Ucinga ntoni xa usiva igama elithi 'unyango'? Ingaba kukuhlala esofeni, ukubamba ibhokisi yethishu, nokuhlawula imali eninzi kumntu ongakuqondiyo? Okanye ngaba yinto esebenza kuphela kwabo baphazamiseke kakhulu engqondweni okanye "abagula ngengqondo"? Ukuba kunjalo, thatha umzuzwana ufunde oku. Inyaniso yahlukile kakhulu.
Enyanisweni, sonke singazuza kolu hlobo lonyango lokuthetha ngaxa lithile ebomini bethu. Kodwa kufuna umgudu kuwe, ingcali yezonyango ehambelana neemfuno zakho kwaye ekuqonda ngokwenene, kunye nexesha elithathayo ukubona iziphumo. Ngoko makhe sijonge ezi-7 zezona ngcamango ziphosakeleyo abantu abaninzi abanazo malunga nonyango kunye nokuba zinjani ngokwenene.
1. "Ubuntwana bam abunamsebenzi ngoku..."
Abantu abaninzi beza kunyango ukuze bathethe ngengxaki ebomini babo bangoku. Isenokuba yingxaki emsebenzini, ingxaki kubudlelwane, okanye ingxaki nabantwana babo. Kodwa rhoqo into ekufuneka sisebenzele kuyo ayisiyongxaki yanamhlanje, kodwa yindlela esizinxulumanisa ngayo nexesha lethu elidlulileyo.
"Ubudlelwane obubenabo nabazali bakho kunye nobuntwana bakho bunempembelelo enkulu kubuntu bakho namhlanje," batsho oososayensi bezengqondo. Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba ukuze ubuntwana bube yimpembelelo, kufuneka ube ukhe waxhatshazwa ngandlela ithile. Kodwa oko akuyonyani.
Khawucinge nje, ukuba abazali bakho babengakuqondi kakuhle xa wawusengumntwana, okanye babengazixabisi iimvakalelo zakho, nezo zinto zincinci zinokuba nefuthe elikhulu ekuzithembeni kwakho kunye nobudlelwane obakhayo nabanye xa ukhula. Njengaye wonke umntu oza kunyango, iingxaki zabo zangoku zidibene namava abo obuntwana.
2. "Iingcali zonyango ziyafana..."
Akunjalo konke konke. Njengokuba kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zeengcali phakathi koogqirha, kukwakho neentlobo ezahlukeneyo zeengcali zonyango. Kwaye neendlela zonyango zahlukile enye kwenye.
- Unyango Lokuziphatha Oluqondayo: Oku kuquka ukuchonga, ukucela umngeni, nokutshintsha iindlela zokuziphatha ezimbi kunye neendlela zokucinga ezibangela iingxaki ebomini bakho.
- Unyango lwe-Psychoanalytic: Olu nyango lugxile kwindlela i-subconscious yakho eyichaphazela ngayo indlela oziphatha ngayo.
Ngoko ke, musa ukucinga ukuba umntu wokuqala odibana naye uza kuba ngoyena ufanelekileyo kuwe. Njengokuba kunjalo ngokuya kwiivenkile ezininzi uyokuthenga ilokhwe entle, kungcono ukuthetha neengcali zonyango ezahlukeneyo ukuze ufumane lowo ufanelekileyo kuwe. Izinto eziphambili ekufuneka uzijonge zezi:
- Ingaba loo mntu ngumcebisi onelayisenisi ?
- Nokuba kukho ulwazi oluthe kratya kwindawo ofuna uncedo kuyo (umz., iingcebiso ngomtshato, ukwenzakala, iingxaki zokutya).
- Kwakhona, nokuba uziva ufanelekile kwaye ukhululekile na ukuthetha naloo mntu.
3. "Ndifuna nje amayeza, akukho sizathu sokuthetha..."
Oku kuyinto abantu abaninzi abayicingayo. "Ukuba ufuna amayeza engxaki yempilo yengqondo, ngokuqinisekileyo uyaludinga unyango," batsho oogqirha bengqondo.
Cinga ngayo, amayeza afana neplasta oyibeka enxebeni. Anciphisa kuphela iimpawu. Kodwa unyango lumalunga nokufumanisa unobangela welo nxeba nokuliphilisa ngaphakathi . Ukusela amayeza wedwa ngaphandle konyango kukunciphisa nje iimpawu ngaphandle kokufikelela kwiingcambu zengxaki yakho.
Unyango lolona hlobo lokufikelela kwiingcambu zengxaki. Unyango oluthethayo lukunceda uqonde apho iingxaki zakho zivela khona, yintoni ebangela zona, kwaye uzinyange. Unyango lokwenyani kukuphonononga iingxaki zakho, uziqonde nzulu, kwaye ufumane indlela engcono yokuqhubela phambili. Kungcono ukuthetha nogqirha wakho uze ugqibe ukuba ufuna amayeza okanye unyango.
4. "Akulunganga oko..."
Abantu abaninzi bayathandabuza ngale ndlela yonyango kuba banolwazi olungeyonyani ngayo.
Unyango aluyonto yomlingo. Asinto oza kuthi ufike nje, uthethe nayo, uze ugoduke, uza kuphila. Lusebenza kuphela ukuba usebenzela nzima. Kufuneka ube ngumntu othatha inxaxheba ekwenzeni umahluko ebomini bakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha esinye isizathu sale ntandabuzo kukoyika . "Amaxesha amaninzi, uloyiko lokuba 'ayizukusebenza' lubangelwa luloyiko. Bayazi ukuba baneengxaki ekufuneka bazisombulule, kodwa bayoyika ukujongana nazo. Olo loyiko luvela njengomqobo wokuba 'ayizukusebenza.'" Kodwa xa ubeka olo loyiko ecaleni uze ungene kwinkqubo, elo linyathelo lokuqala olithathayo kwicala elifanelekileyo.
| Intsomi | Inyani |
|---|---|
| Ubuntwana abusenamsebenzi. | Ixesha elidlulileyo, ingakumbi ebuntwaneni, linefuthe ngokuthe ngqo kwiingxaki ezininzi zanamhlanje. |
| Bonke abagqirha bezonyango bayafana. | Kukho unyango olwahlukeneyo kunye neengcali ezahlukeneyo. Kufuneka ufumane olukulungeleyo. |
| Kuphela ngamayeza aneleyo. | Nangona amayeza elawula iimpawu, unyango lubalulekile ukuze kufunyanwe ingcambu yengxaki. |
| Oko akuyi kusebenza. | Ukuba uthatha inxaxheba ngokukhutheleyo, iyasebenza kakhulu. Amathandabuzo adla ngokubangelwa luloyiko. |
5. "Andinakuyihlawula loo ndleko..."
Le yingxaki enkulu kubantu abaninzi, kodwa akufuneki uhlawule imali eninzi rhoqo.
Kukho iikliniki zempilo yengqondo zasimahla kwizibhedlele zikarhulumente eSri Lanka. Ungafumana ulwazi oluthe kratya ngazo kwisibhedlele esikufutshane nawe. Kwakhona, amanye amasebe engqondo eyunivesithi abonelela ngeenkonzo ezingabizi kakhulu phantsi kweliso labafundi abaqeqeshwayo.
Kwanakwicandelo labucala, abanye abagqirha bezonyango bayayamkela i-inshorensi. Abo bangayamkeliyo, kwabo bafuna uncedo kodwa bengenakukwazi ukuluhlawulela, banikezela ngesikali sentlawulo esitshintshayo esihluka ngokwengeniso yabo . Uninzi lwabagqirha bezonyango benza oku njengenkonzo, ngenxa yomnqweno wokunceda abantu. Ngoko ke ukuba unengxaki, unokuthetha ngayo rhoqo kwaye uvumelane ngomrhumo ofanelekileyo.
6. "Andazi ukuba unyango luza kundenza ndidideke ngakumbi na..."
Abanye abantu boyika ukuba ukuthetha ngezinto ezidlulileyo zabo nezinto ezibuhlungu kuya kubenza bangakwazi ukunyamezela oko baze badandatheke ngakumbi. Kodwa akunjalo.
Ingcali yezonyango elungileyo iyazi ukuba ungazisingatha kangakanani ngexesha elithile, kwaye nini apho kufuneka uyeke kancinci. Abaze bakutyhalele ngaphaya kwemida yakho. Unyango alukokulungisa yonke into ngaxeshanye. Lukukwenza kancinci kancinci , oko kukuthi, kuphela kangangoko unako ukukwenza ngelo xesha.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ugqibe ukuba uza kuhamba umgama ongakanani kwaye uthetha nini ngayo. Nguwe olawulayo. Xa usebenza nogqirha wengqondo ofanelekileyo kuwe, ungahamba ngesantya sakho, ngendlela evakala ikhuselekile kuwe.
7. "Andinaxesha laloo nto..."
Nangona oku kungabonakala ngathi sisizathu esivakalayo ngobomi obuxakekileyo banamhlanje, ngoku kukho nezisombululo zaloo nto.
“Oogqirha bezonyango ngoku basebenza ngeempelaveki nangokuhlwa ,” zitsho iingcali. Bayaqonda indlela abaxakeke ngayo abaguli. Akunjalo nje kuphela, kodwa netekhnoloji iye yabanceda.
Emva kokuba udibane nogqirha wengqondo ubuso ngobuso uze uxoxe ngeemfuno zakho, abanye oogqirha bengqondo bazimisele ukwenza iiseshoni ngefowuni okanye ngeefowuni zevidiyo . Iiseshoni zobuso ngobuso zihlala ziyindlela engcono, kodwa ukuba ixesha liyingxaki, kukho iindlela ezifana nezi.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Unyango alupheleli nje kwabo "banesifo sengqondo." Luluncedo kuye nabani na ofuna ukuphucula ubomi bakhe nokuzazi ngcono.
- Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufumana ingcali yezonyango ekufaneleyo kwaye ekuqondayo. Musa ukunikezela ukuba umzamo wakho wokuqala awuphumelelanga.
- Unyango yinkqubo efuna ukuba uthathe inxaxheba ngokukhutheleyo. Ifuna ukuzinikela kuwe ukuze ufumane iziphumo.
- Musa ukuvumela iindleko zikuphoxe. Kukho ezinye iindlela ezifikelelekayo, kunye neenkonzo zasimahla kwizibhedlele zikarhulumente.
- Thetha nogqirha wakho ukuze wenze isigqibo esifanelekileyo malunga nokuba udinga unyango, amayeza, okanye zombini.
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