Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha ukhe uzibuze, "Kutheni ndingakwazi ukwenza nantoni na?" Ngaba wakha waziva umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho lisithi kuwe, "Awukhe umamele nantoni na?" Mhlawumbi ukhe wazibuza, "Kutheni ndilibala izinto ezininzi kangaka? Kutheni ndingakwazi ukugxila kwinto enye?" Ezi zinto azizozinto nje ezingaqhelekanga. Emva koku, kunokubakho imeko yezonyango esingayinakiyo, kodwa ichaphazela abantu abaninzi. Makhe sithethe ngayo namhlanje.
Yintoni i-ADHD?
Ngamafutshane, i-ADHD imele i-'Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder'. NgesiSinhala, inokuthiwa yi-'Attention Deficit kunye ne-Hyperactivity Disorder.' Kodwa xa sithetha, siza kusebenzisa igama elithi ADHD, kuba yiloo nto abantu abaninzi bayaziyo kwaye oogqirha bayayisebenzisa.
Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba oku kukuchaphazela abantwana abancinci kuphela. Kodwa oko akuyonyani. Malunga nama-60% abantwana abane-ADHD bayaqhubeka nokuba nale meko de babe badala.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba ugqirha kufuneka aqinisekise ukuba unayo na i-ADHD okanye akunjalo. Ngenxa yokuba iimpawu zayo zinokufana kakhulu nezezinye izifo zengqondo, ezinje ngokudakumba okanye ukuxhalaba, kungcono ukubona ugqirha kunokuba wenze izigqibo wedwa.
Ngaba ezi mpawu ziqhelekile kuwe?
Ukuba uneempawu ezininzi kwezi, kufanelekile ukubona ugqirha ukuze akunike ingcebiso. Masibone ukuba zeziphi ezi mpawu.
| Uphawu/Ingxaki | Kalula nje... |
|---|---|
| Ukusoloko ulibale izinto | Kuqhelekile ukuba ulahlekelwe zizitshixo zemoto yakho okanye ibhegi yakho ngamanye amaxesha. Kodwa ngaba kufuneka uhlale ujonge isibuko sakho, ifowuni, okanye isikhwama sakho semali? Ngaba uhlala ulibala ukufowuna kwakhona, ukuhlawula amatyala, okanye ukwenza idinga likagqirha? |
| Izityholo zokungaphulaphuli | Sonke siyaphazamiseka xa umntu ethetha. Kodwa xa une-ADHD, ingqondo yakho inokuzulazula nokuba akukho ziphazamiso. Ukunikel’ ingqalelo kwinto ethethwa ngomnye umntu kunokuba ngumceli mngeni wokwenene. |
| Ukuba sebusuku yonke indawo | Ngaba unengxaki engapheliyo yokulawula ixesha? Ngaba unomkhwa wokufika emva kwexesha kuyo yonke imisebenzi okanye intlanganiso ngaphandle kokuba wenza umgudu omkhulu? |
| Ubunzima bokugxila | Le yenye yeempawu eziphambili ze-ADHD. Kunzima kakhulu ukuqaphela into enye ngexesha, ingakumbi ixesha elide, nokuqaphela iinkcukacha ezincinci. |
| Ukutsiba umsebenzi/ukuma phakathi | Ngaba unengxaki yokuqalisa okanye ukugqiba imisebenzi efuna ukugxila kakhulu ngenxa yeengxaki zokuqwalasela kunye nenkumbulo? |
| Iingxaki zokuziphatha kwabantwana | Ukuze kufunyaniswe ukuba une-ADHD xa umdala, kufuneka ukuba ubunazo ezi mpawu usengumntwana. Usenokuba awuzange ubone ugqirha ngelo xesha. Kodwa ootitshala nabazali basenokuba bakutyhola ngokuba "ngumntwana olivila" okanye "ungumntu okhohlakeleyo." |
| Ubunzima bokulawula iminqweno | Oku akuyonto ingenamsebenzi njengokucinga ngokuthenga itshokolethi evenkileni. Kukwenza oko nangona usazi ukuba iziphumo zinokuba zimbi kakhulu. Umzekelo, ukuqalisa imoto yakho ucinga ukuba ungabaleka nesibane esibomvu, okanye ukuthetha nantoni na efika engqondweni yakho nangona usazi ukuba akulunganga ukuyithetha. |
| Ubunzima bokuhlela umsebenzi | Ngaba yonke into ekwidesika yakho ingcolile? Ngaba kunzima ukugqiba ukuba uza kwenza ntoni kuqala kwaye uza kuwugqiba njani umsebenzi inyathelo ngenyathelo? |
| Ukungazinzi, ukungakwazi ukuhlala kwindawo enye | Abantwana abane-ADHD badla ngokuba neentlondi kwaye bayaxhuma-xhuma. Kodwa kubantu abadala, oku kunokubonakala njengokungaphumli, ukungakwazi ukuhlala kwindawo enye. Badla ngokungqunga, baphakame ezitulweni zabo bahambe-hambe, bathethe kakhulu, baze baphazamise abanye. |
| Ubunzima bokulawula iimvakalelo | Ngaba ucaphuka lula ngezinto ezincinci? Ngaba uhlala ucaphukile? Ngaba uziva ungenamdla wokwenza nantoni na? Ngaba unengxaki yokulawula umsindo wakho xa ucaphukile? Oku kusenokuba yinxalenye ye-ADHD. |
Indlela i-ADHD echaphazela ngayo abantu abadala
Amaxesha amaninzi, xa umntu one-ADHD ethatha uxanduva olukhulu ebomini, ufumana kunzima ukumelana nalo. Khawuthelekelele, wawukwazi ukumelana nalo kakuhle xa wawusesikolweni. Kodwa ngoku, ngomsebenzi wasekhampasini, ixesha elibekiweyo emsebenzini, okanye uxanduva losapho, usenokufumanisa kunzima ukulawula ezi zinto.
Le "ndawo yokungabuyeli" iyahluka kumntu nomntu. Ukuba ubungumntwana okrwada nongaphumliyo usengumntwana, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ufunyaniswe une-ADHD ngelo xesha kuba uneengxaki esikolweni. Kodwa ukuba ubungumntwana ongengomntu okrwada kodwa ongenaxesha lokuqwalasela kwaye ephupha emini, akukho mntu ebenokukuthatha nzulu. Ngoko ke usenokungakuqondi oku de ube ngumntu omdala.
Kutheni abafazi kunye nabantu abakrelekrele benamathuba amaninzi okufunyanwa bena-ADHD?
Eli linqaku elibaluleke kakhulu. Ingakumbi kubasetyhini kunye nabo banengqondo ephezulu ``(IQ)``, kunokuba kade kakhulu ukuqonda ukuba bane-ADHD. Isizathu kukuba basebenzisa ingqondo yabo kwaye ngokungazi baphuhlise amaqhinga ahlukeneyo okujongana nezi ngxaki. Ke ngoko, akubonakali ngathi yingxaki enkulu ngaphandle.
- Usenokuba ngumntu othanda ukuthetha kakhulu.
- Kunzima ukuhlala kwindawo enye, kufuneka uhambe ngenyawo rhoqo.
- Nangona kusenokubonakala ngathi uyaphupha, ingqondo yakho isuka kwenye into iye kwenye.
- Nangona kulula ukwenza abahlobo, kunzima ukugcina olo lwalamano.
- Ukuze wenze into efana nabanye, kusenokufuneka usebenze nzima okanye uthathe ixesha elide kunabo.
- Uyoyika ukulahlekelwa ngabahlobo, ngoko ke unamathela kubudlelwane obungalunganga kuwe.
Ungazi njani ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba unayo i-ADHD?
Ingcali yezifo zengqondo, ugqirha wengqondo, okanye ingcali yezengqondo enamava kwi -ADHD yabantu abadala inokwenza uxilongo oluchanekileyo.
Akukho vavanyo lunye (njengovavanyo lwegazi) olunokuchongwa ngalo i-ADHD. Ugqirha wakho uza kuthetha nawe akubuze imibuzo emininzi malunga neempawu zakho, ukuba zikho ixesha elingakanani, kunye nendlela ezibuchaphazele ngayo ubomi bakho (emsebenzini, kubudlelwane).
Ukuze kufunyaniswe ngokuchanekileyo ukuba une-ADHD, akwanelanga ukuba nenye okanye ezimbini zezi mpawu. Kufuneka ukuba zibe nefuthe elikhulu ebomini bakho.
Kwakhona, khumbula ukuba i-ADHD idla ngokuba yimfuza. Ezinye izifundo zibonisa ukuba inefuthe lemfuza eliyi -75%. Ngoko ke thatha ithutyana ucinge ukuba umama okanye utata wakho wayenazo na ezi mpawu.
Kulungile, wenza ntoni ngoku? Okulandelayo...
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba i-ADHD yimeko elawulekayo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ulwe nayo wedwa.
Unyango okanye ingcebiso yokuthetha inokuba yindlela entle yokukunceda ufunde iindlela ezilungileyo zokujongana nemingeni efana nokulawula ixesha, ukucwangcisa izinto, kunye nokulawula izinto ngokungxama.
Xa ufumanisa ngale nto sele kudlule ixesha elide, ungaziva ukhululekile kwelinye icala, ucinga, "Owu... asilotyala lam, le yingxaki yempilo." Kodwa kwangaxeshanye, ungaziva ulusizi, ucinga, "Ukuba bendisazi kwangethuba, ngendingenzanga iimpazamo ezimbalwa ebomini bam." Zonke ezi mvakalelo ziqhelekile. Ingcebiso ngomsebenzi inokukunceda ujongane nezo mvakalelo.
Ukuba utshatile, licebo elihle ukuba nobabini niye kwi-couples therapy kunye. Oku kuya kuninceda nobabini niqonde indlela le meko eyichaphazele ngayo ubudlelwane benu kwaye kunincede nijongane nayo kunye kwixesha elizayo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- I-ADHD yimeko eqhelekileyo kungekuphela nje ebantwaneni kodwa nakubantu abadala.
- Ukuba uhlala unengxaki yokulibala, ukungabikho kwengqwalasela, kunye nokulibazisa, isenokuba yi-ADHD.
- Asikuko ubuvila bakho okanye impazamo yakho. Esi sisifo sempilo.
- Ungaqiniseka kuphela xa ubona ugqirha. Ngoko ke, ukuba unale mpawu, musa ukulibazisa ukufuna ingcebiso kagqirha.
- Ngonyango olufanelekileyo kunye namaqhinga, ngokuqinisekileyo unokukwazi ukulawula i-ADHD kwaye uphile ubomi obuphumelelayo nobonwabisayo.
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