Ucabanga ukuthi ukucindezeleka kuthinta wonke umuntu ngendlela efanayo? Akunjalo ngempela. Kufana nomkhuhlane ovamile obangelwa yigciwane elifanayo, kodwa kuthinta wonke umuntu ngendlela ehlukile. Amadoda, abesifazane, kanye nabantu asebekhulile bangabhekana nokucindezeleka ngendlela ehlukile, futhi izimpawu zingabonakala ngezindlela eziningi ezahlukene. Ngezinye izikhathi, kukhona ngisho nezimo zokucindezeleka ezingaphenduli emithini. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi wena nabathandekayo bakho niqonde lokhu.
Okokuqala, kuyini ukucindezeleka?
Ukucindezeleka akuyona nje umuzwa wokudabuka noma isithukuthezi. Kuyisifo sengqondo esijulile kakhulu nesingathi sína . Uma sikhuluma iqiniso, kuyisimo esithinta imizwa yomuntu isikhathi eside. Kungaholela osizini olungabekezeleleki, ekuphelelweni yithemba, ekusweleni usizo, kanye nasemizwa yokuzizwa ungelutho.
Lesi simo singafika ngamazinga ahlukahlukene. Kwabanye abantu, sincane kuya kwesiphakathi. Kwabanye, kungaba ukucindezeleka okukhulu impilo yonke.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi ukucindezeleka akusibo ubuthakathaka, kodwa ukugula okudingeka kwelashwe.
Ake sibheke umehluko phakathi kwalezi ezimbili.
| Izinga lokucindezeleka | Izimpawu ezivame ukubonakala |
|---|---|
| Ukucindezeleka Okuncane Kuya Kokuphakathi | Ukungabi nandaba nanoma yini, ukuphelelwa yisifiso sokudla, ubunzima bokulala, ukuzethemba okuphansi, kanye nomuzwa wokukhathala njalo. |
| Ukucindezeleka Okukhulu | Isimo sengqondo esidabukisayo kakhulu esihlala isikhathi eside sosuku, ukulahlekelwa intshisekelo emisebenzini yansuku zonke, ukwehla noma ukwanda kwesisindo ngokuzumayo, ukuqwasha noma ukulala ngokweqile (hypersomnia), ukukhathala okukhulu, imizwa yecala engapheli, kanye nemicabango yokuqeda impilo yakho. |
Amadoda acindezeleka kanjani?
Kusekhona umbono ongalungile emphakathini wethu wokuthi "ukucindezeleka kuyisifo sowesifazane." Ngenxa yemibono efana nokuthi "amadoda awakhali" nokuthi "amadoda kudingeka abe namandla," amadoda amaningi ayanqikaza ukuvuma ukuthi anokucindezeleka noma ukukhuluma ngakho. Kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi, izigidi zamadoda emhlabeni wonke zihlushwa yilesi sifo.
Nakuba amadoda eba nezimpawu zokucindezeleka ezifanayo nezabesifazane, indlela aveza ngayo lezo zimpawu ihluke kakhulu.
Izici ezivamile phakathi kwamadoda
- Ukunganaki (ukungabi nandaba nakho konke)
- Izinguquko ekufiseni ukudla (ukudla okuningi ngesikhathi esisodwa noma ukungafuni ukudla)
- Ukukhathala okuqhubekayo
- Ukulahlekelwa isithakazelo ezintweni owawuzijabulela (isb., ezemidlalo, izinto zokuzilibazisa)
- Ukuzethemba okuphansi
- Izinkinga zocansi (ukulahlekelwa isifiso, izinkinga zokusebenza)
- Ukushintsha kwendlela yokulala (ukungalali noma ukulala ngokweqile)
- Imicabango ngokuqeda impilo yakho
Umehluko obaluleke kakhulu yilo: Uma owesifazane ecindezelekile, angase abe lusizi, abe ngokomzwelo, futhi akhale kakhulu. Kodwa uma indoda icindezelekile, ingase ibonakale ithukuthele, inokhahlo, futhi ivame ukulwa. Ngakho-ke uma ubaba wakho, umfowenu, umyeni wakho, noma umngane wakho eba nokhahlo kakhulu futhi ethukuthela ngokuzumayo, cabanga ukuthi kungaba uphawu lokucindezeleka.
Ingabe kukhona umehluko endleleni ukucindezeleka okubathinta ngayo abesifazane?
Yebo, impela. Eqinisweni, abesifazane banamathuba aphindwe kabili okuthola ukucindezeleka kunabesilisa. Futhi indlela ukucindezeleka okuthinta ngayo abesifazane ihlukile kancane.
- Abesifazane banamathuba amaningi okuba nokucindezeleka kuqala besebancane, kuhlale isikhathi eside, bese kuphinde kubuye .
- Ukucindezeleka kwabesifazane kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi kuhlotshaniswe nezenzakalo zokuphila ezicindezelayo (isib. ukuwohloka kobudlelwano, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi).
- Abesifazane bavame ukuzizwa benecala uma behlushwa ukucindezeleka.
- Abesifazane banamathuba amaningi okubhekana nezinye izinkinga zempilo yengqondo, njengezinkinga zokukhathazeka, izimpawu zokwesaba, kanye nezinkinga zokudla, kanye nokucindezeleka.
- Kodwa-ke, ukuthambekela kokusebenzisa utshwala nezidakamizwa kanye nokucindezeleka kuphakeme kakhulu kwabesilisa kunabesifazane.
Ingabe ukucindezeleka kuvamile kubantu asebekhulile?
Lutho neze! Yilapho abantu abaningi benza khona iphutha. Ukucindezeleka akuyona into evamile yokuguga. Kodwa ukucindezeleka kuvame kakhulu kubantu abadala. Ngeshwa, bambalwa kakhulu kubo abafuna ukwelashwa.
Cabanga nje, lapho omunye wogogo noma ogogo bethu eba nomqondo ojulile, engakhulumi kakhulu, futhi ehlala endlini, sivame ukucabanga, "Oh... lokho kudala." Kodwa kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi kungaba uphawu lokucindezeleka.
Kungani kunzima ukubona ukucindezeleka kubantu asebekhulile?
- Izimpawu zokucindezeleka zingadidaniswa nezimpawu zezinye izifo, njengesifo sikashukela nesifo senhliziyo, ezenzeka kubantu abadala.
- Njengoba lezi zimpawu zenzeka njengemiphumela emibi yemithi ethathwa kulezo zifo, ukucindezeleka kungagwenywa.
- Isizungu esibangelwa izinto ezifana nokufa komlingani wakho wokuphila konke , ukulahlekelwa abangane, kanye nomhlalaphansi nakho kuyizizathu zalokhu.
- Ngenxa yokuthi amalungu omndeni, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nodokotela, bacabanga ukuthi, "Kunjalo nje uma ukhula," ukwelashwa okufanele kuyabambezeleka.
Ngakho-ke uma ubona ushintsho ekuziphatheni noma enkulumweni yomuntu osekhulile emndenini wakho, ungamane nje ulubheke njengento “efana nendlela akhula ngayo.” Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhathazeka ngakho futhi ukhulume nodokotela.
Ingabe kukhona ukucindezeleka okungamelani nokwelashwa?
Yebo, kukhona isimo esinjalo. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi ukucindezeleka okumelana nokwelashwa . Kalula nje, kuba lapho izimpawu zingathuthuki naphezu kwemithi yokucindezeleka enqunywe udokotela noma i-psychotherapy.
Uma kungekho mpumuzo naphezu kokusebenzisa izinhlobo ezahlukene zemithi kanye nezindlela ezahlukene zokwelulekwa, kungokwemvelo ukuthi isiguli kanye nomndeni bazizwe bedumele futhi bephelelwe yithemba.
Kodwa, ungalokothi ulahle ithemba. Uma wena noma othile oseduze nawe enalesi simo, akusho ukuthi konke sekuphelile. Kunezinye izindlela ezithile zokwelapha lezi zimo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukusebenzisana nodokotela wakho futhi ungalilahli ithemba. Khona-ke uzokwazi ukuthola ukwelashwa okukufanele kakhulu.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucindezeleka akusikho nje ukudabuka, kuyisifo sangempela esidinga ukwelashwa.
- Lesi sifo sithinta amadoda, abesifazane, kanye nabantu asebekhulile ngendlela ehlukile. Amadoda angase abe namathuba amaningi okuthukuthela kunokuba adabuke.
- Ungakunaki ukushintsha kokuziphatha komuntu omdala njengokuthi “indlela akhula ngayo.” Kungaba uphawu lokucindezeleka.
- Ngisho noma ukwelashwa kokuqala kungasebenzi, ungalilahli ithemba. Kunezinye izindlela zokwelapha ezitholakalayo.
- Okubaluleke kakhulu: Uma wena noma othile oseduze nawe enalezi zimpawu, funa iseluleko sezokwelapha ngokushesha.
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