Me kōrero tātou mō te "Microaggression": Te tukino ā-waha ngawari

Kua kī atu tētahi ki a koe, "Āe, kāore koe i te āhua rite ki tētahi nō taua rohe..."? Kua rongo rānei koe i tētahi e kī ana, "He tino ataahua koe ahakoa he mangu koe"? Kua kī pea koe, "He tino mā tō āhua" nā te mea he pai tō kōrero Pākehā. Ina rongo koe i ēnei mea, tera pea ka kata koe, engari kāore koe i te mā, i te mamae rānei i roto i tō ngākau? Koinei ngā mea e mahia ana e tātou me te kore e mōhio, e hanga mārire ana i te riri, te pōuri, me te kore haumaru i roto i te ngākau o te tangata e whakarongo mai ana ki a tātou, e kīia nei e tātou ko te `(Microaggress ION )`.

He kaupapa tino uaua tēnei. Nā te mea ko te nuinga o te hunga e mahi ana i ēnei mea kāore e whai whakaaro ki te whara i ētahi atu. Engari he nui rawa te kino e pā mai ana. E ai ki te ahorangi hinengaro o Te Whare Wānanga o Columbia, a Darrell Wing Soo, "Kei a tātou katoa ngā whakaaro pākiki mō ngā mea pēnei i te iwi, te ira tangata, me te hōkakatanga ira tangata. Nō reira, kei a tātou katoa te kaha ki te mahi i ngā huarahi e whara ai ētahi atu, e whakahāwea ai hoki i a rātou."

He aha tonu te microaggression?

He whakararuraru ngawari tēnei, ahakoa kāore i te whakaarohia, e aro ana ki te iwi, te whakapono, te kāwai, te ira tangata, te hauātanga, tetahi rōpū tokoiti rānei e noho tahi ana rātou, mā roto i ngā kupu, i ngā whanonga, i ō tātou taiao rānei. Ahakoa kāore pea tēnei e kitea nuitia pērā i ngā kupu whakatoi tika, ka tukuna te karere ki te tangata kē atu "kāore koe i rite ki a mātou, he rerekē koe," "he iti iho koe."

He tino noa ēnei, ā, kua pā pea ki a koe ngā wheako rite. Ā, kua mahia pea e koe tētahi mea pēnei me te kore e mōhio. Whakaarohia ēnei tauira.

Ka aha koe mēnā ka pā mai tētahi mea pēnei ki a koe?

Ina puta mai tētahi mea pēnei, ka tino kaha te mamae, te riri, me te kore whakamarie e puta ake ana ki te hinengaro. I taua wā , me whakaaro tuatahi koe ki tō oranga hinengaro.

1. Kia mārama ki ō kare ā-roto: Kāore he aha te pouri, te riri rānei. Ehara i te he nāu. Kaua e huna aua kare ā-roto.

2. Kōrero ki ngā tāngata pono: Kōrero ki ngā hoa kua pāngia e ngā āhuatanga rite ki a koe. Ina whakaaro koe "Ko au anake," he mea whakamarie te mōhio kei te pāngia ētahi atu e te āhuatanga ōrite. Ka mōhio koe kāore koe i te mokemoke.

3. Whakautu tonu (mēnā e tika ana anake): I ētahi wā, mā te whakahoki noa i ngā kōrero ki te tangata ka "whakakorehia" rātou, ka mārama hoki rātou ki te mamae o taua kōrero.

• Ki te mea mai tetahi, "He Tamil koe, engari he pai tō kōrero Sinhala," ka taea e koe te menemene me te kī, "He Sinhala anō hoki koe, engari he pai tō kōrero Sinhala." Kātahi ka mārama taua tangata ki te rerekētanga o taua kōrero.

4. Whakaarohia te horopaki: Ki te mea ko te tangata e kōrero ana koe he tangata e arohaina ana e koe, ā, e pai ana koe ki te kōrero mōna, kōrerohia i muri mai. Tērā pea he uaua ki te kī, "I pōuri ahau i tō kōrero i tēnā," engari ka whakaatu i ō kare ā-roto.

5. Kāore i te hē te noho puku: Ki te ngana tonu tātou ki te whakautu i ngā mea katoa, ka nui ake te pouri. Nō reira, kāore he aha mēnā ka whakatau koe ki te noho puku i taua wā hei oranga ngākau mōu. Ehara i te ngoikore nōu. Ka taea e koe te whakaaroaro mō tēnei ā muri ake nei, ā, ka kōrero anō mēnā e tika ana.

A, ki te kite koe i tētahi mea pēnei e pā ana ki tētahi atu?

Ki te kite koe i tētahi atu e tukinotia ana pēnei, kia noho hei hoa pai mōu.

• Tautoko i te patunga: Haere atu ki te tangata ka pātai atu, "Kei te pai koe?" (Kei te pai koe?). He huarahi pai tēnei ki te kī atu ki te tangata, "Kāore i te tika tā rātou i kōrero ai."
• Kaua e kōrero mō te tangata i pāngia, engari kōrero ki a rātou: Kaua e ngana ki te kōrero mō te tangata mā te kī, "Me pēnei pea te whakaaro o tēnei tangata." He momo ' Microaggression ' anō tēnā. Engari, kōrero māu ake mā te kī, "Ki taku whakaaro kua whara ō rātou kare ā-roto i tāu i kōrero ai."

A, mehemea ka puta mai tētahi mea pēnei me te kore koe e mōhio?

Koinei te mea tino uaua ki te whakaae. He tokomaha o tātou e whakaaro ana, "E kore rawa ahau e mahi i tēnā." Engari ehara tēnā i te pono. Kua whakatipuria katoa tātou i roto i tētahi hapori kua whakaakona kia whakaaro kāore tātou i te pai. Ehara i te mea ka waiho koe hei tangata kino nā te mea i mahi koe i tētahi mea pērā. Ko tōna tikanga he wāhanga koe o taua hapori.

Ki te mea mai tetahi ki a koe, "I mamae ōku kare ā-roto i tāu i kōrero mai ai," kaua e ārai tonu atu.

• Engari kaua e ngana ki te whakatika i a koe anō mā te kī, "Āe, kāore au i te whakaaro pēnā," me okioki mō tētahi wā poto.
• Whakarongo. Ngāna kia mārama ki ngā kare ā-roto o te tangata.
• Aroha mai. Kaua e kī, "Aroha mai mō ō whakaaro pērā," engari whakapāha pono mā te kī, "Aroha mai mō taku kōrero i whara ai koe. Kāore i te tino tika. Ka tino tupato ahau mō tēnā ā muri ake nei."
• Ki te hiahia te tangata ki te kōrero, pātai atu ki a ia he aha tā rātou e hiahia ana kia mahia kia kore ai e hoki anō ki ngā hapa o muri mai. He tukanga ako tēnei.

Ka hē tātou katoa. Ko te mea nui ko te whakaae ki te hapa, te ako mai i taua hapa, me te ngana kia pai ake, kia whakaute ake. Ki te hiahia koe ki te kōrero mō tēnei mea, he tino āwhina te kōrero ki tētahi kaitohutohu hauora hinengaro, ki tō tākuta rānei.