Ngezinye izikhathi sizizwa sidabukile kakhulu, sinesizungu, futhi sikhathazekile. Kufana nokuba wedwa ekamelweni elimnyama. Mhlawumbe usuvele uthatha imithi noma ukwelulekwa ngesimo esifana nokucindezeleka. Kanye nalezo zinto, ukunaka kancane umuntu wangaphakathi kungaba amandla amakhulu okwandisa injabulo yakho nokulawula imizwa yakho. Lokhu akuyona into okufanele uyenze ngesikhathi esisodwa. Uma uqala ngento encane futhi uyenze umkhuba, uzobona umehluko omkhulu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Kuyini 'ukucabanga'?
Kalula nje, ukuqaphela kusho ukuphila esikhathini samanje, ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngesikhathi esidlule noma ukukhathazeka ngekusasa. Ukubuka nje imicabango efika engqondweni yakho, ukunaka imizwa emzimbeni wakho. Kodwa ngaphandle kokwahlulela.
Cabanga unaka indlela ihembe oligqokile elizizwa ngayo, noma indlela ukudla okudlayo okunambitheka ngayo. Yilokho okushiwo ukuqaphela.
Ukuzindla, i-yoga, kanye ne-tai chi kungakusiza ukuthi uphumule emicabangweni yakho ematasa. Kungakusiza ukuthi ushintshe umbono wakho ngempilo futhi kukusize ubhekane nokuhle nokubi. Kodwa ukuze uthole imiphumela emihle kakhulu, kubalulekile ukubekela eceleni isikhathi usuku ngalunye salokhu.
Masiyeke ukuzisola, akunjalo?
Uma usesimweni sokucindezeleka, konke kubonakala kubi. Ngisho noma wenza iphutha elincane, kuzwakala sengathi othile ukukhuza ngaphakathi, akunjalo? Imicabango efana nokuthi "Kungani ngenze lokhu?" kanye nokuthi "Angilutho" ifika engqondweni.
Kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi: Awulona lelo zwi elisekhanda lakho. Uma lelo zwi liqala ukukugxeka, lilawule. Zama lezi zinto:
- Zinike iseluleko esifanayo ongasinika umngane wakho omkhulu: Cabanga uma into efana nalena ingenzeka kumngane wakho omkhulu, ubungathini kuye? Ubungamthethisa? Cha, akunjalo? Ubungakhuluma naye ngothando futhi umduduze. Yenza okufanayo nawe.
- Cela ubufakazi kulelo zwi: "Ingabe lokho okushoyo kuyiqiniso? Ungakufakazela?" Buza lowo mcabango. Uzokwazi ngokwakho ukuthi kuyiqiniso noma umsindo nje wentukuthelo.
- Bheka isimo ngendlela ehlukile: Uma othile ekuphathe kabi, akulona iphutha lakho ngaso sonke isikhathi. Mhlawumbe lowo muntu wayecindezeleke kakhulu, futhi wawulapho ngaleso sikhathi.
Khumbula, akuwona wonke umcabango omubi ofika engqondweni yakho oyiqiniso. Ukufunda ukuwuphonsela inselelo kubalulekile enhlalakahleni yengqondo.
Yiba nobuciko futhi uveze okusengqondweni yakho.
Ubuciko buyindlela ephephile nenempilo yokukhulula ubumnyama nokudabuka enhliziyweni yakho. Kunamandla amakhulu okuvumela imizwa yakho ejulile ukuthi igeleze ngobuhlakani. Akunzima kangako ukuqala. Phinda wenze into oyithanda kakhulu, noma uzame into entsha.
| Umsebenzi wokudala | Indlela yokukwenza |
|---|---|
| Ukubhala | Izifundo zize zabonisa nokuthi ukubhala ngezenzakalo zakho ezidabukisayo imizuzu eyi-15 ngosuku izinsuku ezi-3 kungakusiza uzizwe ungcono. Ungabonisa lokhu kumngane omethembayo, ilungu lomndeni, noma udokotela, noma ungabagcina beyimfihlo. |
| Umdwebo | Thatha incwadi yokudweba namapensela anemibala, uye endaweni yakho enhle oyithandayo (ogwini lolwandle, osebeni lomfula, engadini yethempeli) bese udweba lokho okubonayo. |
| Umculo | Uma ubudlala insimbi yomculo, lesi yisikhathi esihle sokuqala ukuyidlala futhi. Noma thatha ikilasi elisha legitare. |
| Ezinye izinto zokuzilibazisa | Zama noma yini eveza uhlangothi lwakho lokudala, njengokuthunga, ukwenza imbiza yezimbali, noma ukusebenza ngobumba. |
Ungabi namahloni noma ucabange ukuthi, "O, angikwazi ukukwenza lokhu" uma wenza lezi zinto. Akubalulekile ukuthi umphumela uba yini. Okubalulekile ukuthi ukwenze.
Zinike isikhathi sokwenza izinto ezikwenza ujabule.
Ukuze ingqondo ephilile, injabulo ibalulekile. Akunakuba ukuzindla nobuciko konke. Udinga futhi ukuhleka nokwenza izinto ovame ukuzijabulela. Lokhu kunzima kancane ngokucindezeleka. Ngakho-ke, faka lezi zinto emisebenzini yakho yansuku zonke. Ngisho noma ungazizwa ujabule njengamanje, qhubeka uzenza. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuzokulethela ukuthula okukhulu.
Thola injongo ekuphileni.
Uma singenalo injongo ecacile ekuphileni, singazizwa silahlekile. Izifundo zibonisa ukuthi abantu abanomqondo oqinile wenjongo bayakwazi kangcono ukubhekana nezinselele zokuphila. Kwabanye, le njongo ivela enkolweni. Kwabanye, ivela emsebenzini wabo. Uma ungakwazi ukucabanga ngendawo yokuqala, zama lokhu:
Kunezikhathi lapho ugxile kakhulu entweni ethile kangangokuthi awuqapheli ukuthi isikhathi esingakanani sidlulile, akunjalo? Bhala phansi lezo zinto encwadini yamanothi. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lawo manothi azokunikeza izinkomba ezincane ezizokusiza ukuthola injongo yakho.
Phumula, 'phumula'
Ngisho nalapho sidlala umdlalo, sithatha 'ikhefu', akunjalo? Kungani kunjalo? Yima isikhashana, uhlele futhi, uqoqe amandla akho, bese udlala. Kuyafana empilweni. Uma uzizwa unesisindo esiningi noma ucindezelekile engqondweni yakho, ungesabi ukuthatha 'ikhefu'. Ngaleso sikhathi, yenza okuthile okuzolisa ingqondo yakho.
| Izindlela zokuphumula | Incazelo |
|---|---|
| Ukuzindla noma Izithombe Eziqondiswayo | Beka eceleni imicabango yakho bese ugxila egameni elilodwa noma emcabangweni owodwa. Noma uzibone usendaweni ethule kakhulu (ebhishi, ehlathini). |
| Ukuzivocavoca kokuphefumula | Gxila ekuphefumuleni kwakho, ugcine ingqondo yakho igxile entweni eyodwa. Phefumula kancane ngekhala lakho, ubambe umoya wakho imizuzwana embalwa, bese uphefumula kancane ngekhala noma ngomlomo wakho. Yenza lokhu cishe imizuzu engama-20. |
| Impendulo ye-Bio | Kulokhu, uchwepheshe wezokwelapha ukufundisa indlela yokulawula izinqubo zemvelo zomzimba wakho, njengokushaya kwenhliziyo yakho kanye nomfutho wegazi. Ungasebenzisa lawa masu ukuze uzole uma uzizwa ucindezelekile. |
| Ukuhlikihla | Ukuthola ukubhucungwa kumuntu othembekile noqeqeshiwe kungaba impumuzo enkulu emzimbeni nasengqondweni. |
Ukuphumula akusho ukuthi “umane ulapho” noma “ukuvilapha.” Cabanga ngakho njengento ebalulekile ukuze uhlale uphilile, njengokudla nokulala.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Inhlalakahle yakho yengqondo ibaluleke kakhulu. Ukugxila kuwe ngenxa yalokho kungamandla amakhulu.
- Ungazami ukwenza konke ngesikhathi esisodwa. Qala ngento encane elula kuwe bese uyenza umkhuba.
- Inselele imicabango emibi efika engqondweni yakho. Akuwona wena oyicabangayo.
- Ukuba nobuciko, ukwenza izinto ezikwenza ujabule, nokuphumula akuzona izinto zokunethezeka, zibalulekile empilweni enempilo.
- Uma kungekho lutho kulokhu olusizayo, futhi ukudabuka nokukhathazeka kwakho kuya ngokuya kuba kubi, sicela ungahlupheki wedwa. Qiniseka ukuthi ubona udokotela wakho futhi ukhulume naye.
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