Njengoko iKrisimesi isondela, ikhaya ngalinye liziva linovuyo kwaye lihlaziyekile. Abantwana bathanda kakhulu eli xesha lonyaka. Phakathi kwabo, uSanta Claus ngumlinganiswa abamlangazelela kakhulu. Abantwana bathanda ukuva amabali ngalo mlinganiswa uthandwayo onentshebe emhlophe, enxibe isuti ebomvu, kwaye ephethe ibhegi yezipho, kwaye balindele izipho kuye. Kwangaxeshanye, njengomzali , unokuba nalo mbuzo engqondweni yakho: "Ingaba kulungile ukuxelela umntwana wakho ngoSanta Claus ongekhoyo ngokwenene? Ngokwenza oku, asifundisi umntwana wethu ukuba axoke? Ngaba umntwana uza kusithemba xa efumanisa inyaniso ngenye imini?" Lo ngumbuzo omkhulu kubazali abaninzi. Ke namhlanje, masithethe ngokunzulu kancinci ngale nto, ngokwembono yengqondo yomntwana.
Ingxoxo enamacala amabini: elungileyo nembi
Kukho izimvo ezahlukeneyo kuluntu malunga nokuxelela abantwana ngoSanta Claus. Abanye bathi lelona xesha lihle kakhulu lobuntwana. Abanye bathi bubuxoki obukhulu kumntwana. Makhe sibone ukuba zombini ezi mbono zithini.
| Iingxoxo ezivela kwabo bathi "kubi" ukuthetha ngoSanta Claus | Iingxoxo ezivela kwabo bathi "kulungile" ukuthetha ngoSanta Claus |
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| Ukuxoka: Ngelixa sifundisa abantwana bethu ukuba bangaxoki, nathi sibaxoka kakhulu. Ngenye imini, xa befumanisa inyaniso, banokulahlekelwa yintembelo kubazali babo. | Ubuhle Bobuntwana: Ubuntwana bufana nomlingo. Amabali amahle anjengala ongeza uvuyo olungenatyala kunye nethemba kwelo xesha. Kutheni singxamele kangaka ukutshabalalisa obo buhle? |
| Ukuphelelwa kukuzithemba: Xa exelelwa ukuba "uSanta Claus unika abantwana abalungileyo izipho," umntwana ongafumani zipho ngenxa yeengxaki zemali unokucinga, "Ngaba ndingumntwana ombi?" Oku kunokonakalisa ukuzithemba komntwana. | Ukuphuhlisa ingcinga: Amabali anje anceda ekuphuhliseni ingcinga yabantwana kunye nobuchule, nto leyo ebaluleke kakhulu ekuphuhliseni ingqondo yabo. |
| Ukukhuthaza urhwebo:Iinkampani zisebenzisa umlinganiswa kaSanta Claus ukwandisa intengiso yazo, nto leyo ekhokelela ekuthengeni izinto ngokungeyomfuneko endaweni yentsingiselo yokwenene yeKrismesi. | Ukufundisa ngesisa: USanta Claus luphawu lokupha nokwabelana, olunokufundisa abantwana ukubaluleka kwesisa. |
| Umsebenzi onzima wabazali awunamsebenzi: Iyintoni injongo yokusebenza nzima ukuze uthengele umntwana isipho uze unike udumo kumlinganiswa webali? | Ukwazi inyaniso kukwayinto ebalulekileyo: Endaweni yokudana xa abantwana befunda inyaniso, bayaziqhenya ngokuba bayifumene ngokwabo. Elo linyathelo ekukhuleni kwabo. |
Zithini iingcali zengqondo yabantwana ngale nto?
Kulungile, ngoku makhe sibone ukuba oogqirha kunye neengcali zengqondo zabantwana bacinga ntoni ngale nto.
Ngokutsho kukaGqr. Benjamin Siegel, uprofesa wezonyango lwabantwana kwiYunivesithi yaseBoston, indlela umntwana adibana ngayo noSanta Claus ixhomekeke kwindlela esimbonisa ngayo umntwana loo mlinganiswa .
"Ukuba simchaza uSanta njengomntu onothando, onobubele, onesisa, nocingela abanye, kuya kuba ngamava amnandi kakhulu kumntwana."
Ngamafutshane, kungcono ukubonisa uSanta njengophawu lothando nokwabelana, endaweni yomlinganiswa owoyikekayo othi, "Ukuba awungomfana ulungileyo, andizukukunika izipho."
Indlela esicinga ngayo "ngobuxoki"
Enye into ekhankanywa zizazi zengqondo kukuba sifundisa abantwana bethu "ubuxoki bentlalo" kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla. Umzekelo, nokuba umntwana akasithandi isipho esivela kwisalamane, sibaxelela ukuba "sibulele ngaso." Senza oku ukuze sibafundise ukuba akulunganga ukulimaza iimvakalelo zomnye umntu. Ngoko ke, xa usijonga ngaloo ndlela, bathi ibali likaSanta Claus akufuneki lithathwe njengempazamo enkulu.
Abantwana bayakwazi ukumelana nobunzima kunokuba ucinga. Banokunyamezela ukuphoxeka okuncinci abakuvayo xa befunda inyaniso ngoSanta Claus. Bayaqonda njengoko bekhula ukuba yintsomi nje, efana noCinderella kunye noLittle Red Riding Hood.
Ihlabathi lomntwana elicingelwayo kunye nokubaluleka kwalo
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka siyiqonde kukuba abantwana abancinci kakhulu baphila kwihlabathi leengcinga . Elo hlabathi liyinyani kubo.
- Unyaka o-1-4: Abantwana abakule minyaka banokuqonda izinto eziphathekayo kuphela. Ngoko ke uSanta Claus, isileyi sakhe, kunye ne-reindeer ngabalinganiswa bokwenene kubo. Kule minyaka, abanakuyiqonda imixholo engabonakaliyo efana "neempawu."
- Iminyaka emi-4-6: Kule minyaka, umntwana wakho uya kuqala ukubuza imibuzo efana nokuthi, "Ngaba uSanta ukho ngokwenene?" okanye "Uhamba njani emhlabeni wonke ngobusuku obunye?"
- Iminyaka eyi-6-8: Eli lixesha apho abantwana baqala ukuqonda inyaniso rhoqo. Njengoko izakhono zabo zokucinga ezisekelwe kwingqiqo zikhula, baqala ukubona ukungangqinelani kwibali.
Iingcali zengqondo zabantwana zithi ingcinga kunye nokudlala ngephupha kubalulekile ekuphuhliseni ingqondo yomntwana . Khawuthelekelele intombi yakho iphatha unodoli njengomama. Okanye unyana wakho edlala njengogqirha. Kule midlalo, bayaziqhelanisa neemeko abaza kujongana nazo kwihlabathi lokwenyani. Ngoko ibali elifana noSanta Claus lenza elo hlabathi licingelwayo libe lihle ngakumbi.
Wenza ntoni xa umntwana wakho ebuza imibuzo?
Xa umntwana wakho ebuza, "Ingaba uSanta Claus ungumntu wokwenene?" endaweni yokuthi nje "ewe" okanye "hayi," ungalisebenzisa njengethuba lokuphuhlisa indlela yokucinga enzulu yomntwana wakho. Ungabuza:
" Ucinga ntoni ke nyana/ntombi? Ucinga ukuba oko kwenzeka njani?"
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukubakhuthaza ukuba bazicingele ngolu hlobo, sibavumele ukuba bafikelele kwizigqibo zabo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Esi sisigqibo somntu siqu: Ukuba uza kumxelela okanye angamxeleli umntwana wakho ngoSanta Claus kuxhomekeke kuwe nakwintsapho yakho ngokupheleleyo. Akukho mpendulo "echanekileyo" okanye "engalunganga" koku. Nokuba uthatha siphi na isigqibo, asiyi kuba yingozi kakhulu kumntwana wakho.
- Ingongoma yebali ibalulekile: Ukuba ubalisa eli bali, fundisa umntwana wakho ngeempawu ezikulo, ezinje ngesisa, uthando , kunye nokwabelana. Musa ukulisebenzisa njengesixhobo sokuqeqesha abantwana ngokuthi, "Ukuba ulungile, uza kufumana isipho, ukuba awulungile, awuzukufumana."
- Xa inyaniso ityhileka: Xa umntwana wakho efunda inyaniso, musa ukumhlekisa okanye uthethe izinto ezinje, "Sikukhohlisile." Endaweni yoko, mdumise ngokuthi, "Ungumfana omkhulu ngoku, ukrelekrele ngokwaneleyo ukuba ukwazi ukuzifumanela ngokwakho." Ngoku naye angaba "ngutatomkhulu wokwenene" ngeKrisimesi kwaye umfundise ukunceda abanye.
- Mamela umntwana:Xa umntwana wakho ebuza imibuzo ngale nto, musa ukumphepha. Yehla uye kwinqanaba lakhe, mvumele acinge, uze uthethe.
- Ulonwabo kunye nokunxulumana zizinto ezibalulekileyo: Ekugqibeleni, injongo yako konke oku kufuneka ibe kukwandisa ulonwabo, uthando, kunye nokunxulumana phakathi kwamalungu osapho ngexesha leKrisimesi. USanta Claus yindlela entle yokwenza loo nto.
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