Ngaba nawe uxhomekeke kwabanye kuyo yonke into? Masithethe nge-Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD)!

Ngaba kufuneka ucele abanye abantu ukuba benze nezona zigqibo zincinci zosuku lwakho, njengokuba uza kunxiba ntoni kusasa okanye uza kutya ntoni? Ngaba uziva ungenakunceda kangangokuba awukwazi ukwenza nto ngaphandle koluvo lwabo nokuqinisekiswa ngabo? Ukuba kunjalo, usenokuba unesifo sengqondo esibizwa ngokuba yi-"Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD)". Makhe sithethe ngale nto namhlanje, kulungile?

Yintoni le Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD)?

Ngamafutshane, i-Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD) yimeko yempilo yengqondo. Ibonakaliswa kukuxhomekeka kakhulu kwabanye ukuze kuhlangatyezwane neemfuno zakho, ingakumbi iimvakalelo (izinto ezingqondweni) nezomzimba (izinto ezikwimizimba). Cinga ngayo njengomntwana omncinci olindele yonke into kubazali bakhe, kodwa oku kunokuchaphazela nabantu abadala. Abanye banokukubona "njengomntu onamathelayo" okanye "osweleyo."

Abantu abane-DPD bakholelwa ukuba abanakwenza nto bodwa okanye bazikhathalele. Badinga izimvo kunye nemvume yabanye ukuze benze nezigqibo ezincinci zemihla ngemihla , ezifana nokuba baza kunxiba ntoni okanye baza kutya ntoni. Rhoqo, abazi ukuba ezi ngcinga kunye neendlela zokuziphatha ziyingxaki.

I-DPD lilungu leengxaki zobuntu "zeCluster C". Njengezinye iingxaki kweli qela, ixhala kunye noloyiko nazo ziyabonakala. Iingxaki zobuntu ziindlela zokuziphatha ezihlala ixesha elide ezichasene noko uluntu lulindele ukuba sikwenze (imigangatho yenkcubeko). Zidla ngokuqala ngaphambi kokuba umntu abe mdala, ebuntwaneni okanye ebusheni. Ezi ngxaki zobuntu zinokubangela uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kumntu kunye nabo bamngqongileyo. Ngaphantsi kwe-1% yabantu abadala eMelika abahlangabezana nemigangatho ye-DPD.

Yintoni umahluko phakathi kwe-DPD kunye ne-BPD?

Nangona zombini i-Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD) kunye ne-Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) zinobunzima kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kunye noloyiko lokushiywa, ziingxaki ezimbini zobuntu ezahlukeneyo.

I-BPD ibonakaliswa kukuguquguquka okukhulu kweemvakalelo , ukungazinzi kubudlelwane, kunye nokungakhathali. Abantu abane-BPD banoloyiko olukhulu lokushiywa kwaye banobunzima bokulawula iimvakalelo zabo, ingakumbi umsindo.

Kodwa i-DPD ayisoloko ineemvakalelo ezigqithisileyo okanye ukuziphatha okungacwangciswanga. Abantu abane-DPD badla ngokuthula nokuzithoba , kuba abafuni ukubangela ingxabano kubudlelwane babo.

Zithini iimpawu ze-DPD?

Umntu onesifo sokuxhomekeka kubuntu angabonakalisa iimpawu ezininzi zokuziphatha ezifana nezi:

• Kufuneka uhlale ucela iingcebiso nokuqinisekiswa kwabanye, nokuba usenza izigqibo ezincinci zemihla ngemihla, ezifana nokuba uza kunxiba ntoni okanye uza kutya ntoni .
• Kunzima ukuqala ishishini wedwa kuba awunalo ukuzithemba kwizakhono zakho.
• Ukuziva uloyiko olukhulu lokungakwazi ukuzinyamekela.
• Ukuzinikela ukwenza izinto ezingathandekiyo okanye ezinzima kuba befuna ukufumana inkxaso, uthando, kunye nokukhuselwa ngabanye. Umzekelo, ukwenza umsebenzi womnye umntu nangona kunzima kuye ukwenza njalo, ukubagcina bekufutshane naye.
• Ukunika abanye uxanduva lokwenza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo zobomi.
• Ukuphepha ingxabano nokungabonisi ukungathandi okanye ukuchasa komntu ngenxa yokoyika ukulahlekelwa bubudlelwane okanye ukushiywa ngabanye abantu.
• Akukhululeki kwaye akuncedi nto ukuziva unesizungu.
• Uloyiko lokushiywa kunye nokuziva ungenakunceda kwaye uphelelwe lithemba xa ubudlelwane obusondeleyo buphela.

Abantu abane-DPD badla ngokuthetha kwaye banxibelelane nabantu abambalwa abaxhomekeke kubo, kwaye banamathuba amaninzi okunyamezela ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwesondo, okanye ngokweemvakalelo ngenxa yokoyika ukulahlekelwa bubudlelwane.

Kutheni le DPD isenzeka? Zithini izizathu?

Iingxaki zobuntu, kuquka i-DPD, zezinye zeemeko zempilo yengqondo ezingaqondwa kakuhle, nto leyo ethetha ukuba zisesekwinqanaba lophando. Nangona kunjalo, abaphandi bakholelwa ukuba zininzi izinto ezinokubangela uphuhliso lwe-DPD:

• Ukuxhatshazwa: Abantu abakubudlelwane obudla ngokuba nobundlobongela basengozini enkulu yokuba ne-DPD.
• Ukonzakala ebuntwaneni: I-DPD inokubangelwa kukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokweemvakalelo (kubandakanya ukuxhatshazwa ngamazwi) okanye ukungahoywa ngexesha lobuntwana. Ingachaphazela nabantu abaye bagula sisifo esinzima nesisongela ubomi ngexesha lobuntwana. Khawuthelekelele, xa kufuneka uthembele kwabanye kuyo yonke into ukususela ebuntwaneni, ingaba ngumkhwa kwaye ibe yinxalenye yobuntu bakho.
• I-genetics: Ukuba umntu kusapho lwakho une-DPD okanye esinye isifo sokuxhalaba, usenokuba sengozini enkulu yokuba ne-DPD. Oku kuthetha ukuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba kukho utyekelo lwe-genetic.
• Amasiko athile enkcubeko, enkolo, okanye eentsapho: Kwezinye iimvelaphi zenkcubeko, zonqulo, okanye zeentsapho, abantu bafundiswa ukuba bahlale bethobela kwaye bexhomekeke kubantu abanegunya (umz., abazali, abantu abadala, iinkokeli zonqulo), nto leyo enokuba negalelo kwi-DPD. Ukufundiswa ukumamela yonke into kwaye ungazivezi izimvo zakho nako kunokunceda koku.

Ifunyaniswa njani le meko ye-DPD?

Ubuntu yinto eqhubeka ikhula ebuntwaneni nasebusheni, oko kukuthi, yinto ebumbekayo. Ke ngoko, ababoneleli bezempilo, oko kukuthi, oogqirha, badla ngokuba emva kweminyaka eli-18 kuphela.Umntu ufunyaniswa ene-DPD kuba ezi ndlela zokuziphatha kufuneka zihlale ixesha elide kwaye azitshintshanga kakhulu ngokuhamba kwexesha.

Iingxaki zobuntu, kuquka ne-DPD, zinokuba nzima kakhulu ukuzifumanisa kuba abantu abaninzi abanezi meko abacingi ukuba kukho into engalunganga ngokuziphatha kwabo okanye ngendlela abacinga ngayo. Kubo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo.

Ukuba beza befuna uncedo, kungenxa yeemeko ezifana nokuxhalaba okanye ukudakumba okubangelwa yi-DPD, okanye ngenxa yeengxaki zobudlelwane okanye iingxaki emsebenzini.

Xa umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo , njengogqirha wengqondo okanye ugqirha wengqondo, ekrokrela ukuba umntu unokuba ne-DPD, uhlala ebuza imibuzo ebanzi neqhelekileyo ukuzama ukufumana umfanekiso ocacileyo wale:

• Imbali edlulileyo.
• Ubudlelwane.
• Iinkcukacha zembali yomsebenzi wangaphambili.
• Uvavanyo lokwenyani, oko kukuthi, indlela esibona ngayo ihlabathi lokwenyani.

Umntu orhanelwa ukuba une-DPD usenokungaziqondi kakuhle iindlela zakhe zokuziphatha kunye neendlela zakhe zokucinga. Ngenxa yoko, iingcali zempilo yengqondo zihlala zithetha nosapho kunye nabahlobo baloo mntu ukuze ziqokelele ulwazi oluthe kratya malunga nokuziphatha kwakhe kunye nexesha elidlulileyo.

Iikhrayitheriya ze-DSM-5 zokuxilonga i-DPD

Ababoneleli bezempilo yengqondo baxilonga iDependent Personality Disorder ngokusekwe kwiikhrayitheriya ezikwi-American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5).

Ngokweekhrayitheriya zokuxilonga ze-DPD, ubuncinane ezintlanu kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha zilandelayo kufuneka zijongwe ngendlela eqhubekayo:

• Ubunzima bokwenza izigqibo zemihla ngemihla ngaphandle kweengcebiso ezigqithisileyo kunye nokuqinisekiswa ngabanye.
• Imfuneko yokwabela abanye uxanduva lwezinto ezininzi ezibalulekileyo ebomini.
• Ubunzima bokuvakalisa ukungavisisani ngenxa yokoyika ukulahlekelwa yinkxaso okanye ukuvunywa ngabanye.
• Ubunzima bokuqalisa iiprojekthi wedwa ngenxa yokungazithembi izakhono zakho kunye nokugweba kwakho.
• Umnqweno wokwenza nantoni na (nokuba zizinto ongazithandiyo) ukuze ufumane inkxaso kwabanye.
• Ukuziva ungakhululekanga okanye ungenakunceda xa unesizungu, ngenxa yokoyika ukungakwazi ukuzinyamekela.
• Xa ubudlelwane obusondeleyo buphela, kukho imfuneko enkulu yokwakha ubudlelwane obutsha ngokukhawuleza nomntu oza kubonelela ngenkathalo nenkxaso.
• Ukukhathazeka ngokungeyomfuneko nangokungenasiseko, ucinga ukuba akuyi kuba namntu wokukhathalela, nokuba uza kuba wedwa.

Zithini iindlela zonyango zoku?

Iingxaki zobuntu kunzima kakhulu ukuzinyanga kuba abantu abanezi meko baneendlela ezinzulu ezingqondweni zabo nakwindlela abaziphatha ngayo ebezihlala iminyaka emininzi.

Xa kunyangwa abantu abane-DPD, inkxaso kunye nokubandakanyeka kwabathandekayo babo kubaluleke kakhulu. Unyango ludla ngokubandakanya unyango lwengqondo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha amayeza.

Unyango lwengqondo lwe-DPD

I-Psychotherapy, eyaziwa ngokuba yi-talk therapy, lolona nyango lubalaseleyo lokuphazamiseka kobuntu. Injongo ephambili kukukunceda uchonge izizathu kunye noloyiko olusemva kweengcinga zakho kunye nokuziphatha kwakho. Ukongeza, ungafunda ukunxibelelana nabanye ngendlela eyakhayo nesempilweni.

Iindlela ezimbini ze-psychotherapy ezinokunceda abantu abane-DPD zezi:

• Unyango lwe-Psychodynamic: Olu hlobo lonyango lugxila kwiingcambu zengqondo zoxinzelelo lweemvakalelo. Ngokuzihlolisisa , ujonga nzulu ubudlelwane obunengxaki kunye neendlela zokuziphatha ebomini bakho. Oku kukunceda uziqonde ngcono. Kukwakunceda utshintshe indlela onxulumana ngayo nabanye kunye nendawo okuyo.
• Unyango Lokuziphatha Oluqondayo (i-CBT): Olu nyango lucwangcisiweyo, olujolise kwiinjongo. Ingcali yezonyango okanye ingcali yezengqondo ikunceda ukuba ujonge ngokusondeleyo iingcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho. Ungayiqonda indlela iingcinga zakho ezichaphazela ngayo izenzo zakho. Nge-CBT, ungayeka iingcinga kunye nokuziphatha okubi . Ukwafunda nokuphuhlisa iipateni zokucinga ezisempilweni kunye nemikhwa. Unyango lwe-DPD lunokujongana ngokukodwa noloyiko lwakho lokuzimela kunye nobunzima ngokuzithemba .

Amayeza e-DPD

Okwangoku, akukho mayeza athile anokunyanga iingxaki zobuntu. Nangona kunjalo, kukho amayeza anokunyanga iimeko ezifana nokudakumba kunye nokuxhalaba okunokwenzeka ngaxeshanye kubantu abane-DPD. Ukunyanga ezi meko kunokunceda ekunyangeni i-DPD.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuze ufumane iziphumo ezilungileyo, kufuneka udibanise amayeza kunye nonyango lwengqondo .

Kuza kwenzeka ntoni ukuba ayinyangwa? Iyintoni ingcinga?

Imbonakalo yesifo sokuxhomekeka kubuntu, oko kukuthi, isiphumo, ixhomekeke ekubeni siyanyangwa okanye asinyangwa.

Ukuba ayinyangwa, i-DPD inokubangela oku kulandelayo:

• Ukuvela kwezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo, ezinje ngokudakumba kunye neengxaki zokusebenzisa iziyobisi .
• Iingxaki kubudlelwane kunye nokungakwazi ukuzigcina.
• Umngcipheko okhulayo wokuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokweemvakalelo, okanye ngokwesondo.

Abantu abane-DPD banezinga eliphezulu leembono zokuzibulala kunye nokuzama ukuzibulala. > Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo uneengcinga zokuzibulala, nceda ufumane ingcebiso yezonyango ngokukhawuleza, okanye uxelele umntu omthembayo. Khumbula ukuba kusoloko kukho umntu onokukunceda.

Ngaba i-DPD ingathintelwa?

Ingxaki yokuxhomekeka kubuntu ayinakuthintelwa. Nangona kunjalo, unyango lunokunciphisa iingxaki ezibangelwa yiyo. Ukufuna uncedo ngokukhawuleza xa iimpawu zibonakala kunokunceda ukunciphisa ukuphazamiseka kobomi bomntu, usapho lwakhe, kunye nobuhlobo bakhe.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba i-DPD yimeko yempilo yengqondo. Njengakweyiphi na imeko yempilo yengqondo, ukufuna uncedo ngokukhawuleza xa iimpawu zibonakala kunokunceda ukunciphisa ukuphazamiseka ebomini bakho. Iingcali zempilo yengqondo zinokubonelela ngezicwangciso zonyango ukukunceda ulawule iingcinga zakho kunye nokuziphatha kwakho.

Abantu obathandayo abanesifo se-DPD nabo basenokuba noxinzelelo, ukudakumba, kunye nokwahlukaniswa . Kubalulekile ukunyamekela impilo yakho yengqondo kunye nokufuna uncedo ukuba uhlangabezana nezi mpawu.

Okokugqibela, eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule...

Ngoko ke, ungabona ukuba i-DPD ayilula, kodwa ikhona indlela yokunceda . Ukuba unengxaki efana nale, awuwedwa.

• Ukuqaphela linyathelo lokuqala: Ukuba uziva ngathi unale mpawu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna iingcebiso zeengcali.
• Unyango lunokunceda: Unyango lwengqondo, ingakumbi iindlela ezifana ne-CBT kunye nonyango lwe-Psychodynamic, lunokukunceda utshintshe iindlela zakho zokuziphatha kunye neengcinga zakho ezibangela umlutha.
• Kungcono ukufuna uncedo kwangethuba: Ukufuna uncedo kwangethuba wakuba uqonda ukuba kukho ingxaki kunokuthintela imeko ekubeni mandundu.
• Abantu obathandayo nabo bayayidinga inkxaso: Ukuhlala nomntu one-DPD kunokuba nzima. Bakhuthaze ukuba bacinge ngempilo yabo yengqondo.

Khumbula, unelungelo lokuba namandla ngokwaneleyo okwenza yonke into wedwa. Akubonakalisi ubuthathaka ukucela uncedo kuloo hambo.

Ingxaki yoBuntu obuxhomekekileyo, i-DPD, Impilo Yengqondo, Iingxaki zoBuntu, ixhala, unyango lwengqondo, unyango lokuziphatha