He pilikia anei ka mehameha nou? (Mehameha) E ʻike pono kākou e pili ana i kēia

I kekahi manawa, ʻoiai ke hoʻopuni ʻia mākou e nā poʻe he nui a noho pū me kahi ʻohana nui, ke manaʻo nei mākou he mehameha loa, ʻeā? A i ʻole ke neʻe mākou i kahi kūlanakauhale hou no kahi hana, a i ʻole ke nalowale mākou i kahi mea aloha, ka mehameha a me ka mehameha a mākou e manaʻo nei... ʻAʻole kēia he manaʻo kaumaha wale nō. ʻOi aku ka hohonu o kēia mehameha ma mua o ko mākou manaʻo, a hoʻopilikia pū ia i ko mākou olakino kino. No laila e kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i kēia i kēia lā.

He aha maoli kēia mehameha?

ʻO ka mea mua, pono kākou e hoʻomaopopo i kēia. ʻO ka noho mehameha a me ka manaʻo mehameha he ʻelua mau mea like ʻole. Makemake paha ʻoe e noho mehameha e heluhelu i kahi puke a nānā paha i kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni ma kāu iho. ʻAʻohe hewa o ia mea. Akā, he mea ʻokoʻa ka mehameha.

I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, ʻo ka mehameha ka manaʻo o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻia ʻana mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. E noʻonoʻo ʻoe aia ʻoe ma kahi pāʻina keʻena, hoʻopuni ʻia e nā kānaka, e ʻakaʻaka ana nā mea a pau a e kamaʻilio ana, akā ua manaʻo ʻoe ua mehameha ʻoe. Manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻohe mea e kaʻana like i kou mau manaʻo, ʻaʻohe mea e hoʻomaopopo maoli iā ʻoe. ʻO ia ke ʻano o ka mehameha.

ʻO ia hoʻi, he manaʻo pilikino loa kēia. He mea maʻamau ke manaʻo i kēia ke kaʻawale ʻoe me kahi mea āu i noho pū ai no nā makahiki, a i ʻole ke neʻe ʻoe i kahi kūlanakauhale hou. Akā hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo i kēia mehameha me ka ʻole o nā loli nui.

Pehea ka hopena o ka mehameha i ko mākou kino?

ʻO kēia ka mea nui loa. ʻAʻole wale ka mehameha he mea ʻeha no ka ʻuhane, akā pili pololei hoʻi ia i ko kākou olakino kino. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka mehameha kahi mea pilikia no kekahi mau maʻi.

Ua ʻike ʻia e ka noiʻi ʻana ua hōʻemi ka mehameha i ka hiki o ko mākou kino ke hoʻomanawanui i ke kaumaha o kēlā me kēia lā. Hoʻemi pū ia i ka hiki o ke kino ke kāohi i ka mumū . Hiki i kēia ke alakaʻi i nā pilikia olakino like ʻole i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa.

ʻOiai ʻike ʻia ka nui o kēia mau maʻi i ka wā waena, hoʻomaka mua ka pōʻino a lākou e hana ai i ke kino. ʻO ka mea e hana ʻia ana, me ke kaumaha i hoʻokumu ʻia e ka mehameha, hoʻomaka mālie kekahi mau kemika i hoʻokuʻu ʻia e ko mākou kino (nā kemika stress) e hōʻino i ko mākou mau kīʻaha koko.

Akā makemake nō hoʻi au e ʻōlelo i kēia. He mea maʻamau ka manaʻo mehameha i kekahi manawa o ke ola. ʻAʻohe pono e makaʻu i ia mea. Me he mea lā e makewai ana kākou no ka wai. Ke haʻi mai nei ka makewai no ka wai iā kākou e pono ana ko kākou kino i ka wai. Pēlā nō, hele mai ka manaʻo o ka mehameha e hoʻomanaʻo mai iā kākou e pono ana kākou i nā pilina pilikanaka, ka hui pū ʻana me nā kānaka.

ʻAe, pehea ʻoe e puka ai i waho o kēia mehameha?

ʻOiai ʻaʻohe lāʻau lapaʻau no ka mehameha, aia kekahi mau mea hiki iā kākou ke hana e hoʻokele i ka manaʻo a lanakila ma luna o ia mea. E noʻonoʻo i ka mehameha he mea ia ʻaʻole mau loa, akā he mea e hoʻoikaika iā kākou e hana.

1. E hele i waho a launa pū me nā kānaka.

ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e lilo i mau hoaaloha maikaʻi loa me ka poʻe a puni ʻoe. E hoʻomaka me nā mea liʻiliʻi.

• E ʻakaʻaka ke ʻike ʻoe i kekahi o kou mau hoalauna.
• Ke hele ʻoe i ka hale kūʻai i ke kakahiaka , e kamaʻilio me ke kālā.
• E hele wāwae a puni kou kaiāulu. E hālāwai ʻoe me nā poʻe hou.

ʻOiai nā pilina liʻiliʻi e like me kēia e hana i kahi ʻokoʻa nui. Ma hope o kēlā, e ʻike mālie ʻoe he ʻāpana ʻoe o kēia kaiāulu.

2. E akahele i ke koho ʻana i nā hoaaloha.

Ke manaʻo nei mākou he mehameha, e noʻonoʻo paha mākou, "Auē, makemake wau he kanaka kaʻu e kamaʻilio pū ai." Akā i nā manawa e like me kēia, ʻoi aku ka wikiwiki o ko mākou komo ʻana i ke ola a lawe mai i nā poʻe i loko o ko mākou ola i kūpono ʻole iā mākou a nāna e hoʻopilikia iā mākou . No laila,

• E hoʻomanawanui.
• E ho'āʻo e ʻimi i kahi hoaaloha maikaʻi e kūpono maoli me ʻoe, e mahalo i kou mau manaʻo , a ʻaʻole hoʻi e makemake nui i nā mea hoʻohenehene.

3. E noʻonoʻo maikaʻi.

ʻO ka poʻe e ʻeha nei i ka mehameha, manaʻo pinepine lākou i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole. Manaʻo pinepine lākou i nā mea e like me, "ʻAʻohe mea makemake iaʻu," "Inā wau e kamaʻilio me lākou, e hōʻole lākou iaʻu." Ke manaʻo ʻoe penei, ʻoi aku ka nui o kou hana ʻana pēlā.

Aia nā lāʻau lapaʻau e hiki ke kōkua i ka hoʻololi ʻana i kēia mau ʻano noʻonoʻo. No ka laʻana, ʻo ka Social Cognitive Therapy kahi ʻano aʻoaʻo hiki ke kōkua nui i kēia mau kūlana. Kōkua ia iā mākou e ʻike a hoʻololi i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole a mākou e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka nānā ʻana mai o kekahi poʻe iā mākou.