Yu de liv wit fred, sɔri-at, ɛn yu wan na yu yon os, di ples usay yu fɔ fil sef pas ɔl na di wɔl? Yu de liv wit pɔsin we de mek yu fil bad wit ɛni wɔd, we de trowe tin na grɔn we dɛn de fɛt, ɛn we sɔntɛnde i de es in an ɔ in leg? Dis nɔto prɔblɛm we yu wan de pan.Dɔmbul vaylɛns na big prɔblɛm we bɔku pipul dɛn de sɔfa kwayɛt wan na Sri Lanka ɛn ɔlsay na di wɔl, bɔt dɛn kin fred fɔ tɔk bɔt. So lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dis opin wan ɛn wit padi biznɛs tide.
Wetin rili na Domɛstik Vaylɛns?
We wi de tink bɔt fɛt-fɛt na os, bɔku tɛm wi kin tink bɔt aw dɛn kin trit wi bad ɛn bit dɛn. Bɔt i pas dat fa fawe. Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, na ɛni bihayvya we pɔsin kin yuz fɔ mek in patna fred, kɔntrol, ɔ manipul (bɔku tɛm na uman dɛn, bɔt i kin apin to man dɛn bak). Na tin we gɛt fɔ du wit pawa ɛn kɔntrol.
Difrɛn tin dɛn de we de apin to dis. Lɛ wi si wetin dɛn bi.
| Fɔm fɔ fɛt fɛt | Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan... |
|---|---|
| Abiuz na di bɔdi | Tin dɛn lɛk fɔ nak, push, chok, pul ia, ɛn wund wit tin dɛn we de bɔn. |
| Imɔshɔnal/Saykolojik Abiuz | Fɔ mek pɔsin fil bad bay we yu de tɔk tin dɛn lɛk, "Yu kray," "Nɔbɔdi nɔ bisin bɔt yu," "Yu nɔ go ebul fɔ du ɛnitin if a nɔ de." Fɔ lɛf dɛn wan, nɔ fɔ mek dɛn si dɛn padi ɛn fambul dɛn. Fɔ mek dɛn fred. |
| Abiuz pan mami ɛn dadi biznɛs | Fɔ fos yu patna fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs we yu nɔ gri fɔ du. Fɔ fos dɛn fɔ du tin dɛn we dɛn nɔ want fɔ du. |
| Ikɔnomik Kɔstɔshɔn | Nɔ lɛf dɛn fɔ go wok, tek ɔl di mɔni we dɛn de gɛt bay fos, ɛn lɛf dɛn we dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ du natin ɛn nɔ gi dɛn mɔni fɔ spɛn. |
Di impɔtant tin na dat, nɔ pan dɛn tin ya nɔmal. No rum nɔ de fɔ dis insay padi biznɛs we gɛt lɔv.
Wetin mek dis tin rili siriɔs?
Di tru tin bɔt di tin, lɛk aw sɔv dɛn sho, rili sɔri. Imajin, bɔku pan di uman dɛn we kin kam na di imejensi rum (ETU) na ɔspitul dɛn kin kam fɔ go fɛn tritmɛnt fɔ di bad bad tin dɛn we kin apin we dɛn kin gɛt fɛt-fɛt na dɛn os. Bɔt ɔmɔs pan dɛn kin tɛl di dɔktɔ di rial rizin? Bɔku tɛm, dɛn kin tɔk tin lɛk "dɛn slip ɛn fɔdɔm dɔŋ di stej", "dɛn bin gɛt bad bad aksidɛnt we dɛn bin de ple wit dɛn pikin".
Nɔto dat nɔmɔ, dɛn ripɔt se uman kin gɛt prɔblɛm wit in yon patna naw ɔ we i bin de patna trade pas pɔsin we i nɔ no ɔ pɔsin we de tif na strit. Dis na di harsh trut we wi nid fɔ ɔndastand.
Di mistek dɛn we pipul dɛn kin tink bɔt we de mek dis fɛt-fɛt kɔntinyu fɔ de
Wetin mek pipul dɛn kin sɔfa fɔ lɔng lɔng tɛm ɛn dɛn nɔ kin lɛf dɛn padi biznɛs ya? Wan rizin na bikɔs sɔm pipul dɛn de tink di rɔŋ we na di sosayti. Fɔ pul dɛn mistek ya rili impɔtant fɔ sɔlv dis prɔblɛm.
- "Dis na famili ishu, wi no shud intafya." - Dis na di big mistek. Vaylɛns nɔ de ɛva bi pɔsin in yon biznɛs. Na kraym. If dɛn de trit pɔsin bad, wi gɛt wok as sosayti fɔ invayt.
- "I no get kontrol wen im de veks, na im mek im de hit." - Dis na mistek bak. Masta sabi bukman dɛn se fɛt-fɛt nɔto fɔ lɛ pɔsin nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol insɛf , bɔt na fɔ tray fɔ kɔntrol di ɔda pɔsin . Di pɔsin we de fɛt-fɛt no gud gud wan wetin i de du. Na bay wilful i de du am.
- "If uman bin kip in mɔt, dis nɔ bin fɔ dɔn apin." - Vaylɛns nɔ de ɛva bi di pɔsin we dɛn de du bad to in fɔlt. We yu blem di pɔsin we dɛn du bad to dis kayn we, dat kin jɔs mek dɛn fil se dɛn de wangren ɛn dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ du natin. Nɔbɔdi nɔ gɛt rayt fɔ du bad to ɛnibɔdi fɔ ɛni rizin.
Aw yu go ɛp yusɛf ɔ pɔsin we yu sabi?
Fɔ ɛp pɔsin we gɛt dis kayn tin na tin we rili impɔtant.
If yu na pɔsin we dɛn dɔn du bad bad tin to...
1. Fɔs, ɔndastand se dis nɔto yu fɔlt. Yu nɔ nid fɔ shem fɔ dis. Nɔto yu wan de.
2. Tɔk to pɔsin we yu trɔst.I kin bi yu bɛst padi, yu fambul, ɔ pɔsin we de advays yu. I kin rili mek yu fil fri fɔ sheb yu lod dɛn.
3. Mek wan Sefty Plan. Dis rili impɔtant. If yu gɛt fɔ kɔmɔt na os we ɛnitin apin, kip di tin dɛn we yu nid (bɔn satifiket, ID kad, bank kad, pikin dɛn dɔkyumɛnt, impɔtant klos, sɔm mɔni) na say we izi fɔ rich. Tink bɔt say we sef fɔ go.
4. Dokumɛnt wetin de apin. Kip di de dɛn, di tɛm dɛn, ɛn di tin dɛn we apin we dɛn du di bad tin. If injuri de, tek foto if i pɔsibul. Dɛn tin ya kin rili impɔtant we dɛn de jɔj di kes.
5. Aks fɔ ɛp. Institiushɔn dɛn de na Sri Lanka we kin ɛp wit dis. Yu kin fayl kɔmplen to di Women and Children’s Bureau of di polis . NGO dɛn de bak we de gi ligal ɛn advays savis. If yu wund, go to dɔktɔ wantɛm wantɛm ɛn gɛt tritmɛnt.
Aw yu go ɛp pɔsin we yu nɔ no?
- If yu si ɔ yɛri fɛt-fɛt de apin, ripɔt am to di polis (119) wantɛm wantɛm. Na yu wok.
- If yu tink se yu padi ɔ fambul gɛt dis kayn prɔblɛm, nɔ shem dɛn wantɛm wantɛm bay we yu aks dɛn bɔt dat. Bifo dat, tɔk saful saful wan. Se sɔntin lɛk, "A de wɔri bɔt yu. A ɔndastand se sɔntin nɔ rayt. If yu ɛva nid fɔ tɔk, a de ya."
- We dɛn disayd fɔ tɔk, lisin we dɛn nɔ jɔj. Nɔ aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk, "Wetin mek yu stil de wit am?" Bifo dat, aks se, "Aw yu nid mi ɛp?"
- Sɔpɔt afta di rileshɔnship dɔn dɔn. Risach dɔn sho se di wan dɛn we dɔn sev kin de pan big risk afta dɛn dɔn lɛf dɛn rilayshɔnship we dɛn de trit dɛn bad. So kɔntinyu fɔ tɔk to dɛn da tɛm de ɛn chɛk if dɛn sef.
Yu nɔ nid fɔ dɔn gɛt dis ɛkspiriɛns fɔ ɛp pɔsin we nid ɛp. If yu gɛt sɔri-at ɛn bisin bɔt dɛn, dat go du fɔ dɛn.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Vaylɛns na os nɔto jɔs fɔ trit pɔsin bad . I kin min bak fɔ kɔntrol aw pɔsin de tink, aw i de fil, aw i de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs, ɛn aw i gɛt mɔni.
- Vaylɛns nɔ go ebul fɔ bi jɔstis fɔ ɛni rizin. We dɛn de trit yu bad nɔto yu fɔlt.
- If yu ɔ pɔsin we yu sabi de gɛt dis kayn tin, nɔ fɔ tɔk natin. Aks fɔ ɛp. Pipul ɛn ɔganayzeshɔn dɛn de we go ɛp yu.
- If yu patna abuse yu, no bi lov. Na kɔntrol.
- If yu si ɔ yɛri bɔt fɛt-fɛt, nɔ sɛt mɔt ɛn du tin di rayt we. Yu intavyu kin sev wan layf.
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