Ukuya ekhampasini liphupha kwabaninzi. Kodwa xa ungekho ekhaya, uzama ukuqhela indawo entsha, izifundo ezintsha, kunye nabahlobo abatsha, ngamanye amaxesha uziva uxinezelekile kwaye uthwele umthwalo omkhulu, akunjalo? Uxinzelelo oluza nale mingeni mitsha lunokwenza abanye abafundi badandatheke. Le meko siyibiza ngokuba yi "Depression". Enyanisweni, oku sele kuqhelekile kakhulu ngoku. Ngoko ke, namhlanje siza kuthetha ngokuba yintoni le depression, zithini iimpawu zayo, kunye nento onokuyenza ukuze woyise le meko.
Ziziphi izinto ezibangela ukudakumba xa uselula?
Uphando ngokubanzi lufumanisa ukuba uninzi lweengxaki zempilo yengqondo ziqala ukuvela phakathi kweminyaka eli-18 nengama-24. Oko kwenzeka kanye ngexesha oya eyunivesithi. Akukho sizathu sinye soxinzelelo. Kodwa kukho izinto ezininzi eziqhelekileyo ezinokukuchaphazela njengomfundi waseyunivesithi.
1. Indawo entsha kunye nesizungu
Kwabaninzi, ubomi basekhampasini lixesha labo lokuqala bengekho ekhaya ixesha elide. Nangona lixesha elihle lokufunda izinto ezintsha nokwakha ubuwena babo, kuqhelekile nokuba uzive unesizungu ngamanye amaxesha. Khawuthelekelele, emva kokutya endlwini kamama wakho ixesha elide kwaye uhlala kwigumbi lakho, ngequbuliso kufuneka wabelane ngegumbi nomnye umntu ehostele, wenze abahlobo abatsha, kwaye usebenze wedwa. Ngolu tshintsho, izinto ezifana nokutya kwakho kunye nokulala kwakho zinokuphazamiseka. Xa konke oku kuhlangana, kunokuba nzima kakhulu.
2. Impembelelo yemfuza kunye nobuntu
Ukuba kukho umntu kusapho lwakho okhe waba noxinzelelo, usemngciphekweni omkhulu wokuba nalo. Oku kungenxa yokuba le meko inokudluliselwa ngee-genes. Nangona kunjalo, ayinguye wonke umntu ofumana uxinzelelo ngenxa nje yokuba ene-genes. Kwakhona, ubuntu bakho bunokuchaphazela oku. Umzekelo, ukuba ungazithembi kwaye uxhalabele kakhulu izinto ezincinci, unamathuba amaninzi okuba noxinzelelo. Ukuba unomkhwa wokujonga yonke into ngendlela engathandekiyo, oko kunokukuchaphazela nawe.
3. Indalo esingqongileyo kunye nempembelelo yoluntu
Uxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalaba zixhaphake kakhulu kubafundi basekholejini kule mihla. Ngokophando olwenziweyo, phantse isiqingatha sabafundi basekholejini bahlushwa zezi meko. Ngoko ke, ukuba abanye abahlobo abakwindawo ohlala kuyo badandathekile kwaye baxinezelekile, oku kunokukuchaphazela nawe. Ezi mvakalelo zinokukwenza uzive unesizungu ngakumbi kwaye wedwa kwabanye.
Ngaba nawe unazo ezi mpawu? (Iimpawu zokudakumba)
Ayingabo bonke abantu abanesifo sokudakumba abafumana iimpawu ezifanayo. Kodwa thatha umzuzwana ukuze ubone ukuba unayo na enye yezi mpawu. Ukuba ubusoloko ufumana enye okanye ngaphezulu kwezi mpawu ixesha elide, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele.
| Uphawu | Ukuchaza ngokulula... |
|---|---|
| Ubuthathaka | Ndisoloko ndidiniwe kwaye andifuni kwenza nto. |
| Ubunzima bokugxila | Andikhumbuli ukuba ndifunda ntoni, kwaye kunzima ukugxila kwinto enye. |
| Ukucaphuka ngokukhawuleza | Ndiba nomsindo nakwezona zinto zincinci, ndize ndizive ngathi ndisengxakini. |
| Iingxaki zokulala | Mhlawumbi awukwazi ukulala ebusuku (ukungalali), okanye ulala imini yonke. |
| Utshintsho kwindlela yokutya | Mhlawumbi abatyi kuba benomdla wokutya, okanye batya ngaphezu kokuba kufuneka. |
| Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kuyo nayiphi na into | Andisafuni ukwenza izinto endandizithanda ngaphambili (umz. ukumamela umculo, ukubukela iimuvi, ukuthetha nabahlobo). |
| Iimvakalelo zokuphelelwa lithemba | Ukuziva unetyala ngawe, uzive ungenathemba, uzive ungento yanto, uzive ungenanto. |
| Iintlungu zomzimba | Ndihlala ndiphathwa ziintloko ezibuhlungu kunye neentlungu zomzimba ngaphandle kwesizathu esithile. |
| Iingcinga zokuphelisa ubomi bakho | Olu luphawu oluyingozi kakhulu olufuna ingqalelo ekhawulezileyo. |
Uxinzelelo luchaphazela njani ubomi bekhampasi?
Ukudakumba kunokuchaphazela ubomi bakho bonke. Kungaba ngumqobo omkhulu kwindlela oqhuba ngayo izifundo zakho. Kwabanye abafundi, kunokubangela ukuba badandatheke kangangokuba bangakwazi nokugqiba imisebenzi yabo yemihla ngemihla.
Ngenxa yokungakwazi ukumelana nolu xinzelelo, abanye abantu bajika baye kwizinto ezimbi. Umzekelo, banokuba ngamakhoboka otywala okanye iziyobisi. Olu xinzelelo luyanda ingakumbi ngexesha leemviwo naxa ixesha lokugqibela lokunikezelwa kwemisebenzi lisondela.
Abantu abanesifo soxinzelelo banokuba namathuba amaninzi okuzibandakanya kwiindlela zokuziphatha eziyingozi, ezifana nesondo esingakhuselekanga .
Okubaluleke kakhulu, ukudakumba yinto ebangela ukuzibulala, imbangela yesithathu ephambili yokufa phakathi kolutsha oluphakathi kweminyaka eli-15 nengama-24 ubudala.
Ngoko ke ukuba uyabona ukuba unale mpawu, ungaze ungathandabuzi ukucela uncedo. Zininzi iindlela zokufumana uncedo.
Yintoni enokwenziwa ukuze kuphunywe kule meko?
Ukuba ucinga ukuba unesifo sokudakumba, kukho iindawo neendlela zokufumana uncedo. Musa ukubandezeleka wedwa.
1. Fumana uncedo lweengcali: Eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukuthetha nogqirha ngale nto. Iiyunivesithi ezininzi zineziko lezempilo labafundi kuphela. Ungathetha neengcali zempilo yengqondo apho. Baza kukunika ulwalathiso olufunayo.
2. Unyango: Unyango oluphambili lokudakumba yi -psychotherapy/talk therapy. Ngokuxhomekeke kuhlobo lweempawu zakho, ugqirha wakho unokukunika amayeza okudakumba kunye nengcebiso.
3. Ukuzinyamekela: Xa ufuna ingcebiso kagqirha, zininzi izinto onokuzenzela zona.
- Lala kakuhle: Zama ukulala kakuhle iiyure ezisi-7-9 ngosuku.
- Yitya kakuhle: Yitya ukutya okunesondlo nokunempilo. Oku kuya kunika amandla umzimba nengqondo yakho.
- Ukuzilolonga: Zinike ixesha lokuzilolonga yonke imihla. Hamba, baleka, dlala umdlalo owuthandayo. Oku kuya kukunika isiqabu esikhulu.
- Ziphephe utywala neziyobisi: Ezi zingenza uxinzelelo lwakho lube mandundu.
- Thetha ngeemvakalelo zakho: Musa ukuzifihla iimvakalelo zakho. Thetha ngeemvakalelo zakho nomhlobo okanye ilungu losapho olithembayo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Kuqhelekile ukuziva uxinezelekile, ulusizi, kwaye unesizungu ngexesha lobomi basekhampasini. Musa ukuba neentloni ngaloo nto.
- Chonga ukuba uneempawu zoxinzelelo (ukudakumba okungapheliyo, ukungabi namandla, utshintsho ebuthongweni nasekutyeni).
- Musa ukuzifihla ezi mvakalelo kuwe. Ukuthetha nomntu omthembayo kunokuba luncedo kakhulu.
- Bona ugqirha ngokukhawuleza. Cela uncedo kwiziko lezonyango lasekhampasini okanye kugqirha wosapho lwakho. Leyo yeyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza.
- Ukuba ucinga ngokuzibulala, nceda uxelele umntu osondeleyo kuwe ngoko nangoko, okanye uye kwiSebe lezeMpilo eziNgxamisekileyo (ETU) elikufutshane nawe ngoko nangoko.
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