Ukuba unabantwana ababini okanye abathathu ekhaya, ngaba uhlala uziva ngathi ungumcimi-mlilo? Xa ugqiba ukulwa kwindawo enye, kuqala kwenye. Omnye umntu uhlekisa ngomnye, abizana ngamagama, alwe, atyholane... Kufuneka ukuba udiniwe kakhulu yiyo yonke le nto, akunjalo? Ungakhathazeki, oku akupheleli nje ekhayeni lakho. Kuqhelekile ukuba abazalwana noodade babe neengxabano ezinje xa abantwana bekhula. Nangona kunjalo, awunakuyamkela nje njengento eqhelekileyo. Ukuba le meko ayilawulwa kakuhle, inokukhokelela kumsindo nenzondo ebantwaneni eya kuhlala ide ikhule. Ke, namhlanje siza kuthetha ngezinto ezi ngxabano zabazalwana noodade , zibangelwa yintoni, kwaye thina njengabazali sinokuyilawula njani le meko ngendlela ephilileyo.
Kutheni abantwana belwa ngolu hlobo?
Ngamafutshane, ukhuphiswano phakathi kwabazalwana lumona, ukhuphiswano, kunye nokulwa okuvela phakathi kwabazalwana. Ukubizana ngamagama, ukwenza amahlaya angenabubele, ukugxekana, kunye nokusoloko bekhalaza ukuba ngabo bodwa abaphathwa kakubi konke oku kuyinxalenye yoko .
Cinga ngale nto, xa umntwana omtsha ejoyina intsapho, umntwana omdala usenokuziva ngathi akafumani ngqwalasela ingako. Oku kunokukhokelela ekubeni nomona omncinci. Kwakhona, izinto ezifana nomahluko weminyaka phakathi kwabantwana, ubuntu babo, kunye nobukhulu bentsapho zinokuchaphazela oku. Ngamanye amaxesha, iingxabano ezinkulu zinokuvela ngenxa yethoyi, i-remote yeTV, okanye kwanengqwalasela yabazali. Le yinxalenye nje yohambo lwabantwana abakhula. Into ebalulekileyo kukuqonda ukuba, njengabazali, kufuneka singenelele nini kwaye kufuneka sibavumele nini abantwana ukuba bazibonele ngokwabo.
Amanyathelo asi-8 asebenzayo okulawula iingxabano zabantwana bomnye nomnye
Nangona singenakuziphelisa ngokupheleleyo ezi ngxabano, singazinciphisa size sincede ekwakheni ubudlelwane obuhle phakathi kwabantwana .
1. Yenza imeko-bume yasekhaya ibe ngumzekelo.
Abantwana bafunda lukhulu xa besibukela. Ukuba abazali bahlala bekhwaza kwaye belwa, bevala iingcango, okanye benomsindo ngaphandle kokuthetha, awunakulindela nto ingcono kubantwana bakho. Yiba ngumzekelo omhle kubantwana bakho. Bonisa abantwana bakho indlela yokusombulula iingxaki ngokuhlonelana, ukuqonda iimfuno zomnye nomnye, nokusebenzisana.
2. Yeka ukulebhelisha nokuthelekisa abantwana.
Wonke umntwana wahlukile. Wonke umntu unamandla akhe kunye nobuthathaka bakhe obahlukileyo. Ukuthelekisa umntwana nomnye kuvelisa ukhuphiswano kunye nomona. Ungaze uthi izinto ezinje, "Khangela indlela udadewenu afunda nzima ngayo kwaye efumana amanqaku amahle, kutheni wena ungenakukwazi?" Endaweni yoko, xabisa amandla omntwana ngamnye.
3. Beka imithetho ecacileyo yokuziphatha kakuhle
KulungileBacacisele abantwana bakho ukuba yintoni eyamkelekileyo nengamkelekanga. Beka imithetho ekhaya ethi izinto ezifana nokubetha, ukuthuka, kunye nokuhlazisa abanye azivumelekanga. Kwakhona, qiniseka ukuba ubeka imiphumo ecacileyo yokwaphula loo mithetho (umz., ixesha lokudlala elincitshisiweyo). Kwakhona, qiniseka ukuba uyabancoma kwaye ubavuza abantwana bakho ngokuziphatha kwabo okuhle xa behloniphana kwaye bezama ukusombulula iingxaki ngokuthetha ngezinto.
4. Qonda umahluko phakathi 'kokulingana' kunye 'nobulungisa'
Ukulingana nobulungisa zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Khawuthelekelele ukuvumela umntwana omdala abukele iTV kude kube yintsimbi ye-9 ebusuku, kodwa uxelele umntwana omncinci ukuba alale ngo-8 ebusuku. Umntwana omncinci usenokucinga ukuba oku akulunganga. Into ebalulekileyo apha kukuchazela abantwana bakho izizathu zesigqibo sakho. Kulula ukuba abantwana baqonde ukuba uthi into efana nale, "Umntakwenu mdala kunonyana wakho, ngoko ke angahlala ephaphile ixesha elide. Umncinci, ngoko ke udinga ukulala okungakumbi. Xa ukhula, ungenza okufanayo."
5. Nika umntwana ngamnye ixesha elahlukileyo.
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Chitha imizuzu eli-10 ngosuku wedwa nomntwana ngamnye. Ngeli xesha, mphulaphule ngononophelo. Mnike ithuba lokuthetha ngezinto azicingayo kunye neengxaki anazo nabantakwabo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana azive ngathi "uMama noTata bandikhathalele nam" ukuze azithembe.
6. Fundisa iindlela zokusombulula iingxaki
Akwanelanga ukuthi nje, "Musa ukulwa." Kufuneka ufundise abantwana bakho indlela yokusombulula ingxabano xa isenzeka.
- Xa ucaphukile, endaweni yokukhwaza, ziqhelise ukuveza iimvakalelo zakho ngokuthi "Ndiziva ndilusizi" okanye "Ndiziva ndinomsindo."
- Ziqhelise ukumamela xa omnye umntu ethetha.
- Nceda ufumane isisombululo (uthethathethwano) apho omabini amaqela anokuvumelana khona.
7. Bamba iintlanganiso zeentsapho
Kungumkhwa omhle ukuba nentlanganiso encinci yosapho kube kanye ngeveki. Ningathetha ngemiba eqhelekileyo yasekhaya kunye nezicwangciso zeveki elandelayo. Wonke umntu ufumana ithuba lokuveza izimvo zakhe apha. Oku kunceda abantwana bafunde ukusebenza kunye njengeqela kunye nokuhlonipha izimvo zabanye.
Ufanele ufune nini uncedo lweengcali?
Ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba uzama kangakanani na, awukwazi ukulawula ezi ngxabano. Ukuba iingxaki ziya zisanda kwaye uziva ngathi imeko iya isiba mandundu, akukho ntloni ukufuna uncedo lweengcali. Yindlela entle yokubonisa ukuba ubakhathalele kangakanani abantwana bakho.
Khumbula, ukucela uncedo xa ingxaki iba nkulu kakhulu ukuba ingalawuleki akubonisi ubuthathaka, kodwa kubonisa amandla.
Kwiimeko ezilandelayo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha nogqirha wakho, kwaye ukuba kuyimfuneko, cela uncedo kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo yomntwana .
| Uphawu lwengozi | Indlela yokuqonda |
|---|---|
| Impembelelo kulwalamano lwabazali | Ukuba iingxaki zihlala zivela phakathi kwabazali ngenxa yokulwa kwabantwana, baze batyholane. |
| Kukho isoyikiso sokwenzakala emzimbeni. | Ukuba umntwana omnye wenzakalisa omnye umntwana kakhulu okanye usongela ngokwenza njalo. |
| Impembelelo kwimpilo yengqondo | Ukuba ezi ngxabano zonakalisa ukuzihlonipha komntwana okanye elinye ilungu losapho, ukuba bahlala bexhalabile kwaye besoyika. |
| Unxulumano nezinye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo | Ingxabano phakathi kwabantwana bakowenu isenokuba luphawu okanye imbangela yesinye isifo sengqondo, njengoxinzelelo emntwaneni. |
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Iingxabano phakathi kwabazalwana noodade ziqhelekile. Musa ukuziva unetyala ngaloo nto.
- Indima yakho ayikokuba ngumgwebi, kodwa kukuba ngumntu okhokela nophulaphula abantwana.
- Endaweni yokuthelekisa abantwana, bancome ngeziphiwo zabo.
- Fundisa abantwana bakho iindlela ezisebenzayo zokusombulula iingxabano. Oku kuya kuba sisakhono esibalulekileyo kubo bonke ubomi babo.
- Ukuba iingxabano azinakulawuleka, ungaze ungathandabuzi ukuthetha nogqirha wakho kwaye ucele iingcebiso zeengcali.
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