Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha uziva ngolu hlobo? Xa uncokola kakhulu nomntu, ingqondo yakho iyaphela ngequbuliso. Okanye ulibale ngequbuliso inkcukacha ebalulekileyo, njengokuthi uza kudibana phi nabahlobo bakho. Usenokuba uphazamisa omnye umntu ungaqondanga. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka rhoqo kuwe, awuwedwa. Le meko inokubangelwa yi -ADHD ( attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) .
Kutheni ukuthetha kuyingxaki kwi-ADHD?
Ngamafutshane, eminye yemisebenzi yobuchopho yabantu abane-ADHD yahlukile kancinci. Oku sikubiza ngokuba ziingxaki zomsebenzi ophezulu . Khawuthelekelele ukuba kukho umphathi ngaphakathi kwengqondo yakho. Lo mphathi ngulowo ulawula ulwazi kubomi bemihla ngemihla, ahlele iingcinga zakho phakathi kwencoko ekhawulezayo. Xa une-ADHD, lo mphathi uxakeke kancinci, okanye ingqalelo yakhe iphambukiselwa kwezinye izinto. Yiyo loo nto kuvela iingxaki ezincinci ngexesha leencoko.
Ungakhathazeki, oku akuyongxaki yakho. Le yinxalenye yemeko ye-ADHD. Eyona nto ilungileyo kukuba kukho amaqhinga alula esinokuwasebenzisa ukoyisa ezi ngxaki zonxibelelwano.
Makhe sijonge iingxaki zonxibelelwano eziqhelekileyo ezibangelwa yi -ADHD kunye nento enokwenziwa ngazo.
Iingxaki ezinokuvela ngexesha lencoko kunye nezisombululo ezisebenzayo
I-ADHD inokubangela imingeni eyahlukeneyo kwincoko. Kwitheyibhile engezantsi, siza kujonga ezi ngxaki kunye nezisombululo onokuzifumana.
| Ingxaki eqhelekileyo | Yintoni enokwenziwa (isisombululo) |
|---|---|
| Ukuthetha kakhulu Xa uthetha ngesihloko onomdla kuso, ngaba uzifumana uthatha lonke ibali ungaqondanga? | Ziqhelise ukubuza imibuzo. Emva kokuba uthethe izivakalisi ezimbalwa, buza umbuzo ukuze unike omnye umntu ithuba lokuphendula. Kwakhona, phinda oko kuthethwe ngomnye umntu. Oku kuya kukunceda ugxile ekuphulaphuleni kunokuthetha. |
| Ukulibala izinto Ulibala ngequbuliso into obuyithetha, okanye into ebalulekileyo ethethwe ngomnye umntu. | Bhala amanqaku amafutshane. Ngaphambi kokuba uthethe, bhala phantsi into ofuna ukuyithetha ephepheni. Bhala amanqaku ngelixa uthetha, ukuba kunokwenzeka. Okanye, fumana imvume komnye umntu uze uyirekhode kwifowuni yakho. Ukuba uphazanyiswa phakathi kwencoko, ungabi namahloni okuthi, "Uxolo, ndiyiphosile loo nto, ungaphinda uyithethe loo nto?" |
| Ukuphazamisa abanye Ngaba uyamphazamisa omnye umntu xa ethetha, usoyika ukuba uza kulibala into ebalulekileyo aza kuyithetha? | Okokuqala, qaphela oku. Bala ukuba uphazamisa kangaphi kwintlanganiso okanye ngexesha lencoko eqhelekileyo. Zibekele usukelo lokunciphisa elo nani. Xa uziva ufuna ukutsiba, phefumla nzulu uze ukhuphe umoya kancinci. Ukuba uphazamisekile, buza, "Uxolo ngokukuphazamisa, ubuza kuthini?" |
| Ubunzima bokufumana amagama afanelekileyo Nangona ndinento endifuna ukuyithetha engqondweni yam, amazwi afanelekileyo awaphumi. Ngamanye amaxesha ndithetha igama elingafanelekanga. | Zinike ixesha lakho. Musa ukungxama. Phefumla kakhulu uze uzame ukuhlela iingcinga zakho. Ukuba amazwi awaphumi, yithi, "Ndiza kucinga ngale nto okwethutyana ndize ndikuxelele kamva." Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba omnye umntu ukuqondile na oko ukuthethileyo, buza, "Ungakuphinda oko ndikuthethileyo kuwe?" |
Ukusuka kwisihloko uze uphazamiseke
Oku kuyinto eyenzeka kubantu abaninzi abane-ADHD.
Khawuthelekelele uthetha nosapho lwakho ngomsebenzi wesikolo womntwana wakho. Ngequbuliso, ubona imoto entle idlula ngaphandle kwefestile, uze uqale ukuthetha ngayo. Usapho lwakho alunakucinga ukuba kwenzeke ntoni ngequbuliso.
Wenza ntoni ngale nto?
- Sebenzisa "ikhowudi eyimfihlo": Xelela umhlobo okanye iqabane lakho elisondeleyo ukuba likunike umqondiso omncinci ukuba uyaphambuka kwisihloko. Kungafana nokukucofa kancinci emlenzeni wakho ngaphandle kokuba umntu akuqaphele.
- Nciphisa izinto ezikuphazamisayo : Xa umntu ethetha nawe, zama ukuziphazamisa kwezinye izinto.
- Beka ifowuni ecaleni. Yifake epokothweni okanye ebhegini yakho.
- Susa izilumkiso zobuchwepheshe ezingafunekiyo (izaziso).
- ThethaCebisa indawo ezolileyo.
- Ungathi, "Andinakukwazi ukunika oku ingqalelo yam epheleleyo okwangoku, singathetha kamva?"
- Jongana emehlweni: Oku kukunceda uhlale ugxile kwincoko. Kukunceda uqonde iimpawu ezingezizo ezomlomo, njengembonakalo yobuso bomnye umntu.
Ukungxama
Kwanabantu abadala abane-ADHD ngamanye amaxesha banokuba nobunzima ekulawuleni iimvakalelo zabo. Izinto ezifana nokuthetha into esengqondweni yabo nokukhwaza ngomsindo zinokuwonakalisa ubudlelwane obuhle. Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuba uthethe ngombandela obuthathaka, khumbula ezi zinto:
- Linda ide imeko ithomalale: Musa ukuthetha ngayo ngelixa kushushu. Thethani emva kokuba nobabini nithomalale.
- Lungela ukumamela ngaphezu kokuthethayo: Mamela oko kuthethwa ngomnye umntu uze ubuze kwakhona ukuqinisekisa, "Ingaba yiloo nto uyithethayo?"
- Cinga ngendlela eyakhayo: Injongo yakho ifanele ibe kukuphucula imeko, kungekhona ukukhupha umsindo wakho.
- Khetha amagama akho ngononophelo: Musa ukusebenzisa amagama anje ngokuthi " impazamo yakho ," " imbi ," " soloko ," okanye " awusoze ." Musa ukwenza izityholo.
- Ziqhelise into efana nokucamngca ngengqondo : Ukuba ukuba nencoko ezolileyo kuyinselele, ukuziqhelisa into efana nale kunokukunceda uphucule ukugxila kwakho kwaye ulawule izenzo zakho zokungxama.
Ngaba uvakalelwa kukuba "akukho mntu undiqondayo"?
Kunokuba nzima kumntu ongena-ADHD ukuqonda imingeni ajongene nayo umntu one-ADHD. Ngoko ke, mncede akuncede. Yabelana ngezi zinto naye:
- Bavumele bakuncede: Xelela umntu othetha naye ukuba akutsalele umnxeba ukuba uyaphazamiseka. Ungamcela nokuba abuze ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuthetha, "Uyandiphulaphula?"
- Funa uncedo lweengcali: Ukuba ezi ngxaki zichaphazela ubudlelwane bakho bobuqu, ingcebiso okanye unyango lunokukunceda wena neqabane lakho niqondane kwaye ninxibelelane ngcono. Thetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto uze ufumane ireferensi.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Kuqhelekile ukuba nengxaki yokunxibelelana ne-ADHD. Asikuko ukuba nephutha oku, yinxalenye yemeko ye-ADHD.
- Kukho izisombululo ezilula nezisebenzayo kwizinto ezinje ngokuphazamisa abanye, ukulibala izinto, nokuphuma kwingxoxo. Zama izinto ezinje ngokubhala amanqaku amafutshane, ukubuza imibuzo, nokuthetha kwindawo ezolileyo.
- Ukuba unengxaki yokulawula iimvakalelo zakho, zinike ixesha lokuzola ngaphambi kokuba uthethe izinto ezibuhlungu. Ukuziqhelanisa nokuqiqa kunokuba luncedo kakhulu.
- Chazela abahlobo bakho ngemeko yakho. Bacele ukuba bakuncede xa ulahlekelwa yingqwalasela.
- Ukuba ukufumanisa kunzima ukuyilawula le meko, ungabi nazintloni zokuthetha nogqirha okanye nomcebisi wezempilo yengqondo . Baza kukunika isikhokelo esifanelekileyo.
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