Ngaba nawe unoloyiko olungaqhelekanga ngabantwana abancinci? Masithethe nge-pedophobia!

Ngaba wakha weva ukuba abanye abantu baziva besoyika kwaye bengakhululekanga ngendlela engaqhelekanga xa bebona abantwana abancinci, iintsana, okanye besiya kwindawo abakuyo? Mhlawumbi nawe uziva into enjalo, okanye mhlawumbi uyazi umntu onjalo. Oku akuyonto ilula, le yimeko eyaziwayo ngugqirha. Namhlanje siza kuthetha ngolu loyiko lungaqhelekanga lwabantwana abancinci, olubizwa ngokuba yi-pedophobia .

Yintoni iPedophobia?

Ngamafutshane, i-pedophobia luloyiko olungaqhelekanga nolungenangqiqo lweentsana nabantwana abancinci. Igama elithi "pedophobia" livela kumagama amabini esiGrike. Igama elithi "paida" lithetha umntwana, kwaye elithi "phobos" lithetha uloyiko.

Umntu onesi sifo wenza konke okusemandleni akhe ukuze aphephe iindawo apho kukho abantwana abancinci. Kwabanye abantu, ingcinga nje yokuhamba kufutshane nomntwana inokubangela uloyiko olukhulu kunye nexhala . Oku akusiyo nje into yokucaphuka okuncinci, kodwa yinto enzulu kakhulu kunoko.

Yintoni i-phobia?

Ngoku usenokuba uyazibuza ukuba yintoni "i-phobia". I- phobia sisifo sokuxhalaba . Kulapho unoloyiko olungaqhelekanga nolungenangqiqo ngento engenakwenzakalisa ngokwenene. I-Pedophobia sisifo esithile sokuxhalaba. Oko kukuthi, umntu uyoyika into ethile, kule meko, iintsana nabantwana abancinci, okanye uzive exhalabile kakhulu xa ekunye nabo.

Ixhaphake kangakanani le meko?

Kunzima ukutsho ngqo ukuba bangaphi abantu abaneengxaki ezithile ezifana ne-pedophobia. Abantu abaninzi basenokugcina olu loyiko kubo, okanye basenokungazi nokuba banalo. Nangona kunjalo, uphando lufumanise ukuba umntu omnye kubantu abadala baseMelika abali-10 kunye nomnye kubantwana abancinci aba-5 baya kuba nengxaki ethile yokoyika ngaxa lithile ebomini babo.

Yintoni umahluko phakathi kwePedophobia kunye nePediophobia?

La magama mabini afana kakhulu ekupeleni, ngoko ke kulula ukudideka. I-Pediophobia kukoyika oonodoli, oko kukuthi, izinto ezingaphiliyo ezibonakala ziyinyani. Nangona kunjalo, i-Pedophobia kukoyika abantwana bokwenyani.

Kodwa kukho nale nto, abanye abantu banokuba nazo zombini ezi phobias. Oko kukuthi, umntu owoyika abantwana (pedophobia) usenokuba woyika ukubonakala koonodoli (pediophobia) njengomntwana. Ngokufanayo, umntu one-pedophobia unokuba nesifo esibizwa ngokuba yi-pedophobia.

Ngubani onokuba nethuba elikhulu lokufumana i-pedophobia?

Abanye abantu bathambekele ngakumbi ekuphuhliseni olu hlobo lwe-phobia.

• Isifo Sokuxhalaba Okugqithisileyo (OCD)Abantu abane: Aba bantu bathanda yonke into ukuba icoceke kwaye icoceke. Babona abantwana njengabantu abangalawulekiyo nabangenamdla. Banokoyika indalo engalawulekiyo nengenamdla ehambisana nokuba phakathi kwabantwana abancinci. Khawuthelekelele indlela umntu one-"(OCD)`` anokuba nexhala ngayo ukuba umntwana omncinci angangena endlwini aze enze ingxolo ngokuphosa amathoyizi kuyo yonke indawo aze achithe ukutya phantsi.
• Isini: Kufunyaniswe ukuba abafazi banamathuba amaninzi okufumana uloyiko kunamadoda.
• Imbali yosapho: Ukuba omnye wabazali bakho okanye umntu osondeleyo kuwe ukhe waba nesifo soloyiko okanye ixhala, usenokuba noloyiko olufanayo okanye olunye uloyiko.
• Izinto ezibangela imfuza: Ezinye izifundo zibonisa ukuba utshintsho lwemfuza (ezifana notshintsho lwemfuza) lunokwenza abanye abantu babe namathuba amaninzi okuba neengxaki zokuxhalaba okanye ii-phobias.

Ngaba zikho ezinye iintloni ezinxulumene ne-pedophobia?

Kuqhelekile ukuba neentlobo ngeentlobo zoloyiko. Iintlobo zoloyiko zihlala zihlobene. Umzekelo, umntu owoyika iintsholongwane (`(Mysophobia)` okanye `(Germaphobia)`) unokubona abantwana abancinci njengabathwali bentsholongwane abancinci. Basenokuba ne-pedophobia. Ngokufanayo, umntu owoyika abantwana abancinci unokuba noloyiko lwabantwana abadala kancinci, abancinci (`(Ephebiphobia)`).

Kutheni le nto kukho olu hlobo loloyiko lokuthomalalisa abantwana? Zithini izizathu?

Usenokuba woyika abantwana ngenxa yamava amabi owawenzileyo nomntwana omncinci. La mava mabi anokwenzeka ngexesha lobuntwana bakho okanye njengomntu omdala.

Usenokuba ukhe wayibona loo nto ngokuthe ngqo, okanye usenokuba ubone isiganeko:

• Ukuzibonela ukuxhatshazwa kwabantwana okanye into enxulumene nako.
• Ukuxhaphaza komntwana, ukuthukwa, iziganeko zobundlobongela , okanye umsindo ogqithisileyo.
• Ukubona okanye ukufunda ngokufa kosana okanye umntwana omncinci .
• Amava okulahlekelwa kukukhulelwa, njengokuphuphuma kwesisu okanye ukuzala umntwana eswelekile . (Ezi ziingxaki ezibuthathaka kakhulu, ngoko ke amava anjalo anokubangela olu loyiko.)

Khawucinge nje, xa wawudlala usengumntwana, omnye umntwana wakubetha kabuhlungu, okanye waphula enye yeethoyi zakho. Okanye, ubone umntu omdala ekhalimela okanye ebetha umntwana omncinci kabuhlungu kakhulu. Iziganeko ezinjalo zinokuba nzulu engqondweni kwaye zinokubangela uloyiko kubantwana kamva.

Yintoni kanye kanye aboyika abantu abane-pedophobia?

I-Pedophobia ayichaphazeli wonke umntu ngendlela efanayo. Unokufumana oku kulandelayo:

• Usenokukwazi ukuhlala nabantwana obaziyo, umzekelo, abantwana bezalamane, kodwa usenokungakwazi ukuhlala nabanye abantwana.
• Kusenokungabi lula ukuphila ngaphandle kweempawu zoloyiko nomntwana.
• Usenokuziva uxhalabile nokuba ucinga ngokuba kufutshane nabantwana, okanye xa ubona imifanekiso yabantwana.
• Usenokuziva usoyika kwaye uxhalabile ngayo nayiphi na imeko ekusondeza ebantwaneni.

Zithini iimpawu zePedophobia?

Iimpawu ze-phobia zingaqala kwezincinci ukuya kwezinzima. Nokuba uyaqonda ukuba uloyiko lomntwana wakho alunangqiqo, usenokungakwazi ukulawula indlela osabela ngayo emzimbeni.

Iimpawu ze-pedophobia zingabandakanya:

• Isiyezi
• Umlomo owomileyo
• Uloyiko olukhulu okanye uloyiko
• Isicaphucaphu, ukuhlanza okanye urhudo
• Ukubila kakhulu
• Ukuphefumla ngokukhawuleza kunye nesantya sentliziyo
• Ukungcangcazela okanye ukungcangcazela
• Ukuqhawukelwa ngumphefumlo

Xa ubona ezi mpawu, ungabona ukuba oku akukokoyika nje okuncinci, kodwa yinto eviwa ngumzimba ngokwawo.

Ungaqiniseka njani ukuba unePedophobia? (Ukuxilongwa)

I-American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) inceda iingcali zempilo yengqondo, ezifana neengcali zengqondo, ukuba zichonge ii-phobias ngokusekelwe kwiimpawu zazo kunye nendlela ezichaphazela ngayo umgangatho wobomi bakho.

Oogqirha basebenzisa ezi ndlela zokuxilonga i-phobia ethile, efana ne-pedophobia:

• Uloyiko olukhulu kwiintsana nabantwana abancinci oluhlala ubuncinane iinyanga ezintandathu.
• Iimpawu ziqala kwangoko xa usondela ebantwaneni, okanye xa ucinga ukuba ukufutshane nabantwana.
• Uloyiko okanye ixhala elinzulu elikwenza uphephe iimeko apho unokuba kufutshane neentsana okanye abantwana.
• Iimpawu ezichaphazela umgangatho wobomi bakho .
• Iimvakalelo zoloyiko olukhulu, ixhala, okanye uloyiko olungenakuthelekiswa nengozi yokwenyani.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba, ukuba uziva into efana nale, musa ukuyifihla, thetha nomntu omthembayo, kwaye ucele ingcebiso kagqirha ukuba kuyimfuneko.

Ziziphi iindlela zonyango zale meko?

Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo angakunceda woyise olu loyiko lokuba phakathi kwabantwana abancinci. Unyango lwengqondo (unyango lokuthetha) ludla ngokuba yimpumelelo kubantu abane-pedophobia.

Iindlela zonyango zingaba ngolu hlobo lulandelayo:

• Unyango lokuvezwa (okanye ukungasebenzisi imvakalelo): Oku kuquka ukujongana noloyiko lwakho kancinci kancinci nangendlela ecwangcisiweyo. Uvezwa kancinci kancinci kubantwana ngokuboniswa imifanekiso okanye iividiyo zabantwana, uze uye kwindawo apho umntwana ekude kancinci, uze usondele. Injongo kukwenza uloyiko lwakho lungabi namvakalelo ngokuziveza rhoqo. Kubantu abaninzi abane-phobia ethile, unyango lokuvezwa lunciphisa kakhulu iimpawu ngokuhamba kwexesha.
• Unyango Lokuziphatha Oluqondayo (i-CBT) : Olu nyango lukunceda uhlalutye isizathu sokuba woyike abantwana. I-CBT ikunceda uthethe ngeziganeko ezibuhlungu ezinokuba zibangele olu loyiko. Wakuba ufumene unobangela, ufunda indlela yokutshintsha iingcinga zakho kunye nezenzo zakho xa kufikwa ebantwaneni.
• Amayeza : Ngelixa ufumana unyango lwengqondo, amayeza okulwa noxinzelelo okanye amayeza okudakumba anokunceda. La mayeza anokunceda ekunciphiseni iimpawu, okwenza kube lula ukuba kunye nabantwana. Kodwa khumbula, la mayeza awanaso isisombululo sodwa, kwaye adla ngokusetyenziswa kunye nonyango.

Ziziphi iingxaki ezinokubakho ngenxa ye-pedophobia?

Olu loyiko lugqithisileyo ebantwaneni lunokwenza kube nzima ukusebenza ngokuqhelekileyo eluntwini. Usenokuphoswa ziziganeko zentlalo, ube neengxaki emsebenzini, kwaye ude udandatheke . Abanye abantu banesifo sokuphazamiseka kwengqondo . Oku kunokuvakala ngathi kukuhlaselwa yintliziyo. Intliziyo yakho inokubetha ngokukhawuleza, kwaye usenokuba neentlungu esifubeni (hayi ngenxa yokuhlaselwa yintliziyo).

Amayeza okulwa noxinzelelo anokukunceda ulawule imeko yakho ngelixa ufumana iindlela zokunciphisa uloyiko lwakho.

Ufanele uye nini kugqirha?

Ukuba ufumana nayiphi na kwezi zinto, bona ugqirha ngokukhawuleza:

• Uhlaselo loloyiko (`(Uhlaselo loloyiko)`)
• Ukuxhalaba okungapheliyo okuphazamisa ubomi bemihla ngemihla okanye ubuthongo.
• Iimpawu zokudakumba (ukuziva ulusizi ngalo lonke ixesha, ungenamdla kwinto ethile).
• Iingxaki zokusebenzisa iziyobisi (ukuba umntu akakwazi ukumelana nolu loyiko aze asebenzise utywala okanye ezinye iziyobisi).

Yeyiphi imibuzo omele uyibuze ugqirha wakho?

Ungabuza ugqirha wakho imibuzo efana nale:

• Yintoni eyabangela ukuba ndibe nale phobia?
• Yeyiphi indlela engcono yonyango kum?
• Ngaba kufuneka ndizame unyango lokubona umntu ebonakala engaphandle?
• Ndiza kuyidinga ixesha elingakanani unyango?

Okokugqibela, izinto ekufuneka uzikhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Sonke siyazi ukuba abantwana abancinci bakwiindawo zonke: ezivenkileni, kwiindawo zasekuhlaleni, ezibhasini, ezitratweni. Kunzima ukungababoni aba bantwana bancinci. Ukoyika iintsana nabantwana abancinci kunokukwenza kube nzima ukuthenga, ukuhambahamba, ukudibana nabantu, ukuya kwimicimbi, nokwenza izinto abantu abaninzi abazithandayo.

Ukuphepha abantwana ngokupheleleyo akuyonto inokwenzeka kwaye akuyonto ilungileyo.

Khumbula, awuwedwa. Umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo angakunceda woyise i-pedophobia yakho esebenzisa iindlela zonyango lwengqondo ezifana nonyango lokuvezwa kunye nonyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo (CBT). Ngoncedo olufanelekileyo, ungalulawula olu loyiko kwaye uphile ubomi obuqhelekileyo nobonwabisayo. Ungoyiki ukucela uncedo.

I- Pedophobia, ukoyika abantwana, i-phobia, i-phobia, ixhala, impilo yengqondo