Ingaba umntwana wakho uza kubona ingcali yezonyango? Makhe sithethe ngale nto!

Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bethu baneengxaki ezinzima ukuba bazisombulule bodwa, akunjalo? Ngamaxesha anjalo, ukuthetha nabazali babo kudla ngokuvakala ngathi kukhululekile. Kodwa kukho izinto ezithile, nokuba abazali bayanceda, ezifuna uncedo olungakumbi lweengcali. Kulapho ke sidinga khona uncedo lwengcali yezonyango. Abanye abazali banokuba noloyiko oluncinci ngale nto kuba bengazi nto ingako ngayo. Kodwa oku kuluncedo olukhulu kumntwana.

Kutheni umntwana eya kugqirha wengqondo?

Kulungile, ngoku makhe sijonge isizathu sokuba umntwana aye kugqirha wengqondo, okanye njengoko simbiza njalo ngamanye amaxesha, umcebisi. Ngamafutshane, aba ngabantu abafumene uqeqesho olukhethekileyo kwimpilo yengqondo . Bayazi ukuba zeziphi iingxaki abanazo abantwana abancinci nabantu abadala abaselula kunye nendlela yokubanceda.

Khawucinge nje, xa umntwana enomkhuhlane, simsa kugqirha wabantwana , akunjalo? Ngendlela efanayo, ukuba umntwana ufumana uhlobo oluthile loxinzelelo lwengqondo, uxinzelelo, okanye utshintsho kwindlela aziphethe ngayo, aba banyangi ziingcali ezinokunceda.

Ngamanye amaxesha sicinga, 'Owu, ingaba le yingxaki yodwa umntwana wam anayo?' Akunjalo. Abantwana abaninzi bafuna uncedo lweengcali ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Asinto yokuhlazeka okanye yokufihla. Enyanisweni, eyona nto ilumkileyo kukuqonda ukuba kukho ingxaki uze ufune uncedo. Ingcali yezonyango ifana nomntu onika amayeza nesikhokelo kwiingxaki zempilo yengqondo . Bayazi indlela abazali abanokunceda ngayo umntwana wabo kolu hambo.

Zeziphi iingxaki abanceda ngazo oogqirha bezonyango?

Ngoku usenokuba uzibuza, 'Zeziphi iingxaki ezinceda aba bagqirha bezonyango?' Kukho uluhlu lwezinto abanokunceda kuzo. Makhe sijonge imizekelo embalwa:

• Ukoyika ukuya kulala, uxinzelelo ngomsebenzi wesikolo, okanye ubunzima bokuhlala nabahlobo: Abanye abantwana bayoyika ukulala ebusuku, baphupha amaphupha amabi , okanye bazive bexinezelekile kwaye bexinezelekile ngumsebenzi wesikolo. Abanye abantwana abafuni ukuzibandakanya nabanye abantwana okanye badlale, bekhetha ukuba bodwa. Ingcali yezonyango ingamnceda umntwana ukuba ajongane nale micimbi ngokuchonga izizathu ezibangela oku.

• Ubunzima bokunikel’ ingqalelo, ukuhlala ugxile, nokuhlala kwindawo enye eklasini: Usenokuba uqaphele ukuba abanye abantwana abaphumli, bahlala bebaleka, betsiba-tsiba. Abayinaki into ethethwa ngutitshala eklasini, kwaye bayonqena ukwenza umsebenzi wabo wesikolo. Oku kungaba yimeko enxulumene nokunikel’ ingqalelo, njenge -ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder).Ingcali yezonyango ingakubona oku ize inike umntwana, abazali, kunye nootitshala iingcebiso ezifunekayo zokujongana nako.

• Uhlala elwa, enomsindo ngokukhawuleza, engenamonde: Abanye abantwana bacaphuka ngezinto ezincinci, bayakhala, kwaye balwa nabanye ngalo lonke ixesha. Banobunzima bokulawula iimvakalelo zabo . Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ingcali yezonyango ingabanceda ukuba bachonge ezo mvakalelo baze bazilawule ngokufanelekileyo.

• Kukho abantwana abahlala bexhalabile ngempilo okanye ukhuseleko lwabo: 'Ngaba ndiza kufumana esi sifo?', 'Ngaba kukho into enokwenzeka kumama?', 'Kuza kwenzeka ntoni ukuba oko kuyenzeka?' Kukho abantwana abahlala besoyika ngokungeyomfuneko kwaye bexhalabile ngezinto ezinjalo. Ukuba oku kungaphezu nje kokuxhalaba okuqhelekileyo, kusenokuba 'yiNgxaki.''

• Iintlungu zomzimba ngaphandle kwesifo esithile: Ngamanye amaxesha, nangona oogqirha besithi, "Lo mntwana akaguli," umntwana usenokuqhubeka ekhalaza ngentloko ebuhlungu, iintlungu zesisu, okanye iintlungu zesifuba. Isizathu soku singaba luxinzelelo okanye ingxaki yengqondo.

• Abantwana basenokuba badlula kwingxaki yentsapho, ukugula, okanye ixesha elinzima: Udushe lwasekhaya, uqhawulo-mtshato lwabazali, ukufa komntu abamthandayo, ukugula okunzulu, okanye utshintsho olukhulu (njengokuqala isikolo esitsha okanye ukufuduka) kunokuba nzima ukumelana nako. Ngamaxesha anje, bafuna intuthuzelo kunye nolwalathiso.

• Iimvakalelo zoxinzelelo olukhulu, ixhala, uloyiko, umsindo, usizi, ukudakumba, okanye intlungu: Kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kwezi mvakalelo ezenzeka ngokwesiqhelo kunye nokuba ngumntu ohlala exhalabile. Ukuba umntwana uhlala edakumbile, esoyika, okanye engenamdla kuyo nayiphi na into, ayilocebo lilungileyo ukungayinaki loo nto. Isenokuba luphawu lwe- `(Depression)` .

Kwenzeka ntoni xa ufumana ingcali yokunyanga?

Kulungile, masithi uya kugqirha wengqondo nomntwana wakho. Kuza kwenzeka ntoni ke ngoko? Akukho nto yokoyika.

Okokuqala, bayakwamkela wena nomntwana wakho ngothando olukhulu nothando. Bathetha nawe nomntwana wakho. Babuza imibuzo, kwaye bamamele ngononophelo into oyithethayo. Kufana nebali. Le yindlela abamqonda ngayo umntwana, ingxaki ajongene nayo umntwana, kunye nemvelaphi yosapho. Umntwana uqala ukuziva ukuba kukho umntu omqondayo.

Emva koko, babuza imibuzo ukuze babone ukuba umntwana uneengxaki ezifana "nexhala" , "uxinzelelo " , "uxinzelelo ", okanye iingxaki zokuqwalasela, mhlawumbi basebenzise imisebenzi emincinci, umzobo, okanye imibuzo ukuze bafumane impendulo. Konke oku kwenzelwa ukuchonga ingxaki echanekileyo.

Emva kokuqonda ingxaki echanekileyo, ingcali yezonyango iya kukuxelela indlela onokubanceda ngayo kunye nendlela yonyango omawuyisebenzise.

Amaxesha amaninzi, umntwana ucelwa ukuba eze kwiiseshoni ezimbalwa ukuze afumane uncedo aludingayo. Ezi seshoni zezo sizibiza ngokuba yi- "Therapy" . Umntwana usenokufuneka aye kwezi seshoni ze-"Therapy" kube kanye ngeveki, kangangeenyanga ezininzi. Kuxhomekeke kwiimfuno zomntwana kunye nohlobo lwengxaki.

Kwenzeka ntoni ngokwenene ngexesha leseshoni yonyango?

Ngoku makhe sijonge okwenzekayo ngexesha leseshoni ethi "Therapy" , okanye xa ukunye nogqirha wengqondo. Oku kufana nendawo yokuba umntwana abelane ngoko kusengqondweni yakhe, afunde izinto ezintsha, aze aziqonde .

Ingcali yezonyango ibuza imibuzo, imamele ngononophelo oko kuthethwa ngumntwana, ize ithethe ngaloo mibuzo. Bafundisa umntwana ngendlela eqondakalayo nefanelekileyo kubudala bomntwana, kwaye bayamenza enze imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo. Le misebenzi ingabandakanya ukuzoba, ukufaka imibala, ukudlala ngamathoyizi (unyango lokudlala), ukubalisa amabali, ukudlala indima, kunye nokuzilolonga ngokuphefumla . Zonke ezi zinto zizama ukufundisa umntwana ukuqonda iimvakalelo zakhe, ukuzilawula, ukujongana neengxaki kakuhle, kunye nokuphuhlisa izakhono zonxibelelwano.

Ngokufanayo, iingcali zonyango zikwafundisa abazali indlela yokunceda umntwana wabo. Zibacebisa ngendlela yokusebenza nomntwana wabo ekhaya kunye nendlela yokuxhasa umntwana wabo. Kuba inkxaso yabazali ibalulekile kwimpilo-ntle yengqondo yomntwana. Ngamanye amaxesha abazali banokuba neeseshoni ezahlukeneyo.

Khumbula, unyango aluyosohlwayo, kwaye aluyonto eyenziwa ngumntwana kuba "embi." Luncedo oluxabisekileyo olunceda umntwana ukuba ajongane nemingeni yobomi bakhe, onwabe , kwaye asebenzise izakhono zakhe ngokupheleleyo.

Ukuya kunyango ngale ndlela kunika abantwana amandla amaninzi okujongana neengxaki zabo ngcono, bazive bebhetele, kwaye benze ngcono kwimisebenzi yabo yemihla ngemihla , umsebenzi wesikolo, kunye nobudlelwane nabantu .

Izinto onokuzenza njengomzali

Ngoku masithethe ngezinto onokuthi uzenze njengomzali ukuba umntwana wakho uza kubona ingcali yezonyango. Inkxaso yakho ibaluleke kakhulu kumntwana wakho kolu hambo.

• Thetha ngokukhululekileyo nangendlela eyakhayo: Unyango nomntwana wakhoThetha ngayo. Cacisa ukuba ayisiyonto yokuba neentloni ngayo, kodwa yinto yokuba namandla kuyo, into yokufumana uncedo kuyo. Nika umntwana wakho uluvo lokuba 'siza kuyisombulula kunye le nto', 'oku kuza kukwenza uzive ungcono'.
• Themba kwaye usebenzisane nogqirha wengqondo: Mamela oko kuthethwa ngugqirha wengqondo kwaye ulandele iingcebiso zakhe. Baziingcali kweli candelo. Thetha nabo ngeengxaki zakho kunye noloyiko lwakho.
• Yiba nomonde: Kungathatha ixesha ukubona utshintsho. Ayizizo zonke izinto eziza kwenzeka ngobusuku obunye. Nika umntwana wakho ixesha alidingayo. Mncome kwaye umkhuthaze nokuba kukho utshintsho oluncinci.
• Xhasa umntwana wakho: Thetha kakuhle malunga nokubandakanyeka komntwana wakho kwiiseshoni zonyango . Zithathe ngexesha, kwaye uncede umntwana wakho enze izinto kunye nemisebenzi efundiswa yingcali yonyango ekhaya.
• Cinga nangempilo yakho yengqondo: Abazali banokuziva bexinezelekile, belusizi, kwaye bexhalabile xa bejongene nengxaki yomntwana. Cinga nangoxolo lwakho lwengqondo. Fumana uncedo ukuba uyalufuna. Ungamnceda umntwana wakho kuphela ukuba uphilile.
• Hlonipha ubumfihlo: Ezinye zezinto ezixoxwa yingcali yezonyango nomntwana ziyimfihlo. Oku kubalulekile ukuze umntwana athembeke. Ukuba ingcali yezonyango ifunda into enokumenzakalisa umntwana, ngokuqinisekileyo iya kukwazisa.

Njengokuba sithatha umntwana siye kugqirha xa enomkhuhlane, siya kugqirha xa sinengxaki yempilo yengqondo. Oku kuya kunceda umntwana azive ngcono kwaye azive ngcono.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Kulungile, nazi ezinye zezinto ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzikhumbule koko sithethe ngako:

• Kuqhelekile ukuba umntwana abe nengxaki yempilo yengqondo. Asikuko okomntwana okanye okwakho. Zininzi izizathu zokuba kubekho loo ngxaki.
• Ukuya kugqirha wengqondo akuyonto ihlazo okanye ubuthathaka. Kufana nokuya kugqirha ngenxa yesigulo. Kunika umntwana uncedo namandla.
• ``(Unyango)`` yinkqubo efundisa kwaye ikhokela umntwana ukuba ajongane ngempumelelo neemvakalelo zakhe, iingxaki zakhe, kunye nemingeni yobomi. Lutyalo-mali olukhulu kwikamva lomntwana.
• Inkxaso yabazali, uthando, ukuqonda, kunye nomonde kubaluleke kakhulu kumntwana kolu hambo. Ngaphandle kokuthatha kwakho inxaxheba, kuya kuba nzima ukwenza oku kuphumelele.
• Ungaze uyityeshele ingxaki, ungaze ucinge ukuba, "Iza kuphela." Ukunceda umntwana esemncinci kunokunceda ukuthintela iingxaki ezinkulu kwaye kuncede umntwana wakho aphile ubomi obonwabisayo nobukrelekrele.

Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho udinga olu hlobo loncedo, nceda ungathandabuzi ukubona ingcali yezonyango, ugqirha wengqondo, okanye ingcali yezempilo yengqondo . Yeyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza kumntwana wakho.

"Impilo yengqondo, unyango, iingxaki zempilo yengqondo yabantwana, iingcebiso, uxinzelelo, ixhala, ukudakumba