Kei te tatari anō hoki koe kia tīmata te huri o tō tinana? (Pākeketanga) Me kōrero tāua mō tēnei!

He raruraru nui mō te tini o te hunga e rite ana ki tōu tau, he mea pea e tino pāpouri ana ki a koe, ko te wā ka tīmata ai ēnei huringa tinana, arā, ina pakeke tātou, i roto i ngā kupu hauora, ka tīmata te pakeketanga. I ētahi wā ka tīmatahia ēnei huringa e ō hoa i mua i a koe, ka whakaaro pea koe, "Āe, he aha te take kāore tēnei e pā ana ki ahau anake? He aha te hē o taku?" Engari kaua e mataku, kaua hoki e manukanuka. Me kōrero tāua mō tēnei i tēnei rā, me te mārama me te mea kei te kōrero koe ki tō hoa pai. Kei te pai?

He aha te kore ai e pā ēnei huringa ki te katoa i te wā kotahi?

Koinei te mea tino nui. Kāore e rite te katoa. Whakaarohia, ahakoa ka whakatō koe i te momo putiputi kotahi ki te māra kotahi, ka puāwai ataahua ētahi i mua i ētahi, ā, ka puāwai ētahi i muri tata mai. Engari i te mutunga, ka puāwai ngā tipu katoa, tika? Koinei tātou. He rerekē te hanganga tinana o te katoa me te wā o te karaka i roto i ō rātou tinana. Nō reira, ko te wā e tae atu ai koe ki te "Pakeketanga" ka mua ake, ka roa ake rānei i tō hoa. He mea noa tēnei. I te nuinga o te wā, koinei ngā mea e kōrerohia ana e kōrua i tēnei tau. Mena he tama koe, tera pea ka pouri koe, ka mea, "Āe, kua rerekē tōna reo, kāore i tino tupu tōna pahau, ā, kei te tangi tonu ahau me te mea he tamaiti." Mena he kōtiro koe, tera pea ka pouri koe, ka whakama, "Āe, kua tupu ngā ū o te katoa, he aha ahau anake i roa ai?" Engari ehara tēnei i te mea hei āwangawanga, hei whakama rānei. Kia mahara he rerekē te mahi a te karaka tinana o te katoa.

Te pakeketanga o ngā kōtiro

Ina tae te kōtiro ki te pakeketanga, ko te huringa tuatahi, ko te huringa nui rawa atu hoki ka kitea e ia ko te whanaketanga o ngā ū. Me titiro tātou ki tēnā i te tuatahi.

Āhea ka tīmata te whanaketanga o te ū?

Ko te tikanga, ko te nuinga o ngā kōtiro ka tīmata te whanake o ngā ū i te 10, 11 rānei o te tau . Ko te tikanga tēnei ka tīmata rātou ki te rongo i te ahua o tētahi puku iti i te uma, ka nui haere haere. Engari kāore tēnei e tupu i te tau kotahi mō te katoa. Ka taea e ētahi kōtiro te tīmata i tēnei huringa i te 7 tau te pakeke. Mō ētahi atu, ka taea te roa i te 13 tau te pakeke. He mea noa te tīmatanga o te whanaketanga o ngā ū i ngā wā katoa i roto i ēnei awhe tau e rua.

Nō reira kaua e manukanuka kei puta ake ngā ū o tō hoa pai i mua i a koe, kei te pai? He tere ake pea tana karaka tinana i tōu. Koinā katoa.

Te Wā Paheke Tuatahi

Ko tētahi atu huihuinga nui o te oranga o te kōtiro ko tōna paheketanga tuatahi. E kiia ana tēnei ko te "te taenga mai o tōna paheketanga." Nō reira, ka tīmata tēnei wā (Te Wā Paheketanga) i te 2, 2 1/2 rānei tau i muri i te tīmatanga o te whanaketanga o ngā ū.Kāore he ture e mea ana me tupu tēnei i te wā kotahi. Mō ētahi tāngata, tera pea ka wawe ake, mō ētahi ka roa ake. He rerekē hoki tēnei i ia tangata, ā, he mea noa iho. He maha atu anō ngā huringa e puta ana i roto i te tinana i tēnei wā. Pērā i te whānui haere o te hope, me te tīmatanga pea o te puta o te hakihaki.

Te pakeketanga o ngā tama

Āe, me titiro tātou ki ngā mea ka pā ki ngā tama. Ko te tau toharite mō ngā tama ki te tīmata ki te pā ki ēnei huringa ko te 10, 11 rānei tau te pakeke . Engari kia tika, he mea noa kia tīmata ēnei tohu o te pakeketanga i waenga i te 9 me te 15 tau te pakeke. Nā, he aha ēnei huringa?

• Te pāorooro o te reo : Ka huri te reo ngawari, angiangi o te tamarikitanga, ā, ka tīmata te puta ake o te reo hōhonu, pāorooro, tāne. I ētahi wā ka piki, ka heke rānei te reo, he mea noa anō hoki i tēnei wā.
• Te tupu o te huruhuru i te pahau me te tinana: Ka tīmata te tupu o te ngutu i te tuatahi, ā, muri iho ko ngā raro i ngā ringa. Ka tīmata hoki te tupu o te huruhuru i ngā kēkē, i te uma, me ngā wāhi tūmataiti (huri noa i ngā ira tangata).
• Te tipu o ngā whekau ira tangata : Ka tipu haere ngā poro me te ure . He tohu nui anō hoki tēnei mō te pakeketanga.
• Te tipu o ngā uaua me te roa: Ka nui ake, ka kaha ake ngā uaua o te tinana, ka whānui ake ngā pakihiwi, ā, ka kitea he āhua tāne. I tēnei wā anō hoki, ka tīmata te piki haere o te teitei.

Kāore ēnei mea katoa e puta i te pō kotahi, i te wā kotahi. Ka oti haere ēnei huringa, i roto pea i ētahi tau. Nō reira, kaua e mataku mēnā he āhua "pakeke" ake tō hoa o tō tau i a koe. Tērā pea kua tīmata wawe ake ā rātou huringa. Ka pai katoa ina tae mai tō wā.

Kāore he huarahi hei "tere ake" ake?

E mōhio ana ahau he raruraru tēnei mō te tini o koutou. Tērā pea kei te whakaaro koe, "Āe, kāore he rongoā hei tere ake i te tipu ake, hei rite ki te katoa?" Engari ko te pono, kāore he mea ka taea e koe te mahi hei tere ake i ēnei huringa taiao o tō tinana. He pai katoa te kai i tētahi kai taurite, te whakakori tinana i ia rā, me te moe pai i te pō mō tō hauora whānui. Me mahi tonu koe i aua mea. Engari kāore tētahi o aua mea e tere ake ai te tukanga taiao o te pakeketanga.

Ngā kai motuhake (hei tauira, e kī ana ētahi 'ki te kai koe i tēnei, ka tere te tupu o tō pahau'), ngā huaora takitahi (Ngā Tāpiringa Kai), me ngā hinu tinana motuhake.Kāore e taea e ngā kirimi te whakatere i tēnei tukanga taiao. He maumau moni te whakapau moni ki ēnā mea.

Ka tīmata tō tinana i ēnei huringa i tōna ake wā, i tōna ake tere. Whakawhirinaki ki tēnā. Tukua.

Āhea tātou me toro atu ki te tākuta?

Kua kōrero tātou mō ngā tau e tīmata ai ēnei huringa. I te nuinga o te wā, ki te mea kei roto koe i ēnei tau noa, kāore he mea hei manukanuka. Engari i ētahi wā ka pōhēhē koe, pērā i te, "He aha i roa ai te wā mōku?" I ēnei wā, he mea pai kia kite i te tākuta me te tiki tohutohu. I roto i tēnei āhuatanga, me kite koe i te tākuta me te kōrero mō tō āhuatanga:

• Mena he kōtiro koe, 13 tau te pakeke, kāore anō ō ū kia tīmata te whanake, kāore anō rānei kia pāngia koe e tō paheketanga tuatahi.
• Mena he tama koe, mehemea kua 15 tau te pakeke, ā, kāore anō kia kitea he tohu o te pakeketanga (hei tauira, he panoni o te reo, te tupu o te pahau, o te makawe rānei, te whanaketanga rānei o ngā whekau ira tangata).
• Ahakoa he iti iho koe i ēnei tau, ki te mea he nui tō wehi, tō manukanuka, me tō ruarua mō ēnei huringa o tō tinana, arā, ki te mea kei te whakaaro tonu koe "Kāore au i te mōhio mēnā he hē kei roto i ahau."

Ahakoa te haere ki te tākuta, ehara i te mea he mate kino tōu, e mārama ana koe? He mea nui kia tirohia tō tinana, kia mōhio kei te pai ngā mea katoa, kia whakakorea hoki ngā mataku me ngā ruarua koretake . Ka taea e te tākuta te kī atu ki a koe mēnā kei te pai ngā mea katoa, mēnā rānei me mahi ētahi atu whakamātautau.

Ngā mea tino nui me maumahara koe

Āe, me whakamahara atu mātou ki a koe mō ētahi o ngā mea tino nui hei ako māu i roto i ngā mea kua kōrerohia e tātou. Koinei ngā "Karere hei kawe ki te kāinga".

• He rerekē te katoa, ā, he motuhake koe: He mea noa ki a koutou ko ō hoa te rerekētanga o ēnei huringa tinana. Kāore he mea rerekē, he mea hē rānei te pakeke wawe o tētahi, me te pakeke paku o tētahi. He rawe koe i tō āhua.
• Ehara tēnei i te whakataetae: kaua e waiho te ao hei whakataetae mō wai ka tipu tuatahi, ko wai ka tupu tuatahi he pahau, ko wai ka pāngia e te paheketanga. He haerenga motuhake tō te katoa i roto i ō rātou tinana, tukua taua haerenga kia haere i tōna ara.
• Ko te manawanui te rongoā pai rawa atu: He roa te wā e hiahiatia ana kia tau ai ēnei huringa nui ki tō tinana. Kāore e puta i te pō kotahi. Nō reira, me manawanui koe.
• He mea nui kia noho hauora: kai i ngā kai pai, kai totika, whakakori tinana i te awatea, ā, moe pai i te pō. Mā ēnei mea ka āwhina i tō hauora whānui, ka āwhina hoki i ēnei huringa kia tutuki.
• Kaua e mataku, me tono āwhina:Ki te mea he raruraru, he pātai, he ruarua rānei tāu, kaua e huna ki roto. Kaua e wehi ki te kōrero ki tētahi pakeke e whakawhirinaki ana koe (he whaea, he pāpā, he kaiako, he tuakana, he tuahine) tae noa ki tētahi tākuta. He āwhina nui tēnā ki a koe.

Hei whakamutunga, e aroha ana tō tinana ki a koe. Hoatu te wā e hiahiatia ana hei hanga i aua huringa. He mea tika koe, pērā i tō āhua, ā, he mīharo koe!

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Te pakeketanga, ngā huringa tinana, ngā kōtiro, ngā tama, te tipu, te taiohitanga