Mlendo watsopano akangofika m'moyo wanu, tsopano ndi zachilendo kuti anzanu asonkhane ndikukonza phwando laling'ono, lotchedwa 'Baby Shower', kuti akondwerere chisangalalo. Koma nthawi zina, pangakhale mikangano yaying'ono pakati pa malingaliro a omwe akukonza maphwando otere ndi malingaliro anu okhudza kukhala ndi mwana . Mwina mukufuna phwando laling'ono, losavuta. Koma anzanu akukonzekera phwando lalikulu. Ngati muyenera kusewera masewera omwe simukuwakonda, mungamve kusasangalala. Ndiye, panthawi ngati iyi, mungakondwerere bwanji tsiku losangalatsali m'njira yomwe mukufuna, popanda kuvulaza malingaliro a aliyense? Tiyeni tikambirane za izi.
Kodi n’kulakwa kufotokoza zomwe mukufuna zokhudza nthawi yobadwa mwana?
Nkhani imeneyi ndi yovuta kwambiri. Anthu ena amaganiza kuti mphatso ya mwana ndi mphatso yomwe mumalandira, choncho muyenera kulola munthu amene akukonza kuti achite mmene akufunira. Amati, "Zili ngati mphatso, choncho muyenera kuganizira za chisangalalo cha munthu amene akukupatsani." Malinga ndi maganizo awo, cholinga chenicheni cha mphatso ya mwana si kusonkhanitsa mphatso, koma kusonyeza chikondi ndi chithandizo cha anzanu kwa inu ndi mwana amene mukuyembekezera.
Koma ena amati, "Ayi, lero ndi tsiku lanu. Ndi chikondwerero cholandira mwana m'moyo wanu. Choncho chiyenera kukhala chinthu chomwe mukusangalala nacho." Ndipotu, amayi ambiri amakhala ndi nthawi imodzi yokha yobadwa. Choncho, amakhulupirira kuti palibe cholakwika ndi kufotokoza mofatsa zomwe mukufuna m'malo molola tsikulo kupita m'njira yomwe simukufuna.
Ndipotu, zonse ziwiri ndi zolondola. Chofunika ndikukhala woona mtima koma wokoma mtima pankhani ya momwe mukumvera pamene mukulemekeza ntchito yolimba ya munthu amene akukonzekera izi.
Ndi zinthu ziti zomwe mungagwirizane nazo monga mayi?
Ndi chizolowezi chofunsa maganizo anu pazinthu zingapo mukakonzekera chikondwerero cha mwana. Muli ndi ufulu wonse wopereka maganizo anu pazinthu izi.
| Dipatimenti yokonzekera mapulani | Chopereka chanu |
|---|---|
| Kusankha tsiku | Okonza adzakufunsani za tsiku la chochitikachi. Sankhani tsiku lomwe mwana akuyenera kubadwa milungu 5-8. Mwanjira imeneyi, mutha kusangalala ndi tsikuli popanda kutopa komanso pamene mimba yanu ikuwonekabe. |
| Mndandanda wa alendo | Izi ndi zomwe zimachitika nthawi zambiri: Mutha kunena omwe mukufuna kubwera . Koma munthu amene akukonzekera mwambowu ndiye amasankha anthu angati oti aitanidwe. Zimatengera zinthu monga bajeti yawo ndi malo omwe asankha. Ngati mukufuna gulu laling'ono lokha, nenani zimenezo pasadakhale. |
| Kaundula wa Mphatso | Ngakhale izi sizikudziwika bwino ku Sri Lanka, ndi chinthu chothandiza kwambiri. Mutha kulemba mndandanda wa zomwe inu ndi mwana wanu mukufunikiradi ndikuwapatsa okonza. Zimenezi zipangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kwa iwo omwe amabweretsa mphatso. Zidzachepetsanso kuchuluka kwa zinthu zosafunikira. Izi ndi zofunika kwambiri kwa mayi amene akuyembekezera mwana wake woyamba. |
Kodi mungafotokoze bwanji zomwe mukufuna popanda kuvulala?
Nthawi zambiri, phwando lanu la ana limakonzedwa ndi munthu wapafupi kwambiri ndi inu, monga mnzanu wapamtima, mlongo wanu, kapena mchimwene wanu. N'zosavuta kulankhula mwachindunji ndi munthu wotere. Koma, taganizirani ngati apongozi anu kapena anzanu ochokera ku ofesi akukonza. Ndiye muyenera kusamala pang'ono. Nazi njira zina zomwe mungagwiritse ntchito pazochitika zotere.
- Lankhulani msanga: Ndi bwino kuuza okonza mapulani anu asanapange mapulani ndi kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama. Ngati mukuti, "Sindikonda pinki," atayitanitsa zokongoletsa zonse ndi keke, zingakhale vuto.
- Khalani osamala: M'malo monena kuti "Sindikufuna zimenezo," yesani kunena mawu ngati awa: "Kodi sizikanakhala bwino titachita izi?", "Ndikufunadi phwando laling'ono...", "O, masewera omwe tidasewera pa phwando la mwana wa mlongo wanga ankamveka ovuta kwambiri..."
- Uzani wina: Nthawi zina, ngati simukumva bwino kuuza wina mwachindunji, mutha kulankhula ndi okonza zinthu kudzera mwa mwamuna wanu, amayi anu, kapena mnzanu wapamtima. Zimenezi zingapangitse kuti zinthu zisakhale zovuta kwambiri.
- Apatseni lingaliro losalunjika: Awonetseni mitundu yomwe mwasankha pa nazale, awonetseni zithunzi za zokongoletsera zomwe mumakonda. Kunena kuti, "Ndikuganiza za mutu ngati uwu wa nazale," kudzawapatsa chidziwitso cha zomwe mumakonda .
Kodi mukufunanso kuwonjezera amuna? Masewera?
Ichi ndi chinthu chomwe anthu ambiri amakambirana. Kale, Baby Shower inali chinthu chongoperekedwa kwa akazi okha. Koma masiku ano nthawi zasintha. Mwana ndi udindo wa mayi ndi bambo. Chifukwa chake, zakhala zodziwika kwambiri kubweretsa abambo ndi abwenzi ena achimuna kuti akondwerere tsiku losangalatsali (coed shower).
Ngati mukufuna phwando la coed, koma wamkulu amene akulikonza sakufuna, mufotokozereni nkhaniyi mwachikondi. Mungafunse kuti, "Izi ndi za tonse awiri, kodi sizingakhale bwino ngati anzathu angabwere?"
Vuto lina ndi masewera . Anthu ena amakonda masewera a baby shower . Ena amawaona kuti ndi ovuta kwambiri. Koma ndi bwino kukhala ndi chochita kuti anthu asonkhane ndikukambirana akakhala pa phwando. Ngati simukukonda masewera, palinso zinthu zina zomwe mungachite m'malo mwake.
- Gawo Lopangira Zinthu: Omwe amabwera akhoza kubwera pamodzi ndikupanga kachinthu kakang'ono ka mwana. Mwachitsanzo, chokongoletsera chaching'ono chopachika m'chipinda cha mwana, kapena china chake ngati buku lolembedwa mafuno abwino a aliyense.
- Buku Lopereka Malangizo: Pemphani mlendo aliyense kuti alembe malangizo ake abwino kwambiri. Mutha kuwaphatikiza onse ndikupanga buku lokongola.
- Pho TOS hoot: Konzani malo ojambulira zithunzi kuti muzitha kujambula zithunzi zabwino ndi aliyense amene akubwera. Idzakhala chikumbutso chabwino kwa aliyense.
"Palibe mphatso" - kodi munganene zimenezo?
Inde, bwanji osatero? Mwina uyu ndi mwana wanu wachiwiri, ndipo muli kale ndi zinthu zambiri. Kapena mwina simukufuna kukhala mtolo kwa okondedwa anu panthawi yovuta yazachuma. Kapena mwina kupezeka kwawo ndikofunikira kwambiri kwa inu kuposa mphatso. Yesani imodzi mwa malingaliro awa panthawi ngati iyi.
- Mutu wa "Laibulale Yoyamba ya Mwana": Auzeni kuti abweretse mabuku okha ngati mphatso. Mabuku ndi otsika mtengo ndipo nthawi zonse ndi amtengo wapatali.
- Mutu wa "IOU" (I Owe You): Palibe mphatso yamtengo wapatali kuposa nthawi ya mayi watsopano. M'malo mwa mphatso, mutha kupempha alendo kuti akulonjezeni kukuthandizani ndi china chake, monga "Ndidzasamalira mwana tsiku limodzi," "Ndidzakubweretserani chakudya chamadzulo tsiku lina," kapena "Ndidzayeretsa nyumba."
- Mutu wa "Uphungu Wabwino Kwambiri": Monga tanenera kale, cholinga chake ndi kusonkhanitsa uphungu wa aliyense ndikupanga buku.
Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba
- Tsiku lanu lobadwa ndi tsiku lokondwerera chikondi chomwe muli nacho pa inu nokha ndi mwana wanu, choncho liyenera kukhala tsiku losangalatsa kwa inu.
- Lankhulani moona mtima komanso mwachifundo ndi okonza kuyambira pachiyambi ndipo fotokozani malingaliro anu. Izi zitha kupewa zovuta zambiri pambuyo pake.
- Musadandaule ndi chilichonse. Ganizirani zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kwa inu, ndipo muziganizira zinthu zimenezo zokha. Siyani zina zonse.
- Pamapeto pake, ngakhale mwambowo usayende monga momwe munakonzera, ulandireni ndi chimwemwe . Yamikirani chikondi cha omwe adagwira ntchito molimbika chifukwa cha inu. Kumbukirani, phunziro loyamba la kukhala kholo lingakhale lakuti simungathe kulamulira chilichonse!
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