Uma oshade naye ene-ADHD ( Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), kungenzeka ukuthi uqaphele ukuthi umshado wakho ungaba yinselele ngezinye izikhathi. Ungase uzibuze, "Kungani ekhohlwa engikushoyo njalo?", "Kungani enganaki izinto ezincane?", "Akangikhathaleli mina?". Lena akuyona inkinga yakho kuphela. Abantu abaningi abahlala nomuntu one-ADHD babhekana nale mizwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umuntu one-ADHD angase azizwe edabuke kakhulu futhi enecala ngesimo sakhe. Namuhla, sizoxoxa ngokuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka, ukuthi ungaqonda kanjani ukuthi akulona iphutha lakho, nokuthi unganqoba kanjani lezi zinselele futhi wenze ubuhlobo bakho bube buhle nakakhulu.
Izinselele ezinkulu emshadweni ezibangelwa yi-ADHD
Ukuze siqonde imbangela eyinhloko yalezi zinkinga, sidinga ukwazi okuncane ngesimo somuntu one-ADHD. Kalula nje, umuntu onalesi simo angase abe nalezi zimpawu:
- Ukuphazamiseka kalula: Uma usebenza, ngisho nomsindo omncane kakhulu ungakuphazamisa.
- Ukukhohlwa izinto ngokushesha: Uvame ukukhohlwa izinto ezifana nezinto owatshelwa ukuba uzenze, izinsuku ezibalulekile, kanye nezinto ezithile owatshelwa ukuthi uzilethe.
- Ukuxhamazela: Wenza izinqumo ngokushesha ngaphandle kokucabanga ngemiphumela, uthukuthela ngokushesha, futhi usho noma yini efika engqondweni ngokushesha.
- Kunzima ukuhlala endaweni eyodwa, kukhona ukungaphumuli okungapheli (Ukuphumula LES s): Kunzima ukuhlala endaweni eyodwa isikhathi eside, kukhona ukuthuthumela okungapheli kwezitho, futhi kukhona ukungaphumuli okuphawulekayo.
Ngenxa yalezi zici, izinselele ezinkulu ezinjengalezi zingavela empilweni yomshado.
Iqembu elilodwa liba "uMnakekeli"
Ngokuvamile, umuntu one-ADHD uzokhetha umlingani ococekile futhi ohlelekile. Lokho kungokwemvelo. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, umuntu ongena-ADHD uzoqala ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya neyezingane kuphela, kodwa futhi nemisebenzi yasekhaya yomlingani wakhe.
Cabanga nje, ngoba indoda ene-ADHD ikhohlwa ukulungiselela umsebenzi ekuseni, owesifazane uvuka ekuseni kakhulu, abeke izingubo zakhe, alungise ukudla kwasekuseni, futhi ahlale emkhumbuza ukuthi kufanele ahambe nini. Lokhu sikubiza ngokuthi "ukusiza ngokweqile." Lokho kusho ukusiza kakhulu.
Nakuba lokhu kungase kungabonakali njengenkinga esikhathini esifushane, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuba yinkinga enkulu kubo bobabili. Umuntu one-ADHD akatholi ithuba lokuzijwayeza ukuphatha umsebenzi wakhe. Baqala ukucabanga, 'Angikwazi kahle lokhu, nguyena owenza kahle kakhulu.' Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kumuntu owenza konke, lokhu kuwumthwalo omkhulu. Bayakhathala, bathukuthele, futhi bazizwe sengathi bayedwa.
Ukwakha ubudlelwano obufana "nomzali nomntwana"
Uma indima "yomnakekeli" okukhulunywe ngayo ngaphambili iqhubeka kancane, ubuhlobo buqala ukufana "nomzali nomntwana." Umuntu ongena-ADHD uqala ukuthethisa, ukusola, nokubeka imithetho kumuntu one-ADHD, njengomama noma ubaba.
Isibonelo, ungase uthi, "Kukangaki ngikutshele ukuthi namuhla usuku lokugcina lokukhokha isikweletu sikagesi ? Awunawo yini umthwalo wale ndlu?" Akukhona ukuthi umuntu one- ADHD empeleni akanandaba. Kodwa lesi simo senza kube nzima ngaye ukukhumbula izinto. Kodwa uma ezwa lolu hlobo lokuthethiswa, angase aphendule ngokugoqa izingalo zakhe ezinqeni zakhe, anyathele phansi izinyawo zakhe, futhi ajikijele amehlo akhe njengengane encane . Lokhu kwenza inkinga ibe yimbi kakhulu, ingaxazululwa.
Izinkinga empilweni yocansi
Lezi zinkinga zingathinta nobudlelwano bakho bocansi. Kunezizathu eziningana zalokhu.
| Inkinga | Incazelo |
|---|---|
| Ukuphazamiseka | Ukuba ne-ADHD kungakwenza ulahlekelwe ukugxila ngesikhathi socansi. Lokhu kunganciphisa injabulo engokomzimba nengokomzwelo eniyitholayo kuyo nobabili. Omunye umuntu angase azizwe sengathi "akangikhathaleli." |
| Ukungacabangi | Ngenxa yokuthambekela kokwenza ngaphandle kokucabanga ngemiphumela, kunethuba elikhulu lokulingeka ukuba uziphathe kabi ngokocansi, njengokukhohlisa umlingani wakho. |
| Izinguquko esifisweni socansi | Abanye abantu abane-ADHD bangase babe nesifiso sobulili esengeziwe. Futhi, eminye imithi ye-ADHD inganciphisa isifiso sobulili. Lokhu kungaholela ekungahambelani phakathi kwalokhu okubili. |
Ungabugcina kanjani ubuhlobo buqinile?
Kulungile, pho singabhekana kanjani nalezi zinselele? Ungakhathazeki. Sobabili singazisingatha lezi zinto ndawonye.
Zijwayeze Ukuzinakekela
Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu kumlingani ongenayo i-ADHD . Ukunakekela yonke into kungakukhathaza ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba. Ngakho yenza lezi zinto:
- Lala kahle: Zama ukulala amahora angu-7-8 ngosuku.
- Yidla ukudla okunomsoco: Yidla ukudla okunempilo.
- Ukuzivocavoca : Yenza okuthile okufana nokuhamba okungenani imizuzu engama-30 ngosuku.
- Zinike isikhathi: Lokhu kungase kubonakale kunzima, kodwa imizuzu eyi-15 ngosuku, cela oshade naye ukuthi anakekele izingane isikhashana futhi enze okuthile okuthandayo. Funda incwadi, ulalele ingoma, noma uphuze itiye elithule.
- Bhala phansi intukuthelo yakho, ukudabuka, kanye nokukhungatheka. Kuzokunikeza impumuzo enkulu.
Beka Imingcele
Nquma kusengaphambili ukuthi uzosabela kanjani ekukhohlweni nasekuthatheni isinyathelo komuntu one-ADHD. Bhala uhlu lwamagama athi 'Ngizokwenza lokhu, ngeke ngikwenze lokhu.' Isibonelo:
- Ngilalela ngokuthula.
- Ngiyazwelana naye.
- Ngeke 'ngimsindise' emiphumeleni yento ayenzile. (isib. uma kufanele akhokhe inhlawulo yesikweletu asikhohliwe, makazenzele sona).
- Uma ngithukuthela kakhulu, ngiyahamba ibanga elincane ukusuka kuleyo ndawo bese ngithula.
Sebenzani ndawonye njengeqembu.
Khuluma ngamandla akho nobuthakathaka bakho. Hlukanisa umsebenzi ngokufanele. Uma umuntu oyedwa enekhono lokupheka, omunye angasiza ekuletheni ukudla nokuhlanza ikhishi ngenkathi epheka. Uma kukhona into enzima kini nobabili, yinikeze omunye umuntu uma kungenzeka. Isibonelo, uma unenkinga yokuphatha imali, sebenzisa uhlelo lokusebenza oluhle lokuphatha imali. Bhala phansi imisebenzi okudingeka uyenze ekhalendeni elikhulu bese uyibeka lapho wonke umuntu angayibona khona.
Landela iseluleko sezokwelapha.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi umlingani one-ADHD aphuze imithi yakhe njengoba eyalelwe. Le mithi ingasiza ekulawuleni izimpawu ze-ADHD ngezinga elikhulu. Uma unenkinga ngemithi yakho, khuluma nodokotela wakho mayelana nokushintshela komunye umuthi. Kungadingeka futhi ushintshe isikhathi ophuza ngaso umuthi wakho.
Yenza Izinto Zibonakale
Kunezinto ezincane ezingenza impilo ibe lula kini nobabili. Yenza uhlu lwezinto okufanele zenziwe bese ubeka amanothi anamathelayo esibukweni. Faka amalebula kumadrowa namakhabethe. Sebenzisa ikhalenda eliku-inthanethi enilibonayo nobabili. Izinto ezinjengalezi zinganciphisa kakhulu ukukhohlwa.
Ngakho konke lokhu, zikhumbuze njalo, "Ngiyakuthanda, sikulokhu ndawonye." Uma uthukuthele noma uphatheke kabi, yeka uzikhumbuze ukuthi awukho wedwa kulolu hambo, nikulolu hambo ndawonye.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- I-ADHD akuyona iphutha lomuntu, ubuvila, noma ukunganaki. Yisimo sezokwelapha esenzeka ngokushintsha kokusebenza kwama-neurotransmitter ebuchosheni. Okokuqala, qonda lokho.
- Ukukhulumisana okuqotho kanye nokuzibophezela komunye nomunye kubalulekile ebudlelwaneni obuqinile.
- Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi umlingani ongeyena i-ADHD anakekele impilo yakhe yengqondo neyomzimba (ukuzinakekela), ngaphandle kwalokho ungase ucindezeleke.
- Eziningi zalezi zinselele zinganqotshwa ngokufuna imithi kanye nokwelulekwa ukuze kulawulwe i-ADHD. Khuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokhu.
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