Unyaka omusha usanda kuqala, futhi sonke senza izinqumo ezintsha ngamathemba amasha, akunjalo? "Kulokhu ngizoyeka ukubhema nakanjani," "Ngizolawula ukudla kwami futhi ngibe sesimweni esihle," "Ngizoqala ukuzivocavoca," njalo njalo. Kodwa kwenzekani ngempela? Ngokusho kocwaningo, cishe izingxenye ezimbili kwezintathu zabantu zephula izinhloso zabo zoNyaka Omusha ngaphambi kokuphela kwenyanga. Ngakho-ke sekuyisiko loNyaka Omusha. Kodwa kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Ake sixoxe ngokuthi singakushintsha kanjani lokho kulo nyaka.
Kungani sivame ukwenza izinqumo zoNyaka oMusha?
Unyaka Omusha ufana nengqophamlando ekhethekile ekhalendeni lempilo yethu. Uma sibona idayari entsha, ikhalenda entsha, sizizwa sengathi sidinga ukuqala kabusha. Ngokusho kososayensi bezengqondo, lo "muzwa wokuvuselelwa" uletha ithemba elikhulu ezinhliziyweni zethu. Yingakho silangazelela "ukwenza izinto ebesingenakukwazi ukuzenza ngonyaka odlule" kulo nyaka.
Kodwa nakuba le ntshiseko iyinto enhle, ngezinye izikhathi siyathatheka yile ntshiseko bese sizibekela imigomo emikhulu kakhulu ukuba singayifinyelela ngempela. Ingabe intshiseko iyodwa ayanele ukufeza umgomo?
Uke wacabanga 'ngendlela yokwenza' kunokuthi ucabangeni?
Kuhle ukucabanga ngomgomo. Kodwa ukuze uqhubeke, udinga uhlelo oluhle . Abantu abaningi baqala imigomo yabo ngenjabulo yoNyaka Omusha, kodwa lapho leyo njabulo iphela ngemva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa, bayayeka phakathi ngoba abanalo uhlelo.
Enye inkinga ukuthi imigomo esiyibekayo ngezinye izikhathi inzima kakhulu . Cabanga ukuthi uzibekela umgomo onjengokuthi "Ngizokwehlisa amakhilogremu ama-5 ngenyanga." Kodwa uma ungatholi imiphumela ngokushesha, uyakhungatheka. Ekugcineni, uyayeka. Imigomo ithatha isikhathi ukuyifinyelela, ngakho-ke sidinga ukuyidedela.
Ake sibheke emuva bese siqhubekela phambili.
Ingabe ungumuntu othatha isinqumo esifanayo minyaka yonke? Sekuyisikhathi sokwenza njengomseshi omncane.
Sivame ukuzibekela imigomo emikhulu yesikhathi esizayo, kodwa asicabangi ngobuqotho ukuthi kungani singakwazanga ukuyifinyelela esikhathini esidlule.
Kungani ngingazange ngiyeke ukubhema ngesikhathi esidlule? Kungani ngaqala ukuzivocavoca bese ngiyeka ngemva kwesonto? Udinga ukuthola izimpendulo eziqotho zale mibuzo. Mhlawumbe abangani bakho bayakucindezela? Awunaso isikhathi esanele? Noma akuyona into ofuna ukuyenza ngempela? Ngaphandle kokuthola lezi zizathu, sihlala "senza izinqumo, sibuyele emkhubeni ofanayo omdala, bese umjikelezo uqhubeka." Ukuze siphule lo mjikelezo,Kumelwe sithembeke kithi ngokwethu.
Kusukela ekunqobeni okuncane kuya emagolini amakhulu
Cishe uke wezwa ukuthi kufanele uhlukanise imigomo emikhulu ibe yizicucu ezincane. Kodwa kungani wenza lokho?
Kalula nje, njengabantu, sithanda ukuzizwa sengathi “Ngikunqobile lokhu.” Kubizwa ngokuthi ‘umuzwa wobungcweti.’ Ngakho esikhundleni somgomo omkhulu, ongacacile njengokuthi “Ngizolunga,” hlukanisa kube yizinyathelo ezincane, ezilinganiswayo.
| Igoli elikhulu, elingacacile | Izinyathelo ezincane, ezisebenzisekayo |
|---|---|
| "Sengiqala ukuba sesimweni esihle" | - Hamba imizuzu engama-30, izinsuku ezi-3 ngesonto. - Ungadli izipuni ezingaphezu kwezimbili zikashukela ngosuku. - Yeka ukudla ngemva kuka-8pm. |
| "Ngifunda izincwadi" | - Ngifunda amakhasi ama-5 encwadi njalo ebusuku ngaphambi kokulala. |
Njalo uma uqeda isinyathelo esincane esinjengalesi, ubuchopho bakho buzizwa bujabule kancane. Leyo njabulo ikushukumisela ukuthi uqhubeke nokwenza.
'Qala izinto ezinhle' kunokuthi 'yeka izinto ezimbi'
Leli iqiniso elibaluleke kakhulu ngokwengqondo. Ubuchopho bethu buthanda umgomo "wokwenza okuthile" kunomgomo "wokungenzi okuthile."
Isibonelo, esikhundleni sokucabanga ukuthi, "Ngizoyeka ukuthukuthela," beka umgomo omuhle esikhundleni salokho. Njengokuthi, "Ngizozindla imizuzu eyi-10 njalo kusihlwa ukuze ngithulise ingqondo yami," noma "Uma ngizizwa ngithukuthele, ngizobala ngifike ku-10." Lapha, uthatha isinyathelo. Imigomo efana nale inamathuba amaningi okuphumelela.
Ingabe kufanele sizibekele imigomo ethi 'SMART'?
Indlela ethandwa kakhulu futhi ephumelelayo yokuzibekela imigomo yindlela ethi 'SMART'. Lokhu kusho ukuthi umgomo wakho kufanele ube nalezi zici ezinhlanu. Ake siqonde lokhu ngesibonelo sokuyeka ukubhema .
| Incwadi ehlakaniphile | Incazelo | Isibonelo: Ukuyeka ukubhema |
|---|---|---|
| S - Okuqondile | Umgomo wakho kufanele ucace kakhulu futhi uqonde ngqo . | "Ngiyayeka ukubhema." (Lokhu kusobala) |
| M - Okungalinganiswa | Udinga ukwazi ukukala intuthuko yakho. | "Nginciphisa inani logwayi engiwubhemayo ngosuku lisuka ku-10 liye ku-5." (Lokhu kuyalinganiswa) |
| A - Okungafinyeleleka | Ingabe lokhu kuyinto ongayenza ngempela? | Kungaba nzima ngomuntu obhema ugwayi abangu-20 ngosuku ukuyeka ngokuzumayo, ngakho-ke kunengqondo kakhulu ukunciphisa kancane kancane. |
| R - Okufanelekile | Ingabe lo mgomo ubaluleke ngempela empilweni yakho? | "Ngifuna ukuyeka ukubhema ukuze ngithuthukise impilo yami futhi ngijabule nomndeni wami." (Lokhu kuyasebenza kuwe) |
| T - Kuncike esikhathini (ngesikhathi) | Udinga ukuba nesikhathi esinqunyiwe ukuze ufeze lo mgomo. | "Ngizoyeka ukubhema ngokuphelele phakathi nezinyanga ezintathu ezizayo." (Lesi yisitatimende esinqunyiwe ngesikhathi.) |
Ikakhulukazi uma kukhulunywa ngemigomo ehlobene nempilo njengokuyeka ukubhema, ukwehlisa isisindo, noma ukulawula ukudla kwakho, uma ukuthola kunzima ukuyifinyelela wedwa,Khuluma nodokotela womndeni wakho. Angakusiza ukuthi uqhamuke nohlelo olusebenzayo oluzokusebenzela kangcono.
Vumela izindinganiso zakho zikuqondise.
Okokugcina, khumbula ukuthi "Kungani" ngemuva komgomo wakho. Izindinganiso zakho ziyikhampasi yakho.
Isibonelo, esikhundleni sokucabanga ukuthi, 'Ngizokwehlisa amakhilogremu ama-5,' cabanga ngenani elingemuva kwalokho. Mhlawumbe ' impilo .' Uma ucabanga ukuthi, 'Ngenxa yokuthi ngiyayikhathalela impilo yami, ngizokwazi ukuhlala ngiphilile, ngigijime futhi ngidlale nezingane zami, futhi ngijwayele indlela yokuphila enempilo,' lokho kuzokunika amandla amaningi. Noma nini lapho uzizwa sengathi ubhekene nesikhathi esinzima, zikhumbuze ukuthi 'kungani' uzibekele lo mgomo.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Hlukanisa imigomo yakho emikhulu ibe yizinyathelo ezincane nezilula ongazithatha nsuku zonke.
- Esikhundleni sokuthi "Angenzi lutho olubi," zibekele imigomo ethi "Ngiqala into enhle."
- Zibekele umgomo wakho usebenzisa indlela ye-SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time-bound).
- Kungase kube nezithiyo. Yenza uhlelo (uhlelo B) kusenesikhathi.
- Uma kukhulunywa ngemigomo ehlobene nempilo, ungazami ukusebenza wedwa, kodwa cela iseluleko kudokotela wakho.
- Khumbula njalo ukuthi "kungani" wenza lokhu. Yilokho amandla akho amakhulu.
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