Kunezinsuku lapho sizizwa sengathi "akukho lutho oluzohamba kahle namuhla." Izingqondo zethu zinzima kakhulu, asizizwa sengathi siqala ukuhlolwa okukhulu, inhlolokhono, noma ngisho nomsebenzi wansuku zonke. Ngezikhathi ezinjengalezi, namuhla sikhuluma ngendlela enhle yokuzikhuthaza nokuzikhuthaza kancane. Lokhu sikubiza ngokuthi 'Ingxoxo Yothando '. Kalula nje, kuyinkulumo yothando ozinikeza yona.
Iyini ngempela 'i-Pep Talk'?
'Inkulumo ehlekisayo' yilapho ukhuluma wedwa, ngezinye izikhathi ngokuzwakalayo, ekhanda lakho. Kubizwa nangokuthi ukuzikhulumela okuhle . Kufana nokuba nomngane wakho omkhulu ekhuluma ngendlela ejabulisayo. Kodwa kulokhu, lowo mngane nguwe. Uma ubhekene nenselele noma isithiyo, ungasebenzisa le ndlela ukukusiza ukubhekana nayo futhi wakhe ukuzethemba kwakho.
Zicabange usuzobhekana nomsebenzi omkhulu. Ngaleso sikhathi, imicabango efana nokuthi "Ngizokwazi yini ukukwenza lokhu?" nokuthi "Wow, lokhu kunzima" ingase ifike engqondweni yakho. 'Inkulumo yokubonga' ihilela ukubeka leyo micabango eceleni bese uzitshela ukuthi, "Kulungile, ake senze lokhu," "Ngingakwenza lokhu," nokuthi "Ake siqale kancane." Lokhu kunciphisa ukwesaba kwakho nokungabaza, futhi kukunika amandla engqondo owadingayo ukuze wenze umsebenzi.
Amandla okukhuluma okuhle
Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa nokuthi ukukhuluma ngokwakho okuhle kungashintsha kangakanani imiphumela . Isibonelo, ocwaningweni lwabadlali bethenisi, kutholakale ukuthi abadlali abakhuluma kahle bona, besebenzisa imisho efana nokuthi "Wozani!", "Yebo!", kanye nokuthi "Asihambe!", bathole amaphuzu engeziwe futhi bawina umdlalo.
Lokhu akusebenzi kwezemidlalo kuphela, kodwa kukho konke okusezimpilweni zethu. Ungasebenzisa futhi amagama alula afana nalawa:
- "Ngingakunqoba lokhu."
- "Ungakhathazeki, lalelani ngamunye ngamunye."
- "Kulungile, ngingakwenza lokhu!"
- "Uyazi ukuthi ungakwenza lokhu."
Shintsha lezi zinto ukuze zivumelane nomgomo wakho. Uma uhlolwa, cabanga, "Ngifunde kanzima, ngingakubhala kahle lokhu." Uma unenkinga emsebenzini, zitshele ukuthi, "Ngixazulule izinkinga ezinjengalezi ngaphambili, futhi ngizothola ikhambi lalena futhi."
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuzisho la mazwi ngokwethembeka nangokuzethemba. Lokho kuzothumela isignali enhle ebuchosheni bakho.
Wenzani uma ufikelwa yimicabango emibi?
Njengoba nje sicabanga ngendlela eyakhayo, ukuzigxeka nokuzisola nakho kungaba nomthelela omkhulu. Uma sicabanga izinto ezinjengokuthi, "Uyavilapha!", "Angikwazi!", "Kuyini lokhu!", kubhubhisa ukuzethemba kwethu kanye nesisusa sethu sokwenza umsebenzi.
Kodwa nansi into ebalulekile: Kujwayelekile ukuthi sibe nemicabango emibi. Ngisho nabantu abahlakaniphe kakhulu nabaphumelele kakhulu emhlabeni banayo le micabango. Ngakho ungazibeki icala, uthi, "O, kungani nginemicabango emibi?" Lokho kuzokwenza uzizwe kabi kakhulu.
Okudingeka ukwenze kunalokho ukuqaphela lowo mcabango ongemuhle uma ufika, bese uwuphendula 'ngenkulumo enhle' ephambene nalokho.
- Uma ucabanga ukuthi "Angikwazi," cabanga esikhundleni salokho , "Ngizozama."
- Uma ucabanga ukuthi, "Lokhu kunzima kakhulu," cabanga ukuthi , "Ngisho noma kunzima, ngingadlula kulokhu."
- Ngaphandle kokucabanga kakhulu, vele uthi, "Kulungile, ake siqale manje" bese uqala ukusebenza.
Izinhlobo 'Zezinkulumo Ezikhuthazayo' Ezihambisana Nomgomo Wakho
Kunezindlela ezahlukahlukene esingazikhuthaza ngazo. Kuye ngezidingo zakho, ungakhetha enye yalezi zindlela. Lokhu kungenza 'inkulumo yakho yokukhuthaza' iphumelele kakhudlwana.
| Uhlobo 'lwe-Pep Talk' | Ungayisebenzisa kanjani lokhu? |
|---|---|
| Jikelele | Isetshenziselwa ukuthuthukisa ikhono ngokujwayelekile, njengalapho uzivocavoca noma uzivocavoca. Isibonelo: "Woza, isikhathi eside nje!", "Uphakeme!" |
| Okuqondene namakhono | Kusetshenziselwa umgomo ocacile. Isibonelo, uma unikeza isethulo, "Khuluma ngokuthula nangokucacile." |
| Mayelana nemiphumela | Uma umsebenzi usuphelile, umphumela uyakhunjuzwa futhi ukhuthazwe. Isibonelo: "Uma ngiphumelela kulesi sivivinyo, ngingaya ekhampasi." |
| Ukuvusa inkanuko | Zikhuthaze, uzole, noma unciphise isithukuthezi. Isibonelo: "Kulungile, manje phumula, thatha umoya ojulile." |
| Mayelana Nemigomo | Uma uqala iphrojekthi, zikhumbuze ngemigomo yakho. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi uhlale usendleleni efanele. |
| Imiyalelo yomsebenzi | Utshelwa kancane kancane ukuthi yini okudingeka uyenze ukuze ufinyelele umgomo wakho. "Kulungile, okokuqala udinga ukwenza lokhu. Okulandelayo udinga ukwenza lokho." |
| Ukuthi "Kungani" (Kungani) | Uzikhumbuza ukuthi "kungani" wenza lokhu. Lena yindlela enamandla kakhulu. Isibonelo: "Ngisebenza kanzima ukuze nginikeze umndeni wami ikusasa elingcono." |
| Ubuciko | Ikakhulukazi ezikhathini ezinzima kakhulu, kuyasiza ukuhlala ugxile, ukuzethemba, nokubhekana nezinselele. Isibonelo: "Ngingumuntu omuhle kulokhu, ngiyakwazi ukulawula lokhu." |
Njengoba ubona, lokhu akuyona nje indlela yokuzilolonga ngokwengqondo. Leli ithuluzi eliwusizo elingakusiza ukufeza impilo yakho yengqondo kanye nemigomo yakho. Kodwa-ke, uma ubhekene nokukhathazeka okuqhubekayo, ukucindezeleka, noma ukucindezeleka , kubalulekile ukufuna iseluleko sochwepheshe wezokwelapha ofanelekayo ngenkathi uzama lezi zindlela.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- I-Pep Talk iyithuluzi elinamandla kuwe: ingakhulisa ukuzethemba kwakho, intshiseko, namakhono.
- Imicabango emibi ivamile:Wonke umuntu unemicabango emibi. Esikhundleni sokuzizwa kabi ngayo, zijwayeze ukuphendula ngendlela enhle kuyo.
- Qala kalula: Qala ngamagama alula nakhayo njengokuthi "Ngiyakwazi" nokuthi "Masizame."
- Khumbula "isizathu sakho": Ukukhumbula ukuthi kungani wenza okuthile kuzokunika amandla ngisho nasezikhathini ezinzima kakhulu.
- Yenza umkhuba: Prakthiza le ndlela nsuku zonke, ikakhulukazi ngaphambi kwezimo ezinzima. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izoba yingxenye yemvelo yengqondo yakho.
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