Ngaba nawe unengxaki yengcinga zesondo? Ngaba oku kumalunga nokuba likhoboka lesondo?

Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha uziva ngathi awukwazi ukulawula iingcinga zesondo, iminqweno, okanye imisebenzi ethile yesondo efika engqondweni yakho, kwaye ezi zinto zijikeleza entlokweni yakho, kwaye usuku lwakho lonke, ubomi bakho bonke, zijikeleza kuzo? Ukuba oku kukubangela uxinzelelo olukhulu, usizi, kunye neentloni, kwaye ukuba kuphazamisana nemisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla, ubudlelwane nosapho, kunye nomsebenzi, ke namhlanje sithetha ngesihloko esinokuba sibalulekile kuwe nawe.

Yintoni umlutha wesondo?

Ngamafutshane, umlutha wesondo kukuzixakekisa ngokungalawulekiyo ngeminqweno yesondo, iminqweno, okanye imisebenzi. Le meko inokubangela uxinzelelo kwaye inokulimaza impilo yakho, ubudlelwane bosapho, umsebenzi, okanye ezinye iinkalo zobomi bakho. Uninzi lwabantu lusebenzisa igama elithi "umlutha wesondo" ukuchaza oku. Nangona kunjalo, oogqirha okanye iingcali zempilo yengqondo banokubhekisa kuyo ngokuthi "Ukuziphatha Ngokwesondo Okunyanzelekileyo", "Ukuziphatha Ngokwesondo Okuyingxaki", "Ukuxhatshazwa Ngokwesondo", "Ingxaki Yokunyanzelwa Ngokwesondo", "Ukunyanzelwa Ngokwesondo", okanye "Ukunyanzelwa Ngokwesondo". Idla ngokunxulumene nezinto ezinokufumaneka kubomi besondo. Oko kuthetha izinto ezinje ngokuphulula amalungu esini, ukubukela imifanekiso engamanyala, isondo ngefowuni, i-cybersex, ukuba namaqabane angaphezu kwelinye. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba iingcinga zakho zesondo kunye nemisebenzi yakho ihlasela ubomi bakho bonke, ngoko sicinga ukuba inokuba ngumlutha wesondo.

Ngaba oku kufana nezinye iindlela zokulutha?

Ewe, ngenene. Loo "mvakalelo yokulutha" ikhona nakule nto. Njengokuba umntu oxhomekeke kutywala okanye iziyobisi evakalelwa kukuba unqwenela ezo zinto, yindlela avakalelwa ngayo ngesondo. Akulawuleki, kuyacaphukisa, akunakwenzeka ukuba waneliseke nokuba wenza kangakanani na, kufana nemoto ehamba nge-'autopilot'. Uyazi ukuba oku kuya kuba nemiphumo emibi, kodwa uphinda-phinda ukuziphatha okufanayo. Khawucinge nje, ukuba abanye abantu bacinga ngesondo ukususela ekuvukeni kwabo kusasa de baye kulala ebusuku, belibale umsebenzi wabo kunye nosapho ngenxa yoko, indlela ebangela uxinzelelo ngayo.

Ixhaphake kangakanani le meko? Ngubani ochaphazeleka kakhulu?

Ngokwezibalo zaseMelika, le meko ichaphazela phakathi kwe-3% kunye ne-10% yoluntu ngokubanzi. Ixhaphake kakhulu kubafana kunamantombazana. Kumadoda amabini ane-hypersexuality, umfazi omnye kwabahlanu uyachaphazeleka. Le meko idla ngokuqala malunga neminyaka eli-18 ubudala. Nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwabantu lufuna uncedo lweengcali malunga neminyaka engama-37 ubudala. Oko kuthetha ukuba balwa nale ngxaki bodwa ixesha elide.Ukongeza, kufunyenwe ukuba malunga ne-88% yabantu abanale meko banezinye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo. Ezinye zezi ziquka:

• Izifo zengqondo, ezifana neBipolar Disorder.
• Iingxaki zokuxhalaba .
• Ndikhe ndazama ukuzibulala ngaphambili.
• Iingxaki zoBuntu.
• Ezinye izinto ezibangela umlutha .
• Iingxaki zoLawulo lweeMpembelelo.
• Isifo Sokuxhalaba Okugqithisileyo ( i-OCD ) sisifo esibonakaliswa ziingcinga nezenzo eziphazamisayo.
• Ingxaki yokungakwazi ukunikel ’ ingqalelo ( ADHD ).

Ngaba umlutha wesondo uthathwa njengesifo sengqondo?

Kusekho ingxoxo malunga noku. I-American Psychiatric Association yala isiphakamiso sokufaka i-Hypersexual Disorder kwi-Diagnostic and Statistical Manual yabo ye-Mental Disorders, uhlelo lwesihlanu (DSM-5). Bathi isizathu soku kukungabikho kobungqina obaneleyo kunye neenkxalabo malunga nemiphumo enokubakho yokubiza isenzo sokwabelana ngesondo ngokugqithisileyo ngokuthi "sisifo."

Zeziphi izinto ezicingwa kwaye zivakalelwa ngumntu onje?

Umntu onomlutha wesondo unokufumana iimvakalelo ezifana nezi:

• Ukuziva unetyala, iintloni, okanye ukuzisola.
• Ukuziva uphelelwe lithemba malunga nokuziphatha okubangela umlutha, ukuziva ungakwazi ukuyilawula.
• Ukudakumba , ukuba wedwa.
• Uloyiko, ixhala.
• Akumangalisi ukuba abantu bazive befuna ukuzibulala.

Khawucinge nje, indlela ebekuya kuba nzima ngayo ukuba ubunokuba neentloni kwaye ulusizi ngento oyenzayo, kodwa ungakwazi ukuyinqanda?

Zithini iimpawu zokulutha ngokwesondo?

Nangona kungekho ndlela ithile yokuxilonga ubungqingili, kukho iimpawu ezininzi eziqhelekileyo ezinokubonwa kumntu onesi sifo:

• Uthanda kakhulu isondo . Ucinga ngeminqweno yesondo, ubandakanyeka kwizenzo zesondo. Oku kuthatha ixesha elininzi losuku lwakho.
• Ungaziphulula amalungu esini kube kanye okanye kaninzi ngemini.
• Uhlala ubukela iphonografi. Oko kuthetha iividiyo, iimagazini zabantu abadala, iiwebhusayithi kwi-intanethi, iiwebcam, njl. Uhlala uphulula amalungu esini ngelixa ubukele iphonografi.
• Uchitha ixesha elininzi ucwangcisa imisebenzi yesondo. Uchitha ixesha elininzi ucinga ukuba uza kuyifumana phi kwaye njani "uyolo" lwakho olulandelayo lwesondo.
• Usebenzisa iinkonzo zesondo rhoqo. Le yimeko enzima kakhulu, kuba ngoku umntu ubandakanyeka kwimisebenzi yakho. Isenokuba zizinto ezinjengokuthumelelana imiyalezo yesondo ngefowuni, ukunxibelelana ngamagumbi okuncokola kwi-intanethi, ukuhlawulela isondo, ukuya kwiiklabhu zokuzikhulula, ukuba neentlobano zesini rhoqo ngobusuku obunye, ukuba namaqabane amaninzi.
• Ukuziphatha kwakho kuya kuqhubeka nokuba ngumsebenzi wesondo ongenankathalo. Mhlawumbi umsebenzi wesondo uhamba neendlela zokuziphatha eziyingozi ezifana nokusebenzisa iziyobisi, ubundlobongela ngokwesondo, okanye "ukuphefumla ngomsindo" (ukuzikrwitsha ukuze uvuseleleke ngokwesondo ).
• Ukuzibandakanya kwizenzo zesondo ezichasene nemilinganiselo yakho, iinkolelo zonqulo, okanye oko uluntu luyakwamkelayo.
• Uhlala ubhekisa kwiimeko ezibizwa ngokuba yi-'(Paraphilia)'. Ezi ziindlela zokuziphatha ngokwesondo ezibangela uxinzelelo lwengqondo, ukwenzakala, okanye nokufa komnye umntu. Umzekelo: `(Exhibitionism)`, `(Voyeurism)`, `(Sadomasochism)`, kunye ne-`(Pedophilia)`.
• Awunakuyiyeka le ndlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo, nokuba inemiphumo emibi kwimali yakho, kubudlelwane bakho, kwimpilo yakho, nasemphefumlweni wakho.

Zeziphi iingxaki ezinokubangela oku?

Ukulutha ngokwesondo kunokubangela iingxaki ezifana nezi:

• Ulahlekelwa bubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo nobunempilo neqabane lakho lesondo kunye namalungu osapho.
• Ngenxa yokuba awukwazi ukugxila emsebenzini wakho ngokufanelekileyo, ukubukela imifanekiso engamanyala emsebenzini kunokubangela ukuba umsebenzi wakho ube sengozini kwaye usenokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi wakho.
• Ukuchitha imali kwimisebenzi yesondo kubangela iingxaki zemali.
• Iingxaki zempilo. Ukukhulelwa, izifo ezidluliselwa ngesondo (ii-STI) ezifana ne-HIV, i-Hepatitis B kunye ne-C, i-Syphilis, kunye ne-Gonorrhea zinokwenzeka.
• Ukuguqukela ekusebenziseni iziyobisi okanye ukusela utywala kakhulu.
• Iimeko zempilo yengqondo ezifana noxinzelelo, ixhala, ukudakumba, kunye neengcinga zokuzibulala.
• Ukuba ubandakanyeka kulwaphulo-mthetho ngokwesondo, usenokude ufuneke uvalelwe entolongweni.
• Ukuziva umthwalo onzima engqondweni ngenxa yezinto ezinje ngokuziva unetyala, iintloni, kunye nokudana.

Zithini izizathu zokuba umntu abe likhoboka lesondo?

Izazinzulu azikayazi kakuhle into ebangela oku, kodwa ezinye iingcamango zibonisa ukuba kusenokuba kubangelwa zezi zinto zilandelayo:

• Ukungalingani kweekhemikhali ezithile engqondweni yakho.Ukwanda kwamanqanaba okanye umsebenzi weekhemikhali ezibizwa ngokuba yi-"neurotransmitters", ezifana ne-"Dopamine", "Norepinephrine", kunye ne-"Serotonin", ezithwala imiyalezo engqondweni, kunokunyusa umnqweno wesondo kunye nokuziphatha.
• Izifo okanye umonakalo kwiindawo zengqondo ezilawula ukuziphatha ngokwesondo. Le meko inokubangelwa zizifo ezifana ne-`(Dementia)`, `(Epilepsy)`, `(Bipolar Disorder)`, okanye umonakalo kwiindawo zengqondo ezifana ne-`(Frontal lobe)`, `(Amygdala)`, `(Prefrontal cortex)`.
• Utshintsho kwindlela esebenza ngayo ingqondo, nto leyo edala iindlela ezintsha ze-neural zokuziphatha okuluthayo.
• Ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi, ingakumbi i-cocaine, i-amphetamines, kunye notywala.
• Njengesiphumo esingesihle seminye imithi. Umzekelo sisiyobisi esithi ``Levodopa`` esisetyenziselwa isifo sikaParkinson.

Ungayibona njani le meko?

Xa ubona ugqirha okanye umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo , baya kukubuza izinto ezifana nezi:

• Malunga nemeko yakho yempilo yangoku, izifo ezikhoyo, izifo kusapho lwakho, kunye namayeza, iivithamini, kunye neemveliso zemifuno ozisebenzisayo.
• Ngaba usebenzisa iziyobisi okanye utywala?
• Baza kukubuza ngeengcinga zakho zesondo, iminqweno yakho, kunye nokuziphatha kwakho, inqanaba lolawulo onalo phezu kwazo, kunye nazo naziphi na ezinye iimpawu zesondo.

Ugqirha angacela nosapho lwakho kunye nabahlobo imvume yokucela ulwazi. Ugqirha uya kuzama nokukhupha ezinye iimeko, ezifana ne-bipolar disorder, i-hyperandrogenism, ixhala, iingxaki zobuntu, i-obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), kunye ne-Tourette's disorder, njengoko i-hypersexuality inokuba luphawu lwezinye iimeko. Okwangoku, akukho migaqo evunyelweneyo yokuxilonga i-hypersexuality. Nangona kunjalo, iingcali zempilo yengqondo ezigxile kwiziyobisi zinokuchonga iindlela zokuziphatha ngokwesondo ezichaphazela ubomi bakho kwaye zinokucebisa unyango olufanelekileyo.

Iphathwa njani?

Unyango lomlutha wesondo, okanye i-hypersexuality , lubandakanya indibaniselwano yamayeza, unyango lwengqondo, kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kumaqela okuzinceda.

Amayeza

Akukho mayeza athile avunyiweyo okulutha ngokwesondo. Nangona kunjalo, ungazama amayeza achaphazela iihomoni kunye neekhemikhali engqondweni ezilawula "iminqweno kunye nokuziphatha," kunye namayeza eemeko ezifanayo zonyango. Ugqirha wakho uya kuqwalasela nezinye iimeko zakho zempilo yengqondo aze akunike amayeza afanelekileyo kuwe.

• Amayeza okudakumba: Amayeza akudidi lwee-SSRI (Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors) athathwa njengonyango lokuqala lomlutha wesondo.
• Amayeza alawula iihomoni zamadoda (Anti-androgens):Ezi zisebenza ngokujolisa kwiihomoni zesini zamadoda. Ziluncedo ekunciphiseni iingcinga ezigqithisileyo. Ungazizama ezi xa unesimo sengqondo sokuziphatha ngokwesondo esigqithisileyo kangangokuba sinokuba yingozi kwabanye.
• I-Naltrexone (iVivitrol®, iRevia®): Eli yeza, elisetyenziselwa ukunyanga umlutha wotywala kunye ne-opioid, lifunyenwe liluncedo nakwimikhwa yokungcakaza. Linokunceda nakwimikhwa yokwabelana ngesondo.
• Izinto ezizinzisa iimvakalelo: Ezi zinokuba luncedo ukuba unesifo esifana ne-bipolar disorder esihamba ne-mania okanye i-impulsivity, kwaye i-hypersexuality luphawu lwesi sifo. Imizekelo ibandakanya i-lithium, i-valproate (i-Depakote®), kunye ne-carbamazepine (i-Tegretol®).
• Amayeza okulwa nokuxhalaba: Ukuba ixhala liyimbangela yokuziphatha kwakho ngokwesondo, ungazama la mayeza. I-Buspirone ngumzekelo onokunceda.
• Amanye amayeza: Ukuba unengxaki yokucinga okanye ukuvuseleleka okukhulu, ungacinga ngee-antipsychotics. La mayeza anokunciphisa umnqweno wesondo, ukuvuseleleka, kunye nokuvuka komzimba. Ukuba unesifo sokungabi namdla wokwenza izinto ezinobungozi ngokwesondo (ADHD) (esinxulunyaniswa nokuthatha umngcipheko wesondo), amayeza anjenge-methylphenidate kunye ne-dextroamphetamine anokuba luncedo.

Unyango lwengqondo

Unyango lwengqondo yindlela enamacala amaninzi. Kule ndlela, uthetha nomcebisi wezempilo yengqondo . Ukunceda uchonge kwaye ulawule izinto ezibangela kwaye zibhebhethekise ukuziphatha kwakho okugqithisileyo. Olu nyango lunikwa abantu ngabanye, iintsapho, kunye nezibini, kunye nabanye. Kuba umlutha womntu ngokwesondo uchaphazela wonke umntu.

• Unyango Lokuziphatha Olusebenzisa Ingqondo (CBT): Olu nyango lwengqondo luthatha indawo yeengcinga zakho ezimbi kunye nokuziphatha kwakho ngezinye iindlela zokunciphisa iminqweno yakho yesondo kunye nokujongana nayo ngcono.
• Unyango Lokwamkela Nokuzibophelela (ACT): Olu nyango lusebenzisa iindlela zokwamkela nokukhumbula. Injongo kukunceda abantu bamkele uxinzelelo abaluvayo baze batshintshe ulwalamano lwabo nezo ngcinga, endaweni yokutshintsha iingcinga zabo.
• Udliwano-ndlebe olukhuthazayo: Olu nyango lwengqondo lukukhokela ekuhlolisiseni kwakho umlutha wakho wesondo ngokunxulumene neenjongo zakho kunye nemilinganiselo yakho.

Amaqela okuxhasa abantu abazinceda ngokwabo

Ezi zenziwe ngokwenkqubo enamanyathelo ali-12 ye-Alcoholics Anonymous. Kukho amaqela aliqela, afana ne-Sex Anonymous, i-Sex Addicts Anonymous, i-Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, kunye ne-Sexual Compulsives Anonymous. Ungajonga iiwebhusayithi zale mibutho ukuze ufumane isebe elikufutshane nawe.

Ngaba oku kungathintelwa?

Ukuba ungakwazi na ukuthintela umlutha wesondo kuxhomekeke kwisizathu (izizathu) esisisiseko. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba kukungalingani kwamakhemikhali engqondweni. Okanye, kungaba yimpembelelo okanye uphawu lwenye imeko yempilo. Zininzi izinto ezinegalelo ekuphuhliseni umlutha wesondo. Nangona kunjalo, nangona ungenakuzilawula zonke, unokulawula ezinye zezinto ezinokubangela iingcinga zakho, iminqweno, iminqweno kunye nezenzo. Ezi ziquka:

• Funda malunga nokulutha ngokwesondo okanye ukugqithisela ngokwesondo. Sele uthathe inyathelo lokuqala ngokufunda eli nqaku!
• Bona ugqirha wakho okanye umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo . Bakho ukuze bakuncede, ukusuka kwinqanaba lemfundo.
• Tshintsha izinto ozaziyo ukuba ziyakujikisa. Vimba iiwebhusayithi zephonografi kunye nezinye iiwebhusayithi zesondo kwikhompyutha yakho. Ziphephe izitalato ezineeklabhu ze-strip kwaye uthathe indlela eyahlukileyo. Cinga ngezinye iinguqu onokuzenza.
• Fumana uncedo ngeengxaki zokusebenzisa iziyobisi gwenxa. Ukuba usebenzisa utywala okanye iziyobisi, amandla akho okulawula iminqweno yakho yesondo anokuncipha. Cela uncedo kugqirha wakho ekuyekeni ezi zinto.
• Lawula ezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo kakuhle. Ukuba unezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo, ezinje ngokudakumba, ixhala, okanye isifo sengqondo esibizwa ngokuba yi-bipolar disorder, qiniseka ukuba ulandela yonke imiyalelo kagqirha wakho yokulawula ezo meko. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba imeko yakho itshintshile, yenza idinga lokubonana nogqirha.
• Gxila amandla akho kwizinto ezisempilweni. Xa umzimba wakho ugxile kwenye into, ingqondo yakho inokutshintsha kwaye igxile. Zixakekise. Dlala imidlalo, joyina iiklabhu, qala umdlalo wokuzonwabisa, volontiya kwimibutho enceda abanye, umthambo, ukucamngca, wenze i-yoga, okanye uzame ezinye iindlela zokunciphisa uxinzelelo.
• Yiba nomonde, hlala ugxile kwiinjongo zakho. Ukulawula umlutha wesondo kukuzibophelela ubomi bakho bonke. Kukuwe ukugxila kwizinto ezibalulekileyo ebomini bakho nokulungisa ubudlelwane obonakeleyo. Ungakwenza oku. Lonke iqela lakho lezonyango lilapha ukukunceda. Bavumele bakuncede.

Ndingayazi njani ukuba ndingumntu othanda ucansi?

Ngaba indlela oziphatha ngayo ngokwesondo ikwenza uzive ungakhululekanga okanye ikuphazamisane nezinto ezibalulekileyo ebomini bakho? Ngaba ezi zinto ziyenzeka kuwe?

• Awulali ngenxa yeengcinga okanye izenzo zesondo?
• Ngaba ufika emva kwexesha emsebenzini?
• Ngaba uyayiphepha imisebenzi yakho?
• Ngaba uyaxoka kusapho lwakho okanye ufihla iimfihlo?
• Ngaba udinga imisebenzi yesondo enzulu ngakumbi ukuze ufumane inqanaba elifanayo lokuvuselelwa okanye ukwaneliseka ngokwesondo?
• Ngaba ubandakanyeka kwizenzo zesondo nabantu okanye kwiindawo ongazikhethiyo ngenxa yenkanuko yakho yesondo?
• Ngaba uchitha ixesha elininzi ubukele imifanekiso engamanyala?
• Ngaba wakha waba neengxaki zomthetho okanye ilahleko yemali ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakho ngokwesondo?
• Ngaba iminqweno yakho yesondo, iminqweno, okanye iindlela zokuziphatha ziyakudinisa engqondweni, ngokweemvakalelo, kunye/okanye ngokwasemzimbeni?
• Ngaba indlela oziphatha ngayo ngokwesondo iyangqubana nemilinganiselo yakho, iinkolelo zonqulo, okanye zokuziphatha?
• Ngaba uziva uneentloni, uzisola, udanile, unetyala, unesizungu, okanye ucinga ngokuzibulala emva kokuziphatha kwakho ngokwesondo?

Ukuba uphendula ngokuthi "ewe" kuyo nayiphi na imibuzo kule, licebo elihle ukwenza idinga nogqirha. Angakuthumela kwingcali yezifo zengqondo okanye kwingcali yezengqondo. Ukuba uneengcinga zokuzibulala, bona ugqirha ngokukhawuleza, okanye utsalele umnxeba ku-1926 (uMnxeba woNcedo lwezeMpilo yeNgqondo yeSizwe).

Ngaba kukho unxibelelwano phakathi kokulutha ngokwesondo kunye nokudakumba?

Kusenokubakho unxibelelwano. Ukuziphatha okugqithisileyo ngokwesini kunokwanda ngamaxesha okudakumba kunye nokudakumba. Amayeza okudakumba anokuphendula kwiimpawu zokudakumba.

Ngamafutshane, izinto ekufuneka sizikhumbule

Ukuba iminqweno yakho yesondo kunye nemisebenzi yakho ikwenza ukhathazeke, ithatha ubomi bakho, kwaye yonakalise ubomi bakho bobuqu, bomsebenzi, kunye/okanye bosapho, ngoku lixesha lokuthetha nogqirha wakho. Abantu abaninzi abafuni unyango ngenxa yeentloni okanye ukuziva benetyala. Iqela lakho lezonyango aligwebi ngendlela oziphatha ngayo ngokwesondo. Bakho ukuze bakuncede.

Khumbula, awuwedwa. Baninzi abantu abajongene neemeko ezinje, kwaye zininzi iindlela zokufumana uncedo.

Iziphumo ezilungileyo zivela ekusebenzeni nomntu wonke – usapho lwakho, iqabane lakho, iqela lakho lezonyango, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ukunyaniseka kuwe. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zonyango ezikhoyo zokukunceda. Beka ecaleni iintloni zakho kunye noloyiko lwakho kwaye ucele uncedo.

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Umlutha wesondo , ukuxhaphaka kobungqingili, ukuziphatha ngokwesondo, impilo yengqondo, unyango, iimpawu, ingcebiso