Ngaba uziva uxinezelekile kwaye uxinezelekile zizinto ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwakho ? Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha uxhalaba ngezinto ezincinci? Oku kuqhelekile koomama abaninzi. Ukukhulelwa lixesha lovuyo nochulumanco, kodwa kukwalixesha leemvakalelo ezininzi. Ngoko ke, akukho mfuneko yokukhathazeka kakhulu ngoxinzelelo oluvayo kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.
Ngokutsho kuka-Elizabeth Werner, umphandi kwiColumbia University Medical Center, kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye isempilweni ukuva zonke iimvakalelo umntu azivayo ngexesha lokukhulelwa. "Akukho mntu unokulindeleka ukuba aphile ubomi obungenaxinzelelo. Oko akunakwenzeka. Sonke sinoxinzelelo ebomini bethu, kwaye kulindeleke ngokupheleleyo. Asicingi ukuba kuza kubangela ingozi enkulu kwimveku." Ngoko ke, ungakhathazeki ngoxinzelelo lwemihla ngemihla lomsebenzi wakho, imisebenzi yasekhaya, kunye nokunyamekela abanye abantwana, ucinge ngabo njengendlela yokulimaza umntwana wakho.
Nangona kunjalo, igama elithi 'uxinzelelo' lingachaza izinto ezininzi ezahlukeneyo. Liqala kwizinto ezincinci zemihla ngemihla, ukuya kwiziganeko ezinzima ezifana nezikhukula kunye neenyikima, okanye iimpembelelo ezinzima ezifana nobuhlwempu bexesha elide. Imiphumo yezi ntlobo zahlukeneyo zoxinzelelo nayo iyahluka.
Ngamafutshane, ayizizo zonke iingxaki zoxinzelelo ezifanayo. Kukho ubungqina bokuba ezinye iintlobo zoxinzelelo zinokuba yingozi kumama, kumntwana, nakukuzalwa ngokwakhe.
Uphando luthini ngale nto?
Izifundo zibonise ukuba ukuxhalaba ngexesha lokukhulelwa kuyingozi enkulu ekuzalweni ngaphambi kwexesha . Uphononongo luka-2022 lufumanise ukuba oomama ababehlala bexhalabile ngokukhulelwa kwabo, usana lwabo, kunye nokubeleka banamathuba amaninzi okuzala ngaphambi kwexesha. Oku kubonisa ukuba ukuxhalaba kunokuchaphazela umzimba kwaye kumisele ukuba umntwana uza kuzalwa nini.
Ukongeza, ezinye izifundo zifumanise ukuba ukuba umama unexhala elikhulu ngexesha lokukhulelwa, oko kwandisa umngcipheko weengxaki kamva ebomini bomntwana wakhe. Umzekelo, umntwana unokuba nokulibaziseka kokukhula, iingxaki zeemvakalelo, okanye iingxaki zokuziphatha .
Ukongeza, ucalucalulo kunye nocalucalulo kuluntu kunokubangela uxinezeleko olukhulu kwabanye abantu. Olu xinzelelo lunokuchaphazela nokukhulelwa. Uphononongo luka-2008 lufumanise ukuba oomama abakhulelweyo abangama-Afrika-baseMelika abaye bahlangabezana nocalucalulo olukhulu kubomi babo nakubomi beentsapho zabo banamathuba amaninzi okuba nabantwana abazalwa benobunzima obuphantsi.
Ngoku usenokuba uzibuza ukuba oku kungenzeka njani. Xa kukho uxinzelelo olukhulu lweemvakalelo, luchaphazela indlela ophila ngayo, oko kuthetha ukutya kwakho kunye nokulala kwakho.Olu tshintsho lunokutshintsha imeko-bume ngaphakathi kwesibeleko. Olu tshintsho luyinkimbinkimbi ngakumbi kwaye lusekwinqanaba lophando. Nangona kunjalo, uxinzelelo oluphezulu lunokutshintsha indlela esebenza ngayo i-placenta kwaye luchaphazele iihomoni zoxinzelelo.
Kodwa into ebalulekileyo apha kukuba nokuba kukho uxinzelelo olukhulu ngexesha lokukhulelwa, akuqinisekwanga ukuba umntwana uza kuba neengxaki kamva. Indawo enempilo, enothando neyondlayo emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe inokutshintsha ngokupheleleyo loo mngcipheko.
Ufanele ufune uncedo nini ngale nto?
Ukunyamekela impilo yakho yengqondo ngexesha lokukhulelwa yeyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza kuwe nakumntwana wakho ongekazalwa. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ubusoloko ulwa nengxaki yempilo yengqondo efana nokuxhalaba okanye ukudakumba ixesha elide. Eli lingaba lixesha elifanelekileyo lokufuna unyango lwalo.
Nangona kuqhelekile ukuba neengxaki zemihla ngemihla, ukuba uziva ngathi ziphazamisana nobomi bakho bemihla ngemihla kangangokuba awukwazi ukuphila ubomi obuqhelekileyo , lixesha lokuqwalasela unyango .
Jonga ukuba unayo na kwezi mpawu zilandelayo. Ukuba unayo nayiphi na kwezi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna ingcebiso kagqirha.
| Uphawu/Imeko | Inkcazo |
|---|---|
| Ixhala elihlala lihleli | Ukuba uhlala ukhathazekile kwaye ungakwazi ukwenza enye into. |
| Ukuphazamiseka kubomi bemihla ngemihla | Ukuba uyoyika ukuphuma endlwini ngenxa yokuxhalaba, okanye ukuba uziva ungakhululekanga kangangokuba awukwazi nokuvuka ebhedini. |
| Utshintsho kwindlela yokutya neyokulala | Ukwanda okanye ukuncipha ngequbuliso komnqweno wokutya, ukungakwazi ukulala okanye ukulala kakhulu. |
| Utshintsho lweemvakalelo | Izinto ezifana nokungonwabi, ukuziva ulusizi ngalo lonke ixesha, nokucaphuka lula. Abahlobo bakho, usapho, okanye iqabane lakho lisenokubona olu tshintsho. |
Ngamanye amaxesha sicinga ukuba oku kubandezeleka yinxalenye nje yobomi. Kodwa iingcali zempilo yengqondo zingakunceda ukunciphisa loo ntlungu kwaye uphile ubomi obungcono.
Ndingalufumana njani uncedo?
Unyango oluthetha ngentetho lunokuba luncedo kakhulu ekulawuleni uxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalaba ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Ungabuza ugqirha wakho wokubeletha-ugqirha wabasetyhini (OB/GYN) okanye ugqirha wosapho malunga nomcebisi wezempilo yengqondo onokukunceda.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima ukufumana ingcali yokunyanga efanelekileyo, kodwa ungayeki.
Ngokukodwa, indlela ebizwa ngokuba yiCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) inokuba luncedo kakhulu ekulweni noxinzelelo ngexesha lokukhulelwa ngokukufundisa iindlela zokulawula uxhalabo. Ngamafutshane, ikufundisa ukuchonga iindlela zakho zokucinga nokufunda ukuzilawula ngcono.
Ukongeza, ukucamngca ngobulumko kukunceda uphile kwixesha langoku kwaye ulahle iimvakalelo ezixinzelelekileyo.
Kwakhona, izinto ezincinci ozenzayo ukuze uzinyamekele ebomini bakho bemihla ngemihla zinokunciphisa uxinzelelo.
- Funa inkxaso yoluntu kubahlobo nakusapho. Ukuthetha ngezinto nomntu omthembayo kunokuba luncedo kakhulu.
- Zilolonge. Zilolonge ngokulinganisela njengoko kucetyisiwe ngugqirha wakho. Nokuba yinto elula njengokuhambahamba ilungile.
- Yitya ukutya okunesondlo. Zonke ezi zinto zibalulekile ekukhulelweni okunempilo kwaye zinokunceda ekulawuleni uxinezeleko.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Akukho mfuneko yokoyika uxinzelelo oluqhelekileyo lobomi bemihla ngemihla ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Akuyi kulimaza umntwana.
- Ukuba usoloko unexhala, uxinezeleko, okanye uxinzelelo olukhulu oluphazamisana nemisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla, oko kunokuba yingozi.
- Ukuba ubona utshintsho kwimpilo yakho yengqondo (utshintsho ekutyeni, ekulaleni, kwiimvakalelo), thetha nogqirha wakho ngoko nangoko.
- Unyango lokuthetha, umthambo, ukutya okunempilo, kunye nenkxaso evela kubantu obathandayo ziluncedo kakhulu ekulawuleni uxinzelelo.
- Ukunyamekela impilo yakho yengqondo ngexesha lokukhulelwa linyathelo elibaluleke kakhulu kuwe nakumntwana wakho.
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