Ngamanye amaxesha sivakalelwa kukuba umhlobo wethu okanye ilungu losapho lwethu alisekho njengaye ngaphambili, ukuba batshintshe kakhulu? Babonakala bekruqukile yinto yonke, kwaye balahlekile. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sinikele ingqalelo koku ngamaxesha anje. Kuba ezinye zezi nguqu zinokuba luphawu lokuba umntu uxinezelekile kakhulu engqondweni, kangangokuba ade acinge ngokuzibulala. Ukuzibulala kunokuthintelwa. Inyathelo lokuqala kukwazi ukuba zeziphi ezi mpawu zesilumkiso kunye nento esifanele siyenze kwimeko enjalo.
Zithini iimpawu zesilumkiso? Masihlale silumkile.
Abantu abacinga ngokuzibulala abafuni ukufa, kodwa bafuna ukufa kuba becinga ukuba akukho ndlela yimbi yokubaleka intlungu abakuyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu uthetha ngezi zinto, musa ukuzithatha njengengozi. Ukuba ubona naziphi na iimpawu ezingezantsi kumntu osondeleyo kuwe, funa uncedo ngokukhawuleza.
| Isilumkiso | Kuthetha ukuthini oku? (Kuthetha ukuthini oku?) |
|---|---|
| Ukusoloko ethetha ngokufa | Basenokuthetha izinto ezinje, “Ndivakalelwa kukuba ndiyafa,” “Akukho sizathu sokuphila,” okanye basenokuthetha ngokufa ngalo lonke ixesha, babhale ngako, baze bafunde ngako. Basenokukhangela kwi-intanethi iindlela zokuzibulala. |
| Ucwangciso | Benza izinto ezinje ngokunika abanye izinto zabo, babhale umyolelo wokugqibela, baze bathi ndlela-ntle kubo bonke abantu. Abanye basenokubhala nenqaku lokuzibulala. |
| Ukurhoxiswa | Bayayeka ukuba nabahlobo abasondeleyo kunye nosapho. Bayaphelelwa ngumdla kwizinto ababezithanda ngaphambili. Bayaphepha imisitho yoluntu kunye neendibano. Bazama ukuba bodwa ngokupheleleyo. |
| Ukubonisa ukukhungatheka okukhulu | Ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo ngentlungu enganyamezelekiyo. Ukuveza iimvakalelo ezinje ngokuthi "Ndingumthwalo kubo bonke abantu." Ukuthetha ngekamva ngendlela engenathemba. |
| Utshintsho olukhulu ekuziphatheni nasekulaleleni | Badla ngokubonisa isimo sengqondo sokucaphuka, umsindo, nosizi. Kodwa ngequbuliso, emva kokwenza isigqibo sokuzibulala, banokubonisa ukuzola okungaqhelekanga. Basenokulala kakhulu okanye kakhulu. |
| Ukusetyenziswa kotywala okanye iziyobisi | Ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi notywala kwandisa umngcipheko wokuzibulala. Abantu banokulingeka ukuba basebenzise ezi zinto ukuze bathomalalise iintlungu zabo okanye bazilimaze. |
| Ukuziphatha okunobungozi | Bayalingeka ukuba benze izinto eziyingozi ngaphandle kokujonga ubomi babo, njengokusela utywala nokuqhuba imoto kunye nokubandakanyeka kwiintlobano zesini ezinobungozi. |
Lumka ngakumbi ngabantu abanjalo (Izinto Ezinobungozi)
Abanye abantu basengozini enkulu yokucinga ngokuzibulala. Ukuba umntu osondeleyo kuwe unenye okanye ngaphezulu kwezi meko zingezantsi, kubalulekile ukuba umnike ingqalelo engakumbi.
Khawuthelekelele umhlobo wakho ebenengxaki yokudakumba okukhulu ixesha elide. Okwangoku, uphulukene nomsebenzi wakhe. Xa ezi meko zimbini zidibana, kusenokwenzeka ukuba akhathazeke kakhulu bubomi.
Sixhalabele ngakumbi abantu abaneengxaki ezifana nezi:
- Isifo sengqondo: Ingakumbi abo banezifo zengqondo ezifana nokudakumba kunye nesifo sengqondo esibizwa ngokuba yi-bipolar disorder.
- Ukuxhomekeka kwiziyobisi okanye utywala: Oku kuchaphazela ukusebenza kwengqondo kwaye kukhokelela ekuhendweni kokwenza izigqibo ngokungxama.
- Isifo esinzima somzimba: Uxinzelelo lokuphila nentlungu engapheliyo okanye isifo esinganyangekiyo.
- Ilahleko enkulu ebomini: ukusweleka komntu omthandayo, ukuqhawuka kobudlelwane, okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi.
- Iingxaki ezinkulu zomthetho okanye zemali: Ukungabi nanto yakwenza ngenxa yomthwalo wamatyala onganyamezelekiyo okanye ingxaki yezomthetho.
- Iziganeko ezibuhlungu okanye ukuxhatshazwa:Ukonzakala okanye ukuxhatshazwa okukhulu okwenzeke ebuntwaneni okanye kutshanje.
Singanceda njani?
Ungaze ungazinanzi naziphi na iimpawu ezilumkisayo ezifana nale. Ukungenelela kwakho okuncinci kunye nenkxaso yakho kunokusindisa ubomi bomntu.
1. Thetha ungoyiki
Musa ukoyika ukubuza umntu omkhathaleleyo ngale nto. Ukumbuza ngokuthe ngqo, "Ngaba uneengcinga zokuzibulala?", "Ngaba udandathekile?", "Ndingakunceda?" akuyi kuzenza zibe mbi ngakumbi ezo ngcinga. Enyanisweni, ukuthetha ngayo kunokuba luncedo kakhulu. Kuya kubenza bazive ngathi ababodwa, ukuba kukho umntu obajongileyo. Kuya kusinceda siqonde ubunzulu bemeko kwaye sithathe inyathelo ngokukhawuleza.
2. Bakhuthaze ukuba bafune uncedo lweengcali.
Ungamnceda, kodwa uncedo lobuchwephesha lubalulekile ukuze ujongane nemeko efana nale.
- Bakhuthaze ukuba babone umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo okanye ugqirha wakho ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, ungaya nabo kugqirha.
- Bazise ngeenkonzo ezikhethekileyo zefowuni abanokuzifowunela kwiimeko ezinjalo. I-National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) yaseSri Lanka inomnxeba osebenza iiyure ezingama-24 ongu-1926. Kwakhona, imibutho yokuzithandela efana ne-'Sumithrayo' nayo iyanceda kule nkalo. Yabelana nabo ngolu lwazi.
3. Thatha inyathelo xa kukho imeko engxamisekileyo
Ukuba umntu uthi into efana nokuthi “Ndiza kufa ngoku” aze azame ukuzenzakalisa, yingxamiseko leyo.
- Musa ukumshiya yedwa nangasiphi na isizathu.
- Zama ukumgcina ezolile kangangoko unako.
- Susa ngoxolo nangononophelo naziphi na izinto eziyingozi anokuba nazo, njengeepilisi nezixhobo ezibukhali.
- Funa uncedo kwabo bakufutshane ngoko nangoko.
- Ukuba kunokwenzeka, mthathe umse kwiYunithi yoNyango oluNgxamisekileyo (ETU) yesibhedlele esikufutshane ngokukhuselekileyo.
Khumbula, indima yakho ayikokuba ngumcebisi wemisebenzi, kodwa indima yakho kukuba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo, umhlobo olungileyo, kwaye umkhokelele kwinkxaso efanelekileyo yobungcali.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Iingcinga zokuzibulala zibangelwa kukuxinezeleka kwengqondo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqaphela ezi mpawu zilumkisayo.
- Ukuba umntu uthetha ngokufa, ukuzikhupha eluntwini, okanye ukutshintsha okukhulu kwindlela aziphethe ngayo okanye ebuthongweni, musa ukungayinaki loo nto.
- Musa ukoyika ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo ngengxaki kwaye ubamamele. Oku kunokubanceda bazive ngcono kwaye kukuncede uqonde imeko.
- Kwimeko kaxakeka, musa ukumshiya yedwa umntu uze umse kwiSebe lezeMpilo eziNgxamisekileyo (ETU) elikufutshane. Fowunela ugqirha wakho okanye utsalele umnxeba ku-1926 ukuze ufumane uncedo lobuchwephesha.
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