Ua haʻi aku ke kauka iā ʻoe he maʻi hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ka nānā ʻana o kāu keiki (ADHD) a pono e lawe i ka lāʻau lapaʻau no ia mea i kēlā me kēia lā? ʻO kēia paha ka lāʻau lapaʻau mua a kāu keiki e lawe ai. I kēia manawa ke noʻonoʻo nei paha ʻoe, "Auē kuʻu Akua, pehea lā wau e kamaʻilio ai me kaʻu keiki e pili ana i kēia lāʻau lapaʻau?" Mai hopohopo. ʻAʻole ia he paʻakikī e like me kou manaʻo. E kamaʻilio pono kākou me kāu keiki e pili ana i ia mea.
E kōkua kākou i kāu keiki e hoʻomaopopo i ke ʻano o ka ADHD a me ke kumu e pono ai lākou i ka lāʻau lapaʻau.
I ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu keiki e pili ana i kēia, pono ʻoe e ʻōlelo ma ke ʻano kūpono i ko lākou mau makahiki a me ka pae o ka ʻike.
No ke keiki ʻōpiopio, e hoʻohana i nā huaʻōlelo maʻalahi loa. E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i nā huaʻōlelo a kāu keiki e hoʻohana nei e wehewehe i kā lākou mau hōʻailona. Hiki iā lākou ke ʻōlelo i nā mea e like me, "ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke noho mālie" a i ʻole "ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻolohe i ke kumu." Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i kēlā mau huaʻōlelo like a ʻōlelo, "ʻO kēia lāʻau lapaʻau ke kōkua i kāu keiki e noho mālie a hoʻolohe i kā lākou mau haʻawina. A laila e maʻalahi iā ʻoe ke kāohi i kēlā mau mea."
Inā ua ʻoi iki aʻe kāu keiki a makemake i ka ʻepekema, hiki iā ʻoe ke wehewehe iki e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka hana ʻana o ka lolo, nā mea e hana ʻia ana i ka ADHD, a pehea e hiki ai i ka lāʻau lapaʻau ke kōkua. Malia paha e hōʻike iā lākou i kahi kiʻi ma kahi puke, a i ʻole e wehewehe lākou i kēia iā ʻoe i ka manawa aʻe e ʻike ai lākou i ke kauka.
E ʻōlelo pololei me kāu keiki, e haʻi aku i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
Hiki i kekahi mau mākua, ʻoiai no nā kamaliʻi ʻōpio, ke kapa aku i kēia lāʻau lapaʻau he "huaora" a i ʻole, ʻoi aku ka ʻino, he "toffee." Hiki i kekahi ke hoʻohui malū iā ia i loko o ka meaʻai a mea inu paha me ka ʻole o ka haʻi ʻana i kekahi e pili ana i ke kūlana ADHD a i ʻole he lāʻau lapaʻau ia.
He mea hewa loa kēia. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kamaʻilio pololei me kāu keiki e pili ana i kona kūlana a me ka lāʻau lapaʻau. No ka mea, i kekahi lā, e ʻike ke keiki i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. A laila, ʻaʻole paha lākou e hilinaʻi iā ʻoe.
Eia kekahi, inā ʻike ke keiki i kona kūlana, hiki iā ia ke ʻike i kāna mau hōʻailona , e hoʻāʻo e kāohi iā lākou, a komo ikaika i ka mālama ʻana. He kōkua nui kēlā iā ia.
E wehewehe pono pehea e lawe ai i ka lāʻau.
Ma mua o ka hāʻawi ʻana i kāu keiki i ka lāʻau lapaʻau, e wehewehe pono pehea, i ka manawa hea, a me kahi e lawe ai. Ma kēlā ʻano, ʻaʻole e huhū ke keiki.
Loaʻa nā lāʻau lapaʻau ADHD i nā ʻano he nui. Loaʻa kekahi i loko o nā pila, kekahi i loko o nā wai, a hele mai kekahi i ke ʻano o nā ʻāpana āu e kau ai i kou kino. ʻOi aku ka lōʻihi o ka hana ʻana o kekahi mau lāʻau lapaʻau i loko o ke kino.
Pono paha kāu keiki e lawe i ka lāʻau lapaʻau i ke kakahiaka a me ke ahiahi. ʻO ia hoʻi, pono lākou e lawe i ka lāʻau lapaʻau ma ke kula pū kekahi. I kēlā hihia, hiki i ke kahu maʻi kula ke hāʻawi iā ia i ke keiki. Eia nō naʻe, inā ua kuhikuhi ke kauka i kahi lāʻau lapaʻau lōʻihi e hana ana i ka lā a pau, ʻaʻole e kū mai kēlā pilikia.
Inā he keiki makua, e ao ikaika aku iā lākou ʻaʻole loa e hāʻawi i kēia lāʻau lapaʻau i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole hoʻi i kahi hoaaloha .
E kamaʻilio pū kākou e pili ana i nā hopena ʻaoʻao o nā lāʻau lapaʻau.
E haʻi aku i kāu keiki e manaʻo paha lākou he mea ʻē a maʻa ʻole ke hoʻomaka lākou e lawe i kēia lāʻau lapaʻau. Akā e mālama i kēia ʻike i pōkole . Mai hoʻoweliweli i kāu keiki me kahi papa inoa lōʻihi o nā hopena ʻaoʻao.
Akā, e haʻi aku i kāu keiki, "Inā manaʻo ʻoe i kekahi mea ʻē a ʻokoʻa paha ma hope o ka lawe ʻana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau, e hōʻoia e haʻi mai iaʻu/kou makuakāne."
Inā ʻōlelo ʻo ia i kekahi mau loli, e hōʻoia iā ia e maikaʻi ana i loko o kekahi mau lā a i ʻole mau pule. Inā ʻaʻole, e haʻi iā ia hiki iā mākou ke kamaʻilio me ke kauka a hoʻololi i ka lāʻau lapaʻau a i ʻole ka nui o ka lāʻau .
E hoʻopau kākou i ka makaʻu i loko o ka noʻonoʻo o ke keiki.
Aia kekahi mau makaʻu maʻamau a ke keiki e pili ana i ka ADHD. E pane kākou iā lākou a hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou.
| ʻO ka makaʻu i loko o ka manaʻo o ke keiki | He aha kā mākou e ʻōlelo ai i kēlā |
|---|---|
| "Ua maʻi anei au? He pilikia anei koʻu?" Manaʻo nā keiki pēlā ke ʻōlelo ʻia lākou e lawe i ka lāʻau lapaʻau. No ka mea, lawe wale lākou i ka lāʻau lapaʻau ke maʻi lākou. | E hoʻohālikelike i kēia me kekahi maʻi ʻē aʻe hiki ke mālama ʻia. ʻO kahi laʻana maikaʻi ka ʻike maka maikaʻi ʻole. E ʻōlelo wale, "E like me ke kau ʻana o Pāpā i nā aniani e kōkua i kona mau maka e nānā pono, kōkua kēia lāʻau lapaʻau i kou lolo e nānā pono." |
| "He ʻokoʻa anei au mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe?" ʻAʻole makemake nā keiki, ʻoiai i ko lākou wā ʻōpiopio, e ʻokoʻa mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. | E ʻōlelo, "ʻAʻole ʻoe wale nō, e ke keiki kāne/kaikamahine, he nui nā keiki ma ke kula i loaʻa i kēia maʻi ADHD. ʻO ka hapa nui o lākou e lawe pū ana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau. Inā ʻoe e lawe i ka lāʻau lapaʻau ma ke kula a i ʻole ke hele ʻoe i ka hale o kahi hoaaloha, ʻaʻole ʻoe wale nō ka mea e hana pēlā." |
| ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke holomua ma ke kula a i ʻole ma ke ola. Hiki paha i ke keiki ke hoʻohana i nā huaʻōlelo e like me "He pupule wau." | E hoʻokuʻu koke i ka moʻolelo. E ʻōlelo, "ʻAʻole ia he ʻoiaʻiʻo." E hāʻawi iā lākou i nā hiʻohiʻona o ka poʻe holomua me ADHD a lākou i ʻike ai (e.g., gymnast Simone Biles, mea mele ʻo Justin Bieber). |
| "E hōʻino anei kēia lāʻau lapaʻau i koʻu lolo? E kāohi anei ia iaʻu?" | "Eia mākou ma ʻaneʻi e pale aku iā ʻoe. ʻAʻole loa mākou e hana i kekahi mea e hōʻeha ai iā ʻoe. Pēlā nō ke kauka. He mea kēia e kōkua iā ʻoe," wahi āna iā ia me ka hōʻoluʻolu. |
E hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole kēia lāʻau lapaʻau he "kilokilo".
I ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau ADHD, mai hoʻokuʻu i kāu keiki e manaʻo he 'pōkā kilokilo' ia e hoʻopau koke i ko lākou mau pilikia ke lawe lākou.
E hana i nā manaʻolana kūpono. He mea hana wale nō kēia lāʻau lapaʻau e hiki ke kōkua i ka hōʻemi ʻana i nā hōʻailona. Eia nō naʻe, e wehewehe e pono nō hoʻi ke keiki e aʻo i nā ala ʻē aʻe e hoʻokele ai i kā lākou ʻano .
E hoʻomau i ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu keiki.
ʻAʻole hiki ke hana ʻia kēia kamaʻilio ʻana i hoʻokahi manawa wale nō. He mea ia e pono ai ke hoʻomau ʻia.
E nīnau i kāu keiki ma ka liʻiliʻi hoʻokahi manawa i ka pule, "Pehea ka hana a ka lāʻau lapaʻau? Ke loaʻa nei iā ʻoe kekahi mau pilikia? Aia kekahi mau hopena ʻaoʻao?"
Ma muli o ka makahiki o kāu keiki, e kōkua iā lākou e nānā inā he lā maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha ko lākou. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kaha kiʻi iā lākou i kahi mea e like me ka helehelena ʻakaʻaka a i ʻole ka helehelena kaumaha (emojis) ma kahi kalena a i ʻole ma kahi puke. E lilo kēia ʻike i mea pono loa ke kamaʻilio ʻoe me kāu keiki a me ke kauka.
He aha kāu e hana ai inā ʻōlelo kāu keiki ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke lawe i ka lāʻau lapaʻau?
ʻAʻole makemake paha kekahi mau keiki e lawe i kā lākou lāʻau lapaʻau. Hiki i nā keiki o kēlā me kēia makahiki ke paʻakikī, ʻoiai i ka wā ʻōpiopio. Hiki i kekahi mau keiki ke hūnā i ka lāʻau lapaʻau ma ke kihi o ko lākou waha, hoʻohālike e lawe ana, a laila luaʻi i luna.
Inā hoʻomaka kāu keiki e hōʻole e lawe i kā lākou lāʻau lapaʻau, e hoʻāʻo e ʻike i ke kumu. Malia paha he hopena ʻaoʻao hou a weliweli. A i ʻole he mea hoʻohenehene paha kekahi.
Inā ʻōlelo kāu keiki, "ʻAʻole pono iaʻu ka lāʻau lapaʻau i kēia manawa," e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kā lākou mau hōʻailona o kēia manawa. "Ke pilikia nei ʻoe i ka hana ʻana i nā hana kula, ʻeā? Hiki paha iā ADHD, a ʻo ia ke kumu e pono ai ʻoe i ka lāʻau lapaʻau," a kuhikuhi i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo.
Inā he keiki ʻōpiopio, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i kahi ʻōnaehana uku liʻiliʻi e paipai iā lākou. ʻO kahi mea e like me ka hāʻawi ʻana iā lākou i kahi sticker, a i ʻole ka hāʻawi ʻana iā lākou i kahi manawa hou aʻe e pāʻani ai ma ka papapihi a nānā paha i ke TV.
Inā ua ʻoi iki aʻe kāu keiki a manaʻo nō ʻaʻole pono lākou e lawe i ka lāʻau lapaʻau, hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio me kāu kauka a hiki i kahi kuʻikahi. ʻO ia hoʻi, "ʻAe, e hoʻōki kāua i ka lāʻau lapaʻau no kekahi manawa. Akā inā hoʻi mai nā pilikia, pono mākou e hoʻomaka hou i ka lāʻau lapaʻau." (E hōʻoia e nīnau i kāu kauka ma mua o ka hana ʻana i kēia.)
Ma ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i kēia me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ke ʻano mau me kāu keiki, hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua nui iā lākou e holomua i kā lākou kaʻina hana lapaʻau a loaʻa ka mea nui loa mai ia mea.
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- E kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka ADHD a me ka lāʻau lapaʻau ma ke ʻano maʻalahi a kūpono i ka makahiki. Mai wahaheʻe.
- E hoʻomaopopo i nā makaʻu o ke keiki ("Ua maʻi anei au?", "Ua ʻokoʻa anei au?") A hoʻopau iā lākou me nā laʻana maʻalahi e like me nā aniani.
- E hoʻomaopopo iā lākou ʻaʻole kēia lāʻau lapaʻau he "kilokilo", akā he "mea hana" wale nō e kōkua ai i ka kaohi ʻana i nā hōʻailona.
- Ma hope o ka hoʻomaka ʻana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau, e hoʻomau i ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu keiki. E makaʻala i kona manaʻo.
- E aʻo ikaika i kāu keiki ʻaʻole loa e kaʻana like i ka lāʻau lapaʻau me kekahi.
- Inā loaʻa kekahi pilikia a kānalua paha, e kamaʻilio mau me kāu kauka ma mua o ka hoʻoholo ʻana i kāu iho.
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