Ðe nèkpɔa nusianu kple mɔkpɔkpɔ nyuia? Alo mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeametɔea? Mina míaƒo nu tso esia (Optimism) ŋu!

Alekee nèfɔ̃ egbe? Zã ɣeyiɣi kpui aɖe nàdzudzɔ nyati sia xexlẽ eye nàde ŋugble le nu siwo dzɔ ɖe dziwò egbea dometɔ aɖewo ŋu. Ne anya wɔ la, lé nuŋlɔti kple pepa eye nàŋlɔ nudzɔdzɔ tɔxɛ ʋɛ aɖewo siwo dzi nèɖo ŋkui la ɖi. Na míakpɔ nusi nàŋlɔ ɖa.

Eyata nukae nèsusu? Ðe nu nyuiwo yɔ wò ŋkekea ƒe akpa gãtɔa? Nane si le abe, “Egbe nye ŋkeke nyui aɖe! Tɔgbuinye ɖa ŋdi nuɖuɖu. Menɔ xɔ̃nyewo gbɔ le suku, eye egbe ƒe Eŋlisigbe me ɣeyiɣia dzi ŋɔ ŋutɔ!” Alo ɖe wò susu nɔ tsaglãla tsam yi teƒe siwo mesɔ oa? Nane abe, "Tɔgbui ɖu ŋdinu eye metsi megbe, eye bɔs la to ŋunye. Xɔ̃nyewo zã ŋdɔnuɖuɣi tsɔ xlẽ nu tso television dzi wɔna si tea ɖeɖi ame ŋu ma ke ŋu. Egbe nye Eŋlisigbe! Nyemelɔ̃ Yawoɖagbewo kura o!”? Susu geɖe le tamebubu alea me.

Nukae nye mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame kple mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame?

Kpuie ko la, mɔkpɔkpɔ nyui kple mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame nye mɔ eve siwo dzi woato alé ŋku ɖe nuwo ŋu ahabu tame. Míaƒe susu eveawo .

Mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeamela kpɔa nuwo ƒe akpa si me kɔ ɣesiaɣi. Wokpɔa mɔ be nusianu nayi edzi nyuie. Woxɔe se hã be ŋutete kple ŋutete le yewo si be yewoana nu nyuiwo nava eme. Wosena le wo ɖokui me ɣesiaɣi be, "Oo, mate ŋu aɖɔ esia ɖo."

Le go bubu me la, míeyɔa ame siwo dia vodada le nusianu ŋu, siwo kpɔa nusianu le ameyibɔ kple yevu me la be “mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeamelawo.” Zi geɖe la, mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeametɔ susuna be nuwo ava gblẽ, alo be yewole nusiwo meva yi nyuie o ŋu bum ɣesiaɣi. Ðewohĩ susu nɔa wo ŋu ɣesiaɣi be, “Esia madze edzi o.”

Gake nya lae nye esi. Mía dometɔ aɖeke mekpɔa mɔ na nu nyuiwo ɣesiaɣi alo bua mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame ɣesiaɣi o. Gake mí katã míelɔ̃a tamebubumɔnu eve siawo dometɔ ɖeka vie wu. Nya nyuiae nye be ne èle mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame ƒe akpa dzi vie hã la, mehiã be nànɔ nenema ɣesiaɣi o! Mí katã míate ŋu atrɔ ale si míebua nuwoe vie eye míava nɔ mɔ kpɔm na nu nyuiwo vie. Enye nusi míate ŋu asrɔ̃.

Nukatae nu nyuiwo ŋu bubu nyo na wò nenema gbegbe ɖo?

Numekulawo, si fia dzɔdzɔmeŋutinunyalawo, le nu srɔ̃m tso mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeamelawo ŋu ɣeyiɣi didi aɖee nye sia. Wogblɔna be nɔnɔme nyui ƒe amesinɔnɔ kpena ɖe mía ŋu míekpɔa dzidzɔ , míekpɔa dzidzedze le agbe me, eye míenɔa lãmesẽ me gɔ̃ hã.

Bu eŋu kpɔ ko, nu nyuiwo ŋu bubu naa viɖe siawo wò:

• Susu ƒe lãmesẽ : Mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame nye blanuiléle , si nye, ``( blanuiléleEle abe akpoxɔnu si ateŋu akpɔ tawò tso nɔnɔmewo abe ``(Depression)`` ene me. Ðewohĩ èle afɔku me be yeaxɔ ``(Depression)``, gake tamebubu nyuie ateŋu akpeɖe ŋuwò be nàxe mɔ ɖe enu.
• Nuteɖeamedzi Nuteɖeamedzi: Ne mɔkpɔkpɔ nyui le asiwò la, ŋusẽ geɖe sua asiwò be nànɔ te ɖe agbe ƒe nyaƒoɖeamenuwo nu, si nye ``Nuteɖeamedzi.`` Ne kuxi aɖe do mo ɖa la, mètsia dzodzodzoe o, ke boŋ èléa ŋku ɖe eŋu le mɔ bubu nu.
• Agbenɔƒe didi: Megawɔ nuku na wò o, wokpɔe be nu nyuiwo ŋu bubu ate ŋu akpe ɖe amewo ŋu woanɔ agbe didi eye wòakpe ɖe wo ŋu woanɔ agbe didi. Ema fia be enye nu vevitɔ si ana nànɔ agbe si me lãmesẽ le, si me dzidzɔ le.
• Nu nyui wɔwɔ sɔsrɔ̃: Esiawo katã ƒe akpa nyuitɔe nye be àte ŋu asrɔ̃ alesi nàbu tame nyuie, ne wò tamebubu dina be yeatrɔ ɖe nu gbegblẽwo ŋu gɔ̃ hã. Enye nusi woate ŋu ana hehee.

“Menye tamebubu ƒe mɔnu dzro aɖe koe mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame nye o, ke enye nu vevi aɖe si ana ame nanɔ lãmesẽ me.”

Aleke mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeamelawo kple mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeamelawo bua nudzɔdzɔwoe?

Menye nuwo ƒe akpa nyui kpɔkpɔ, alo mɔkpɔkpɔ na nu nyuiwo koe nye mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame o. Enye mɔnu si dzi woato abu tame, aɖe egɔme, nane si dzɔ xoxo.

Bu eŋu ale. Ne nu nyui aɖe dzɔ la , mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeamelawo bua nusi wowɔ be wòanyo alea ŋu. Wokpɔa woƒe ŋutetewo be wonye yewo ŋutɔ yewoƒe akpa siwo nɔa anyi ɖaa, siwo nɔa anyi ɖaa. Wobua alesi nu nyui siawo ʋua mɔ na nu nyui geɖe wu hã ŋu. Le kpɔɖeŋu me, ne woto dodokpɔ aɖe me nyuie la, mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame ate ŋu asusu be, “Medo le esi mesrɔ̃ nu vevie ta. Mate ŋu awɔ nusiawo. Esia akpe ɖe ŋunye makpɔ dɔ si nyo wu.”

Gake, ne nuwo meyi abe alesi woɖoe ene o , akpa bubu aɖe hã li. Mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeamelawo mebua fɔ wo ɖokui o. Wokpɔa kpododonuwo be wonye ɣeyiɣi kpui aɖe ƒe nu . Ne vodada aɖe dzɔ la, mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeamelawo gblɔna be nɔnɔme alo nudzɔdzɔ aɖe koŋ gbɔe wòtso, ke menye yewo ŋutɔ yewoƒe ŋutetewo gbɔe wòtso o. Esi womebua kpododonuwo be wonye ame ŋutɔ ƒe gbɔdzɔgbɔdzɔwo o ta la, mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeamelawo te ŋu trɔna tso dziɖeleameƒowo me nyuie wu mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeametɔwo.

Kpɔɖeŋu sue aɖee nye esi. Nimala kple Supunu siaa yia dodokpɔwo me be yewoawɔ sukua ƒe basketball ƒomea. Wo dometɔ aɖeke mate ŋu awɔ ƒuƒoƒoa o. Wo ame evea siaa wɔ nublanui, gake wowɔa nu ɖe ​​eŋu le mɔ bubu nu.

Nimal nye ame si si mɔkpɔkpɔ nyui le. Esusu be: "Fefewɔla bibi geɖe nɔ dodokpɔawo me, eye teƒe ʋɛ aɖewo koe nɔ ƒuƒoƒoa me. Eyata mesrɔ̃e sesĩe alesi mate ŋui, eye mese le ɖokuinye me be meƒoe nyuie! Hehenala la na nyaŋuɖoɖo nyuiwom. Mawɔ dɔ tso nya si wògblɔ ŋu eye makpɔ fefe ɖesiaɖe le ƒe sia me. Ekema mɔnukpɔkpɔ nyuitɔ asu asinye le ƒe si gbɔna me."

Kpɔ? Nimal ƒe susu nɔa nɔnɔmea koŋ ŋu, ke menye ame ŋutɔ ƒe gbɔdzɔgbɔdzɔwo ŋu o. Mekpɔa nɔnɔme sia be enye nusi anɔ anyi ɖaa o. Ekpɔ mɔ bliboe be yeate ŋu awɔ ƒuƒoƒoa le ƒe si gbɔna me, eye wòle nusi wòle be yeawɔ be yeaɖoe ŋu bum xoxo.

Supun le mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame ƒe akpa dzi vie. Esusu be: "Mewɔ nuku o be womese nye nyawo gɔme nyuie o – nyee nye ame si gbɔdzɔ wu le dodokpɔawo me, eye edze abe hehenala la melɔ̃am nenema gbegbe o ene. Naneke madze ŋunye gbeɖe o. Ele nam be malɔ̃ ɖe edzi be, nyemenye fefewɔla nyui nenema gbegbe o." To vovo na Nimal la, Supun bua kpododonu sia be enye ye ŋutɔ ye tɔ. Ebua fɔ eɖokui, eye wòsusuna be gotagomenuwo (hehenalawo, agbe) le dɔ wɔm ɖe ye ŋu. What’s worse, nudzɔdzɔ ɖeka sia na wòke ɖi le eya ŋutɔ ƒe kamedefefe ƒe ŋutetewo ŋu.

Azɔ wò ŋutɔ bu eŋu kpɔ be, ame eve siawo dometɔ kae ate ŋu atsi dzimaɖi ɣeyiɣi didi wu? Amekae ate ŋu asrɔ̃e geɖe wu eye wòagate kpɔ ake? Amekae ate ŋu ana ta wu? Ŋuɖoɖoa dze ƒã, alo?

Aleke tamebubu nyui tua wò tenɔnɔ ɖe nɔnɔme sesẽwo nu ɖoe ?

Nu nyuiwo ŋu bubu nana míekpɔa dziɖeleameƒonudzɔdzɔwo be wonye ɣeyiɣi kpui aɖe ƒe nudzɔdzɔwo , si fia be míate ŋu ahaya tso wo me. Edoa ŋusẽ mí be míagadze agbagba ake tsɔ wu be míana ta. Enaa míaƒe taɖodzinuwo kple drɔ̃ewo nɔa susu me na mí, eye míedzea agbagba vevie be míaɖo wo gbɔ. Esia wɔnɛ be mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeamelawo sena le wo ɖokui me be yewote ŋu ɖua yewoƒe nɔnɔmewo dzi wu , eye wobua wo ɖokui hã wu . Wosena le wo ɖokui me be asixɔxɔ le yewo ɖokui ŋu nyuie eye kakaɖedzi le wo si.

Le go bubu me la, mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame ƒe tamebubu nana míebua dziɖeleameƒo kple gbegbe be enye ame ŋutɔ tɔ. Ena wòdzena abe ɖe wonɔa anyi ɖaa wu alesi wole ŋutɔŋutɔ hã ene. Ne mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame ƒe nukpɔsusu le mía si la, míaƒe susu nɔa nɔnɔme aɖe ƒe akpa gbegblẽwo ŋu , eye nu nyui ɖesiaɖe doa vɔvɔli ɖe edzi. Ne nuwo meva yi abe alesi woɖoe ene o la, mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame ƒe tamebubu nana wòsesẽna be woanɔ te ɖe enu.

Ðe mɔkpɔkpɔ nyui sia nye nusianu kpɔkpɔ le gbeɖiɖi siwo le abe rose ene mea? (Mɔkpɔkpɔ Nyuitɔ) .

Ao, menye nenemae o. Mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame mefia be nusianu nye glitoto o, ke menye nusianu kpɔkpɔ le gbeɖiɖi siwo le abe rose ene me ŋue wòku ɖo o. Mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeamelawo meŋea aɖaba ƒua kuxiwo dzi alo wɔa abe ɖe nusianu si le agbe me de blibo ene o. Woƒe susu nɔa nusi nyo le nɔnɔme aɖe ŋu kple nusi woate ŋu awɔ be nuwo nanyo ɖe edzi ŋu.

Kakaɖedzi vavã le mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeamelawo si . Esia le alea elabena wodzra ɖo. Wonya be ele be yewoasrɔ̃ nu vevie hafi ado le dodokpɔ sesẽ aɖe me. Wonya be yewomate ŋu awɔ basketball-ha la ne yewomele kame dem o.

Kpuie ko la, mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame ku ɖe nuwɔna ŋu. Eku ɖe dadasɔ si le lãmesẽ me didi le tamebubu nyui kple nu ŋutɔŋutɔ dome ŋu.

Ðe nèdi be yeakpɔ mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame ƒe susu vi aɖea?

Mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame ƒe tamebubu ateŋu ahe mí ɖe anyi – eyata enyo be míanya be woateŋu atrɔ susu manyomanyo. Gake ema mefia be ele be nàtutu susu gbegblẽwo katã ɖa o.

Ɣeaɖewoɣi la, susu si nye “Nukae sɔ?” kpena ɖe mía ŋu míedea dzesi kuxi aɖe. Nu siwo ate ŋu agblẽ la ŋu bubu ate ŋu akpe ɖe mía ŋu míaƒo asa na afɔku siwo mehiã o.

Bu eŋu ale. Nɔviwòŋutsu le text message ɖom ɖe wò esime nèle ʋu kum. Wò susu manyomanyo xlɔ̃a nu wò be: “Hey, esia menyo o!” Eyata ègblɔ nɛ be wòadzudzɔ, ne mede ɖeke o la, le eƒe dedienɔnɔ ta, kple wò ŋutɔ wò dedienɔnɔ ta. Le nɔnɔme sia me la, ètsɔa susu manyomanyo aɖe (“Ne meɖoa nyatakakawo ɖe amewo to asitelefon dzi heku ʋu la, mate ŋu adze afɔku!”) kple nuwɔna nyui aɖe (“Menya be mate ŋu awɔ nane atsɔ atɔ te esia.”).

Mí katã míetoa ɣeyiɣi sesẽwo me ɣeaɖewoɣi. Ate ŋu ase le eɖokui me abe ɖe naneke mele edzi yim nyuie o ene. Ne dzi ɖe le mía ƒo la, anyo be míalɔ̃ ɖe míaƒe seselelãmewo dzi ahaƒo nu tso nu gbegblẽ ŋu. Nuƒoƒo tso nuwo ŋu kple amesi dzi nèka ɖo ate ŋu akpe ɖe ŋuwò nàse le ɖokuiwò me be yeƒe lãme sẽ eye wòaɖo ŋku ŋutete nyui siwo le asiwò dzi na wò. Nu vevitɔe nye be màgaku ɖe nusi mesɔ o ƒe ʋeʋe me o. Ne èwɔe nenema la, susu gbegblẽwo gɔ̃ hã ate ŋu akpe ɖe ŋuwò nàyi ŋgɔ.

Aleke míate ŋu akpɔ mɔ na nu nyuiwo vie wu?

Ne èlɔ̃a mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeametɔ ɣeyiɣi akpa gãtɔ la, àte ŋu abi ɖe nu nyuiwo kpɔkpɔ me. Nu siwo nàte ŋu ate kpɔ dometɔ aɖewoe nye esi:

• Ne nu nyuiwo dzɔ la, de dzesi wo eye nàkpɔ ŋudzedze ɖe wo ŋu. Le ŋkeke ɖesiaɖe ƒe nuwuwu la, tsɔ miniti 10 de ŋugble le ŋkekea ŋu eye nàdi nu ʋɛ aɖewo siwo ta nèda akpe ɖo. Ŋlɔ wo ɖe magazine alo dɔwɔnu si ʋãa ame me le wò fon alo tablɛt dzi. Mehiã be wòanye nu sue aɖe o, abe, "Ame aɖe ko alɔgbɔnu nam egbea."
• He wò susu be wòaxɔe ase be yeate ŋu ana nu nyuiwo nadzɔ le yeƒe agbe me. Te nu siwo koŋ nàte ŋu awɔ be nàkpɔ dzidzedze la gbɔgblɔ na ɖokuiwò. Le kpɔɖeŋu me: “Ne mesrɔ̃ nu la, mate ŋu axɔ dzesi nyuiwo.” “Ne mesrɔ̃e la, mawɔ dɔ nyuie le wɔna ma me.” “Ne meyi lɔlɔ̃nu faa dɔwɔɖoɖo ma la, madze xɔlɔ̃ yeyewo.”
• Mègabu fɔ ɖokuiwò ne nuwo meva yi nyuie o. Nukae gbe si le wò ta me gblɔna ne nuwo meva yi abe alesi nèkpɔ mɔe ene o? "Medo kpo akɔntabubu dodokpɔa elabena nyeme gblẽ le akɔntabubu me."Le esi teƒe be mabu eŋu be, “Medo kpo nu le dodokpɔ ma me elabena nyemesrɔ̃ nu sesĩe o. Nyemaɖe mɔ nenema nagadzɔ ake o!” Le esi nàbu eŋu be, “Anuradha gblẽm ɖi le esi viɖe aɖeke mele ŋunye o ta” teƒe la, bu eŋu kpɔ be, “Fifia mese nusitae kaklã nyea vevesese alea gbegbe gɔme, gake ɣeyiɣi zazã ɖe xɔ̃nyewo ŋu nana nye dzi dzea eme ake.”
• Ne nu nyui aɖe dzɔ la, tsɔ kafukafu na ɖokuiwò. Bu nusi nèwɔ be nu nyuia nado tso eme ŋu kpɔ. Ðe nèdzra ɖo nyuie ɖe dodokpɔa ŋua? Ðe nèsrɔ̃e veviedodotɔea? Bu ŋusẽ siwo nèzã kple alesi wokpe ɖe ŋuwò nèkpɔ dzidzedze ŋu kpɔ. Mègavɔ̃ be yeabui be, “Nyee wɔ esia!”
• Ðo ŋku edzi na ɖokuiwò be ɣeyiɣi kpui aɖe koe kpododonuwo nɔa anyi. Ne nane gblẽ ko la, ɖo ŋku edzi na ɖokuiwò be ava yi – eye nàwɔ ɖoɖo be wòava eme. Le kpɔɖeŋu me: “Nye A-level ƒe dodokpɔ me tsonu menyo abe alesi mekpɔ mɔe ene o, gake mate ŋu asrɔ̃ nu geɖe wu eye magawɔ dodokpɔa ake.”
• Kpɔ ale si ame bubuwo ƒoa nu tso wo ɖokui ŋui ɖa. Ðe xɔ̃wòwo kple ƒowòmetɔwo ƒe susu le nu nyuiwo ŋu loo alo ɖe nu gbegblẽwo le wo ŋua? Le kpɔɖeŋu me, ɖe fofowò gblɔna be, “Nyee ɖa hot dogs, I’m a terrible cook!” Alo ɖe wògblɔna be, “Meɖa avu dzodzoeawo le esi avu la kpɔkpɔ wònɔ ʋetsuvi yome tim la he nye susu ɖa!”

Dze agbagba nàtsɔ numame siawo ade wò agbe me vivivi. Ðewohĩ asesẽ le gɔmedzedzea me, gake le ɣeyiɣi aɖe megbe la, àde dzesi vovototo si le wo dome.

Eyata, gbedasi mamlɛtɔ si woatsɔ ayi aƒemee:

Fifia èse egɔme be mɔkpɔkpɔ nyui nye tamebubumɔnu si wosrɔ̃ . Ema fia be mɔkpɔkpɔbuɖeame nye nusi míate ŋu aɖe asi le hã !

Esia ate ŋu axɔ ɣeyiɣi aɖe, eyata dzi megaɖe le ƒowò o. Ne èva le ŋku lém ɖe nuŋububumɔnu eve siawo ŋu geɖe wu la, vivivi la, àkpɔ mɔ geɖe siwo dzi nàto anɔ mɔ kpɔm na nu nyuiwo. Yi edzi nànɔ gbɔgblɔm na ɖokuiwò be, "Mate ŋu anɔ mɔ kpɔm na nu geɖe wu, mayi edzi anɔ esia srɔ̃m!"

Ðo ŋku edzi be afɔɖeɖe sue ɖesiaɖe le vevie. Agbagba ɖesiaɖe si nàdze be yeatrɔ alesi nèbua tamee la nana nètena ɖe dzidzɔkpɔkpɔ, dzidzedzekpɔkpɔ, kple lãmesẽ ŋu vie . Eyata, mina míadze mɔzɔzɔ nyui sia gɔme egbea! Dzᴐgbe nyuie!