Yu de wɔri bɔt yu titi? Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt di we aw yɔŋ pipul dɛn kin kil dɛnsɛf.

A no se dis na rili at ɛn sɛnsitiv tɔpik fɔ tɔk bɔt. Bɔt, yu nɔ tink se i bɛtɛ fɔ lɛ wi nɔ tɔk bɔt sɔntin lɛk dis we gɛt fɔ du wit wi yɔŋ pikin dɛn layf? Fɔ kil insɛf na we pɔsin tek in yon layf. Bɔrku tɛm, na wae pɔrsin gɛt pwɛl hat, pwɛl hat, ɔr nɔr kin ebul fɔ fɛn sɔlv prɔblɛm wae nɔr kin sɔlv. We yɔŋ pikin lɔs dis kayn we, na pen we di famili, padi dɛn, ɛn di wan ol sosayti nɔ go ebul fɔ bia.

Wetin mek wi smɔl pikin dɛn kin lɛk dɛn kayn tin ya?

Infakt, di rizin dɛn we mek yɔŋ pɔsin kin kil insɛf rili kɔmpleks. I at fɔ tɔk jɔs wan rizin. Dis na tɛm we pipul dɛn kin kɔnfyus bad bad wan, usay pipul dɛn kin fil bad. Dis na di tɛm we pipul dɛn kin kil dɛnsɛf ɛn tray fɔ kil dɛnsɛf.

Ripɔt frɔm di Wɔl Ɛlth Ɔganayzeshɔn (WHO) ɛn ɔda ɔganayzeshɔn dɛn sho se fɔ kil dɛnsɛf na di sɛkɔn tin we kin mek pikin dɛn we ol 10-14 ia day ɛn na di tɔd tin we kin mek yɔŋ pipul dɛn we ol 15-24 ia day (afta aksidɛnt ɛn kil). I go mɔs bi bak se di wan dɛn we kin tray fɔ kil dɛnsɛf kin bɔku pas di wan dɛn we kin rili kil dɛnsɛf.

Denja dɛn we kin apin frɔm tin dɛn we dɛn kin yuz na os

Dis na pɔynt bak we rili impɔtant. Ɛspɛshali if tin dɛn lɛk faya-ayɛn de na di os, di risk fɔ kil insɛf kin rili bɔku. Na kɔntri dɛn lɛk Amɛrika, dɛn kin se 60% pan di pipul dɛn we kin kil dɛnsɛf na faya-ayɛn. So, if yu gɛt dis kayn tin na yu os, yu fɔ rili kip am usay pikin dɛn nɔ go ebul fɔ rich, pul di bulɛt dɛn, ɛn lɔk am fayn fayn wan.

Semweso, fɔ tek mɛrɛsin pasmak na tin we kin mek pɔsin kil insɛf ɛn tray fɔ kil insɛf. Tek tɛm wit di mɛrɛsin dɛn we yu nɔ kin bay ɛn di mɛrɛsin dɛn we dɛn kin gi yu. Sɔm yɔŋ pipul dɛn kin sheb mɛrɛsin wit dɛn padi dɛn na skul, ɔ kip am na dɛn bakpak ɔ lɔka. Dis na di rizin we mek i impɔtant fɔ de wach ɔl di mɛrɛsin dɛn na os.

Difrɛns de bitwin gyal pikin ɛn bɔy pikin?

We i kam pan fɔ kil dɛnsɛf, sɔm difrɛns de bitwin gyal pikin ɛn bɔy pikin. Di chans we gyal pikin dɛn kin tink bɔt ɛn tray fɔ kil dɛnsɛf tu tɛm pas bɔy pikin dɛn. Bɔku tɛm dɛn kin tray fɔ du am bay we dɛn de tek mɛrɛsin pasmak ɔ kɔt dɛnsɛf.

Bɔt fɔ tru, bɔy pikin dɛn kin day we dɛn kil dɛnsɛf 4 tɛm pas gyal pikin dɛn. Masta sabi bukman dɛn biliv se dis na bikɔs bɔy pikin dɛn kin yuz mɔ we dɛn we kin kil pɔsin.

Us kayn yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin de pan denja pas ɔl?

Wi ɔl dɔn pas we wi yɔŋ. Pan ɔl we i bin fayn, wi mɛmba am bak as tɛm we wi bin de kɔnfyus ɛn kɔnfyus bitwin we wi smɔl ɛn we wi big. Na wan say, bɔku pipul dɛn kin op fɔ, ɛn na di ɔda say, bɔku prɛshɔn ɛn rispɔnsibiliti kin de. Dɛn kin fos wi fɔ fit wit wi padi dɛn, fɔ du gud na skul, ɛn fɔ gɛt rispɔnsibiliti.

Semweso, insay dis tɛm, pikin dɛnsɛf kin bigin fɔ tink bɔt tin dɛn lɛk fɔ no bɔt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs ɛn aw fɔ gɛt rilayshɔnship. Dɛn kin fil se dɛn nid fɔ gɛt fridɔm ɛn sɔntɛnde dɛn kin agens dɛn mama ɛn papa in lɔ dɛn.

Yɔŋ pikin dɛn, mɔ di wan dɛn we gɛt prɔblɛm wit dɛn maynd , kin tink mɔ bɔt fɔ kil dɛnsɛf .

Fɔ ɛgzampul:

• Wɔri
• Pwɛl at
• Bipolar Disɔda
• Nɔbɔdi we nɔ de slip

Dɔn bak, pikin dɛn we kin gɛt big chenj dɛn na dɛn layf (dɛn mama ɛn papa kin dayvɔs, dɛn kin muf go na nyu ples, dɛn mama ɛn papa kin kɔmɔt na os fɔ go soja, dɛn famili kin gɛt prɔblɛm wit dɛn mɔni ) ɛn pikin dɛn we dɛn kin buli, we dɛn kin trit dɛn kɔlɔ, ɔ we dɛn kin tɔk bad bɔt ɔda pipul dɛn, kin gɛt mɔ prɔblɛm.

Jɔs tink bɔt dat, sɔntɛnde, wetin kin tan lɛk smɔl tin to wi kin bi big prɔblɛm fɔ smɔl pikin fɔ sɔlv.

Na sɔm ɔda tin dɛn we kin mek pɔsin gɛt prɔblɛm :

• Mental sik, mɔr lɛk pwɛl hat, bipola muud disɔda, drɔg ɛn rɔm abiuz (infakt, 95% pan di pipul dɛm wae de day bay wae dɛn kil dɛnsɛf gɛt maynd sik da tɛm de).
• Filin fɔ strɛs bad bad wan, vɛks, ɛn nɔr de rɛst.
• Wae pɔrsin nɔr gɛt op ɛn fil se yu nɔr gɛt wan valyu wae kin kam wit pwɛl hat.
• Bikɔs i bin dɔn tray fɔ kil insɛf bifo tɛm.
• Fɔ gɛt famili histri bɔt pwɛl hat ɔr kil yusɛf.
• Fɔ mek dɛn du bad to pɔsin na in maynd, in bɔdi ɔ fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit am.
• Nɔ gɛt grup we de sɔpɔt yu, nɔ gɛt gud padi biznɛs wit yu mama ɛn papa ɔ padi, fil se yu nɔ de nia di sosayti.
• Nɔ sɔpɔt frɔm famili ɔ sosayti we dɛn de na say we dɛn de aks kwɛstyɔn bɔt dɛn sɛkshɔnal aydentiti ɛn/ɔ sɛksualiti. (Dis na rili sensitiv ishu, dem pikin de nid plenti lov en andastan).

Wetin na di sayn dɛm we go ɛp wi fɔ no dis kwik kwik wan?

Bɔku tɛm, yɔŋ pikin dɛn we kin kil dɛnsɛf kin dɔn gi dɛn pipul dɛn we dɛn lɛk sɔm kayn wɔnin ɔ hint bɔt dat bifo tɛm. So, i rili impɔtant fɔ mek mama ɛn papa dɛn no bɔt dɛn sayn dɛn ya we de wɔn wi. Na da tɛm de nɔmɔ dɛn go ebul fɔ ɛp dɛn pikin dɛn de kwik kwik wan.

Dɛn kin si dɛn kayn sayn ya afta wan tin we kin mek pɔsin strɛs, lɛk prɔblɛm na skul, we in bɔyfrɛn/gaylfrɛn brok, pɔsin we yu lɛk day, dayvɔs, ɔ big famili agyumɛnt.

Wan yɔŋ pikin we de tink bɔt fɔ kil insɛf kin du tin dɛn lɛk:

• Bɔku tɛm, pipul dɛn kin tɔk bɔt fɔ kil dɛnsɛf ɔ fɔ day.
• Hints laik "A no go de ya mo."
• Fɔ tɔk bɔt disapɔyntmɛnt ɔ fɔ fil gilti.
• Fɔ de fa frɔm yu padi ɔ fambul dɛn.
• Dɛn kin rayt siŋ dɛn, poem dɛn, ɛn lɛta dɛn bɔt day, separeshɔn, ɛn lɔs.
• Wantɛm wantɛm dɛn kin bigin fɔ gi valyu tin dɛn we dɛn bin de ol dia (e.g. buk, tɔys, klos) to dɛn smɔl brɔda ɛn sista dɛn ɛn padi dɛn.
• Yu nɔ kin bisin bɔt di tin dɛn we yu bin de ɛnjɔy trade.
• I kin at fɔ pe atɛnshɔn ɛn tink klia wan.
• Big chenj de pan aw yu de it ɔr de slip (we yu de it bɔku wan wantɛm wantɛm/nɔ de it, yu de slip bɔku/nɔ de slip atɔl).
• I de du tin dɛn we gɛt prɔblɛm (e.g., fɔ drayv fast, fɔ yuz drɔgs).
• We pɔsin nɔ lɛk fɔ du skul wok ɛn spɔt igen.

Wetin wi go du as mama ɛn papa?

As wi bin dɔn tɔk, bɔku yɔŋ pipul dɛn kin gi wɔnin sayn bifo dɛn tray fɔ kil dɛnsɛf. So, e fayn fɔ no dɛn sayn ya. Pan ɔl we nɔto ɔlman we pɔsin kin kil insɛf, fɔ no ɛn tek stɛp fɔ ɛp yɔŋ pɔsin we nid ɛp, dat kin mek big difrɛns.

Sɔm big pipul dɛn kin tink se, "Dɛn pikin ya de du dis fɔ mek dɛn pe atɛnshɔn to dɛn." Bɔt if wi nɔ pe atɛnshɔn to am bikɔs wi tink se i de mek pɔsin pe atɛnshɔn to am, i kin rili mek di pikin du bad to insɛf. Fɔ go na di imejensi rum, go to dɔktɔ, ɔ fɔ go na rɛzidɛshɔnal tritmɛnt sɛnta nɔto tin we yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin want fɔ du - pas nɔmɔ dɛn rili fil bad, tink bɔt fɔ kil dɛnsɛf, ɔ at ɔl dɛn wish se dɛn bin dɔn day. So, nɔ dismis dɛn wɔnin sayn ya as "attention-seeking," dɛn fɔ tek dɛn siriɔs wan.

Luk gud wan, tek tɛm lisin.

Yu fɔ de wach fɔ yɔŋ pikin we in at pwɛl ɛn we de pul insɛf kɔmɔt nia insɛf. E fayn fɔ ɔndastand pwɛl hat na yɔŋ pikin dɛm, bikɔs e kin difrɛn frɔm de sayn dɛm wae wi kin tink bɔt as pwɛl hat. Fɔ ɛgzampul, instead fɔ de sɔri ɔltɛm, kray, wi kin si am pan tin dɛn lɛk fɔ gɛt prɔblɛm wit padi dɛn, fɔ nɔ gɛt gred fayn, fɔ gɛt prɔblɛm wit slip, fɔ vɛks ɔltɛm, ɛn fɔ de fɛt.

Kip di layn dɛn fɔ tɔk to pipul dɛn opin as yu ebul. Mek yu pikin no se yu bisin bɔt am, yu de sɔpɔt am, ɛn yu lɛk am. If yu pikin tɛl yu sɔntin we de na in maynd, sho am se yu tek am siriɔs. Tink bɔt dis, we yu de fɛt wit yu padi nɔ go bi big tin to yu, bɔt i kin mek yu at pwɛl ɛn mek yu at pwɛl. Nɔ minimiz ɔ ignore wetin yu pikin de go tru. Dat kin jɔs mek dɛn at pwɛl mɔ ɛn mɔ.

If yu pikin gɛt prɔblɛm fɔ tɔk to yu, tɛl yu fɔ tɔk to ɔda pɔsin. Fɔ ɛgzampul, ɔda fambul, prist, kɔch, skul advaysa, ɔ yu pikin in dɔktɔ.

Nɔ fred fɔ aks kwɛstyɔn.

Sɔm mama ɛn papa dɛn kin fred fɔ aks dɛn pikin dɛn if dɛn dɔn ɛva tink bɔt fɔ kil dɛnsɛf ɔ fɔ du bad to dɛnsɛf. Sɔm pipul dɛn kin fil se if dɛn aks dɛn, dat go put di aidia na dɛn pikin in ed.

Bɔt, i fayn ɔltɛm fɔ aks, ilɛksɛf i at. Sɔntɛnde, i go fayn fɔ ɛksplen wetin mek yu de aks. Fɔ ɛgzampul, yu kin se: "Pikin/ gyal pikin, a dɔn notis se yu dɔn de tɔk bɔt fɔ want fɔ day. Yu rili de tink bɔt fɔ kil yusɛf?"

Aw wi kin gɛt ɛp?

If yu tink se yu pikin de tink bɔt fɔ kil insɛf, gɛt ɛp wantɛm wantɛm. Yu famili dɔktɔ kin rifer yu to sayɛnsman ɔ saykayatrist. Ɔ, yu kin gɛt wan list fɔ dɔktɔ dɛn na yu eria frɔm di saykayatrik dipatmɛnt na yu lokal ɔspitul. Yu kin gɛt dis infɔmeshɔn bak frɔm yu lokal mental wɛlbɔdi ɔganayzeshɔn ɔ di distrikt mɛdikal asosieshɔn.

If ɛnitin apin we nɔ izi fɔ yu, yu kin kɔl ɔ sɛn tɛks mɛsej to dɛn intanashɔnal fon nɔmba dɛn ya:

• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Yu kin kɔl ɔ teks 988. Yu kin kɔntakt dɛn bak tru dɛn wɛbsayt.
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Dis na fri savis wit trened profeshonal. Di tɔk dɛn we yu de tɔk go bi kɔnfidɛns. Dis na intanashɔnal savis dɛn. Yu kin gɛt ɛp tru dɛn tin ya, ɔ chɛk if di sem kayn savis de na Sri Lanka. Bɔt if ɛnitin apin, kɔl di 1990 Suwaseriya Ambulans Savis wantɛm wantɛm, ɔ go na di ɔspitul we de nia yu.

If yu pikin gɛt prɔblɛm, yu lokal imejensi rum kin du saykayatrik ɛvalueshɔn ɛn rifer yu to di tin dɛn we yu nid. If yu nɔ shɔ if yu fɔ kɛr yu pikin go na di imejensi rum, yuTɔk to di dɔktɔ.

If yu dɔn mek apɔntinmɛnt fɔ go to pɔsin we de advays yu bɔt mental wɛlbɔdi biznɛs , mek shɔ se yu go na di apɔntinmɛnt, ilɛksɛf yu pikin se, “A fayn naw,” ɔ “A nɔ de go.” Di tin dɛn we pɔsin kin tink bɔt fɔ kil insɛf kin kam ɛn go. Bɔt yu pikin nid ɛp fɔ divɛlɔp di skil dɛm fɔ manej dɛn tin ya we i de tink ɛn biev we i gɛt prɔblɛm.

If yu pikin nɔ want fɔ go na di mitin, tɛl di pɔsin we sabi bɔt mental wɛlbɔdi biznɛs. If yu go na di sɛshɔn yu wan ɔ wok wit di pɔsin we sabi du di wok, yu kin kip di domɔt opin fɔ yu pikin fɔ gɛt di ɛp we i nid. Di pɔsin we sabi du di wok go tich yu bak aw fɔ mek yu pikin want fɔ gɛt ɛp.

Mɛmba se, cham-mɔt bitwin mama ɛn papa ɛn pikin dɛn kin mek i wɔs fɔ smɔl pikin we de fil se na in wangren de, we dɛn nɔ ɔndastand am, ɔ we nɔ gladi fɔ am, ɛn i kin ivin tink se i want fɔ kil insɛf. Gɛt ɛp fɔ famili prɔblɛm ɛn woke tru dɛn di kayn we we go mek yu gɛt wɛlbɔdi. If ɛnibɔdi na yu famili gɛt histri fɔ gɛt pwɛl hat, fɔ tek sɔm kayn mɛrɛsin, ɔr de fɛt-fɛt na yu os, tɛl yu mɛntɛl hεlth pɔrsin. Tɔk bak bɔt ɔda tin dɛn we kin mek yu strɛs na os (e.g., say we yu kin gɛt prɔblɛm ɔltɛm).

If pikin day bay we i kil insɛf...

Fɔ mama ɛn papa dɛn, we pikin day na pen we dɛn nɔ go ebul fɔ imajin. Fɔ mama ɛn papa dɛn we dɛn pikin dɔn day bikɔs dɛn kil dɛnsɛf, di pen ɛn pwɛl at kin mɔna dɛn. Sɔntɛm dɛn filin ya nɔ go ɛva dɔn kpatakpata. Bɔt, di wan dɛn we dɔn gɛt dis kayn ɛkspiriɛns kin tek dɛn step ya fɔ bigin di joyn fɔ mɛn:

• Stay kɔnɛkt wit ɔda pipul dɛn. Afta pɔsin dɔn kil insɛf, di wan dɛn we de na di famili kin fil se na dɛn wangren de, dɛn nɔ kin no wetin fɔ tɛl dɛn padi dɛn ɔ aw fɔ ɛp dɛn. Yu kin tɔk bɔt yu pikin, aw yu de fil, ɛn fɛn pipul dɛn we go sɔpɔt yu. If i tan lɛk se di pipul dɛn we de arawnd yu nɔ want fɔ tɔk to yu, yusɛf bigin fɔ tɔk to yu ɛn aks dɛn fɔ ɛp yu.
• Mɛmba se ɔda pipul dɛn na di famili de kray ɛn ɔlman de kray difrɛn we. Ɛspɛshali yu ɔda pikin dɛn kin tray fɔ bia wit dɛn sɔri-at nɔmɔ, ɛn dɛn kin op se dɛn nɔ go bi lod pan yu. Sɔpɔt unasɛf tru di kray wata, di vɛks, ɛn di kwayɛt. If nid de, una fɔ ɛp ɛn sɔpɔt una togɛda.
• Ekspekt se anivesari, batde, ɛn ɔlide dɛn nɔ go izi. Bɔku tɛm, impɔtant de ɛn ɔlide dɛn kin mek yu fil bak se yu dɔn lɔs ɛn wɔri. Na dɛn de dɛm, du wetin go fayn fɔ yu filin nid dɛm - ilɛksɛf na fɔ spɛn tɛm wit yu fambul ɛn padi dɛm, ɔr fɔ spɛn di de kwayɛt wan fɔ tink gud wan.
• Ɔndastand se na nɔmal tin fɔ fil gilti ɛn aks, "Aw dis apin?" Bɔt i impɔtant bak fɔ ɔndastand se yu nɔ go ɛva gɛt di ansa dɛn we yu de luk fɔ. Hiling ova tɛm kin kam we yu kam na ples fɔ fɔgiv yu pikin ɛn yusɛf.
• Grup dɛm we de gi advays ɛn sɔpɔt kin bi fayn we fɔ ɛp yu fɔ no se nɔto yu wan de. Sɔntɛnde, famili dɛn we dɔn lɔs pikin dɛn dis kayn we kin bi pat pan di nɛtwɔk dɛn we de ɛp mama ɛn papa dɛn, yɔŋ pipul dɛn, ɛn skul dɛn fɔ mek dɛn nɔ gɛt dɛn kayn bad bad tin dɛn ya tumara bambay.

Aw yu kin ɛp yɔŋ pikin we yu padi kin kil insɛf?

Wetin yu go du if pɔsin we yu pikin sabi dɔn tray fɔ kil insɛf ɔ day bay we i kil insɛf? Fɔs, gri se yu pikin de fil difrɛn we. Sɔm yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin se dɛn kin fil gilti—espɛshali di wan dɛn we kin fil se dɛn fɔ dɔn ɔndastand wetin dɛn padi de du ɛn wetin dɛn de tɔk mɔ.

Ɔda pipul dɛn se dɛn kin fil vɛks pan di pɔsin we tray/du kil insɛf fɔ du dis kayn tin we i want fɔ insɛf. Ɔda pipul dɛn kin se dɛn nɔ kin fil bɔku ɔ dɛn nɔ kin no aw fɔ sho wetin dɛn de fil. Mek yu pikin biliv se no rayt ɔ rɔŋ filin nɔ de, ɛn i nɔ bad fɔ tɔk bɔt am we i dɔn rɛdi.

We pɔsin tray fɔ kil insɛf ɛn sev, pipul dɛn kin fred ɛn nɔ kin fil fayn fɔ tɔk bɔt am. Tɛl yu pikin nɔ fɔ de fa pan tɛm lɛk dis - dis na we pɔsin nid fɔ kɔnɛkt wit ɔda pipul dɛn.

Bɔku skul dɛn, afta we wan studɛnt kil insɛf, dɛn kin briŋ spɛshal advaysa dɛn fɔ tɔk to di studɛnt dɛn ɛn ɛp dɛn fɔ bia wit di prɔblɛm. If yu pikin de dil wit di we aw in padi ɔ in klasmet de kil insɛf, yuz dɛn tin ya, ɔ ɛnkɔrej am fɔ tɔk to yu ɔ ɔda big pɔsin we i biliv.

Fɔ dɔn, di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl fɔ mɛmba...

Fɔ kil yusɛf na kɔmpleks tin, bɔt bɔku tɛm dɛn kin ebul fɔ avɔyd am. I rili impɔtant fɔ tɔk opin wan wit wi yɔŋ pipul dɛn, fɔ gi dɛn lɔv ɛn sɔpɔt, ɛn fɔ lisin to wetin dɛn gɛt fɔ tɔk.

If yu fil se yu pikin gɛt prɔblɛm, nɔ ɛva shem fɔ go to pɔsin we sabi du in wok. I nɔto sayn fɔ wikɛd, na sayn fɔ trɛnk. Nɔto yu wan de na dis joyn. Fɔ aks fɔ ɛp, fɔ gi ɛp, na ɔl di tin dɛn we wi kin du fɔ protɛkt wi pikin dɛn.

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