Ingabe nawe uzizwa ngale ndlela? Konke okwenzayo, kusukela kokuncane kuya kokukhulu, kufanele kwenziwe ngokuphelele. Ingabe uzizwa uthwele umthwalo osindayo kanye nomuzwa wecala uma wenza iphutha elincane? Uma kunjalo, kungenzeka ukuthi unesifo sengqondo esibizwa ngokuthi ' i-Perfectionism '. Kalula nje, lokhu kuyinkolelo eqinile yokuthi konke okwenzayo kufanele kube okuphelele, ngaphandle kwamaphutha. Ukucabanga ngale ndlela akukuhle kakhulu empilweni yakho yengqondo neyomzimba.
Wazi kanjani ukuthi unombono wokuphelela?
Iningi lethu lingaba 'ngabantu abathanda ukuphelela' ngandlela thile empilweni yethu. Mhlawumbe unjalo ekuphekeni, noma mhlawumbe usemsebenzini wakho. Kodwa uma ufuna lokhu 'kuphelela' kukho konke okwenzayo, khona-ke kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi ube nalesi simo. Ake sibone ukuthi yiziphi izici eziyinhloko.
- Ukuzindela: Ukuhlehlisa ukuqala umsebenzi ngenxa yokwesaba ukungakwazi ukuwuqeda ngaphandle kokwenza amaphutha.
- Ukuthatha isikhathi esingadingekile: Uthatha isikhathi eside kakhulu ukwenza into efanayo kunabanye ngoba awunaso isikhathi sokuyenza ' i-ECT ephelele'.
- Ukucabanga ngomphumela wokugcina kuphela: Esikhundleni sokujabulela inqubo, usebenza ucabanga ngomphumela wokugcina kuphela.
- Ukunganeliseki: Uzizwa sengathi awukaqedi umsebenzi uze ucabange ukuthi, "Lokhu kuhle kakhulu manje."
Into ebalulekile ukuthi ukufuna ukuphelela akuyona isifo. Kodwa uma kungalawulwa , kungaba nomthelela omkhulu empilweni yakho yengqondo.
Ingabe zikhona izinhlobo eziyinhloko zokufuna ukuphelela?
Yebo, sikhuluma kakhulu ngezinhlobo ezintathu zokufuna ukuphelela. Nakuba kukhona ukufana phakathi kwalezi zinto, kukhona nomehluko omncane. Ake sibone ukuthi ziyini lezi zinto kuleli thebula.
| Uhlobo lokufuna ukuphelela | Kalula nje... |
|---|---|
| Ukufuna ukuphelela ezindinganisweni zomuntu siqu (okusekelwe ezindinganisweni zomuntu siqu) | Lokhu kunempilo kakhulu. Ngoba uzibekela imigomo ephakeme futhi ushukumiseleka ukuyifinyelela. Lokhu kukwenza ungabi namathuba amaningi okucindezeleka nokucindezeleka. Ngisho noma abanye bethi, "Lezi yimigomo emikhulu kakhulu ukuba ungayifinyelela," kuzokukhuthaza. |
| Ukuzigxeka ngokuphelela | Lokhu kuyingozi kancane. Kulokhu, uzizwa ukwesaba nokuphelelwa yithemba, njengokungathi awusoze wakwazi ukufeza imigomo yakho. Lokhu kungaholela ezintweni ezifana nokukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, ukuzisola, nokugwema umsebenzi. |
| Ukufuna ukuphelela okunqunyiwe emphakathini (okusekelwe ekucindezelweni okuvela emphakathini) | Okwenzekayo kuleli cala ukuthi awucindezelwa nguwe, kodwa ucindezelwa ngaphandle, ukuthi 'wenze konke kahle'. Isibonelo, emisebenzini efana nodokotela noma ummeli, ngisho nephutha elincane kakhulu alinakwenziwa. Futhi, ingcindezi evela kwabanye abazali kanye nomphakathi nayo ingaba yimbangela yalokhu. |
Imiphumela yezempilo yokufuna ukuphelela
Ucwaningo luthole ukuthi ukufuna ukuphelela kuhlotshaniswa nezinkinga eziningi zempilo yengqondo. Ake sibheke ukuthi iyini le miphumela.
- Izinkinga zempilo yengqondo :
- Ukukhathala kwengqondo nomzimba okubangelwa ukusebenza ngokweqile (Ukukhathala)
- Ukucindezeleka
- Ukucindezeleka
- Ukukhathazeka
- Imicabango yokuzibulala
- Imicabango nezenzo ezingafuneki ( Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder - OCD)
- Izinkinga zokudla
- Izinkinga ezihlobene nendlela yokuphila:
- Ukuzenyeza
- Ukudumazeka
- Ukuhlehliswa komsebenzi
- Izinkinga ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabantu
Kungani sinalokhu 'ukuthanda ukuphelela'?
Kunzima ukukhomba isizathu esisodwa salokhu. Kungaba nezizathu eziningi. Ake sibheke eziyinhloko.
- Ukwesaba ngokweqile ukwehluleka.
- Isidingo esinamandla sokujabulisa abazali noma abantu abadala.
- Isifiso sokuzuza uthando nokwamukelwa abanye.
- Ukuba nezinye izinkinga zempilo yengqondo njengokukhathazeka kanye ne-OCD.
- Ukuzizwa ungazethembi futhi ungafaneleki ngawe.
- Izinkinga ebudlelwaneni nabazali ngesikhathi sobuntwana.
- Ukuba ngumuntu obonise ithalente eliphezulu ngesikhathi sesikole noma esemncane.
Ingabe ikhona indlela yokunqoba ukufuna ukuphelela?
Yebo, impela. Esikhundleni sokuzama ukubhekana nalokhu wedwa, kubalulekile ukubonana nochwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo ofanelekayo, njengodokotela wezifo zengqondo noma umeluleki ngodokotela wakho. Bangakusiza ukuthola imbangela yesimo sakho bese uqala ukwelashwa okufanele.
Kunezindlela eziningana zokwelapha eziyinhloko ezisetshenziswayo.
Ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo (i-CBT)
Lokhu kukufundisa ukuthi akuzona zonke izinto okumele ziphelele ngokuphelele. Kukufundisa ukuthi amaphutha ajwayelekile futhi ungawavumeli akuvimbe ohambweni lwakho.
Ukwelashwa nge-hypnotherapy
Lokhu kusiza ukugqashula emcabangweni wokuthi 'konke noma akukho lutho'. Lokhu kusiza ukushintsha lesi simo sengqondo esiqinile.
Ukwelashwa kwezinhlelo zomndeni
Kulokhu, sibheka ukuthi ukufuna ukuphelela kwavela kanjani emndenini wakho, nokuthi kukuthinte kanjani njengomuntu. Sisebenzisana namalungu omndeni ukuthola izixazululo zale nkinga.
Izinto ongazizama wedwa
Ngaphezu kweseluleko sezokwelapha, kunezinto eziningana ongazizama ukulawula lesi simo ngokwakho.
- Bhala phansi izinzuzo nezingozi: Bhala phansi encwadini ukuthi izinzuzo nezingozi zokuba umuntu ofuna ukuphelela ziyini kuwe. Uma uzizwa kanjalo futhi, bheka lezo zinkinga bese unquma.
- Zibekele imigomo engokoqobo: Zibekele imigomo engokoqobo ongayifinyelela ngempela. Khona-ke uzoyeka ukukhathala ukuphishekela izinto ezingenakwenzeka.
- Beka izinsuku zokugcina: Beka isikhathi esinqunyiwe somsebenzi ngamunye bese uzama ukuwuqeda phakathi naleso sikhathi. Lokhu kuzokuvimbela ekuchitheni isikhathi sakho ngokungadingekile entweni efanayo.
- Gwema ukuhlehlisa izinto: Esikhundleni sokucabanga ngomphumela wokugcina, hlukanisa umsebenzi ube izingxenye bese uqhubeka ngemuva kokuqeda ingxenye eyodwa. Ngaleyo ndlela, uzozizwa ungacindezelekile kakhulu.
- Yamukela amaphutha: Khumbula ukuthi amaphutha akuwona amabi ngempela. Eqinisweni, ungafunda kuwo. Esikhundleni sokucabanga ngawo, wamukele njengengxenye yokuphila.
- Gxila kwezinye izinto: Esikhundleni sokuzama ukuphelelisa into efanayo, chitha isikhathi wenza izinto ezahlukene ezikwenza ujabule futhi ezibalulekile kuwe.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukufuna ukuphelela akusona isifo, kodwa kuyisimo sengqondo esingathinta kabi impilo yakho yengqondo uma singalawulwa.
- Amaphutha ayingxenye yokuphila. Qonda ukuthi akuzona zonke izinto okumele zibe ziphelele ngokuphelele.
- Uma uzizwa ucindezelekile noma ukhathazekile ngalesi simo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubona udokotela bese ucela iseluleko kunokuhlupheka wedwa.
- Zibekele imigomo enengqondo, ungazindeli, zinike isikhathi sezinto ezikwenza ujabule. Yiba nomusa kuwe.
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