Indlela umntwana wakho oneenyanga ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-7 ubudala aqala ngayo ukuthetha (Unxibelelwano lomntwana) - Masifumanise.

Ihlabathi lomntwana wakho litshintsha yonke imihla ukusuka kwiinyanga ezine ukuya kwezisixhenxe ubudala, akunjalo? Ilizwi lakhe kunye nembonakalo yobuso bakhe ziyanda. Ngoku uncuma kakhulu, ekhala, kwaye ethetha ngokuvakalayo. Ubusazi? Uqala nokulinganisa izandi ozenzayo ngeli xesha. Eli linyathelo lokuqala elibaluleke kakhulu, elincinci ekufundeni kwakhe ukuthetha. Ngoko ke, namhlanje siza kuthetha ngendlela umntwana wakho "athetha" ngayo nawe ngeli xesha limangalisayo, kunye nendlela onokumnceda ngayo.

Iintsana zithetha njani nathi?

Kuyamangalisa ngokwenene indlela abantwana abakule minyaka bathetha ngayo nathi. Nangona bengakawazi amagama okwangoku, baneendlela zabo ezikhethekileyo zokusixelela iimvakalelo zabo neemfuno zabo.

Ethetha ngokuvakalayo

Umntwana wakho ngoku usebenzisa ezinye izandi ngaphandle kokulila ukuze atsale ingqalelo yakho aze aveze iimvakalelo zakhe, njengolonwabo nosizi. Iintsana ezikule minyaka ziqala ukuzama izandi ezinokuzenza ngemilomo yazo. Cinga ngathi zifumana amathuba elizwi lazo. Ezi ziintsana zokuqala ezizama ukuthetha , ngoko ke kufuneka sizikhuthaze kangangoko sinako. Ezi zandi zibhibhidlayo azizozandi nje kuphela, zizama iifonime zolwimi.

Ukuqonda ithoni yelizwi lakho

Kuyamangalisa ukuba umntwana wakho esemncinane kangaka unokuyiqonda into oyithethayo ngethoni yelizwi lakho.

Ngamafutshane, ukuba uthetha ngokuzolileyo, ngothando, nangobunono, kumenza azive ekhululekile kwaye ekhuselekile. Kodwa ukuba uthetha kabukhali, rhabaxa, okanye ngendlela exhalabisayo, uya kuqonda, "Owu... kukho into engalunganga."

Kungoku nje umntwana uqala ukuqonda iziseko zonxibelelwano ngolwimi . Oku kubaluleke kakhulu ekuphuhliseni ubuchule bolwimi engqondweni yakhe.

Amanyathelo okuqala kulwimi

Iintsana ngoku zinokuva izandi ezahlukeneyo, ziqonde umahluko phakathi kwazo, kwaye zifumane umbono wazo wokuqala wendlela amagama ahlanganiswa ngayo ukwenza izivakalisi. Kule minyaka, ziqala ukwenza izinto ezinje:

• Xa usenza isandi, ufunda ukwenza isandi esilandelayo, oko kukuthi, ukutshintshana . Oku kufana nabantu ababini abathetha ngokulandelelana.
• Ndithanda ukucinezela imilebe yam kunye ndenze isandi esithi 'burr' (ndivuthela iiraspberries) .
• Ukutshixiza kakhulu, ukukhwaza nokuhleka .
• Usenokuqala nokuphendula igama lakhe . Usenokukujonga xa uthi " Umchamo , nyana."

Ngoko ke ndingenza ntoni ukunceda umntwana?

Zininzi izinto onokuzenza ngale ntetho yomntwana.Phuhlisa izakhono zakho nangakumbi. Ezi zizinto ezilula kakhulu nezithandekayo.

1. Soloko uthetha kwaye udlala nomntwana wakho.

Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Thetha nomntwana wakho nangona usebenza.

• Imidlalo yokucula: Iintsana zale minyaka ziyayithanda imidlalo yokucula kunye nokusebenzisana nawe. Yenza isandi esinye ngexesha ngelixa udlala "peek-a-boo." Cula iingoma ezincinci ngeengoma ezilula kunye namagama aphindaphindwayo.
• Lingisa: Xa ulingisa iincoko zabo ezihlekisayo nezihlekisayo, bayavuya kakhulu. Oku kubaxelela ukuba "Owu... Mama/Tata bayakuva oko ndikwenzayo, kwaye kubalulekile kubo." Lingisa izandi zomntwana wakho ezithi 'ba', 'a-goo', uze uthethe amagama alula anesandi esifanayo. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uthi "ba..ba..", ungathi into efana nale "Ewe, baby, ba..ba.. doll."
• Thetha ngemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla : Thetha nje ngento oyenzayo xa uhlamba, utyisa, okanye utshintsha umntwana. Umzekelo, "Siza kuhlamba ngoku," "Nantsi irayisi," "Masinxibe impahla entsha."

2. Yiba 'nencoko' nomntwana wakho

Oku kumnandi kakhulu. Nangona umntwana wakho engekakwazi ukuphendula ngomlomo, oku kuluncedo kakhulu kwizakhono zakhe zokunxibelelana.

• Thetha uze umyeke ahambe: Thetha nomntwana wakho uze umlinde ukuba "aphendule." Ukuba wenza ingxolo okanye uncumo, yimpendulo yakhe leyo.
• Buza imibuzo, uphendule ngomdla: Ukuba ubuza, "Unjani, sithandwa sam?" aze umntwana wakho enze isandi esithi "Ah..goo...", ubuze kwakhona ngomdla, "Oh... ngaba oko kwenzekile?" Imbonakalo yobuso bakho kunye notshintsho kwilizwi lakho zibaluleke kakhulu kuye.
• Yehlisa isantya kwaye ugxininise amagama: Kunceda ekunciphiseni isantya sentetho yakho kwaye ugxininise amagama ngamanye ngokucacileyo. Umzekelo, yithi, "Uyayifuna ithoyizi ? Le yithoyizi yakho, " ngelixa ukhomba kuyo. Emva koko linda impendulo.
• Ukuthula kubalulekile: Ukuthula okufutshane emva kokuba uthethile kukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba athethe .
• Ukupha nokuthatha: Oku kunika nokuthatha kwangethuba phakathi kwabantu ababini kuvula indlela yamagama okuqala okwenyani kunye neencoko eziza kamva. Le yindlela abafunda ngayo ukudluliselana kwiincoko zentlalo, nto leyo eyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobudlelwane bezentlalo.

3. Xela yonke into.

Oku kunceda kakhulu ekwakheni isigama somntwana wakho.

• Yazisa amagama alula:Yazisa umntwana wakho ngamagama alula anxulumene nobomi bemihla ngemihla. Xela amagama abantu obabona rhoqo (umama, utata, umakhulu, umalume), izinto (ibhotile, ithoyi, isitulo), kunye nemisebenzi (ukuhlamba, ukutya, ukulala).
• Iintsana ziyaqonda: Khumbula, iintsana ziyawaqonda amagama ngaphambi kokuba ziwathethe. Ngoko ke, sebenzisa amagama okwenyani kwaye unciphise intetho yomntwana. Endaweni yokuthi "Ingaba isisu somntwana wakho sidinga nantoni na?", kungcono ukusebenzisa amagama alula nangokoqobo anjengokuthi "Ngaba unyana/intombi yakho ilambile? Siza kutya?"
• Imizekelo: Xa utyisa umntwana wakho, uthi, "Nalu ubisi, nyana/ntombi." Xa umnika ithoyizi, uthi, "Nalu unodoli wakho." Xa umkhupha ngaphandle, uyamkhomba uze uthi, "Khangela, nantsi intaka entle."

4. Ungalibali ukufunda iincwadi!

Musa ukucinga ukuba ukufundela iintsana zale minyaka akunamsebenzi.

• Ukuqhelana nolwimi: Xa ubabonisa iincwadi ezinemifanekiso emikhulu nemifanekiso enemibala uze ufunde nje umxholo, baqhelana namagama amatsha, isingqisho solwimi, kunye neethoni ezahlukeneyo zelizwi lakho.
• Ubudlelwane buyanda: Kwakhona, xa ubamba umntwana wakho uze ufunde incwadi, ubudlelwane phakathi kwenu nobabini buyaqina.

Sifanele siye kugqirha nini?

Uninzi lwexesha, iintsana zifunda ezi zinto ngesantya sazo. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha sinokuba namathandabuzo amancinci.

Ukuba unamathandabuzo okanye uxhalabile malunga nezakhono zokunxibelelana okanye ukuva komntwana wakho , ungathandabuzi ukuthetha nogqirha wosapho lwakho okanye ugqirha wabantwana .

Ngokwesiqhelo, xa befikelela kwiinyanga ezisixhenxe, uninzi lweentsana luya kube lusenza oku kulandelayo:

• Xa ndisiva ilizwi lakho, ndijika intloko yam iye kwelo cala.
• Utshintshana ngokwenza ingxolo nawe (xa usenza ingxolo, nayo izama ukwenza ingxolo).
• Ukutshixiza kakhulu nokuhleka .
• Uzama ukulinganisa isandi osenzayo.

Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba nangona sithi 'ziqhelekile', kukho uluhlu olubanzi. Azizo zonke iintsana ezifanayo. Ezinye iintsana zifunda ezi zinto kwangethuba, ezinye kamva kancinci. Zinokwahluka ukusuka kusana ukuya kusana. Ngoko ke, ungakhathazeki ngokungeyomfuneko. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unexhala elingapheliyo, kungcono ukubonana nogqirha. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho akaphenduli nakweyiphi na isandi, akaqhaqhazeli xa esiva ingxolo enkulu, okanye akazami ukwenza nayiphi na ingxolo ngaphandle kokulila emva kweenyanga ezisi-7, kubalulekile ukuthetha nogqirha ngayo.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba

Ihlabathi lomntwana wakho oneenyanga ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-7 liyindawo entle kakhulu, kwaye liyatshintsha yonke imihla. Isandi ngasinye abasenzayo, uncumo ngalunye abalwenzayo, inkangeleko yobuso abayenzayo yindlela abanxibelelana ngayo nawe.

Ngoko ke, masibancede kakhulu ngeli xesha 'lokunxibelelana kwangethuba', kwaye masibaphulaphule ngothando.

Hleka nabo, linganisa izandi zabo, thetha nabo. Thetha ngokungathi bayayiqonda into oyithethayo. Xela yonke into. Yehlisa intetho yosana kwaye usebenzise amagama okwenyani.

Khumbula, ayizizo zonke iintsana ezifanayo, kwaye zikhula ngesantya sazo. Kodwa hlala ujonge inkqubela yazo. Ukuba uneengxaki, ungoyiki ukuthetha nogqirha. Uthando lwakho, ingqalelo yakho, kunye nexesha olichitha nabo zezona zinto zibalulekileyo eziya kunceda umntwana wakho afunde amagama kweli hlabathi aze athethe nawe!

Intetho yosana , unxibelelwano losana, umntwana oneenyanga ezi-4-7 ubudala, ukufunda ukuthetha, indlela yokuthetha nosana, iingcebiso zobuzali , uphuhliso lomntwana