye amaxesha uvavanyo lwegazi (umz., uvavanyo lomsebenzi we-thyroid) lunokwenziwa ukuze kubonwe ukuba kukho na esinye isizathu esibonakalayo sezi mpawu.
• Ungaya nakwikliniki yezifo zengqondo kwisibhedlele sikarhulumente esikufutshane.
• Okubaluleke kakhulu: Ukuba uziva ngathi ulimaza umntwana wakho okanye wena ngokwakho, okanye ukuba ubona okanye uve izinto ezingekhoyo, yiya kwigumbi likaxakeka lesibhedlele esikufutshane ngoko nangoko. Le ayisiyonto ufanele uyilibazise.

Kukwakho neenkonzo zempilo yengqondo kunye nenkxaso kunye neenombolo zefowuni eSri Lanka. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, ungabuza ugqirha ngayo.

Yintoni enye ekufuneka siyazi ngale nto? (Umyalezo oya nawo ekhaya)

Khumbula, ukudakumba emva kokuzalwa kuyanyangeka, kwaye unyango luyasebenza. Uninzi loomama luyakwazi ukubuyela kubomi babo obuqhelekileyo baze bonwabele usana lwabo olutsha kwiiveki ezimbalwa.

Awuwedwa ngeli xesha. Oomama abaninzi badlula kolu lwazi. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba ungoyiki ukucela uncedo, kwaye ungabi neentloni zokuza ngaphambili. Ulonwabo lwakho, impilo yakho yengqondo, kunye nolomntwana wakho zibaluleke kakhulu. Ngoko ke cinga ngawe nawe.

Ukuba unemibuzo engaphezulu malunga noku, nceda uthethe nomntu omthembayo, okanye ugqirha. Ndikunqwenelela ukuchacha ngokukhawuleza!

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Uxinzelelo emva kokubeleka, Umama, Usana, Impilo Yengqondo, Uxinzelelo, Unyango