Amazwi awanakuchaza uvuyo oluvayo xa usiva ukuba uza kuba nomntwana oyinkwenkwe. Siyavuyisana nawe! Kodwa kunye nolo vuyo, kukho izigqibo ezininzi ekufuneka uzenze njengabazali abatsha. Esinye sezigqibo zokuqala ekufuneka uzenze kukuba unyana wakho woluswe okanye hayi, okanye njengoko sikubiza njalo, "unqunyulwe" okanye " ukwaluswa ." Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba oku kuyimfuneko kwezonyango. Kodwa eneneni, kudla ngokuba sisigqibo sobuqu kusapho lwakho kunokuba sisizathu sezonyango. Ngoko ke usenza njani kanye kanye esi sigqibo? Makhe sithethe ngaso ngokweenkcukacha .
Kutheni le nto esi sisigqibo sosapho kunokuba sisigqibo sezonyango?
Kukho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zokuba oku kungabi yingxaki yezonyango kuphela. Xa wena neqabane lakho nithetha ngale nto, kufuneka niziqwalasele ezi zinto.
- Iinkolelo Zenkolo Nezenkcubeko: Kwilizwe lethu, oku kwenziwa njengesiko lenkolo, ingakumbi kwiintsapho zamaSilamsi. Oku kuyabonakala nakwezinye iinkcubeko. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuba zeziphi iinkolelo nezithethe ezinazo iintsapho zakho.
- Uluvo lwabazali: Nobabini nisenokuba nezimvo ezahlukeneyo ngale nto. Ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuthetha omnye nomnye kwaye wabelane ngeemvakalelo zakho ngokunyanisekileyo. Akukho mntu ufanele enze isigqibo ngokungathandi.
- Imeko kaTata: Abanye abazali bacinga ukuba, "Ukuba kwenziwe kutata, kufanele kwenziwe nakunyana wakhe. Okanye baza kujongeka bahlukile?" Ngokwenene lukhetho lomntu ngamnye malunga nenkangeleko, hayi ingxaki yempilo. Xoxani ngokuba oku kubaluleke kangakanani kuni nobabini nize nenze isigqibo.
Ngamafutshane, esi ayisosigqibo "esilungileyo" okanye "esingalunganga". Sisigqibo somntu siqu esisebenza kakuhle kusapho lwakho kwaye nonke nivumelana ngaso.
Ziziphi iingenelo zokwenyani ngokwembono yezempilo?
Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba kulula ukugcina amalungu esini ecocekile emva kokwaluka. Kodwa oko akuyonyani. Ukugcina amalungu esini ecocekile kumntwana ongowalukileyo kulula kakhulu. Ngoko ke, musa ukwenza esi sigqibo ngokusekelwe kumbandela wococeko kuphela.
Nangona kunjalo, uphando lwezonyango lufumanise ukuba kukho ezinye iingenelo ezincinci kakhulu kwezempilo. Kodwa amathuba okufumana izifo eziziswa zezi zibonelelo nawo aphantsi kakhulu kwasekuqaleni.
| Iingenelo ezibalulekileyo zempilo | Oko kufuneka ukwazi ngokwenene |
|---|---|
| Ukuncipha kancinci komngcipheko wosulelo lomchamo (UTIs) kumakhwenkwe amancinci. | Amakhwenkwe awanakukwazi ukuba nosulelo lomchamo kwasekuqaleni, ngoko ke kunzima ukubona inzuzo enkulu ekunciphiseni kancinci kolu mngcipheko. |
| Ukuncipha kancinci komngcipheko wokufumana ezinye izifo ezidluliselwa ngesondo (STDs) kumadoda amadala. | Iindlela zesondo ezikhuselekileyo zingawunciphisa kakhulu lo mngcipheko. Ulwaluko alulo lodwa isisombululo. |
| Ukunciphisa umngcipheko womhlaza wepenis. | Umhlaza wepenis ngomnye weentlobo zomhlaza ezingaqhelekanga nezingaqhelekanga ehlabathini, ngoko ke oku kunciphisa umngcipheko akuyi kuba nefuthe elikhulu. |
Oko kuthetha ukuba, akukho ngqiqweni ukwenza esi sigqibo ucinga nje ngezi zibonelelo zempilo, kuba umngcipheko wokufumana ezi zifo uphantsi kakhulu kwasekuqaleni.
Ukuba ugqibe ekubeni woluke, ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka uzazi ezi zinto.
Kulungile, masithi nonke nithethe naza nagqiba ekubeni nenze oku ngenxa yomntwana. Ngoko ke, izinto ezilandelayo ekufuneka niziqwalasele zezi:
Ngubani okwenzayo oku nini kwaye ngubani?
Kungcono ukuba olu tyando lwenziwe ngokukhawuleza. Ludla ngokwenziwa kwiveki yokuqala okanye ezimbini emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukukhetha ugqirha onamava amahle koku.
ESri Lanka, olu tyando ludla ngokwenziwa nguGqirha wabantwana okanye nguGqirha oQhelekileyo . Ngamanye amaxesha nooGqirha bokubelekisa bayalwenza olu tyando. Ukuba lwenziwa ngezizathu zonqulo, kukho abo baqeqeshwe ukukwenza. Nangona kunjalo, indlela ekhuselekileyo yezonyango kukuba lwenziwe ngugqirha ofanelekileyo esibhedlele okanye eklinikhi.
Ngaba umntwana uza kuba sentlungwini enkulu?
Kuyaqondakala ukuba ukhathazeke malunga nokuba umntwana wakho uza kuva intlungu engakanani xa usiva oku. Kodwa ungakhathazeki. Zininzi iindlela ezilungileyo zokulawula intlungu kule mihla.Ngaphambi kotyando, uza kunikwa ikhrimu ye-anesthetic yendawo okanye inaliti encinci ukuze uvale loo ndawo. Oku kunokunciphisa kakhulu intlungu eviwa ngumntwana wakho. Ngaphambi kotyando, thetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto uze ufumane ukuba yintoni enokwenziwa ukunciphisa intlungu.
Indlela yokunyamekela umntwana emva kotyando?
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Emva kotyando, kufuneka unyamekele inxeba ngendlela efanelekileyo de liphole.
1. Yigcine icocekile: Gcina indawo icocekile njengoko ugqirha wakho ekuxelela. Ngokwesiqhelo, baya kukuxelela ukuba uyihlambe kancinci ngamanzi afudumeleyo.
2. Sebenzisa iVaseline (iPetroleum Jelly): Ukuze inxeba lingakhuhli kwinapukeni yomntwana okanye impahla yakhe lize libangele iintlungu, oogqirha bacebisa ukuba uthambise iVaseline encinci enxebeni ngalo lonke ixesha utshintsha inapukeni.
3. Lumka xa kukho iimpawu zosulelo: Kuqhelekile ukuba inxeba libe bomvu kancinci kwaye lidumbe kwiintsuku zokuqala ezimbalwa. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kukho ukubomvu okukhulu, ukudumba okugqithisileyo, ukuphuma kolwelo olutyheli, okanye ukuba ukopha akuyeki, okanye ukuba umntwana wakho unomkhuhlane, kufuneka utsalele umnxeba ugqirha wakho ngokukhawuleza.
Ngaphambi kotyando, buza ugqirha wakho ngale nto ilandelayo:
- Utyando lwenziwa njani kwaye nini?
- Ziziphi iingozi ezikhoyo, kwaye zixhaphake kangakanani?
- Ndingayinyamekela njani umntwana emva kotyando?
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ulwaluko aluyomfuneko ngokwezonyango. Ludla ngokuba sisigqibo sosapho esenziwe ngezizathu zobuqu, zonqulo, okanye zenkcubeko.
- Olu tyando alufuneki ngenxa yezizathu zokucoceka. Kulula ukugcina amalungu esini ecocekile nokuba awukaluki.
- Nangona kukho iingenelo ezininzi zempilo, umngcipheko wokufumana izifo abazithintelayo uphantsi kakhulu ekuqaleni, ngoko ke iingenelo azibalulekanga kangako.
- Ukuba ugqiba ekubeni wenze olu tyando, kubalulekile ukuba lwenziwe ngokukhuselekileyo ngugqirha onamava , esebenzisa iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuphelisa iintlungu.
- Emva kotyando, kubaluleke kakhulu ukunyamekela inxeba ngokwemiyalelo kagqirha nokuqaphela iimpawu zosulelo.
- Ekugqibeleni, khumbula, nokuba uthatha siphi na isigqibo, akukho "silungileyo" okanye "singalunganga." Umntwana wakho uza kuba sempilweni kwaye onwabe nokuba kunjani na!
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