E taea ana te whai marena angitu me te mate hinengaro rua? Ae, e taea ana. Me kōrero tāua mō tēnei.

He tangata koe e pāngia ana e te mate hinengaro pērā i te mate hinengaro rua ? Kei te pāngia rānei koe e te tangata e arohaina ana e koe, e tō hoa rangatira, e tēnei mate? Mena koinā, ko ngā pātai pēnei i te "Kei te pai tēnei whanaungatanga?", "Ka angitu rānei tā tāua marena?", tera pea kei te whakararuraru i tō hinengaro. He pātai tēnei a te tini tāngata. Nō reira, i tēnei rā, i whakaaro ahau me kōrero atu ahau ki a koe mō tēnei mea mai i aku ake wheako.

I taku tau whitu o te kura, i kī atu ahau ki taku kaiako pūtaiao e hiahia ana ahau kia wawe taku marena. Ka kata ia, ka mea, "Koinā te whakaaro o ngā tamariki katoa o taua tau. Ko ngā homoni, ko ngā mea e kitea ana e rātou mai i ō rātou mātua, me te awe o te hapori." Engari kāore ahau i whakaae. I whakaaro ahau he mea motuhake ake taku take i tērā.

Ina hoki, i tētahi wāhi, he tika te kaiako. I hiahia ahau kia rite ki te katoa. I hiahia ahau ki te aroha, ki te whakaae, me te pumau i roto i tōku ao. I whakaaro ahau mā te marena e homai ki ahau ēnā mea katoa. Engari he rerekē taku take. Ahakoa kāore au i te mōhio i taua wā, nā tōku mate hinengaro i meinga ahau kia mau tonu te koretake me te koretake. I pāngia ahau e ngā whakaaro whakamomori me te mauahara ki a au anō. I whakaaro ahau ina tūtaki ahau ki te tangata tika, ā, ka mārena ahau, ka ngaro atu ēnei pouri katoa.

Ehara te marena i te rongoā whakaora: Ngā akoranga uaua i akohia e au

Ina hoki, i ako ahau i te ara uaua kāore te marena e whakatau i aku raruraru. Ina hoki, i puta mai he raruraru hou. I titiro ahau ki taku wahine hei tangata e whakatau i aku raruraru katoa. Nō reira, i te kore e taea e ia te mahi i tēnā, ka riri tonu ahau ki a ia. I whakapae ahau i a ia mō taku mokemoke me taku pouri, ā, ka tīmata ahau ki te kino ki a ia.

Ko taku wahine tuatahi tēnā. I marena māua i te wā taitamariki tonu. Tekau mā waru ōna tau, ko au i tata ki te rua tekau. I whakaaro māua ko te marena te makutu hei whakaoti i ō māua oranga. Nā reira, i pouri tonu māua. He kino rawa tā māua mahi tetahi ki tetahi. He maha ngā tau i muri i tō māua wehenga, ina pātai mai tetahi, "He aha i kore ai te marena tuatahi i angitu?" Ka kata ahau, "Ki taku whakaaro kāore ngā wāhine e pai ki te marena ki tētahi tangata kāore i rongoatia te mate hinengaro."

I te tūtakitanga o taku wahine tuarua ki ahau, kua kitea te mate, ā, kua tīmata te whiwhi maimoatanga. Engari kāore anō kia tino ora ahau. Kāore anō kia mōhio ahau kāore he tangata kē atu hei whakaora i ahau.I whakaaro ahau mā te rongoā me te whanaungatanga hou, ka harikoa ahau. Arā, i whakaaro tonu ahau ko te harikoa he mea i ahu mai i waho. I whakapono ahau ka harikoa ahau ina tūtaki ahau ki te tangata tika, ina noho ki te wāhi tika, ā, ina whiwhi ahau i te mahi tika.

He pai ake taku whanaungatanga ki taku wahine tuarua i taku wahine tuatahi, engari kāore i roa. I wehe māua i muri i ngā tau e rima, engari he hoa pai tonu māua. I taua wā, i ako au i ētahi atu kōrero mō tōku āhua, ā, i kitea e au te huinga rongoā tika mōku. Engari i mutu anō taua marena nā te mea kāore au i te "tangata katoa" i taku tīmatanga.

I hea koe i hē ai? Me pēhea koe i whakatika ai?

Kāore ngā ture o te marena e rerekē nā te mea he tangata bipolar ahau. I uru atu ahau ki ngā marena e rua me te whakaaro, "He aha tā taku wahine e taea ai te mahi māku?" Engari kāore au i whakaaro, "He aha tāku e taea ai te mahi māna?" I pāngia ahau e te kare ā-roto, e te ahotea. Engari ko te mea nui rawa atu, he tino hiahia whaiaro ahau.

Kāore au i te tangata pumau i a au e noho mokemoke ana. Nō reira, i te korenga o te urunga ki tētahi whanaungatanga, ka kitea nuitia ake ōku ngoikoretanga. I te mōhio ki tēnei, i mōhio ahau me kaha ake taku mahi ki te whakapai ake i tōku oranga whānui i mua i taku urunga ki te whanaungatanga pumau e hiahiatia ana e au.

I mua i taku tūtakitanga ki taku wahine tuatoru, e rua tau me te hawhe taku noho takakau. I tēnei wā, he nui ngā mea hei tuku atu māna. He tangata pumau ahau, he tangata ngahau, he tangata manaaki hoki. Ka taea e au te tiaki i a au anō, ā, ka taea e au te tiaki i a ia. I noho tahi māua nā te mea i mōhio māua ki tā māua e hiahia ana i roto i te marena i mua i tō māua tūtakitanga.

I tino āta haere mātou. Kāore mātou i hiahia kia noho tahi mātou hei whakaoti rapanga, engari kia whakapai ake i ō mātou oranga, he oranga pumau, he oranga whakamīharo hoki i mua i tō mātou tūtakitanga.

I mea atu ahau ki a ia kia ako mō te mate hinengaro me te mate hinengaro rua. I hiahia ahau kia nui te māramatanga ki a ia mō te tikanga o te whakahaere i tētahi mate kino mō te toenga o tōna oranga. I kōrero mārire māua mō ngā mea e pā ana ki ahau me ngā mea e tumanakohia ana e māua tetahi i tetahi mō te tautoko me te manaaki.

I tēnei rā, ko tāku mahere mō tētahi marena harikoa ko te whakahaere i taku mate hinengaro rua me taku marena i te mea ka taea. He tuwhera, he pono hoki ahau ki taku wahine, ā, e tumanako ana ahau kia pērā anō hoki i a ia. He rōpū māua. E tiaki ana māua tetahi i tetahi. I roto i tēnei marena, kei ahau te aroha, te whakaae, me te pumau e hiahiatia ana e te katoa. Engari nā te mea i kitea e au aua mea i roto i ahau i te tuatahi.