Huhū koke anei kāu keiki a uē? (Temper Tantrums) - E kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i kēia!

Ke huhū koke kāu keiki liʻiliʻi, uwē, a ʻōwili a puni ma ka papahele me ka uē ʻana, manaʻo paha ʻoe i ke kaumaha nui ma kou puʻuwai, ʻeā? I kekahi manawa, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i ka mea e hana ai. He ʻike maoli kēia e kū nei i nā mākua he nui. No laila, i kēia lā, e kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i kēia mau huhū huhū, a i ʻole ka mea a mākou e kapa nei he `( temper tantrums )` i nā keiki .

He aha maoli kēia huhū?

I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, he ala kēia no ke keiki e hoʻokuʻu koke i ko lākou mau manaʻo huhū, hoʻonāukiuki, a i ʻole ka hoʻonāukiuki ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke kāohi. ʻAʻole kēia he mea i hoʻolālā ʻia. I kekahi manawa e hoʻōho paha lākou me nā huaʻōlelo, a i ʻole e hoʻokuʻu paha lākou i kēia huhū ma ka hoʻoluliluli ʻana i ko lākou kino a i ʻole ka hoʻolele ʻana i ko lākou mau lālā. Hana kekahi mau keiki i nā mea ʻelua.

E ʻike paha ʻoe e hana paʻakikī ana kāu keiki, hoʻopilikia i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, a ma ke ʻano laulā e hana ʻoluʻolu ʻole ana. ʻO ka pinepine kēia no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike pehea e hōʻike pololei ai iā ʻoe i kā lākou makemake a i ʻole ko lākou manaʻo .

E noʻonoʻo, ke ʻōlelo aku nei ʻoe i kahi keiki liʻiliʻi e waiho i ka mea pāʻani, a i ʻole ke hele ʻoe i ka hale kūʻai a ʻōlelo aku, "E hāʻawi mai iaʻu i kēlā kokoleka, " ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻōlelo. ʻOiai kekahi mea liʻiliʻi e like me kēia hiki ke hoʻoulu iā lākou e ʻōwili a puni ma ka papahele, e ʻuwā, a e kīkēkē i ko lākou mau lima, e hoʻoulu ai i kahi haunaele nui. ʻO ia hoʻi, ʻoi aku ka nui o kā lākou pane ma mua o ka hanana ponoʻī .

Pono anei kākou e makaʻu i kēia mau huhū o nā kamaliʻi?

ʻOiaʻiʻo, he ʻāpana maʻamau kēia mau "Temper Tantrums" o ka ulu ʻana o ke keiki . Hana ʻia lākou i ko lākou hoʻāʻo ʻana e lilo i kūʻokoʻa. ʻOi aku ka maʻamau o kēia kūlana ma waena o nā makahiki 1 a me 4. Hiki i kekahi mau keiki ke loaʻa i kēia i hoʻokahi manawa wale nō i ka lā.

Akā i ko lākou hoʻomaka ʻana e hele i ke kula a hiki ke haʻi waha i kā lākou mau pono, e emi mālie ana kēia kūlana. ʻO ka maʻamau, ʻo kēia mau huhū e mau ana mai ʻelua a 15 mau minuke .

Eia nō naʻe, inā ʻoi aku ka lōʻihi o ka huhū o kāu keiki ma mua o 15 mau minuke a ke hana nei ke keiki me ka huhū loa, he mea hopohopo paha ia. Inā pēlā, ʻoiaʻiʻo nō ʻO ka mea maikaʻi loa e hana ai, ʻo ia ke kamaʻilio me ke kauka .

No ke aha i huhū ai nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi? He aha nā kumu?

Aia kekahi mau kumu e huhū ai nā keiki. Eia kekahi o nā kumu nui:

• Hoʻonāukiuki: ʻO ka hoʻonāukiuki e hiki mai ana ke hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke hoʻokō i kāu mea i hoʻolālā ai e hana, ke hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke hana maikaʻi i kahi mea.
• Pono ka nānā ʻana :Ke pono au i kou nānā.
• Makemake i kahi mea (he mea pāʻani, he meaʻai): Ke loaʻa ʻole iā ʻoe.
• Ke hoʻāʻo nei e hana ʻole i kekahi mea: Eia kekahi laʻana, ke noi ʻia e waiho i nā mea pāʻani, a i ʻole ke noi ʻia e hoʻi i ka home i ka wā e pāʻani ana.
• Pololi : Lilo nā kamaliʻi i mea hoʻomaha ʻole ke pōloli lākou.
• Luhi: ʻO ka luhi nui a i ʻole ka lawa ʻole o ka hiamoe hiki ke hoʻonāukiuki iā ʻoe.

Eia kekahi, aia kahi hakakā nui i loko o ka manaʻo o nā keiki ʻōpio. ʻO ia hoʻi, he makemake nui ko lākou e hana i nā mea ma o lākou iho a kūʻokoʻa , ʻoiai lākou e makemake nui ana i ka nānā a me ke aloha o ko lākou mau mākua. Aia lākou ma lalo o ka nui o ke kaomi ma waena o kēia mau mea ʻelua. Eia kekahi, ʻaʻole like me nā pākeke, ʻaʻole lākou i hoʻomohala i nā mākau hoʻoponopono e kāohi i ko lākou mau manaʻo a hoʻoponopono i nā hoʻonāukiuki. ʻOiai ʻaʻohe o lākou mākau waha e hōʻike i ko lākou mau manaʻo ma nā huaʻōlelo, hōʻike lākou i kēlā mau manaʻo ma ke ala maʻalahi loa a lākou i ʻike ai, ʻo ia hoʻi ma ka uē ʻana, ka uē ʻana, a me ka hakakā ʻana. Ua like ia me ka uē ʻana, "Makemake au i kēia!"

Ke manaʻo nei anei ia he makua maikaʻi ʻole wau ke huhū kaʻu keiki?

ʻAʻole loa! ʻAʻole ka huhū o kāu keiki e hoʻolilo iā ʻoe i makua maikaʻi ʻole. He mea nui kēia e hoʻomaopopo. Hoʻopili ʻia ka huhū o ke keiki e ko lākou ʻano, ko lākou wahi i ka manawa, a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he ʻāpana maoli ia o ko lākou ulu ʻana . He ʻāpana maʻamau kēia o ka ulu ʻana . No laila, mai hoʻāhewa nui iā ʻoe iho.

He aha nā hōʻailona o ka huhū? Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai?

Ke huhū ke keiki, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kēia mau hōʻailona:

• E uwē mau ana, e ʻuwē ana, a e hoʻōho ana.
• Ke kīkē nei, ke kuʻi ʻana, a malia paha ke nahu ʻana.
• Ke peahi nei lākou i ko lākou mau lima a me nā wāwae, e hakakā ana.
• Ke paʻa nei i kuʻu hanu.
• I kekahi manawa, ʻeha ke kino, a palupalu paha .

He aha kā kākou e hana ai ke huhū ke keiki?

ʻAe, i kēia manawa e nānā kākou pehea e hana ai i ka wā e huhū ai kā kākou keiki.

• Hoʻohuli: Inā ʻike ʻoe e huhū ana kāu keiki, akā ʻaʻole naʻe lākou i manaʻo ʻole ʻia, e hoʻāʻo koke e hoʻohuli i ko lākou manaʻo. E hōʻike iā lākou i kahi mea a lākou e makemake ai, e hoʻokomo iā lākou i kahi pāʻani a hana paha ʻē aʻe.
• E noho mālie: ʻO kēia ka mea nui loa. Ke huhū kāu keiki, mai hoʻōho, hoʻoweliweli, haʻiʻōlelo, a hoʻopaʻapaʻa paha. ʻO ka hana ʻana pēlā e hoʻonui wale aku i ka huhū. Ma hope, ke mālie kāu keiki a noho mālie, e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāna ʻano.
• Mai hoʻowahāwahā i ka huhū:Ke aʻo aku nei kēia i ke keiki ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke hana ma kēia ʻano a noi aku i kā lākou makemake, a he hana ia i ʻae ʻole ʻia.
• E mālama i kāu keiki i ka ʻike: Inā ʻoe ma kahi hale kūʻai a i ʻole kahi wahi lehulehu ʻē aʻe, e mālama mau i kāu keiki i ka ʻike a me kāu keiki i kou ʻike. Inā hopohopo ʻoe e hōʻeha paha kāu keiki iā ia iho a i ʻole kekahi poʻe ʻē aʻe, e hoʻoneʻe iā lākou mai ke kaiapuni.
• E hōʻoia i ka palekana: E wehe i nā mea weliweli (nā mea ʻoi, nā mea hiki ke haki) mai ke kaiapuni o ke keiki. Inā hoʻāʻo kāu keiki e hōʻeha iā ia iho i kekahi manawa, e paʻa pono iā ia. Inā hana hewa kāu keiki, e lawe iā ia i kahi palekana a waiho iā ia a hiki i kona mālie ʻana. Inā pono, hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi iā ia i kahi "Manawa hoʻomaha". ʻO ia hoʻi, e hoʻāʻo e hoʻouna iā ia i kahi lumi me ka ʻole o ke TV a i ʻole nā ​​​​mea pāʻani ʻē aʻe, kahi e hiki ai iā ia ke noho hoʻokahi no kekahi manawa.

Mai hoʻopaʻa inoa i kēia mau mea:

• Ke hāʻawi ʻana i nā koi a kāu keiki, e hoʻololi ana i kou manaʻo: E kōkua kēia i kāu keiki e aʻo i ka wā e huhū ai ʻo ia, hiki iā ia ke loaʻa kāna mea e makemake ai ma ka uē ʻana a me ka hakakā ʻana. Inā ʻoe ma ka home a ua maopopo iā ʻoe ua palekana kāu keiki, hiki iā ʻoe ke waiho iā ia i loko o kahi lumi ʻē aʻe.
• Mai kuʻi, nahu, a kīkē paha: Manaʻo paha ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo kāu keiki i ka hana ʻana pēlā he ʻeha kēia mau mea. Akā, ʻo ka mea ʻē aʻe ka mea e hana ʻia. E manaʻo ke keiki he mea maikaʻi ke hana i kēia no ka mea ʻo mama/papa ka mea nāna ia. Akā, e haʻi maopopo iā ia he mea ʻeha kāna hana a ʻaʻole pono ia.

He aha kāu e hana ai ma hope o kou lanakila ʻana ma luna o kou huhū?

Ke pau ka huhū a ua mālie kāu keiki, hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio me lākou e pili ana i ka mea i hana ʻia. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana e pale aku ai i nā ʻano huhū like ʻole mai ka hana hou ʻana. E hoʻāʻo i kēia:

• E hoʻomaikaʻi i kāu keiki no kona mālie: E hoʻomaikaʻi i kāu keiki no kona ʻano maikaʻi a me nā hoʻoholo maikaʻi. Makemake nā kamaliʻi e ʻike ʻia no kā lākou hana maikaʻi. E ʻōlelo pololei e like me ka hiki. Ma kahi o ka ʻōlelo wale ʻana, "Ke hana maikaʻi nei ʻoe," e ʻōlelo i kekahi mea e like me, "ʻAʻole ʻoe i hoʻōho i ka hale kūʻai, ua ʻōlelo mālie ʻoe, e ke keiki." Kōkua kēia i kāu keiki e aʻo i ka mea e manaʻo ʻia a me ke ʻano i ʻae ʻia.
• E hoʻomaopopo i nā manaʻo o kāu keiki: E hōʻike i kāu keiki ua maopopo iā ʻoe ko lākou huhū. E haʻi iā lākou makemake ʻoe e kōkua. ʻImi pinepine nā keiki i ka nānā ʻana. No laila, ʻo ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana iā lākou a me ke kamaʻilio ʻana me lākou e hiki ke kōkua i ka hōʻoluʻolu ʻana i ko lākou mau manaʻo.
• E aʻo iā lākou e kapa i ko lākou mau manaʻo: ʻAʻohe huaʻōlelo a nā keiki liʻiliʻi e wehewehe ai i ko lākou mau manaʻo. ʻAʻole lākou ʻike pehea e hōʻike ai i ko lākou huhū, lili, huhū, a i ʻole ka hoka. ʻO "Temper Tantrums" kahi ala no lākou e hōʻike ai i kēlā mau manaʻo. E hāʻawi iā lākou i nā huaʻōlelo no kēlā mau manaʻo. Eia kekahi laʻana, "Ke ʻike nei au ua huhū ʻoe i kēia manawa. Ke uē nei ʻoe, a ua ʻulaʻula kou helehelena."
• E aʻo pehea e hana ai me nā manaʻo paʻakikī:E kōkua iā lākou e aʻo pehea e hoʻoponopono ai i kahi pilikia me ka ʻole o ka hopohopo. A laila e aʻo lākou e hiki iā lākou ke hoʻoponopono i kekahi o ko lākou mau pilikia iā lākou iho. A laila e lilo lākou i kūʻokoʻa a emi iki ka huhū.
• E hoʻonoho i kahi kumu hoʻohālike maikaʻi: Ke nānā mau nei nā keiki i ko lākou mau mākua. Hoʻohālike lākou i ke ʻano o kāu hana. Ke huhū a hoʻonāukiuki paha ʻoe, e hōʻike i kāu keiki i ke ʻano olakino āu e hana ai me kēlā mau manaʻo. A laila e hoʻomaka kāu keiki e hana ma ke ʻano like.

Aia kekahi mau ala e pale aku ai i kēia mau ʻōhumu?

ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kahi ʻano me ka ʻole o ka huhū. ʻO kēia no ka mea ke kamaʻilio nei nā keiki i ko lākou mau pono a me nā manaʻo. He ʻāpana maʻamau ia o ka ulu ʻana. Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi mau mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana e hōʻemi i ka pinepine a me ke koʻikoʻi o kēia mau huhū:

• Hāʻawi i nā koho: Hāʻawi iā lākou i nā koho i loko o nā palena kūpono. Eia kekahi laʻana, ke koho ʻana ma waena o nā lole ʻelua, a i ʻole ke koho ʻana ma waena o nā meaʻai ʻelua. Ke hiki iā lākou ke koho, manaʻo nā keiki ua kāohi lākou. Akā e hōʻoia i kou ʻoluʻolu me ke koho ʻana ma waena o nā mea ʻelua. Mai hāʻawi iā lākou i ka manaʻolana wahaheʻe.
• E hoʻomākaukau no nā loli: Hiki i nā hoʻololi e like me ka haʻalele ʻana i ka hale a i ʻole ka hoʻi ʻana mai ka pāʻani ke paʻakikī no nā keiki. No laila, e hoʻomākaukau iā lākou no kēia mau loli ma mua o ko lākou hiki ʻana mai. No nā loli nui aʻe (kahi pēpē hou e hui pū ana me ka ʻohana, ka neʻe ʻana i ka hale), ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻomākaukau ʻana i kāu keiki.
• E nānā i kāu meaʻai a me ka hiamoe: I kekahi manawa, hiki i ka huhū ke alakaʻi i nā huhū. Hiki ke hana ʻia kēia ʻano e ka meaʻai maikaʻi ʻole a me ka nele o ka hiamoe . No laila, e hōʻoia i kāu keiki e ʻai ana i ka meaʻai kaulike a loaʻa iā ia ka hiamoe lawa.

Āhea wau e kamaʻilio ai me ke kauka e pili ana i ka huhū o kaʻu keiki liʻiliʻi?

He manaʻo maikaʻi e kamaʻilio me ke kauka o kāu keiki i kēia mau kūlana:

• Inā hoʻomau kēia mau huhū ma hope o ka piha ʻana o ke keiki i 4 mau makahiki , a inā paha e lilo lākou i mea pinepine.
• Inā hōʻeha ke keiki iā ia iho, hōʻeha i kekahi poʻe, a luku paha i nā mea o ka hale ke huhū lākou.
• Inā paʻa ke keiki i kona hanu i ka wā e huhū ai (ʻoi aku hoʻi inā nalowale kona ʻike i kēlā manawa).
• Inā loaʻa pinepine i ke keiki ka ʻeha poʻo, nā ʻeha ʻōpū, a me ka "Hopohopo" (makaʻu/hopohopo pono ʻole) .
• He mea paʻakikī paha iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i kēia mau huhū, a ʻaʻole paha ʻoe i ʻike pehea e hana palekana ai me lākou.

Ke ʻike ʻoe i ke kauka, e nīnau ʻo ia iā ʻoe e pili ana i kēia mau ʻōhumu. E kōkua kēia mau nīnau iā ia e hoʻomaopopo inā he mea maʻamau kēia a i ʻole he mea e hopohopo ai:

• Āhea e hana ʻia ai kēia mau ʻōhumu?
• He aha ka mea e hana mau ʻia ma mua o kou huhū ʻana?
• He aha kāu e hana ai ke huhū kāu keiki?
• ʻEhia ka lōʻihi o kou huhū ʻana?
• Pehea ʻoe e pane ai i kēlā?
• Pehea ke ʻano o ke keiki ke huhū ʻole ʻo ia?
• Ua nui anei ka loli ma ke kaiapuni home a i ʻole ke kaiapuni kula?
• Ua neʻe hale ʻoe i hala koke aku nei?
• Ua loaʻa anei kahi loli nui i loko o ka ʻohana (hemo male, hānau ʻana o kahi pēpē hou)?
• Ua hōʻeha a hoʻopilikia paha kekahi mea i ke keiki a i ʻole kekahi mea ʻē aʻe o ka ʻohana?
• He mau pilikia ʻē aʻe ko ke keiki, e laʻa me nā pilikia hiamoe a i ʻole nā ​​pilikia pili i ke ʻano?

E hoʻomanaʻo kākou (Leka Lawe-Home)

ʻO nā huhū huhū, ʻoiai he mea hoʻonāukiuki iki, he ʻāpana maʻamau ia o ka ulu ʻana o ke keiki. ʻO nā keiki ʻōpio, ʻoiai ka poʻe ma waena o 1 a me 4 mau makahiki, loaʻa pinepine lākou i nā huhū huhū, ʻoiai inā hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha mau huhū i ka lā. ʻO kēia pinepine ma muli o ka hakakā ma waena o ko lākou pono no ke kūʻokoʻa a me ko lākou pono no ka nānā ʻana o nā mākua. Eia kekahi, ʻaʻole hiki i nā keiki ʻōpio ke hōʻike waha i ko lākou mau manaʻo.

Ke huhū kāu keiki, e noho mālie e like me ka hiki. E ho'āʻo e hoʻomaopopo i nā manaʻo o kāu keiki. Ke mālie kāu keiki, e hāʻawi iā lākou i nā inoa no ko lākou mau manaʻo a aʻo iā lākou pehea e hoʻoponopono maikaʻi ai i ko lākou mau hoʻonāukiuki.

Eia nō naʻe, inā ʻoi aku ka lōʻihi o ka huhū o kāu keiki ma mua o 15 mau minuke, a he ʻino loa, a hoʻomau paha ma hope o ka piha ʻana o 4 makahiki, pono ʻoe e ʻimi i ke kōkua lapaʻau. Eia kekahi, inā paʻakikī iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i ke kūlana, mai kānalua e noi i ke kōkua.

Huhū o nā keiki, huhū kamaliʻi, huhū huhū, ʻano o nā keiki, ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo makua, kaohi keiki, noʻonoʻo keiki