Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha uziva udiniwe yinto yonke, ungafuni kwenza nto, kwaye uzive udandathekile kwaye ulusizi? Xa uziva ngolo hlobo, ngaba ufuna unyango ngenxa yalo? Okanye, awucingi nokucinga ngalo? Enyanisweni, awuwedwa ohlupheka ngolu hlobo. Baninzi abantu abahlupheka ngolu hlobo loxinzelelo lwengqondo, okanye into esiyibiza ngokuba yi-'(Depression)', kodwa abafuni unyango ngenxa yalo. Iziphumo zoku zinokuba zimbi kakhulu. Kungaba kukubandezeleka komntu, ukungakwazi ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe ngokufanelekileyo, ukuphazamiseka kobomi bosapho, ukuphuhliswa kwezinye izifo, kwaye kwezinye iimeko ezigqithisileyo, nokuba ucinge ngokuphelisa ubomi bakho.
Kutheni ke ngoko soyika kangaka ukucela uncedo? Kutheni sizibamba kangaka? Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukubuza abantu abangeziyo kunyango ukuba kutheni. Kuba abaziyo ukuza kusibona. Kodwa ekugqibeleni, xa ekugqibeleni begqiba kwelokuba baze kubona ugqirha, basixelela ukuba kutheni babesoyika ukuza kwasekuqaleni kwaye kutheni bengazinzanga.
Ziziphi izizathu ezisithintelayo ekufuneni unyango?
Ukuba uziva ulusizi kwaye uxinezelekile kwaye uzama ukumelana nobunzima bodwa, khangela ukuba naziphi na izizathu ezingezantsi ziyasebenza na kuwe. Ukuba kunjalo, landela la macebiso ukuze ususe loo mbono iphosakeleyo kwaye ufumane uncedo olufunayo.
Khumbula, ukudakumba akubobuthathaka. Yimeko yezonyango efuna unyango.
Makhe sijonge iingcamango eziphambili eziphosakeleyo malunga noku kunye neempendulo ezinokunikwa zona.
| Oko ukucingayo (ingcamango engeyiyo) | Imeko yokwenyani (inyani yezonyango) |
|---|---|
| "Oku kuza kundinceda ekuhambeni kwexesha." | Nangona intlungu eqhelekileyo isenokuphela ngokuhamba kwexesha, ukudandatheka kwengqondo akupheli ngaphandle konyango. Kunokuba mandundu. |
| "Ndiyoyika ukusela amayeza. Kuza kufuneka ndiwasele ubomi bam bonke." | Amayeza asisosisombululo sodwa. Iindlela zonyango ezifana ne-psychotherapy nazo ziyasebenza kakhulu. Nokuba usela amayeza, azisebenzi ubomi bakho bonke. |
| "Andisoloko ndibuhlungu. Ngoko ke ndifumana phi uxinezeleko?" | Uxinzelelo alusoloko luzibonakalisa ngokudakumba okanye ukukhala kuphela, kodwa lunokuzibonakalisa nangeempawu zomzimba ezifana nokudinwa, iintlungu zomzimba, kunye nokungalali. |
| "Ndineentloni zokuthetha nogqirha ngale nto." | Le yimeko eqhelekileyo yezonyango, njengesifo seswekile kunye ne-cholesterol ephezulu. Asinto yokuhlazeka. Ugqirha wakho ukuvile oku kakhulu. |
| "Ndiyoyika ukuthetha ngezinto ezibuhlungu kwakhona." | Umcebisi okanye ingcali yonyango ayizukukungxama. Baza kukukhokela ukuba uthethe ngesantya sakho, ngesantya esikulungeleyo. |
Ingaba kuyingozi ngokwenene ukungafumani unyango?
Ewe. Ukulinda "kuza kuba ngcono ngokuhamba kwexesha" kuyingozi kakhulu. Ngamafutshane, ukudakumba okunganyangwanga kunokuba mandundu. Okukhona ulinda ixesha elide ukuqala unyango, kokukhona kunzima ukululawula, kwaye kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba luphinde lubuye emva kokuba unyango luyekisiwe.
Akuphelelanga apho, ngoku kuye kwacaca ukuba uxinzelelo olunganyangwanga lunokukhokelela ekuphuhlisweni kwezinye izifo ezinzulu okanye ekubeni izifo ezikhoyo zibe mandundu.
- Isifo sentliziyo: Kukho unxibelelwano oluqinileyo phakathi koxinzelelo nesifo sentliziyo.
- Ezinye izifo: Uphando lubonisa ukuba kukho unxibelelwano neemeko ezifana nokutyeba kakhulu, isifo seswekile, isifo sika-Alzheimer kunye nomhlaza.
Ngoko ke into omawuyenze: Musa ukuvumela ukudakumba kwakho kulawule ubomi bakho. Qiniseka ukuba uthetha nogqirha wakho. Ukuba unengxaki yokucinga ngokufumana unyango lwesifo sengqondo, khumbula ukuba ukufumana unyango kunokukunceda uphephe izifo ezinzulu ezifana nesifo sentliziyo.
Ukoyika amayeza nezinye iindlela
"Ndiyoyika ukusela amayeza, ndiyoyika ukuba ndiza kuba likhoboka lawo." Esi sesona sizathu siphambili sokuba abantu abaninzi boyike ukufuna unyango. Abanye abantu bacinga ukuba, "Andifuni ukusela amayeza ubomi bam bonke."
Liyinyaniso elokuba amayeza okudakumba asebenza kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, xa sithetha ngonyango, asisoloko sithetha ngamayeza. Kule mihla, kukho ezinye iindlela zonyango ezisebenzayo kunye namayeza. Oko kukuthi, unyango lwengqondo.
Yintoni unyango lwengqondo?
Ngamafutshane, olu lunyango oluthetha kakhulu. Umzekelo, indlela yonyango edumileyo ebizwa ngokuba yi-`(Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy - CBT)`. Oku kubandakanya:
- Ukunikel' ingqalelo kwisipho sakho.
- Ukujonga iimvakalelo zakho, iingcinga zakho, kunye neendlela oziphethe ngazo, uze uqonde indlela ezichaphazela ngayo ubomi bakho.
- Ngaloo nto, inceda ukuphucula umgangatho wobomi bakho nokunciphisa uxinzelelo.
Le ndlela yonyango inokuba luncedo njengamayeza kwixesha elifutshane. Ngamanye amaxesha, iziphumo zihlala ixesha elide kuneyeza.
Ngoko ke into omawuyenze: Bona ugqirha wengqondo (umcebisi, ugqirha wengqondo) kunye nogqirha wosapho lwakho. Nokuba ufuna amayeza, mhlawumbi akayi kuba yinto yobomi bonke. Musa ukusekela izigqibo zakho kwinto ethethwa ngabanye abantu ngamayeza. Wonke umntu usabela ngokwahlukileyo kumayeza.
Ungayisusa njani intloni kunye noloyiko?
"Ndineentloni zokuthetha ngale nto"
Abantu abaninzi abafuni uncedo ngeengxaki zempilo yengqondo kuba beneentloni okanye besoyika ukukhutshelwa ngaphandle. Kodwa inyani yile, ukudakumba akuyonto ifanelekileyo ukuba neentloni ngayo. Yimeko eqhelekileyo yezonyango efuna unyango, njengesifo seswekile okanye i-cholesterol ephezulu.
Kwaye le yimeko eqhelekileyo kakhulu. Ngoko ke ugqirha wakho mhlawumbi ukhe weva izinto ombuza zona izihlandlo ezilikhulu lamawaka ngaphambili. Akukho nto uyithethayo intsha kuye.
Ngoko ke into omawuyenze: Khumbula, wonke umntu uyadlula koku ngaxa lithile ebomini bakhe. Ugqirha wakho akayi kuxelela mntu ukuba uthini. Yimfihlo. Ukuba useneentloni zokuthetha nogqirha wakho, cinga ngokujonga ezinye iinkonzo zempilo yengqondo apho unokufumana khona uncedo.
"Ndiyoyika ukuthetha ngezinto ezibuhlungu"
Abanye abantu bayoyika ukufuna unyango kuba becinga ukuba kuya kufuneka bakhuphe zonke izinto ezibuhlungu ezingqondweni zabo. Bacinga, "Owu, andinakuphinda ndithethe ngaloo nto."
Yinyani, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uthethe ngaloo mava abuhlungu ukuze uphile. Kodwa, ingcali yezonyango elungileyo ayisoze ikunyanzele. Uyazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho nomntu ongamaziyo. Uya kukukhokela ngobunono kule nkqubo. Akasoze akunyusele kwinqanaba ongakhululekanga kulo.
Ngoko ke into omawuyenze: Fumana ingcali yezonyango onokuziva ukhululekile ukuthetha nayo. Babuze imibuzo kangangoko bakubuza kona. Babuze ukuba unyango luhamba njani. Nokuba lubuhlungu, kuxhomekeke kuwe ukuba wenze isigqibo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Uxinzelelo lwengqondo okanyeUkudakumba yimeko yokwenyani yempilo. Asikuko ubuvila okanye ubuthathaka bengqondo.
- Musa ukulinda ide "ibe ngcono ngokuhamba kwexesha." Ukuba ayinyangwa , inokuba mandundu ize ikhokelele kwezinye izifo zomzimba .
- Unyango alusoloko luthetha amayeza. Unyango lwengqondo lusebenza kakhulu.
- Iimpawu zomzimba ezifana nokudinwa, iintlungu zomzimba, kunye neengxaki zokulala nazo zinokuba ziimpawu zoxinzelelo .
- Musa ukuba neentloni okanye ukoyika ukucela uncedo. Ukubona ugqirha okanye umcebisi lolona ncedo lukhulu onokulunika wena.
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