Uma kuvela izinkinga empilweni yethu, lapho sizizwa sikhathazekile kakhulu, abaningi bethu bafuna uhlobo oluthile losizo, akunjalo? Abanye baya ethempelini, esontweni, noma ethempelini ukuze bazole. Abanye bazindla futhi bazame ukuzola izingqondo zabo. Ngakho-ke ingabe izinto ezinjalo zenkolo nezingokomoya zingathinta ngempela impilo yethu engokwenyama, ikakhulukazi izingqondo zethu? Namuhla sikhuluma ngalesi sihloko esibalulekile kubantu abaningi.
Ukuxhumana phakathi kobuchopho bakho nokuphila kwakho okungokomoya
Imithi yendabuko yaseNtshonalanga ayizange inake kakhulu izinkolelo zenkolo zomuntu. Kodwa lokho kuyashintsha. Izifundo eziningana ezintsha zibonisa ukuthi imikhuba engokomoya noma yenkolo ingaba nomthelela omangalisayo empilweni yethu, ikakhulukazi empilweni yengqondo.
Kalula nje, izifundo eziningi zikhombisile ukuthi abantu abalandela umkhuba ongokomoya noma wenkolo banezinga eliphansi lokucindezeleka, ukuzibulala, kanye nokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa . Ngaphezu kwalokho, labo abaya njalo esontweni, bathandaze, bazindle, futhi basize abanye banamathuba amaningi okululama ekucindezelekeni ngemva kwesigameko esibuhlungu (PTSD) futhi babe namandla ngokwengqondo ngemva kwesigameko esibuhlungu .
Ngokusho kukaLisa Miller, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo eColumbia University, le mikhuba inikeza umuzwa wokulondeka ngezikhathi ezinzima kakhulu empilweni, “othile uyasiqapha, asisodwa.” Abantu abathola injongo nenjongo ekuphileni kwabo ngezinkolelo zabo ezingokomoya bakha amandla engqondo okubhekana nanoma iyiphi inkinga enzima futhi bayinqobe, bakhe ukuqina ukuze babhekane nanoma iyiphi inselele ebafikelayo.
Lokhu akugcini nje kuphela empilweni yengqondo. Izifundo zikhombisile ukuthi abantu abaya njalo ezinkonzweni zenkolo banamathuba amancane okulaliswa esibhedlela, futhi noma ngabe balaliswe esibhedlela, bayalulama futhi babuyele emakhaya ngokushesha. Ngisho neziguli ezinezifo ezingathi sína njengomdlavuza zibika izinga lempilo eliphezulu uma zilandela umkhuba ongokomoya.
Into emangalisayo ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi singabona lezi zinguquko ebuchosheni bethu. Ososayensi bathole ukuthi uma sinolwazi olungokwenkolo noma olungokomoya, izingxenye ezithile zobuchopho bethu ezilawula imizwa, umuzwa, nokuqonda okujulile ziyavuselelwa.
Ezinye izingxenye zobuchopho bomuntu obekade ecindezelekile isikhathi eside zingase zibonakale “zincane” (hypotrophy). Kodwa-ke, ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi lezo zingxenye zobuchopho bomuntu olulama ngemikhuba yokomoya “ziyajiya” (hypertrophy). Lezi zinguquko ebuchosheni zingase zivikele ezifweni zengqondo . Kodwa-ke, kusacwaningwa ukuthi lokhu kwenzeka kanjani ngempela.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi, kunokuba nje ukholwe, kubaluleke kakhulu ukulandela umkhuba ohlobene nawo . Kufana nokwelashwa kwengqondo okunqunywe udokotela. Isibonelo, ekwelashweni okufana ( Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - CBT) , kuwumkhuba oqhubekayo walezo zinto oletha imiphumela.
Ingabe umqondo 'kaNkulunkulu' ubalulekile?
Cha. Inkolelo yakho engokomoya akudingeki ukuthi ibe ngeyokholo. Kungaba ukuxhumana “namandla aphezulu” noma “amandla asemhlabeni wonke.” Kwabanye, kumane kuwumqondo “wokuthile okukhulu kunabo.” Kungasukela enkolelweni yendabuko kuNkulunkulu kuya ekuxhumaneni okujulile nendawo yonke, nobuciko, nemvelo, noma nabanye abantu.
Cabanga ngalowo muzwa ojulile esiwuzwayo lapho sibuka ukushona kwelanga okuhle, silalele inkondlo noma ingoma enhle, noma sijabulela ubuhle bemvelo obuvela ku-Sigiriya noma ku-End of the World. Nalokho kuyinto engokomoya.
"Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumKristu, ungumBuddha, ungumHindu, ungumSulumane, noma ungumuntu ongeyena umlandeli wenkolo, lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okungokomoya kuzwakala ngendlela efanayo nokusebenza kobuchopho bethu. Kuyinto engavamile futhi enhle kakhulu."
Ngakho-ke, izinkolelo nemikhuba ehlelekile akudingekile. Ungabonga abanye, ubonise umusa, wenze inkonzo yomphakathi, noma uchithe isikhathi nemvelo. Uma uzizwa ujabule futhi unokuthula, lalela umculo, ufunde izinkondlo, futhi wenze lezo zinto kakhudlwana.
Amandla obunye phezu kwanoma yini eyenziwa yodwa
Uma sikhuluma “ngokomoya,” ngezinye izikhathi kungabonakala njengento yomuntu siqu, yomuntu ngamunye. “Kodwa singabantu abaxhumana nabantu. Sidinga abanye abantu. Sidinga indawo yokwamukela,” kusho isazi sezenhlalo uBrandon Vaidyanathan.
Mhlawumbe yingakho ukuba yingxenye yenkolo ehleliwe kunomthelela omkhulu empilweni kunokuzimela ngokomoya. Okungenani yilokho okutholakele ocwaningweni olwenziwe ngesikhathi sobhubhane lwe-COVID-19.
| Umsebenzi | Izinzuzo eziyinhloko |
|---|---|
| Imikhuba engokomoya eyenziwa yodwa (isib., ukuzindla yodwa, ukuzwa imvelo) | Ukuthula kwengqondo, ukuziqonda, inkululeko yomuntu siqu. |
| Imikhuba yenkolo/engokomoya eyenziwa njengeqembu (isib., ukuya emathempelini/emasontweni, amaqembu okuzindla) | Ubunye, umuzwa wokuba yingxenye, kanye nokusekelwa komphakathi kuyizindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokuqeda isizungu. |
Uma uya ethempelini noma esontweni bese ujoyina abanye, uthola umuzwa wokuthi “Ngiyingxenye yalo mphakathi.” Lowo umuthi omuhle kakhulu wesizungu. Awuwutholi lowo muzwa uma uzindla wedwa ekamelweni.
Kodwa kukhona olunye uhlangothi lwalokhu. Akuzona zonke imiphakathi yenkolo noma engokomoya ezinhle. Uma uzizwa ujeziswa unkulunkulu wakho noma umphakathi wakho, ulahliwe, futhi wenziwa uzizwe sengathi uyisoni, kungandisa ukukhathazeka kwakho, ukucindezeleka, kanye nokucindezeleka. Futhi, uma kukhona ezombusazwe, ukukhetha, kanye nenhlebo emphakathini wakho wenkolo, kuqinisekile ukuthi amazinga okucindezeleka aphezulu phakathi kwabo.
Ukwelashwa kwezokwelapha kanye nokuphulukiswa ngokomoya kungalungiswa kanjani?
Abanye odokotela nodokotela bezengqondo sebevele behlanganisa imikhuba yenkolo noma engokomoya yeziguli ekwelashweni kwazo (isb., i-CBT). Izifundo zibonise ukuthi le ndlela isebenza kahle kakhulu ekulawuleni ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa, ukucindezeleka okungapheli, kanye nokulimala.
U-Anna Yusim, udokotela wezifo zengqondo eYale School of Medicine, ungumcwaningi oshisekayo ngalesi sihloko. Njengoba esho, “Izidingo ezingokomoya ziyingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila komuntu.”
Uhlanganisa imikhuba ehlukahlukene yenkolo nengokomoya ekwelapheni kwakhe iziguli zakhe. Uma izinkolelo eziyinhloko zesiguli ziyingxenye yokholo lwaso, uhlanganisa umthandazo, ukufunda imibhalo yenkolo, kanye nokuhlanganyela emikhosini yenkolo ohlelweni lokwelashwa. Kulabo abangenazo izinkolelo zenkolo ezinjalo,Usebenzisa amasu anjengokuzindla, i-yoga, kanye nokusebenza kokuphefumula. Uthi lezi zindlela zikwazile ukwenza umehluko onamandla kakhulu futhi oguqula impilo yeziguli.
Ngakho-ke, uma unomuzwa wokuthi izinkolelo zakho ezingokomoya zibalulekile empilweni yakho yengqondo, ungesabi ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngakho. Mtshele ngezinkolelo zakho nokuthi yini ekududuzayo. Kungasiza ekwenzeni ukwelashwa kwakho kwezokwelapha kuphumelele kakhudlwana.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukulandela umkhuba ongokomoya noma wenkolo kungathuthukisa kakhulu impilo yakho yengqondo , ikakhulukazi ukusiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka nokucindezeleka .
- Kunokuba nje ukholwe, imiphumela ivela ngokulandela njalo umkhuba (njengokuzindla, umthandazo, inkonzo yomphakathi).
- Akudingeki ngempela ukuthi ube ngumuntu othanda inkolo. Ukuxhumana ngokujulile nemvelo, ubuciko, noma abanye kungaba nakho okungokomoya okunamandla.
- Ukusebenza njengeqembu nokuzizwa uyingxenye yomphakathi kuyithuluzi elinamandla lokulwa nesizungu .
- Uma izinkolelo zakho ezingokomoya zibalulekile kuwe, khuluma ngazo ngokukhululekile nodokotela wakho. Zingafakwa njengokwengeza ohlelweni lwakho lokwelashwa.
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