Ngamanye amaxesha intlungu, usizi, kunye nomsindo entliziyweni yakho azinyamezeleki. Ngelo xesha, abanye abantu bayalingeka ukuba bazilimaze ukuze basuse ezo mvakalelo. Le yingongoma ebucayi kakhulu. Kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha ngale nto ngokukhululekileyo. Ngenxa yokuba awudluli wedwa kule meko, kukho iindlela zokufumana uncedo lokunqoba le meko.
Kukuthini ukuzenzakalisa?
Ngamafutshane, ukuzenzakalisa kwenzeka xa umntu elimaza umzimba wakhe ngabom. Oku kwaziwa ngokuba yiNonsuicidal Self-Injury Disorder . Into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka iqatshelwe apha kukuba uninzi lwabantu abazilimazayo abananjongo yokuzibulala. Kutheni ke abantu besenza oku? Kunokubakho izizathu ezininzi zoku.
- Fumana isiqabu engqondweni: Kwabanye abantu, xa beva iintlungu zomzimba, bayalibala okomzuzwana intlungu yengqondo abazivayo. Oku kunokuba luncedo kakhulu kubo ngelo xesha. Abanye abantu benza oku ukuze bazibonakalise ukuba bayakwazi ukumelana neentlungu.
- Ukuqondisa iimvakalelo zakho: Xa uziva unomsindo okanye uphoxekile, kwaye ungenandawo yokuveza ezo mvakalelo, abanye abantu bazenzakalisa njengendlela yokuzijezisa.
- Njengendlela yokucela uncedo: Ngamanye amaxesha, abantu abazi ukuba bangayichaza njani intlungu noxinzelelo abajongene nalo. Ngelo xesha, abanye abantu benza oku ukuze babonise abo babangqongileyo ukuba bafuna uncedo.
Ziziphi iindlela obenzakalisa ngazo abantu abanjalo?
Zininzi iindlela zokuzilimaza. Zonke ezi ndlela ziyingozi. Makhe sijonge ezona zixhaphakileyo.
| Indlela | Inkcazo |
|---|---|
| Ukusika ngezinto ezibukhali | Ukusebenzisa izinto ezifana neeblade, iireyiza, kunye neglasi ephukileyo ezinokubangela ukwenzakala kwesikhumba. |
| Ukutsha | Ulusu lutsha ngenxa yezinto ezishushu ezifana neecuba, imatshisi, okanye iikhemikhali ezithile. |
| Ukubetha ngamandla | Njengokubetha udonga, ukubetha umzimba wakho kwinto enzima. |
| Ukukha/ukuluma ulusu | Ukuluma okanye ukuqina iinzipho zakho kakhulu kangangokuba kuyayonakalisa ulusu. |
Zithini iimpawu zangaphandle?
Amaxesha amaninzi, umntu owenza oku akafuni abanye bakubone. Ngoko ke banxiba iihempe ezinemikhono emide kunye neebhulukhwe ezinde nokuba kushushu, kwaye baxelela amabali okuba amanxeba abangelwe "yingozi." Nangona kunjalo, ungabona iimpawu ezifana nezi:
- Amanxeba okanye amaxolo kwipateni ethile, kwindawo enye.
- Amanxeba amaninzi okutsha anobukhulu okanye imilo efanayo.
- "Iingozi" ezixhaphakileyo kwaye ngenxa yoko kukho imikrwelo emitsha kunye nemivumbo.
- Ukuqhubeka nokwenza into engalawulekiyo, njengokukrwela indawo ethile.
- Soloko ugquma iindawo zomzimba, ezinje ngeengalo nemilenze, ngeempahla.
Kutheni umntu ezama ukuzenzakalisa?
Kunzima ukuchonga unobangela omnye woku. Nangona kunjalo, kudla ngokunxulunyaniswa nezinye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo. Oku kuthetha ukuba inokwenzeka njengendlela yokujongana noxinzelelo olunzima kakhulu ukuluthwala. Ezinye zeengxaki zempilo yengqondo ezinokunxulunyaniswa nale meko ziquka:
- Uxinzelelo
- Ixhala
- Ingxaki yoBuntu obuseMda
- Ingxaki Yoxinzelelo Emva Kwengozi (PTSD)
- Iingxaki Zokutya
- Ukuxhuzula
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba, oku akubobuthathaka. Olu luphawu lwentlungu yengqondo enganyamezelekiyo.
Zeziphi izinto ezibangela umngcipheko woku?
Amava athile kunye neemeko zobomi zinokunyusa umngcipheko womntu wokuzilimaza.
| Into enobungozi | Ingcaciso |
|---|---|
| Ukuxhatshazwa okanye amava abuhlungu | Le meko ixhaphakile phakathi kwabo bafumene ukuxhatshazwa, ukuxhatshazwa, okanye ezinye iziganeko ezibuhlungu ebuntwaneni. |
| Ubudala | Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha ziqala xa umntwana eselula, ngesiqhelo ziqala xa eneminyaka eli-12-14 ubudala. Nangona kunjalo, zinokuqala kwangethuba okanye kamva. |
| Ukubekwa wedwa koluntu | Umngcipheko uyanda ngenxa yezinto ezifana nokungcungcuthekiswa, ukuba wedwa, kunye nokungafunwa esikolweni, emsebenzini, okanye eluntwini. |
| Ubuwena bobulili | Le meko ikwaxhaphake kakhulu kubantu abaneempawu zobungqingili okanye abaguqula isini, njengoko benamathuba amaninzi okucalulwa nokungafunwa luluntu. |
Zithini iingozi ukuba unyango alufunwa?
Kubalulekile ukufuna unyango loku, kuba lunokubangela iingozi zexesha elifutshane nezexesha elide ukuba alunyangwa.
Iingozi zexesha elifutshane
- Iingxaki zonyango: Usulelo , umonakalo wemithambo-luvo, amanxeba aqatha nangapheliyo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukwenzakala okukhulu okungalindelekanga okanye nokufa kunokwenzeka.
- Iingxaki zentlalo: Oku kunokuchaphazela ubudlelwane nosapho kunye nabahlobo.
Iingozi zexesha elide
- Impilo yengqondo ewohlokayo: Usenokuziva uneentloni kwaye unetyala ngento oyenzayo, nto leyo enokukhokelela ekudandathekeni ngakumbi.
- Ukwanda kobunzima bokwenzakala: Ukuphindaphindeka kunye nobunzima bokwenzakala kunokwanda ngokuhamba kwexesha.
- Umngcipheko wokuzibulala: Nangona le ndlela yokuziphatha ingaqali ngenjongo yokuzibulala, uphando lubonise ukuba abantu abazilimazayo basengozini enkulu yokuzibulala okanye yokuzama ukuzibulala . Le yeyona ngozi inkulu yexesha elide.
Ndifanele ndimbone nini ugqirha?
Ukuba uzifumana uzenzakalisa, okanye ukuba ubona umntu omaziyo esenza njalo, nceda ubone ugqirha.. Ukulimala kwakho kungadinga unyango. Kwakhona, kuya kuba luncedo olukhulu ukwazi ukuba awuwedwa. Ugqirha ukhona ukukuphulaphula nokukunceda. Baza kukucebisa unyango olungcono kuwe.
Ufanele uye nini kwiYunithi yoNyango oluNgxamisekileyo (i-ETU)?
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba wena okanye omnye umntu usengozini yokuzilimaza okanye yokuzilimaza abanye, yiya kwiYunithi yoNyango oluNgxamisekileyo (ETU) yesibhedlele ngoko nangoko.
Ukongeza, ukuba ukwenzakala kwakho kukhulu, funa unyango olungxamisekileyo ngoko nangoko, ingakumbi ukuba unezi mpawu:
- Ubunzima bokuphefumla.
- Ukopha okungenakunqandwa.
- Ukukhubazeka okuthile emzimbeni.
- Ukulahlekelwa kukuhamba kwengalo okanye umlenze.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukuzilimaza akulophawu lobuthathaka okanye indlela yokufumana ingqalelo, kodwa yindlela yokujongana nentlungu enganyamezelekiyo yeemvakalelo.
- Ukufihla le ngxaki akuyi kuyisombulula. Inyathelo lokuqala nelibalulekileyo kukuthetha ngayo nomntu omthembayo, ingakumbi ugqirha.
- Awuwedwa kolu hambo. Ingcebiso, unyango, kwaye ukuba kuyimfuneko, amayeza anokukunceda uphile kwesi simo.
- Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntu omaziyo unengxaki yesi simo, ngaphandle kokumgweba, cela ubuze, "Uphilile?" Xela ukuba ungamnceda uze umthumele kugqirha.
- Khumbula, nokuba kunzima kangakanani na, ngoncedo nonyango olufanelekileyo, ungaphila.
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