Te tūkino ā-whare? Kāore koe i te mokemoke.

Kei te noho koe i roto i te wehi, te pōuri, me te mokemoke i roto i tōu ake kāinga, te wāhi e tika ana kia tino haumaru koe i te ao? Kei te noho koe me tētahi e whara ana i a koe i ia kupu, e whiu ana i ngā mea ki te papa i ia pakanga, ā, i ētahi wā ka ara ake tōna ringa, tōna waewae rānei? Ehara tēnei i te raruraru e noho mokemoke ana koe. He raruraru nui te tutu ā-whare e pāngia ana e te tini o te tangata i roto i te wā puku i Sri Lanka me te ao katoa, engari e mataku ana ki te kōrero mōna. Nō reira, me kōrero tātou mō tēnei mea i runga i te tuwhera me te hoahoa i tēnei rā.

He aha tonu te Tūkino ā-Whānau?

Ina whakaaro tātou ki te tutu ā-whare, he maha ngā wā ka whakaaro tātou ki te tukino tinana me te whiu. Engari he nui atu i tēnā. Ki te kī ngāwari, ko tētahi whanonga e whakamahia ana e te tangata hei whakamataku, hei whakahaere, hei whakahaere rānei i tana hoa (ko te nuinga he wāhine, engari ka pā pea ki ngā tāne). He take mana me te whakahaere.

He rerekē ngā āhuatanga o tēnei. Kia kite tātou he aha ēnei āhuatanga.

He aha te take i tino kino ai tēnei āhuatanga?

He tino pouri te pono o te mea, e ai ki ngā rangahau. Whakaarohia, he tokomaha ngā wāhine e haere mai ana ki te rūma ohorere (ETU) o ngā hōhipera e haere mai ana ki te rapu maimoatanga mō ngā whara i puta mai i te tutu ā-whare. Engari e hia o rātou e kōrero ana ki te tākuta te take tūturu? I te nuinga o te wā, ka kī rātou i ngā mea pēnei i te "i paheke rātou, ā, i hinga i ngā arawhata", "i whara rātou i a rātou e takaro ana me tā rātou tamaiti".

Ehara i te mea koinā anake, engari e kōrerotia ana he nui ake te tūponotanga o te wahine kia whara i tana hoa rangatira o nāianei, o mua rānei, i tana hoa rangatira o tētahi tauhou, i tētahi tahae rānei i te huarahi. Koinei te pono uaua me mārama tātou.

Ngā whakaaro hē e mau tonu ai tēnei tutu

He aha te take e mamae ai te tangata mō ngā tau maha, kāore anō kia wehe atu i ēnei whanaungatanga? Ko tētahi take he whakaaro hē kei roto i te hapori. He mea tino nui te whakakore i ēnei whakaaro hē hei whakaoti rapanga.

• "He take whānau ēnei, kaua tātou e pokanoa." - Koinei te hapa nui rawa atu. Ehara te tutu i te take whaiaro. He hara. Ki te tukinotia tetahi, he kawenga tā tātou hei hapori ki te pokanoa.
• "Kāore he mana whakahaere i a ia ina riri ia, koia ia ka patu ai." - He whakaaro hē anō hoki tēnei. E ai ki ngā tohunga, ehara te tutu i te ngaronga o te mana whakahaere , engari he ngana ki te whakahaere i te tangata kē . E mōhio ana te tangata tutu ki tāna e mahi ana. He mea āta whakaarohia.
• "Me i kati te waha o te wahine, kua kore tēnei e tupu." - Ehara te tutu i te he o te tangata e tukinotia ana. Mā te whakapae i te patunga pēnei ka nui ake te mokemoke me te kore āwhina i a rātou. Kāore he mana o tetahi ki te tukino i tetahi mō tetahi take.

Me pēhea koe e āwhina ai i a koe anō, i tētahi atu rānei e mōhiotia ana e koe?

He mea tino tairongo te āwhina i tētahi i roto i tēnei āhuatanga.

Mena he pāngia koe e te tutu...

1. Tuatahi, kia mārama koe ehara tēnei i tōu he. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakama ki tēnei. Kāore koe i te mokemoke.

2. Kōrero ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe.He hoa pai pea, he whanaunga, he kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro rānei. He tino whakamarie te whakapuaki i ō kawenga.

3. Hangaia he Mahere Haumaru . He mea tino nui tēnei. Ki te mea me wehe atu koe i te kāinga i roto i tētahi āhuatanga ohorere, puritia ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e koe (ngā tiwhikete whānau, ngā kāri tuakiri, ngā kāri peeke, ngā tuhinga a ngā tamariki, ngā kākahu nui, ētahi moni) ki tētahi wāhi e ngāwari ana te toro atu. Whakaarohia he wāhi haumaru hei haere atu.

4. Tuhia ngā mea i tupu. Puritia he tuhinga mō ngā rā, ngā wā, me ngā huihuinga o te tukino. Mena he whara, tangohia he whakaahua mēnā ka taea. He mea tino nui ēnei i roto i ngā whakahaerenga ture.

5. Tonoa he āwhina. He umanga kei Sri Lanka ka taea te āwhina i tēnei. Ka taea e koe te tuku amuamu ki te Tari Wahine me ngā Tamariki o ngā pirihimana . He NGO anō hoki e whakarato ana i ngā ratonga ture me te tohutohu. Mena ka whara koe, me toro atu ki te tākuta tonu , ā, me whiwhi maimoatanga.

Me pēhea e taea ai e koe te āwhina i tētahi kāore koe e mōhio?

• Ki te kite koe, ki te rongo rānei i te tutu e tupu ana, me ripoata tonu atu ki ngā pirihimana (119). Ko tāu mahi tēnei.
• Ki te whakapae koe kei te pāngia tētahi hoa, tētahi whanaunga rānei e tēnei momo raruraru, kaua e whakama tonu mā te pātai atu. Engari, me kōrero mārire. Me kī atu pēnei, "Kei te āwangawanga ahau mōu. E mārama ana ahau kei te hē tetahi mea. Ki te hiahia koe ki te kōrero, kei konei ahau."
• Ina whakatau rātou ki te kōrero, whakarongo mai, kaua e whakahē. Kaua e pātai pēnei i te, "He aha koe i noho tonu ai ki a ia?" Engari, pātai atu, "Me pēhea koe e hiahia ai ki taku āwhina?"
• Tautoko i muri i te mutunga o te whanaungatanga . E whakaatu ana ngā rangahau ko te hunga i ora mai te tūponotanga nui rawa atu i muri i te wehenga atu i tētahi whanaungatanga tukino. Nō reira, me whakapā atu ki a rātou i taua wā, me te tirotiro i tō rātou haumaru.