‘Engkim a tha vek ang’ tih hi toxic a ni thei ang em? Toxic Positivity chungchang hi han sawi ila

Hun harsa tak, lungngaihna emaw, harsatna emaw i paltlang lai khan mi pakhatin, "Eng nge dik lo, thlamuang rawh," "Positive takin awm rawh," emaw, "Engkim a tha vek ang," a tih che khan engtin nge i awm? A châng chuan chu thute chuan min tidam ai chuan min ti na zual sauh a. Kan hrehawmna leh hrehawmna hi tumahin an hrethiam lo ang maiin min siam thin . Chu chu ' toxic positivity' kan tih chu a ni. Hei hi thupui pawimawh tak a ni. Hemi chungchang hi thui zawkin han sawi ila.

Toxic Positivity hi eng nge ni tak tak?

A awlsam zawngin, Toxic Positivity chu eng dinhmun harsa leh lungchhiatthlak takah pawh positive leh hlim taka awm tumna a ni a, chutiang rilru put hmang chu hnial a ni. Lungngaihna, thinrimna leh hlauhna ang chi emotion te chu ‘tha lo’ tia label a, tihtawp a, emotion ‘tha’ chauh lantir tum tihna a ni. Hei hi keimahni chungah kan ti a, midangte chungah pawh kan ti bawk.

Hei hi hrethiam tur chuan Hannah Olivas chanchin hi ngaithla ila. Kum 2017 khan Hannah chu kum 42 mi a nih laiin doctor-te chuan thisen cancer chi khat multiple myeloma , a vei tih an hmuchhuak a. Hannah-i chuan hei hi tihdam theih loh natna a nih thu a hriat chuan a tir lamah chuan a thinrim hle a, chutah chuan rin loh takin a hlauthawng ta a ni. Doctor pakhat chuan kum khat vel dam tur a neih thu a hrilh a. Midang chuan kum 5 vel a nei tih a sawi bawk. Mi dang pakhat chuan engmah a sawi thei lo tih a sawi bawk.

Chutiang hun lai chuan eng ang nge a awm ngei ang tih han ngaihtuah teh. Mahse Hannah thian thenkhat chuan thil mak ber ber an sawi a. "I tha ang!", "Hei hi i paltlang thei ang!", "I chak lutuk!" Chutiang thu chu an sawi vek a. Hannah chuan ṭanpui an tum tih hria mah se, a hriat reng "forced support" chuan a rilru dik tak chu a sawi thei lo .

Hannah chuan, "Ka ngaihtuah a, 'Minute khat tal nghak rawh. Tunah hian ka chhungah hian positivity ounce khat pawh ka nei lo. Ka thinrim em em a, ka lungngai hle bawk. Chutiang nih hi dikna ka nei vek a ni.'

Engvangin nge he ‘tum tha’ hi a chang chuan rulhut ah a chantir thin?

Psychotherapist Whitney Goodman-i sawi dan chuan, mi pakhatin thil tum ṭha tak nei mah se, Toxic Positivity hian "hlim taka awm emaw, hlimna zawn emaw tura nawrna reng reng , eng dinhmunah pawh ni se" a thlen a ni.

1. Emotion tihtawp

Lungngaihna, thinrimna, hlauhna leh lungngaihna ang chi rilru natna kan nei vek a. Hengte hi kan nunah thil pangngai tak a ni. Mahse toxic positivity hian heng rilru put hmangte hi ‘dik lo’ anga ngaihin min titawp a ni. Mahse suppress hian an kal bo lo. Goodman-a sawi angin, "Chutiang rilru natna tihtawp (suppressed emotions) chu i nun kawng dangah a chhuak a, a chang chuan a na zawkin a chhuak thin." Entîr nân, mut harsatna te, i ei leh in lama inthlâk danglamna te, a nih loh leh i rilru put hmang inthlâk danglamna te i nei thei a ni .

2. Mahni chauha awm (Isolation) .

I thianpa chuan i chunga thil \ha chauh hmu turin a beisei reng che a nih chuan, an rorelsak che emaw, an sawipui tawh loh emaw i hlauh avangin i rilru put hmang dik tak chu i sawipui tawh lo mai thei. Hei hian mahni chauha inhriatna a siam belh zel dawn chauh a ni. Hei hian nangmah ṭanpuitu leh ṭanpuina dawngtu chu mahni chauha awmin a awmtîr thei a ni.

3. Thiam loh chantirna

Mi zawng zawngin "positive takin awm rawh" an tih che a, mahse i theih loh chuan nangmah leh nangmah i inthiam lo tan thei a ni. "Ka chungah thil dik lo a awm em? Engvangin nge ka hlim theih loh?" Hei hian i stress level a tisang chauh a ni .

Chuti a nih chuan engtin nge he thil hi dik taka kan chhân lêt ang?

Thil tum tha tak nei pawhin hetiang hi kan sawi fo maithei. A pawimawh ber chu mi tuemaw hrehawmna ngaithla a, a hriat theih nan phalsak hi a ni. He dawhkan hi han en teh.

I tawng hman danah fimkhur rawh.

Miin an harsatna a hrilh che chuan, chinfel tum ai chuan ngaithla rawh. Zawhna zawt rawh. "Engtin nge i awm?" emaw, "Eng nge ka tihsak theih che?" an rilru put hmang i zah tih a hriattir ang.

Thil nuam lo tak tak nena nun hmang thiam rawh.

Keini ang bawk hian midangte tan lungngaihna leh hrehawmna an neih hi thil pangngai a ni tih pawm rawh. I hmaah mi a tap a nih chuan lungngai suh. An rin che tih chhinchhiahna a ni. Chutih lai chuan anmahni bula ngawi renga awm pawh hian ṭanpuitu lian tak a ni thei.

Hannah chanchin hi han kir leh ila, a hnuah chuan a thiante hnenah Toxic Positivity chungchang chu zawi zawiin a zirtir tan ta a ni. "Ka aw hman dan leh ka thusawi chhuah dan ka zir a ni," a ti. A thurawn chu, "Mi pakhat bulah awm la, a tak takin awm la, zawhna zawt rawh," tih hi a ni.

"Miten tumruh taka Toxic Positivity an tih hi ka ring lo . An hre lo niin ka hria. An thluak hi an ngaihdan dik sawi turin wire a ni. Mahse, kan inbiaknaah min ngaithla tak tak a nih chuan chhanna min pek tum ai chuan chu chu a ropui hle ang," tiin Hannah chuan a sawi.

Hetiang hian i awm a nih chuan sawi hlau suh. I ṭhian i rintlak tak, i chhûngte, a nih loh leh i doctor nên inbiakna neihpui rawh . Rilru hriselna hi taksa hriselna ang bawkin a pawimawh .