Umuzwa wokuba ngumama okwesithathu - ake sixoxe ngalokhu! (Ukukhulelwa Nokubeletha)

Cishe uyamazi uMelissa Joan Hart, umlingisi odumile waseHollywood. Akayena nje umlingisi onethalente, kodwa futhi ungumama onothando wezingane ezimbili. Muva nje unikeze izindaba ezimnandi zokuthi ulindele ingane yakhe yesithathu. Ngakho-ke, uzizwa kanjani ngomuntu osevele engumama ukubhekana nalesi simo okwesithathu? Ingabe lolu hambo luhlukile kolokuqala nolwesibili? Ake sixoxe kancane ngokukhulelwa, ikakhulukazi ukuthi kunjani ukuba ngumama futhi.

Ingabe isikhathi sesithathu sihlukile kunesokuqala?

"Ngangesaba kakhulu ngesikhathi ngikhulelwe izingane zami zokuqala ezimbili. Kodwa kulokhu angizizwa nginokwesaba okunjalo, okuyinto ephumuzayo kakhulu. Ngijabule kakhulu. Nginokholo lokuthi singakwazi ukunakekela lokhu noma kunjalo," kusho uMelissa.

Lokhu empeleni kuyinto evamile kakhulu. Uma uba ngumama okokuqala, konke kusha. Ungase wesabe kancane futhi ungabaze ukuthi ungayinakekela kanjani ingane, ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokubeletha, ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nezinguquko zamahomoni. Kodwa ngesikhathi sesibili noma sesithathu, uba nokuhlangenwe nakho okuhle. Uyazi ukuthi yini ongayilindela nokuthi yini okufanele uyilungiselele. Ngakho esikhundleni sokwesaba, uzizwa uqiniseka kakhulu futhi uzolile . Akufani nokushayela imoto okokuqala, kufana nokuzethemba okutholayo ngemva kokuthi uyishayele kahle.

Ukungakhululeki kanye nezinguquko zomzimba ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa

UMelissa uthi ubelokhu ezizwa engakhululekile kancane kulokhu kukhulelwa. "Angiguli ngempela, ngoba bengiphilile kukho konke ukukhulelwa kwami. Kodwa ngizizwa ngingakhululekile ngempela. Kubonakala sengathi ama-hormone anamandla kakhulu kulokhu. Benginesicanucanu esikhulu ekuqaleni. Isisu sami naso sakhula ngokushesha kakhulu. Ngenyanga yesithathu, kwazwakala sengathi yizinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye."

Lokhu futhi kuyinto evamile komama abaningi.

• Ukukhula okusheshayo kwesisu: Njengoba imisipha yesisu kanye nesibeletho sekweluliwe kancane ngemva kokukhulelwa kokuqala, isisu sizoqala ukuphuma ngokushesha ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kwesibili noma kwesithathu njengoba umntwana ekhula. Lokhu kuvamile.
• Ukungakhululeki okwandayo: Njengoba umzimba usuvele ukhulelwe kabili, ungase uzwe ubuhlungu obukhulu emhlane kanye nokukhathala ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kwesithathu.
• Imiphumela yama-hormone: Abanye abantu bangase babe nesicanucanu, ukuhlanza, kanye nokushintshashintsha kwemizwelo phakathi nalesi sikhathi, okubangelwa izinguquko zama-hormone.

Ufuna ukwazi ubulili bomntwana kusenesikhathi?

"Cha, kulokhu sinqume ukukugcina kuyimfihlo. Bengilokhu ngifuna ukwenza lokho," kusho uMelissa.

Ukuthi kufanele bathole ubulili bomntwana kusengaphambili noma cha nge-ultrasound scan kuyisinqumo somuntu siqu sabazali. Kunezinzuzo kanye nokungalungi kukho.

• Izinzuzo zokwazi kusengaphambili: Lokhu kukusiza ukuthi ulungiselele igumbi, uthenge izingubo, futhi ukhethe igama lomntwana. Kungasiza nezinye izingane endlini ukuthi zilungiselele ukufika "kodade omusha" noma "umfowethu omusha."
• Izinzuzo zokukugcina kuyimfihlo: Ukumangala nenjabulo yokuzalwa komntwana ayinakuqhathaniswa. Kukusiza futhi ukuthi ugxile kulokho ingane yakho ekudingayo, kunokuba uboshwe ubulili bomntwana.

Ekugcineni, lokhu kuyisinqumo sakho nesomlingani wakho. Noma ngabe yini oyinqumayo, kulungile.

Ungathanda ukumzala kanjani umntwana wakho?

UMelissa uthi ngezinto ezimbili ahlangabezane nazo: "Ukubeletha kokuqala kwangisiza kakhulu ngokwezokwelapha. Banginika umuthi wokubangela ukubeletha (i-Pitocin) kanye ne-epidural yokunciphisa ubuhlungu. Kodwa okwesibili kwakungokwemvelo kakhulu. Angizange ngixhunywe kunoma yimiphi imishini. Ngangisekhaya cishe amahora ayi-10 futhi ngaya esibhedlela. Ngithemba ukwenza okufanayo kulokhu."

Kulezi zindlela ezimbili zokwenza lokhu, singafunda ngezindlela ezimbili eziyinhloko zokubeletha. Ake sizihlolisise.

Okubalulekile: Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhetha yiphi indlela, ukuphepha kwakho nokwengane yakho kufanele kuze kuqala . Ngezinye izikhathi, noma ngabe unethemba lokubeletha ngokwemvelo, ukungenelela kwezokwelapha kungadingeka esimweni esiphuthumayo. Ngakho-ke, kuwukuhlakanipha ukuxoxa ngalokhu nodokotela wakho bese unquma indlela efanelana kahle nempilo yakho neyengane yakho.

Ingabe abanye abantwana sebekulungele ukuzalwa komntwana omusha?

"Amadodana ethu amabili ajabule kakhulu. Aqale athi afuna udadewabo, manje athi afuna umfowabo," kusho uMelissa emomotheka.

Uma ilungu elisha lijoyina umndeni, kubaluleke kakhulu ukulungiselela abanye abantwana endlini lokho.

• Khuluma nezingane zakho kusenesikhathi: Zitshele ukuthi ulindele umntwana. Zifundise ngendlela isisu esikhula ngayo kanye nalokho umntwana akwenzayo ngaphakathi esibelethweni.
• Babandakanye emsebenzini wokulungiselela: basize bakhethe izingubo zomntwana futhi balungiselele amathoyizi. Lokhu kuzobenza bazizwe sengathi nabo benza indima yabo.
• Nikeza ukuzethemba: Yazisa izingane zakho ukuthi uthando lwazo ngawe ngeke lunciphe ngemva kokuzalwa komntwana omusha. Zinike isikhathi sokuba wedwa nazo ngemva kokuzalwa komntwana.

Kuvamile ukuthi izingane zibe nemibono ehlukene. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukubabandakanya ngothando kulolu hambo olusha.

Kuthiwani ngezifiso zokudla ezingavamile ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa?

Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, abanye abantu baba nezifiso zokudla ezingavamile. Lokhu sikubiza nangokuthi “indlala.” Abanye bathi kuwuphawu oluvela emzimbeni lokuthola ukudla okudingakalayo.

Kodwa ochwepheshe bathi, "Isizathu sesayensi salokhu kulangazelela ukudla asikaziwa." Kungenzeka ukuthi kungenxa yezinguquko emqondweni wokunambitha nokuhogela okubangelwa izinguquko zamahomoni.

Ngakho-ke, uma unesifiso sokudla okuthile okufana nomango, ukhukhamba, noma i-ayisikhilimu, kulungile ukukudla ngokulinganisela . Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukudla ukudla okunempilo nokulinganiselayo kanye nakho. Kodwa-ke, uma unesifiso sokudla izinto ezingadliwa, njengothuli, ushokoledi, noma insipho (isifo esibizwa ngokuthi i-Pica), kungaba yingozi. Uma kunjalo, funa iseluleko sezokwelapha ngokushesha .