Kei te whakaaro noa te katoa ki a rātou anō ināianei? Me kōrero tātou mō te whakapehapeha

Kei te whakaaro koe i ētahi wā ko te hunga i ēnei rā, inā koa ko te hunga i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori , ko rātou anake te hunga e whakaaro ana ki a rātou anō, e whakaatu ana i a rātou anō kia pai? Me te mea he ngaru o "au", "aku whakatutukitanga", "toku ao" kei ngā wāhi katoa, kāore? Ki te titiro ki a TikTok, YouTube, me Instagram, te āhua nei ko te ia o te wā ko te whakaatu i ngā kōrero katoa o tō ao ki te ao. Ka kiia tēnei e ētahi he 'mate urutā Nazi'. Nō reira, kei te piki haere te hiahia whaiaro me te aro ki a tātou anō? Me kōrero hohonu ake tātou mō tēnei.

He aha te whakahihi?

He whakarāpopototanga noa iho, ko te whakapehapeha he āhua hinengaro e whakapono ana te tangata he "tino motuhake ake ia i ētahi atu, ko ōna ake hiahia kei runga ake i ngā mea katoa," ā, e tino whakanuia ana e ia a ia anō. Ehara i te mea he mea pai, he mea kino rānei tēnei. He mea pai te whai māia ki a ia anō me te whakapehapeha ki a ia anō mō ​​te oranga. Engari ina nui rawa tēnei, ka puta ake ngā raruraru.

He rerekē te āhua o tēnei mate i ia tangata, i ia tangata. Ko te hunga kei te pito teitei ake o te whānuitanga, i waenga i te 1% me te 6% o te taupori, tera pea he mate hinengaro e kiia nei ko te Mate Whaiaro Narcissistic (NPD) .

E rua ngā huarahi matua e kitea ai tēnei whanonga a ngā Nazi. Hei mārama ake ki tēnei, tirohia te ripanga i raro nei.

Nā te aha tātou i tae mai ai ki konei?

E ai ki ngā kairangahau he maha ngā take mō tēnei pikinga. Ko tētahi ko te "kaupapa whakaute i a koe anō" i tīmata i ngā whenua o te Hauāuru i ngā tau 1970. I kīia ki ngā tamariki mai i te tamarikitanga "he motuhake koe" me te "ka taea e koe te mahi i ngā mea katoa." Ahakoa he whakaaro pai tēnei, i ētahi wā ka arahina ki te whakaaro whakapehapeha, ki te whakaaro whaiaro, kaua ki te whakanui ake i ngā pūkenga o ngā tamariki. Kua kitea e ngā rangahau ina "aromatawai nui rawa" ngā mātua i ā rātou tamariki, arā, ina whakanuia rātou e rātou i te uara o ō rātou pūkenga, ka tangohia e ngā tamariki aua whakaaro anō, ka whakawhanakehia ngā āhuatanga whakapehapeha.

Kātahi, i te taenga mai o ngā whakaaturanga pouaka whakaata mooni me te aranga ake o ngā pāpāho pāpori, ka nui ake te rerekētanga o tēnei āhuatanga. Kua noho noa te whakaatu i ngā mea katoa e pā ana ki te oranga whaiaro o te tangata, te tango whakaahua whaiaro, me te arotahi ki te āhua o te tangata.

Arā, kāore pea i piki ake te tokomaha o te hunga Nazi i roto i te hapori. Engari kua tino piki ake tō rātou reo me tō rātou awe nā te pāpāho pāpori. Nō reira, e kite ana tātou he pērā te katoa.

He aha te pānga tuturu o te pāpāho pāpori?

He wāhi te pāpāho pāpori mō te hunga whai āhuatanga whakapehapeha. Kua whakaatuhia e ngā rangahau he nui ake te wā e pau ana i te hunga whai āhuatanga whakapehapeha ki ngā pāpāho pāpori, he maha ake ā rātou tuku karere, he maha ake ā rātou hoa, ā, he nui ake te tūponotanga ka waranga rātou ki ngā pāpāho pāpori.

Engari he mea morearea te pānga o tēnei ki ētahi atu.

• Te Whakataurite me te Manukanuka : Ko te ahua o te pouri me te manukanuka mō tō ake oranga ina titiro koe ki ngā oranga "tātarihia" me te āhua harikoa o ētahi atu. Ka kiia hoki tēnei ko te FOMO (Fear of Missing Out).
• Ngā take hauora hinengaro: Nā te whakataurite tonu kua piki ake te pouri, te manukanuka, me te mokemoke i waenga i te hunga rangatahi.
• Ngā whakaaro hē mō te tinana:Ko ngā tinana "tino pai" e kitea ana i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori kua waiho hei tino take o te pikinga ake o te body dysmorphia, he āhuatanga e nui rawa ai te āwangawanga o ngā kōtiro me ngā tama tāne mō ō rātou āhua tinana, me te whakaaro ki ngā hapa kāore i a rātou.

He aha ngā mea ka pā ki ngā "tangata whakahihi ngoikore"

He wāhi tino uaua te pāpāho pāpori mō ngā "Tangata Whakahīhī Ngāwari." Ka kite rātou i ngā "Tangata Whakahīhī Nui" e whakanui ana i ō rātou angitu me te tuku whakaahua ataahua, ā, ka hae, ka riri hoki rātou kāore rātou e whiwhi i te whakanui ōrite. He pānga kino rawa tēnei ki tō rātou hauora hinengaro.

Ko tētahi atu mea pouri ko te whakapuakitanga a ngā mātua i ngā nekehanga katoa a ā rātou tamariki, i ngā mea iti katoa mai i te rā i whānau ai rātou, ki runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori. He pātai nui tēnei me pēhea te pānga o ngā hua o te whakaatu i ngā mea katoa ki te ao me te kore e tuku wāhi ki te tūmataitinga o te tamaiti ki te tamaiti ā muri ake nei.

Nā, me aha tātou mō tēnei?

Tērā pea he whakamataku tēnei ki a koe. Engari he rongo pai tēnei. E whakaatu ana ngā rangahau, i a tātou e pakeke haere ana, e nui haere ana ngā kawenga (te marena, ngā tamariki), ā, i a tātou e pāngia ana e ngā raruraru o te ao, ka heke haere te whakapehapeha. Nā te mea kua akiakihia tātou kia whakaaro nui atu ki ētahi atu i a tātou anō.

Heoi, ki te mea kei te pāngia koe, tetahi atu rānei e mōhio ana koe e tēnei mate, tera ētahi mea ka taea e koe te mahi.

• Whakawhāitihia tō whakamahinga pāpāho pāpori: Kia tūpato ki tō whakamahinga pāpāho pāpori me te whakamahinga a ō tamariki. Kia maumahara tonu ehara i te mea ko ngā mea katoa e kitea ana e koe he pono, ā, he wāhi tēnei e whakaatu ana i ngā mea pai rawa atu o te oranga o te tangata.
• Whakarongo ki tō radar ā-roto: Ina kōrero koe ki tētahi, ki te kite koe kei te nui rawa tā rātou kōrero mō rātou anō, kei te whakaiti i ētahi atu, kei te kore rānei e aro ki ō rātou kare ā-roto, kia mōhio koe ki aua "ahua whakahihi." Ki te taea, āta wehe atu i a koe i aua tāngata.
• Rapua he tohutohu ngaio: Kāore te hunga whai mate hinengaro whakahihi (NPD) e whakaae he raruraru tō rātou. Koia te take kāore rātou e rapu maimoatanga. Heoi, ki te mea kei a koe ēnei āhuatanga i roto i ō whanonga, kei te pāngia rānei tō hauora hinengaro e tētahi tangata whai āhuatanga whakahihi, he mea nui kia kaua e whakama, me rapu tohutohu mai i tētahi tākuta whai tohu, i tētahi kaitohutohu hauora hinengaro rānei. Koinei te mea pai rawa atu ka taea e koe te mahi māu ake.