Unyango lwempilo yengqondo oluchasene nentando yakho? Masifunde ngokuzibophelela ngokuzibophelela eNirogi Lanka

Ngamanye amaxesha, sidlula kwiimeko ezinzima ngendlela engenakucingelwa ebomini, akunjalo? Ingakumbi xa kufikwa kwimpilo yengqondo , abanye abantu basenokungazi nokuba bafuna uncedo. Ngamaxesha anjalo, kukho amaxesha apho umntu anokufuna ukuthunyelwa kunyango ngenxa yokhuseleko lwakhe, nokuba akafuni. Namhlanje, siza kuthetha ngombandela obuthathaka, kodwa obaluleke kakhulu: 'Ukuzibophelela ngokungathandabuziyo'.

Yintoni 'Ukuzibophelela Okungenakuzithandela'?

Ngamafutshane, 'Ukuzibophelela Ngokunganyanzelekanga' kubhekisa kwinkqubo esemthethweni yokukwamkela kwicandelo lezonyango zengqondo ukuze unyangwe imeko yempilo yengqondo enzima ngaphandle kwentando yakho. Ukuva oku kunokukwenza uzive usoyika okanye unomsindo. Usenokuzibuza, "Bangakwenza njani oku ngaphandle kwemvume yam?" Impendulo yakho ifanelekile ngokupheleleyo.

Nangona kunjalo, eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyiqonde kukuba oku akwenzelwanga ukukulimaza okanye ukukuhlukanisa. Iqela lakho lezonyango , kunye nenkundla efanelekileyo (edla ngokubizwa ngokuba yinkundla yokugweba), basebenzisana ukumisela ixesha elifanelekileyo kunye nohlobo lonyango olufunekayo. Okubaluleke kakhulu, ngaphandle komyalelo wenkundla, akukho mntu unokukunyanzela amayeza engqondo.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, isigqibo sokuzibophelela ngokungazikhetheli senziwa ukuba imeko yempilo yengqondo ikubeka emngciphekweni wokuzilimaza (ukuzibulala) okanye abanye (ukuzibulala). Ngamanye amaxesha, eli nyathelo linokuba yimfuneko ukuba imeko iba mandundu kangangokuba awukwazi ukwenza unonophelo olusisiseko, njengokutya okanye ukunxiba.

Ukuba umntu ucela oku egameni lakho, nceda ungakuboni njengohlaselo lomntu. Akukho mntu uzama ukukuvalela okanye ukukulimaza. Injongo yodwa kukuqinisekisa ukhuseleko lwakho nokuthintela iziphumo ezinokuba yingozi ebomini ezinokuvela ngaphandle kokungenelela.

Zeziphi iingxaki zempilo yengqondo ezinceda ngokwenene oku?

Usenokuba uzibuza, "Luhlobo luni lweemeko ezinzima ezikhokelela kunyango oluyimfuneko?" Enyanisweni, inkqubo eyaziwa ngokuba kukuzinikela ngokunganyanzelekanga yenzelwe ukuxhasa abantu ngexesha leengxaki ezithile zempilo yengqondo . Nceda ukhumbule ukuba oku akusetyenziswa kuye wonke umntu onesifo sempilo yengqondo. Le ndlela iqwalaselwa kuphela ukuba kukho umngcipheko osondeleyo wokwenzakalisa wena okanye abanye .

Nazi ezinye zezo meko:

• Iimeko zempilo yengqondo ezifana neSchizophrenia: Ezi meko zingakhokelela ekubeni ungaqhelani nenyaniso.
• Izifo zengqondo ezifana nokudakumba okukhulu kunye nesifo sengqondo esiguquguqukayo: Ezi zinokubangela ukuguquguquka okukhulu kweemvakalelo, ngamanye amaxesha zikhokelela kwintlungu enkulu yeemvakalelo kunye neengcinga zokuzilimaza.
• Ingqondo ebangelwa kukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi: Izinto ezithile zinokubangela ukungazinzi kwengqondo okwethutyana, okuqatha.
• Ingcinga yokuzibulala: Ukuba umntu uhlala ecinga ngokuzibulala, oku kuthathwa njengengxamiseko enkulu.
• Isifo sengqondo esixhalabisayo esineempawu zengqondo ezinxulumene naso: Ukuwohloka kwengqondo ngamanye amaxesha kunokuhamba neengxaki zengqondo ezibangela uxinzelelo.

Nangona le ndlela ingeyoyamntu wonke, iba yindlela ebalulekileyo xa imeko yakho yengqondo ibeka umngcipheko okhawulezileyo kukhuseleko lwakho okanye kwabo bakungqongileyo.

Zeziphi iikhrayitheriya ekufuneka zifezekiswe kolu hlobo lokudluliselwa?

Makhe sijonge iimfuno zonyango olungenakuzikhethela. Esi asisosigqibo esiqhelekileyo; yinkqubo yomthetho yoluntu elawulwa yimigaqo ethile yokuqinisekisa ukuba amalungelo akho akhuselekile.

Iikhrayitheriya eziphambili ezihlala ziqwalaselwa zezi:

• Unemeko enzima yempilo yengqondo eyonakalisa kakhulu indlela obona ngayo izinto, indlela oziva ngayo , indlela ogweba ngayo izinto, kunye nendlela oziphatha ngayo. Oku kunokwenza kube nzima ukwahlula inyani kwizinto ezikhohlisayo okanye kubangele ubundlobongela obungalawulekiyo.
• Ezi mpawu zibeka impilo okanye ukhuseleko lwakho esichengeni ngoko nangoko, okanye ukhuseleko lwabanye abantu . Umzekelo, ukuveza iinjongo ezicacileyo zokuzilimaza okanye ukuziphatha ngogonyamelo kwabanye.
• Ubunzima bemeko yakho bukuthintela ekunyamekeleni iimfuno zakho ezisisiseko , ezinje ngokutya, ukunxiba, okanye ukufuna indawo yokuhlala.
• Unyango lwesibhedlele olulaliswayo lufunyaniswa ukuba luluncedo kakhulu ekunyangeni kwakho.

Apha eNirogi Lanka, sibeka phambili imeko-bume engemida ingako kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ukuba iimfuno zakho zinokufezekiswa ngeenkonzo zonyango lwangaphandle, loo ndlela iya kuhlala ikhethwa kunokwamkelwa esibhedlele.

Isebenza njani inkqubo 'yokuzibophelela ngokunganyanzelekanga'?

Nangona inkqubo inokwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kwimithetho yoluntu yasekuhlaleni kunye nezenzo zengingqi, ngokubanzi ilandela la manyathelo:

1. Ukuqalisa isicelo:Umntu ochaphazelekayo—njengelungu losapho, umhlobo, ugqirha, unontlalontle, okanye igosa lomthetho—uqala inkqubo yokuzibophelela kuluntu ngokufikelela kwiingcali zempilo yengqondo ezifanelekileyo.

2. Ukuthunyelwa kwezonyango: Kwezinye iimeko, abantu abasabela kwimeko kaxakeka banokukusa kwigumbi likaxakeka ukuze uhlolwe ngumboneleli wezempilo.

3. Uvavanyo lwezonyango: Ugqirha uza kukuvavanya ukuze abone ukuba uyahlangabezana na neemfuno ezithile zokuzibophelela ngokungenakuzithandela.

4. Ukwamkelwa kwiziko lezonyango zengqondo: Ukuba ugqirha ugqiba kwelokuba imigaqo iyafezekiswa, uza kungeniswa kwiziko lezonyango zengqondo elilaliswe esibhedlele ukuze uzinziswe kwaye unyanyekelwe.

5. Ukuhlolwa kweNkundla: Inkundla ingacwangciswa ukuze kugqitywe ukuba unyango oluqhubekayo nolungenamdla luyimfuneko na ngokwezonyango.

Phakathi kwamanyathelo 3 kunye no-4, ungabanjwa ixesha elifutshane lokujonga imeko engxamisekileyo (ngokuqhelekileyo iiyure ezingama-72). Eli xesha livumela iqela lezonyango ukuba lizinzise iimpawu zakho. Emva kweli xesha, unokukhetha ukutshintshela kunyango lokuzithandela lwezigulane ezilaliswe ngaphakathi ukuba unako ukuthatha inxaxheba ekuchacheni kwakho. Kuyo yonke le nkqubo, amalungelo akho kunye nokhuseleko zezona zinto ziphambili kuthi.

Zithini iziphumo zonyango olungenanjongo?

Ukwamkelwa ngonyango ngaphandle kwentando yakho kuqulathe amacala amahle nanzima. Kwelinye icala, kunokusindisa ubomi bakho kwaye kukunike ithuba lesibini, elilelona siphumo sibalulekileyo.

Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuvuma ukuba ukwamkelwa ngaphandle kweminqweno yakho kunokukhokelela kwintlungu enkulu, uloyiko, kunye neemvakalelo zokungabi namandla . Kwezinye iimeko, eli thuba linokuba negalelo kwiimeko ezifana nePost -Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) .

Ukuzibophelela (Ukuzibophelela ngokunganyanzelekanga) kunokubangela la mava alandelayo:

• Ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla kunye nenkqubo yakho yemihla ngemihla isenokuphazamiseka .
• Usenokuziva ngathi ungcatshiwe , ingakumbi ukuba abantu obathandayo bebebandakanyekile kule nkqubo.
• Usenokuba neengxaki zemali .
• Ukuzimela kwakho siqu kunokubonakala kulinganiselwe ngexesha lokuhlala kwakho esibhedlele.
• Usenokukufumanisa kunzima ukugcina ukuthembana kwinkqubo yezempilo okanye kwiiarhente zogcino-mthetho .

Ngamanye amaxesha, ngaphambi kokuba ungeniswe esibhedlele, usenokungabuqondi ngokupheleleyo ubunzima beempawu zakho. Nangona kunjalo, uphando oluninzi lubonisa ukuba xa izigulana zifumana unyango eziludingayo kwaye ziphilile, zihlala ziyiqonda indima ebalulekileyo eyadlalwa yi-(Involuntary Commitment) ekuchacheni kwazo.

Nangona iimvakalelo zomsindo okanye usizi malunga "nokunyanzelwa" ukuba unyamekelwe ziqhelekile ekuqaleni, abantu abaninzi kamva bacinga, "Ndilapha ndikhoyo namhlanje ngenxa yoncedo endandilufumana ngelo xesha."

Kuza kufuneka ndibe kunyango ixesha elingakanani?

Ubude bonyango lwakho buxhomekeke kwiimfuno zakho ezithile zeklinikhi. Njengoko le yinkqubo yezomthetho, inkundla iya kubamba iindibano rhoqo (iindibano) ukuze ihlole imeko yakho. Oku kunokwenzeka ngeentsuku ezisi-7, ezili-14, okanye ezingama-30, kuxhomekeke kwiimeko. Ukuba uyaqhubeka nokuhlangabezana (nemigaqo yokuzibophelela kuluntu)—oko kuthetha ukuba uhlala usemngciphekweni wokwenzakala kuwe okanye kwabanye—ukuqhubeka nokulaliswa esibhedlele kunokufuneka.

Uphando lubonisa ukuba umngcipheko wokuzibulala unokuba phezulu kwiinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala emva kokuphuma esibhedlele. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukwakha (inkqubo yenkxaso) eqinileyo (kunye nokunxibelelana nezixhobo zasekuhlaleni) onokufikelela kuzo nanini na xa uziva uxinezelekile. ESri Lanka, ungafumana inkxaso ngeenkonzo ezifana neSumithrayo (1333) okanye iCCCline (1926) ukuba kuyimfuneko.

Kungokwemvelo ukuba neemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo—ezifana nokuziva ujongelwa phantsi okanye ungaviwa—xa ukwimeko apho uziva ngathi awunalawulo. Le yindlela eqhelekileyo yokusabela ngexesha lenkqubo (yokuzibophelela ngokunganyanzelekanga).

Nokuba oku kuvakala kukudideka okanye kukhathaza, nceda ukhumbule ukuba inyathelo ngalinye kule nkqubo lenzelwe ukuqinisekisa ukhuseleko lwakho kunye nokuphila kakuhle, kunye nokhuseleko lwabo bakungqongileyo. Umntu okukhathaleleyo kakhulu ugqibe ekubeni afune uncedo egameni lakho kuba efuna ukuba uphile ubomi obusempilweni. Nangona kunokuba nzima ukukubona oku ngelixa usephakathi kwenkqubo, yazi ukuba ungqongwe ngabantu abakulungeleyo ukukunceda, kungekhona ukukulimaza.

Ukuba unemibuzo malunga nenkqubo okanye into onokuyilindela, nceda ungathandabuzi ukubuza (abanakekeli), (abasebenzi bezentlalo), okanye naliphi na ilungu leqela lakho lezonyango.

Izinto ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzithathe (Umyalezo oya nawo ekhaya)

(Ukuzibophelela ngokunganyanzelekanga) yingongoma enzima neyinobuzaza, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba nolwazi.

• Oku akusiso isohlwayo: Unyango olunganyanzelekanga aluzange lujoliswe njengohlobo lwesohlwayo okanye ukuvalelwa entolongweni. Lusetyenziswa njengendlela yokugqibela yokukhusela wena kunye nabo bakungqongileyo.
• Inkqubo yezomthetho: Le yinkqubo ecwangcisiweyo ebandakanya iingcali zonyango kunye nenkqubo yezomthetho ukuqinisekisa amalungelo akho kunye nokhuseleko.
• Vuma iimvakalelo zakho, kodwa funa uncedo: Kuqhelekile ukuba nomsindo, usizi, okanye uloyiko ngeli xesha. Musa ukujongana nezi mvakalelo wedwa. Oogqirha, abahlengikazi, kunye nabacebisi balapha ukukuxhasa.
• Inkxaso emva konyango ibalulekile: Nokuba uphumile esibhedlele, qhubeka nokubeka impilo yakho yengqondo phambili, usebenzise (ucebisi), kwaye uthembele kusapho lwakho nakubahlobo bakho ukuba bakuxhase.
• Awuwedwa: Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo udlula kule meko, khumbula ukuba awuwedwa. Kukho izixhobo ezifumanekayo zokukunceda.

Siyathemba ukuba olu lwazi luza kukunceda ufumane ingcaciso ngalo mba unzima. Nangona sinethemba lokuba akukho mntu uza kujongana nemeko enjalo, ukuba iyenzeka, sikunqwenelela amandla okuyoyisa nokuphiliswa, eziswe kuwe yiNirogi Lanka.

INirogi Lanka: Impilo Yengqondo, Unyango Olunganyanzelekanga, Isibhedlele Seengqondo, Uthintelo Lokuzibulala, Isifo Sengqondo, Inkqubo Yezomthetho, Ukuzibophelela Okunganyanzelekanga, Iyunithi Yeengqondo, Umyalelo Wenkundla