Ngaba wakha wambona umntu enceda omnye umntu ngaphandle kokulindela nantoni na? Mhlawumbi yayikukupha umntu ongenamakhaya esitratweni ukutya, okanye ukunceda umntu omdala ukuba awele indlela. Ngelo xesha, ngaba waziva uvuyo olungaqhelekanga, ubushushu entliziyweni yakho? Njengomvakalelo omnandi ovela ngaphakathi esifubeni sakho... Akuwedwa, abantu abaninzi baye baba namava anjalo. Ngaba le yimvakalelo nje, okanye yinto enzulu ngakumbi? Sithetha ngale mvakalelo imangalisayo namhlanje.
Ngaba likho igama lale mvakalelo imangalisayo?
Ewe, likho igama lale nto. Kwisayikholoji, ibizwa ngokuba
'yiNkathazo' . Ngamafutshane, yimvakalelo yokuba mkhulu okanye uphakamileyo. Umntu wokuqala ukuthetha nzulu ngale ngcamango yayinguGqr. Jonathan Haidt. Waqala ukucinga ngale nto xa weva intetho kaNelson Mandela waseMzantsi Afrika emva kokukhululwa entolongweni emva kweminyaka emininzi. Khawucinge nje, wathi endaweni yokubathiya abo babemvalele ubomi bakhe bonke, wabaxolela bonke waza wema kunye njengelizwe. Ngelo xesha, le mvakalelo uJonathan Haidt wayeyiva yayibizwa ngokuba 'yiNkathazo'. Wayevakalelwa kukuba umzimba wakhe uyathuthumela, ngathi imvakalelo efudumeleyo emangalisayo yayinyuka esifubeni sakhe. Waqonda ukuba le yayingeyomvakalelo nje, le yayiyinto efanelekileyo ukufundwa ngokwesayensi.
'Ukuphakanyiswa' kukuziva ufudumele, ukhuthazayo xa ubona umntu esenza into entle, enesibindi, okanye enobubele kakhulu.
Yintoni iPsychology Efanelekileyo?
Ingcamango 'yokuPhakanyiswa' ikwicandelo elitsha le-psychology elibizwa ngokuba yi
-Positive Psychology . Ngoku usenokuba uzibuza, "Yintoni i-positive psychology?" Ngamafutshane, i-psychology igxile kwizifo zengqondo zabantu, iingxaki, kunye nobuthathaka babo (umz.,
ukudakumba ,
ixhala , ukwenzakala). Oko kukuthi,
yintoni engalunganga ngomntu. Kodwa i-positive psychology yenza okwahlukileyo. Oko kukuthi, ijonga
okulungileyo noko kunamandla ebantwini . Umzekelo, ifunda izinto ezinje ngolonwabo, ububele, uxolelo, ithemba, kunye nentsingiselo yobomi. Oku akuthethi ukuba akulunganga ukujonga
izifo zengqondo . Kodwa oko kukodwa akwanelanga. Njengakwelinye icala lemali, ikwathi kufuneka sazi ukuba yintoni eyenza umntu abe sempilweni engqondweni kwaye onwabe. Esinye isazi ngengqondo, uChristopher Peterson, siyabuza, "
Uxinzelelo"Ukuba siyazi okuninzi ngengozi, kutheni singazi okuninzi ngezinto ezenza ubomi bube luncedo?" Lo ngumbuzo obangela ingcinga, akunjalo?
Ngaba imvakalelo 'yokuphakama' ingangqinwa ngokwesayensi?
UDkt. Haidt wenze izifundo ezininzi ngale mvakalelo 'yokuPhakanyiswa'. Kolunye uphando, wacela abafundi baseyunivesithi ukuba babhale ngexesha apho babebone uphawu oluhle emntwini. Ukuthelekisa, elinye iqela lacelwa ukuba libhale ngolonwabo oluqhelekileyo abaluvayo emva kokufezekisa usukelo. Kolunye uphando, wabonisa amaqela amathathu iividiyo zemizuzu eli-10. 1. Iqela 1: Ibali lobomi bukaMama uTeresa (ividiyo ekhuthaza ukuphakama). 2. Iqela 2: Ividiyo ehlekisayo (ividiyo ephakamisayo). 3. Iqela 3: Inkqubo yeendaba eqhelekileyo. Iziphumo zophando zombini zazimangalisa kakhulu. Abantu abafumene 'ukuPhakanyiswa' baxele izinto ezahlukeneyo kunabo bafumana ulonwabo oluqhelekileyo.
| Amava | Iimpendulo zomzimba nezengqondo ezenzekayo |
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| 'Ukuphakama' (ukubona isenzo esiphakamileyo) | - Uvakalelo olufudumeleyo nolumnandi esifubeni.
- Umnqweno wokunceda abanye.
- Ukuziva ngathi ufuna ukuba ngumntu ongcono.
- Ingcinga yokwenza into elungileyo kunye nabanye.
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| 'Ulonwabo' (ukufezekisa injongo) | - Ukuziva ulonwabo ngokubanzi.
- Akukho mvakalelo ikhethekileyo yokufudumala esifubeni echazwe njengakwi-'Elevation'.
- Ukungabi namdla wokunceda abanye.
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Kodwa kukho imingeni ekufundeni oku. Umzekelo, nangona iimvakalelo ezifana nosizi nolonwabo zinembonakalo ethile yobuso, akukho ndlela icacileyo yokuba 'Ukuphakama'. Kodwa izazinzulu zikholelwa ukuba le mvakalelo ivuselela
'iVagus Nerve' yomzimba wethu. Le mithambo-luvo ichaphazela izinga lentliziyo yethu. Ke ngoko, bacinga ukuba kwixesha elizayo, kuya kwenzeka ukulinganisa le mvakalelo ngokulinganisa izinga lentliziyo.
Sibafundisa njani abantwana bethu olu lwazi?
Kulungile, konke oku kulungile. Kodwa thina njengabazali singalufaka njani olu lwazi ebomini babantwana bethu? Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo.
1. Thetha ngezinto ezilungileyo: Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha nabantwana ngeempawu ezilungileyo kunye nabalinganiswa ababalaseleyo. Ukubalisa amabali ngamaqhawe kwimbali kunye nabalinganiswa abalungileyo abavela kumabali enkolo kungenisa umnqweno wezinto ezilungileyo ebantwaneni.
2. Yiba ngumzekelo ngokwakho: Endaweni yokushumayela ebantwaneni ukuba "babe ngabalungileyo, babe nobubele," kufanelekile
amaxesha amaninzi ukubabonisa ngokwenza ezo zinto thina . Xa sibona abanye benobubele, abantwana bafunda into efanayo ngokuzenzekelayo.
3. Iinkqubo zesikolo: EMelika, kukho inkqubo yesikolo ebizwa ngokuba yi "Kindness Is Transtagious: Catch It." Kukho imisebenzi emibini emihle kakhulu eyenziwa kuyo.
- Umsebenzi weebhotile ezimbini: Nika abantwana iibhotile ezimbini. Kwibhotile enye, kufuneka babeke imbotyi ngalo lonke ixesha umntu ebenze into embi (ebagculela okanye ebalimazayo). Kwenye ibhotile, kufuneka babeke imbotyi ngalo lonke ixesha umntu ebenze into entle (ebabeke). Ekupheleni kwenyanga, ngokujonga iibhotile ezimbini, abantwana banokuzibonela ngokwabo ukuba kukho izinto ezintle okanye ezimbi ezenzekayo eklasini. Injongo kukukhupha ibhotile ngezinto ezimbi uze uzalise ibhotile ngezinto ezilungileyo.
- Umsebenzi othi "Dlulisa": Utitshala ulinda umntwana eklasini ukuba enze into elungileyo okanye elungileyo. Xa utitshala ebona umntwana esenza into elungileyo, utitshala umnika into ethile (umz., iapile elibomvu) aze athi, "Ngoku ulingqina. Xa ubona omnye umntwana esenza into elungileyo, mnike eli apile ." Oku kufundisa umntwana ukwenza izinto ezilungileyo nokubona izinto ezilungileyo kwabanye.
Khumbula, ukuxelela nje abantwana, "Musani ukwenza oku, musa ukwenza okuya" akwanelanga. Sikwafanele sibabonise ukhetho olungcono, "Ngoko ke simele senze ntoni?"
Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nokuziphatha komntwana wakho okanye impilo yakhe yengqondo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha
nogqirha wakho okanye ingcali yezengqondo malunga noko.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Loo mvakalelo ifudumeleyo nekhuthazayo ('ukuphakanyiswa') esiyifumanayo xa sibona isenzo sobubele nesisa iyinyani. Yinto eviwa yimizimba yethu.
- Olu luvo lusenza sifune ukunceda abanye size sibe ngabantu abangcono. Ngamanye amazwi, ububele buyosulela ngokwenene.
- Ingqondo elungileyo (I-Positive Psychology isifundisa ukuba sijonge amandla kunye neempawu ezilungileyo zabantu, kungekhona ubuthathaka babo kuphela.
- Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokufundisa abantwana bethu ukuba babe nobubele asikokubeka imiqathango, kodwa kukuba ngumzekelo kuthi size sibakhuthaze ukuba benze izinto ezilungileyo.
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