I fa hian sikulah 'cliques' chungchangah harsatna a nei em? Hemi chungchang hi han sawi ila!

Sikul-a ṭhian siam te, inkawp leh chu ṭhiante nena hlim taka awm chu naupangte tan chuan an naupan lai a\angin a pawimawh hle. Mahse a chang chuan heng ṭhian pawl, a nih loh leh ‘set’ kan tihte hi tlem a danglam deuhin an awm ṭan ṭhin. Naupang thenkhat chu ‘in’, thenkhat ‘out’, an ‘status’ chauh an ngaihtuah thin. Heng ‘cliques’ te avang hian naupang tan chuan sikul thiante nena inkawp leh sikul hna thawh a harsa hle thei a, a bik takin sikul naupang kum chanve vel tan chuan a harsa hle thei a ni. Mahse lungngai suh, nu leh pa i nih angin tunlai hunah hian i fate tanpui nan thil tam tak i tih theih a awm.

‘Clique’ tih hi eng nge ni? Engtin nge ṭhian pawl pangngai nen a danglam?

A tlangpuiin ṭhian pawl neih hi thil dik lo a awm lo. Naupangte chu hun hmanpui, inkhelh leh lehkha zir theihna a siamsak a ni. Mahse ‘clique’ chu chu aia buaithlak deuh a ni. A awlsam zawngin ‘clique’ hian tute nge ‘in’ leh tute nge ‘out’ tih chungchangah dan a nei a. An pawl ‘status’ hi an ngaihtuah ber a ni. ‘Kan tha ber’ tih leh ‘midang hi keimahni angin an tha lo’ tih ang chi rilru put hmang an nei a ni. Hei vang hian ‘cliques’ hi ṭhian pawl pangngai nen an danglam a, naupangte tan harsatna a thlen thei a ni.

I fa hian ‘clique’ a tuar em? Engtin nge i hriat?

Naupang thenkhat chu clique-ah an awm a. Midang erawh an chhuak. Naupang thenkhat chu vawiin hian an lut thei a, naktuk hian an chhuak thei bawk. I fa chu lungngai anga lang thut a nih chuan, emaw, naupang inpawh tak tak pakhatin amah chauhva hun a hman thut chuan i chhui chian a ngai a ni. Chumi chungchang chu zawt rawh. Sikul-a pawl pakhat vang pawh a ni thei.

I fa chu ‘clique’ pakhatin a hnawhchhuah a nih chuan engtin nge nu leh pa angin i tanpui theih ang?

Naupangin hetiang dinhmun a hmachhawn hian i thlawpna an mamawh a ni. Heng thilte hi i ti thei em tih en rawh.

I thil tawn te sawi rawh.

Sikul i kal lai pawhin hetiang thil hi i tawng tawh a nih chuan, chu chu i fa hnenah sawipui rawh. Cliques hi tun hnaia thil thleng a ni lo, an awm rei tawh hle! I fain i chanchin a hriat chuan anmahni chauh hian hetiang thil hi an tawk lo tih an hrechhuak ang. Hei hian chakna nasa tak a pe dawn a ni. They may think , "Hetiang hi mom/dad chungah pawh a thleng tawh a nih chuan hei hi thil pangngai a ni ngei ang."

I fa hnenah ‘rejection’ tih awmzia sawifiah rawh.

I fa chu mi pakhatin a pumpelh emaw, a hnawl emaw huna a hrehawmzia hrethiam tûrin ṭanpui rawh. Chutih rual chuan, a châng chuan keini pawh kan nu leh pate, kan ṭhiante, leh kan unaute chungah kan thinrim ṭhin tih hriat nawntîr ang che. Mahse, chu thinurna chu engtiang chiahin nge a reh vat tih zirtir bawk ang che. Chu chu, i fa chu hnawlna leh inthiarfihlim chu a awm reng lo va, a danglam thei tih hrethiam turin ṭanpui rawh . Vawiina anmahni tlanchhiatsantu ṭhianpa hian naktuk hian a biak leh mai thei tih hrilh rawh.

Inṭhianṭhatna hrisel leh hrisel lo chungchang sawi rawh.

I fa hnenah ṭhian nihna hrisel chu eng nge a nih leh hrisel lo chu eng nge ni tih hrilhfiah rawh. Kawng khata awm, a nih loh leh ṭhian dik lo hriat theih dân zirtîr rawh. A châng chuan miten mi dangte chu an hmel lan dân, an nungchang leh an inchei dân aṭangin an rêl tih hrilh rawh. Amaherawhchu, mi dangte cheibâwl ṭha lo leh dah hniamtute chuan mahni inrintawkna an neih loh vâng leh chu chu khuh bo tûra mi dangte thunun an tum vâng a ni fo tih sawifiah rawh.

Clique hruaitute hi an insecure thei tak zet a ni.

Ngaihtuah teh, ‘clique’ hotu ber hian hnawhchhuah naupang aiin mi lar leh mi dangte pawm a ngaih zawk mai thei. An hriat tak tak chu an lantir dan a ni lo. Hetiang mite hi an inrintawk lo hle mai thei. Chuvângin, i fa chu mite chu an pâwn lam lan dân aṭanga rêl lo tûrin hrilh rawh.

I fain a inzawm theih tur thawnthu leh movie zawng rawh.

Lehkhabu, TV show leh movie tam takah chuan heng hnawlna chi hrang hrang hneh a, a tawpah hnehna changtu character te an lang thin. Heng thawnthute hian mahni inngaihsakna hlutna leh thian tha nih a pawimawhzia thuchah chak tak a zirtir a ni. Entirnan, Judy Blume-i ziak "Blubber" tih ang chi lehkhabu hian naupang tê tête chu "cliques"-te chu eng angin nge a inthlak rang tih a târ lang a ni. Naupang kum upa zawk leh puitling naupang zawkte chuan "Mean Girls," "Angus," "The Breakfast Club," leh "Clueless" ang chi movie te hi an inzawm thei a ni.

Extracurricular activities-ah ngaihtuahna seng rawh

I fa chu chutiang thila inhmang lo a nih chuan extracurricular activities-ah te inrawlh tir rawh. Entirnan, art class, infiamna, martial arts, tawng zir, a nih loh leh tlawmngaihna te hi a ni. Heng thiltih hian i fate chu khawtlang pawl thar din theihna leh thiamna thar neih theihna hun remchang a pe a ni. Hei hian school clique pawnah pawh anmahni nihna leh hlimna an neih theih nan a pui ang.

I fa chu ‘clique’-ah thuin midang a tibuai em? Chutiang a nih chuan eng nge i tih ang?

A châng chuan i fa chu ‘clique’-a ṭhu a, naupang dangte hnawhchhuah, nuihzat leh tihduhdahtu a ni thei. Chutiang thil i hmuh chuan , i fate chu i sawipui nghal a ngai a ni. Tunlai hian talent show atanga TV-a reality show thlengin nungchang mawi lo tak tak leh midang au chhuahpui hi thil lian tak anga lantir a nih avangin naupangte tan ngilneihna, zahna leh lainatna ang chi zirtir chu chhungkaw tan chuan harsatna lian tak a ni ta a ni.

Ṭhian nihnaah ‘thuneihna’ leh ‘thunun’ chungchang sawi rawh.

I fate chu ṭhian nihnaah thiltihtheihna leh thununna hnathawh dân chungchâng sawipui rawh. Engvangin nge pawl pakhata awm a ngai nia an hriat tih hriatthiam tum la, chutianga an awm chhan chu eng nge ni tih hriatthiam tum ang che. Clique-a tute nge awm, tute nge chhuak, pawn lama naupangte chunga thil thleng (i.e. ngaihsak loh, hnawhchhuah, tihduhdah an ni em?) chungchang tlang takin sawi rawh. I fa chu ṭhian tlemte nena hun hman chu tumruh taka midang hnawhchhuah nen a danglam tih hriattir rawh .

Naupang chu an nungchang an chhuang em tih zawt rawh.

I fa chu sikula an awm danah a chhuang em tih zawt la, chu chu ngaihtuah turin fuih bawk ang che. Zawhna i zawt thei a, "Chutiang i awm chuan nuam i ti tak zet em?" "Naupang dangin chutiang thil ti che ta se engtin nge i awm ang?"

Chu bâkah, zirtîrtute, kaihhruaina thurâwn petute, a nih loh leh school hotu dangte chu classroom chhûng leh pâwn lama thil thleng chungchânga an ngaih dân zawt rawh. School hian pawl enkawlna kawnga puitu tur leh ngaihdan hrang hrang nei zirlai te thawhhona tha tak nei tura pui turin programme a neih leh neih loh an zawt thei bawk.

Engtin nge i fa chu ṭhian ṭha tak nei tûrin i ṭanpui theih?

I fate chu inṭhianṭhatna hrisel tak siam turin i ṭanpui thei a, ‘clique’-a inhnamhnawih lutuk lo turin heng tips te hi i pe thei ang:

Eng nge ‘hnathawh’ tih zawng la, ‘fit in’ mai mai suh.

I fate chu eng nge an ngaih pawimawh, eng nge an duh tih leh chu thilte chu an awmna pawlah a inmil em tih ngaihtuah turin hrilh la.

• 'He team-a tel i duh chhan ber chu eng nge ni?'
• ‘He team-a tel tur hian eng ang inremna nge i siam a ngai ang? Chu inpeknate chu a hlu em?’ a ti a.
• 'Pawl hruaituin naupang dangte kha tisual turin a hrilh che a, a nih loh leh i tih duh loh thil ti turin a hrilh che a nih chuan engtin nge i tih ang?'
• ‘Nuihzawn leh tihduhdahna, nuihzat mai mai leh midangte tihnat zawnga nuihzat hi eng nge an danglamna?’ a ti a.

An duhzawng thilte chu bansan lo turin hrilh rawh.

I fa hian piano tum a duh fo tawh a, mahse rang takin "a cool lo" tih a rel a, a bânsan duh ta tih han ngaihtuah teh. I fate chu sawipui la, a chinfel dan tur zawng turin pui rawh. An hlim leh mahni inrintawkna tipungtu thiltihnaa tel turin fuih rawh.

Ṭhian chi hrang hrang fuih rawh

I fa chu hmun hrang hrang, hnam hrang hrang, kum hrang hrang, leh ngaihvenna hrang hrang aṭanga ṭhian siam turin fuih la, chu chu a bula awm duh leh nuam ti tak a ni. I fate tan entawn tlak ni rawh, a theih ang anga ṭhian leh hriat chian, kum leh chi hrang hrang nei. Mi chi khat nena inkawp mai ai chuan mi chi hrang hrang nena inpawh tawnna hmangin nunah thil tam tak an zir thei tih hrilh rawh.

Ṭhian nihna ‘quality’ hi ngaihtuah la, ‘status’ hi ngaihtuah lo.

I fate chu mi ‘dik’ leh pawl ‘dik’-a awm an nih leh nih loh ngaihtuah lutuk hian ‘status’ chungchangah a hruai lut thei a ni. Chu ai chuan , ṭhian ṭha leh ṭha tak takte chu ngaihtuah zâwk rawh. I fa chu ṭhian tlemte nei mah se, mi ṭha, rintlak an la ni tih hrethiam turin ṭanpui ang che.

Thil dik lo sawi chhuak tur leh midangte tana ding chhuak turin zirtir rawh.

I fain ‘cliques’-a thil thleng avanga hlauhna emaw, nawrna emaw a neih chuan, anmahni leh midangte tihbuai emaw, tihduhdah emaw tuar te tan ding turin fuih rawh. Thil dik lo nia an hriat thila tel lo turin hrilh rawh. Fiamthu mai mai emaw, midang chungchang sawiselna mai emaw pawh nise a pawi lo.

An thiltihah mawhphurhna la turin hrilh rawh

I fa chu mi dangte chunga sensitive turin fuih la, group-in an sawi vang mai maia engkim pawm lo turin fuih rawh. I fate chu i ṭhian dik tak chuan i ngaih dân te, i duhzâwng te, leh i duhthlannate chu eng ang pawhin danglam mah se, a zah reng dâwn tih hriattîr rawh. Mipui zînga langsar chu a châng chuan a harsa thei a, mahse a tâwpah chuan i fate chu an thusawi leh thiltihah mawhphurtu an ni tih zirtîr rawh.

Hriat reng tur pawimawh ber berte (Take-Home Message) .

Kan sawi tawhte kan en hian clique nena inzawmna hi a harsa thei a, a chang chuan a harsa thei hle. Mahse, heng thilte hi a inthlak thuai thei tih hre reng ang che. Vawiin a clique i neih hi naktuk hian a awm tawh lo mai thei. A pawimawh zawk chu ṭhian dik tak siam hi a ni – mi i biak theih, i nuihpui thei a, i thuruk i hrilh thei bawk.

‘Mi lar’ tak nih theihna thuruk tak chu i duh ang ṭhian nih tum hi a ni: zahawm, dik, thlawptu, ngilnei, rintlak, leh ṭha. Chu chu i fate zirtirna hlu ber a ni.

` School ṭhian, pawl, pawl, hnawhchhuah, tihduhdahna, ṭhian hrisel, nu leh pate puihna