Kunzima kakhulu ukunyamezela intlungu ebakho xa silahlekelwa ngumhlobo okanye lilungu losapho. Ngaphambili, oko kukuthi, ngexesha labazali bethu, kwakukho amasiko amahle kakhulu okunika usapho amandla ngamaxesha anjalo osizi nokubonakalisa amazwi ovelwano. Umntu wayetyelela ikhaya lomngcwabo, abeke isithsaba seentyatyambo, ngamanye amaxesha alungiselele ukutya aze akunike, aze athumele ileta ebonisa amazwi ovelwano. Konke oku kwakunika abo bafelweyo amandla amakhulu kunye nemvakalelo yokuba babengebodwa.
Kodwa izinto zitshintshe kakhulu kule mihla. Phantse yonke into yenzeka ngeendaba zoluntu ngoku. Xa umntu esweleka, sihlala sibona iindaba kuqala kuFacebook okanye kwi-WhatsApp status. Le ndlela ineengenelo kunye neengxaki zayo. Ekubeni kungekho mithetho icacileyo ekufuneka ilandelwe xa uvakalisa amazwi ovelwano kwiendaba zoluntu, ngamanye amaxesha uluvo esiluthumelayo okanye umbuzo esiwubuzayo unokumenzakalisa ngakumbi umntu oswelekelweyo. Ke ngoko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba siqaphele oku.
Ngaba imidiya yoluntu yenze kwaba lula ukuveza amazwi enduduzo?
Enyanisweni, ngokutsho kukaJocelyn DeGroot, ingcali yonxibelelwano ephanda oku, imidiya yoluntu ayitshintshanga kangako indlela esibonakalisa ngayo intlungu yethu. Abantu babebhalela iileta abantu ababathandayo, bebhiyozela imihla yabo yokuzalwa, kwaye bekhumbula usuku abasweleka ngalo. Ngoku, ezo zinto ziyafana zenzeka kwiindawo ezifana neFacebook ne-Instagram.
Zininzi iingenelo zoku.
- Ukwazisa wonke umntu ngaxeshanye: Khawuthelekelele indlela ekunzima ngayo ukufowunela wonke umntu ubaxelele, "Siyaxolisa ukuva ukuba uswelekile" ngelixa usesentlungwini. Ngokuthumela iindaba kwimidiya yoluntu kube kanye, wonke umntu ofuna ukwazi angaziva. Oko kukunika isiqabu esikhulu.
- Inkxaso evela kwiqela elikhulu: Ngexesha elinje, amazwi enduduzo kunye nezimvo ezivela kubahlobo abangaqhelanga ukuthetha kakhulu zinika usapho amandla amaninzi. Baziva ngathi "sinani."
Kodwa khumbula, kunye nezi zibonelelo, kukwakho namathuba amaninzi okuba izinto zenzeke eziya kusenza singakhululeki kwaye zisilimaze iimvakalelo zethu.
Zeziphi iimpazamo esizenzayo singaziqondi?
Ngenxa yokuba imidiya yoluntu ivulelekile, ngamanye amaxesha indlela abantu abaziphethe ngayo inokwenza umntu olila azive engenakuzinceda nangakumbi.
Into yokuqala kukukhangela iinkcukacha ezingabalulekanga.Kukho abantu, abangoomhlobo wakho osenyongweni, kodwa bangabahlobo kuFacebook. Kodwa bacinga ukuba banelungelo lokwazi yonke into. Babuza imibuzo efana nokuthi "Ulahlekelwe njani?", "Yintoni engalunganga?", "Kwenzeke ntoni ekugqibeleni?" njengengxelo apho wonke umntu angabona khona.
Njengoko uNksz DeGroot esitsho, "Ukuba ningabahlobo abasondeleyo nomntu, mhlawumbi bebekunike iinkcukacha ngenye indlela (njengokufowunela) ngaphambi kweFacebook. Ukuba kufuneka ubabuze esidlangalaleni, 'Kwenzeke ntoni?', oko kuthetha ukuba ayingomsebenzi wakho."
Into yesibini kukuthetha izinto ezingafanelekanga nezibuhlungu . Abantu abaninzi kuluntu lwethu abafundiswanga indlela yokubonakalisa intlungu ngendlela efanelekileyo. Ngoko ke abanye abantu bathetha izinto ezibuhlungu bengazi. Umzekelo, xa umntu elahlekelwa nguyise , omnye umntu uthi, "Owu, ndiyayiva intlungu yakho, nenja yam isweleke kwiveki ephelileyo." Oko kwenza ukufa kukayise waloo mntu kube yinto engenamsebenzi. Kunokuba buhlungu nangakumbi.
| Izinto ekufanele zenziwe | Musa ukwenza |
|---|---|
| Veza amazwi akho ovelwano ngokulula nangokunyanisekileyo. Into efana nokuthi, "Ndiyaxolisa ukuva ngale nto. Ngamana ungafumana amandla." Yanele. | Musa ukubuza unobangela wokufa okanye iinkcukacha zobuqu ezingeyomfuneko esidlangalaleni. |
| Yabelana ngenkumbulo entle owawunayo naloo mntu. (Umzekelo: "Wayengumntu onobubele kakhulu, ndiyakhumbula ngenye imini...") | Musa ukunika icebiso elifana nokuthi, "Ukwindawo engcono ngoku," okanye "Kungcono ukuhamba ngaphandle kokubandezeleka." |
| Ukuba kunokwenzeka, thumela umnxeba okanye umyalezo obhaliweyo ukongeza kumyalezo weendaba zoluntu. | Musa ukuthelekisa intlungu yakho nentlungu yaloo mntu, uthi yimbali enganxulumananga neso siganeko. |
| Buza, "Ngaba kukho into endinokukunceda ngayo?" | Lumka xa usebenzisa i-emoji. Kuphephe ukusebenzisa i-emoji encumileyo okanye engafanelekanga. |
Ngoko ke, singayivakalisa njani kanye kanye imfesane yethu?
Kukho izinto ezilula esinokuzenza kwimidiya yoluntu ukunceda abanye ngaphandle kokubenzakalisa iimvakalelo zabo.
1. Thetha ngokulula nangokunyanisekileyo
Akufuneki amagama amakhulu okanye izivakalisi ezinde. Ukutsho nje into efana nokuthi, "Ndiyaxolisa kakhulu ngokuva ezi ndaba. Oku kumele ukuba kunzima kuwe. Ukuba ufuna ukuthetha, ndilapha." Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo.
2. Nika icebiso, musa ukuzigwagwisa.
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Abanye abantu bacinga ukuba oko bakuthethayo kuya kwenza intlungu yomntu iphele. Musa ukuthetha izinto ezinje, "Ukwindawo engcono ngoku," "Yonke into iza kulunga ngexesha," "Musa ukulila, yomelela." Njengoko uNksk. DeGroot esitsho, "Awunakwenza mntu onwabe. Kufuneka umvumele azive intlungu yakhe." Umsebenzi wethu asikokwenza intlungu yakhe iphele, kodwa kukumenza azive ukuba akayedwa kwintlungu yakhe.
3. Musa ukuthula.
Ungathetha naloo mntu kuFacebook kuphela. Kodwa ungathethi nto kuba nje ungafuni. Kwanokushiya inqaku elincinci, uluvo olufana noluthi "Ndiyaxolisa ngokulahlekelwa kwakho," luluncedo olukhulu kuloo mntu ngelo xesha. Eyona nto intle kukuziva ukuba kukho umntu ocinga ngaye.
Okokugqibela, ungayeki apho kuba nje ushiye uluvo kwimidiya yoluntu. Yisiqalo nje. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, batsalele umnxeba emva kweentsuku ezimbini okanye ezintathu. Shiya umyalezo ubuze, "Unjani?" Buza, "Ngaba kukho into endingakwenzela yona? Ngaba ufuna ukuya evenkileni? Ngaba udinga uncedo ngento ethile ekhaya?" Njengokuba abantu bethu babepheka isidlo somngcwabo, ukwenza uncedo oluncinci kubaluleke ngaphezu kwekhulu leengxelo kwimidiya yoluntu.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Xa uvakalisa amazwi ovelwano kwimidiya yoluntu, gcina le nto ilula, imfutshane, kwaye inyanisekile. Akukho mfuneko yenkcazo ende.
- Kuphephe ukubuza unobangela wokufa okanye ezinye iinkcukacha zobuqu esidlangalaleni. Kunokuba yintloni kakhulu kuloo mntu.
- Kuphephe ukunika icebiso elifana nokuthi, "Yonke into iza kulunga." Endaweni yoko, bavumele bakhale kwaye ubabonise ukuba unabo.
- Nokuba awusondelelene naloo mntu, nomyalezo omfutshane othi "Ndicela uxolo" unokuba namandla amakhulu kuye.
- Musa ukukhawulela umyalezo othunyelwe kwi-social media, kodwa ukuba kunokwenzeka, bonisa inkxaso yakho enyanisekileyo ngokufowunela okanye ngokunceda ubuso ngobuso.
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