Ingabe ingane yakho ayihlali endaweni eyodwa? Ingabe uvame ukuzizwa sengathi ayinaki lutho noma ayikulaleli? Noma ingabe ivele ithukuthele ngezinto ezincane? Ngenxa yalokhu kuziphatha, kungenzeka ukuthi usolwa yizihlobo, abangani, noma ngisho nesikole, bethi, "Ingane yakho ayiziphathi kahle." Uma nawe uke wabhekana nokuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo, le ndaba izoba seduze kakhulu nawe. Ngoba namuhla sizokhuluma ngezinye zezinto abazali bezingane eziphila ne-ADHD, noma i-attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, abanazo engqondweni yabo, kodwa abakwazanga ukuzitshela umphakathi.
Ingane yami akuyona "ingane embi"!
Ezinye izingane ezine-ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) zinobunzima bokuhlala endaweni eyodwa, okusho ukuthi zisebenza ngokweqile . Ezinye zicabanga ukuthi zenza izinto ngaphandle kokunaka, okusho ukuthi zishesha kakhulu. Lezi zingane zingase zibe nobunzima bokulandela imiyalelo nokulawula imizwa yazo. Manje, lapho ingane enalezi zici iziphatha kabi, sicabanga ukuthi izama ngamabomu ukusenza sithukuthele noma ingasilaleli. Kodwa lokho akulona iqiniso.
Empeleni laba bantwana baphila noshintsho oluthile ekusebenzeni kobuchopho. Akusikho ukukhetha kwabo.
Omunye umama uthi, “Kungizwisa ubuhlungu kakhulu lapho abanye abazali bebheka izingane zethu bese bezibiza ngokuthi ‘izingane ezimbi.’” Zombili izingane zakhe zine-ADHD. Uthi lapho ingane efana nale ivele ithukuthele, ithukuthele, futhi ikhamuluke (ukuphazamiseka), bazama ngempela ukusitshela ukuthi izizwa kanjani. Kodwa abazi ukuthi bangakwenza kanjani. Uma sebeyifundile leyo ndlela, lezo zingane ziyashintsha ngezindlela ezingazicabangi.
I-ADHD ayikhuli ngenxa "yamaphutha abazali"!
Lona omunye wemibono eyiphutha enkulu emphakathini. Lapho bebona ukuziphatha kabi kwengane, abantu abaningi bakhomba umama nobaba ngomunwe. Kungenzeka ukuthi uke wezwa izindaba ezinjengokuthi "ingane ayikhuliswanga kahle," "ukutotoswa kakhulu," kanye "nokungaqondiswa."
Kodwa ochwepheshe bathi imbangela eyinhloko ye-ADHD izakhi zofuzo . Okusho ukuthi, izuzwe njengefa. Manje sekuqinisekisiwe ukuthi lesi simo asibangelwa yiphutha likamama noma likababa.
Indaba kamama wendodana eneminyaka eyishumi nanye ehlushwa yi-ADHD, i-autism, kanye nokukhathazeka ibaluleke kakhulu.
"Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi i-ADHD ilebula elibekwa ezinganeni ngendlela embi. Kodwa akuyona inkinga yokukhulisa izingane. Yilokho okuyiphutha elikhulu nge-ADHD."
Omunye umama uthi, "Kunokuhlaziswa okukhulu kwabazali kulokhu. Abantu bacabanga ukuthi, 'Kumelwe ukuba wenze into embi.' Omunye umama wake wathi kimi, 'Kumelwe ukuba wamvumela ukuba abukele i-TV kakhulu esemncane.' Ngacabanga ukuthi, 'Lokho akunangqondo.'"
I-ADHD iyisimo sangempela.
Lokhu akuyona ihlaya noma into eqanjiwe. Odokotela nezikhungo zezempilo emhlabeni wonke baye bakwamukela lokhu njengesimo sangempela sezokwelapha. Kodwa abanye abantu basakungabaza ngakho.
Umama othile wathumela indodana yakhe ene-ADHD ekamu. Nakuba ayenikeze abahleli iseluleko sendlela yokuphatha isimo sendodana yakhe, akekho ekamu owayekholelwa ku-ADHD. Ngenxa yalokho, indodana yakhe kwadingeka ibhekane nobunzima obukhulu ekamu.
Ngakho-ke uma abantu abangaqondi lesi simo befunda ngaso, bazokwazi ukubheka labo bantwana ngozwela. Khona-ke, izingane zizozizwa ukuthi, "Abantu abadala bayangiqonda, bangasohlangothini lwami." Lokho kuthembana kubaluleke kakhulu kubo.
| Imibono eyiphutha emphakathini | Iqiniso lezokwelapha |
|---|---|
| Lokhu "ukuziphatha okubi" ngamabomu. | Cha, lokhu kuyimpawu ebangelwa ushintsho ekusebenzeni kwama-neurotransmitter ebuchosheni. |
| Lokhu kubangelwa yiphutha labazali. | Cha, i-ADHD ibangelwa kakhulu yizici zofuzo kanye nezemvelo. Akulona iphutha labazali. |
| Ungakulungisa lokhu ngokushaya, ukuthethisa, nokujezisa. | Isijeziso asigcini nje ngokulimaza ukuzethemba kwengane, kodwa futhi asiziqedi izimpawu. Singenza isimo sibe sibi kakhulu. |
| Laba bantwana bavilapha futhi abanasithakazelo. | Lokhu akubangelwa ukukhathala, kodwa kunalokho ubunzima bobuchopho bokugcina ukunaka nokuhlela imisebenzi. |
Lesi simo asinakulungiswa ngesijeziso.
Ukumiswa esikoleni ngenxa yenkinga yokuziphatha kwengane akuyona into engavamile ezweni lakithi. Omunye umama uthi indodana yakhe yamiswa esikoleni izinsuku eziyi-10 esikhathini sezinyanga ezintathu lapho isebangeni lesithathu. Wayechazele isikole ukuthi ukuxhamazela kwendodana yakhe kanye nokungacabangi kahle kwakuyingxenye yesimo sayo se-ADHD, kodwa abazange baqonde.
"Ngifisa sengathi izikole zingagxila kakhulu ekutholeni imbangela yalokhu kuziphatha nokuthola izixazululo zako kunokukujezisa. Labo bantwana abafundi lutho ngokumiswa emsebenzini," usho kanje. Abanye othisha bacabanga ukuthi "ukubashaya kanzima" kuzoqeda lokhu kuziphatha okubi. Kodwa lokho kwenza ingane icindezeleke kakhulu.
Iseluleko sokukhulisa izingane esisebenza kuwo wonke umuntu asisebenzi ezinganeni ezine-ADHD
Ngisho noma abazali bethu basikhulisa ngendlela yakudala ethi "yenza engikushoyo", lezo zindlela azisebenzi lapho sikhulisa ingane ene-ADHD. Kudingeka sibe nesineke kakhulu futhi sivumelane nezimo lapho sifundisa ingane. Kudingeka sifinyelele lapho ingane ikhona futhi sikhulume nayo ngendlela eyiqondayo.
Ngokufanayo, iseluleko esisebenza enganeni engenayo i-ADHD singase singasebenzi kulabantwana. Kungenzeka ukuthi uke wezwa iseluleko esinjengokuthi, "Ingane yami ngeke ikhule kanjalo," noma "Zama ishadi lezitika." Nakuba lesi seluleko singase sibe nenhloso enhle, asihambisani nezidingo zengane ene-ADHD.
Ukukhulisa ingane ene-ADHD kunzima kakhulu.
Abanye abazali bachitha isikhathi esiningi namandla bezama ukwakha isimiso esivamile sengane yabo, becwaninga ngaso, bebona odokotela, futhi befuna ulwazi kwi-inthanethi.
"Kuyakhathaza ngempela," kusho umama othile. "Ngezinye izikhathi konke kuzwakala kungaphezu kwamandla. Ngizizwa sengathi angenzi konke okusemandleni ami ngendodana yami, ukuthi ngiyisehluleki. Kunzima kakhulu ukubekezelela lowo muzwa."
"Usuku ngalunye luyisenzakalo esisha. Lolu hambo alulula - kodwa singakunqoba lokhu," kusho omunye umama.
Ingxenye engcono kakhulu ukuthi ukwelashwa ngenkulumo kanye, uma kudingeka, imithi enikezwe udokotela kungasiza ingane yakho ukuphatha i-ADHD yayo. Futhi, uhlelo lwemfundo oluzimele (i-IEP) lwenzelwe ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zokufunda zengane.Ungabuza isikole sengane yakho ngalokhu. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukukhuluma nodokotela womndeni wakho noma udokotela wezingane ngakho konke lokhu.
Kukhona ungqimba lwesiliva kuwo wonke amafu amnyama.
Phakathi kwazo zonke lezi zinselele, kungaba yinto ekhangayo ukucabanga ukuthi i-ADHD akuyona nje into embi. Abanye abazali bathi izingane zabo zinamakhono akhethekile ngenxa ye-ADHD.
- Ukucabanga ngaphandle kwebhokisi
- Ukubheka izinto ngendlela entsha
- Ukugxila kakhulu endabeni ethakazelisayo
“Akekho okhuluma ngezinto ezinhle nge-ADHD,” kusho omunye umama. “Lokho kungenxa yokuthi uhlelo lwethu lwemfundo kanye nomhlaba akuklanyelwe ukwamukela labo abangaphandle kwesimiso.”
Ngakho-ke, ngenkathi uqonda izinselele zomntanakho, ungakhohlwa ukwazisa amakhono akhe ahlukile.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- I-ADHD akuyona into embi yengane noma iphutha labazali. Yisimo esaziwayo ngokwezokwelapha esibangelwa izinguquko ekusebenzeni kobuchopho.
- Isijeziso ngeke siqede lesi simo. Kunalokho, okudingwa yingane uthando lwakho, ukuqonda kanye nokusekelwa kwakho.
- Akuzona zonke izeluleko ezisebenzela izingane ezivamile ezizosebenzela ingane ene-ADHD. Kubalulekile ukuthola indlela esebenza kahle enganeni yakho.
- Uma uzizwa sengathi lolu hambo luyakhathaza, ungabi namahloni ngalo. Cela usizo. Khuluma nodokotela wakho noma nochwepheshe wezokwelapha bese uthola izinsizakalo zokwelashwa ezifanele kanye nokwelulekwa.
- Njengoba ubheka izinselele zomntanakho, qaphela futhi uqonde amakhono akhe ahlukile kanye namandla akhe.
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