Sonke sizizwa sidabukile, sicindezelekile, futhi sidangele ngezinye izikhathi ekuphileni kwethu. Kuvamile. Esikhathini esiningi, lolo sizi luyaphela ezinsukwini ezimbalwa. Kodwa ukucindezeleka kuyinto ehlukile. Kuyisimo esithinta ingqondo nomzimba wakho kuze kube yilapho siphazamisa impilo yakho yansuku zonke futhi ungakwazi ngisho nokwenza izinto ozijabulelayo. Ukuze ususe lesi simo, udinga ukwelashwa kwezokwelapha.
Ziyini izimpawu zokucindezeleka?
Umuntu onesifo sokucindezeleka angabonisa izimpawu ezahlukahlukene. Kodwa-ke, akuwona wonke umuntu ozobhekana nazo zonke lezi zimpawu. Futhi, ubukhali nobude balezi zimpawu kuyahlukahluka kuye ngomuntu. Ezinye izimpawu zingokwengqondo, kanti ezinye zingase zibe ngokomzimba.
Ake sibone ukuthi lezi zici ziyini.
| Uhlobo oluyisici | Incazelo kanye nokubonwa okuvamile |
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| Izici zengqondo nezingokomzwelo |
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| Izici zokuziphatha nezomzimba |
Yiziphi izimbangela zokucindezeleka?
Ayikho imbangela eyodwa yokucindezeleka. Ochwepheshe bakholelwa ukuthi kuyinhlanganisela yezici eziningana.
Isakhiwo kanye nomsebenzi wobuchopho
Kalula nje, kunezinguquko endleleni ulwazi oluhamba ngayo ezimisweni ezithile zemizwa kanye nezifunda ebuchosheni bomuntu onesifo sokucindezeleka. Ukuskena kobuchopho kubonise ukuthi kunezinguquko kwezinye izingxenye zobuchopho ezilawula imizwa yethu. Isibonelo, ingxenye yobuchopho ebizwa ngokuthi ``Hippocampus``, ehilelekile ekukhumbuleni nasekufundeni, incane kwabanye abantu abacindezelekile. Ingxenye yobuchopho elawula imizwa, ``Amygdala``, inkulu. Ososayensi basazama ukuthola ukuthi kungani lezi zinguquko zenzeka.
Ithonya lezakhi zofuzo (izakhi zofuzo)
Uma othile emndenini wakho, njengomama, ubaba, noma umfowenu noma udadewabo, eke waba nokucindezeleka, unamathuba aphindwe kabili noma kathathu okuba nalesi simo kunabanye. Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi nakanjani uzoba nokucindezeleka. Futhi, noma ubani angaba nokucindezeleka, noma ngabe akekho emndenini wakho onakho.
Imicimbi eyenzeka empilweni
Ukucindezeleka kungabangelwa yizinselele ezinkulu noma izinguquko empilweni. Cabanga, isibonelo, ukufa komuntu omthandayo, ukuhlukana kobuhlobo, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi, izinkinga zezimali, noma ukwehluleka ukuhlolwa.
Kodwa khumbula, ukucindezeleka akudingeki kube "nembangela" enkulu ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngezinye izikhathi, kungenzeka ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacile.
Okuhlangenwe nakho kobuntwana
Abantu abaye bahlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba noma ukunganakwa beseyizingane basengozini enkulu yokuthola ukucindezeleka kamuva ekuphileni. Okuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo okubuhlungu kuthinta ukukhula kobuchopho futhi kwandisa ingozi yokucindezeleka.
Eminye imithi
Ukucindezeleka kungabuye kwenzeke njengomphumela ongemuhle wemithi ethile esiyiphuzayo yezinye izifo. Isibonelo:
- Eminye imithi yokwelapha umfutho wegazi ophakeme
- Imithi yokwelapha ukungezwani komzimba
- Imithi yokwelapha ukuxhuzula
- Ezinye izidakamizwa zokunciphisa ubuhlungu
Ezinye izifo
Uma unesifo esingamahlalakhona njengesifo sikashukela, umdlavuza, isifo senhliziyo, noma isifo sohlangothi, usengozini enkulu yokuba nokucindezeleka.Isifo sokungakwazi ukugxilisa ingqondo (ADHD), ukukhathazeka, kanye nokulutha kwezidakamizwa noma utshwala nakho kuhlotshaniswa kakhulu nokucindezeleka.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze uma ngisola ukuthi nginesifo sokucindezeleka?
Lapho ufunda lezi zimpawu, ingabe wacabanga ukuthi, "Nami ngizizwa ngendlela efanayo"? Uma kunjalo, ngicela ungakuzibi. Ungahlupheki wedwa, ucabanga ukuthi, "Lokhu kuzolunga ezinsukwini ezimbalwa."
Into ebaluleke kakhulu okudingeka uyenze ukubona udokotela wakho ngokushesha bese ukhuluma ngalokhu.
Udokotela wakho uzokhuluma nawe, alalele izimpawu zakho, futhi ahlole isimo. Ukucindezeleka kuyisifo esingelapheka. Kunezindlela eziningi zokwelapha ezisebenzayo, okuhlanganisa imithi yokucindezeleka kanye nokwelashwa ngokukhuluma noma ukwelulekwa.
Lokhu akuyona into okufanele uyilwe wedwa. Ukucela usizo kuwuphawu lwamandla, hhayi ubuthakathaka.
Eminye imibuzo evame ukubuzwa mayelana nokucindezeleka
Yini udokotela ayibhekayo kakhulu ukuze ahlole ukucindezeleka?
Udokotela ugxila ezintweni eziningana eziyinhloko:
- Uzizwa udabukile/ukhungathekile isikhathi esingakanani futhi kangaki?
- Ingabe lesi simo sithinte imisebenzi yakho yansuku zonke, njengokulala kanye nokudla?
- Ingabe kukhona ezinye izinguquko zokuziphatha, njengokuthukuthela kalula noma ukukhala njalo?
- Ingabe lokhu kubangele ushintsho ekunyakazeni kwakho? (isib., ukuhambahamba okungapheli)
Kusho ukuthini ukuthi 'bamba, hlola, shintsha'?
Lena yindlela elula esetshenziswa ku- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) .
- Yiqaphele: Ukuqaphela umcabango omubi ngokushesha nje lapho ufika kuwe.
- Hlola: Cabanga ngalo mcabango okwesikhashana. Zibuze, "Ingabe lokhu kuyiqiniso ngempela? Kungenzeka kangakanani ukuthi kwenzeke?"
- Shintsha: Zama ukufaka lowo mcabango ongemuhle esikhundleni salowo mcabango ongokoqobo nowakhayo.
Ingabe zikhona izici zobuntu ezikwenza uthambekele kakhulu ekucindezelekeni?
Ucwaningo luthole ukuthi izici ezimbili zobuntu zingase zihlotshaniswe nokucindezeleka.
1. Ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo: Laba bantu bavame ukucabanga kabi ngakho konke, bathukuthela kalula, futhi bakhathazekile.
2. Ukuzihlanganisa: Laba bantu bakhetha ukuhlala emakhaya abo futhi bagxile kubo kunokuxhumana nabanye abantu.
Akuwona wonke umuntu onalezi zici ozoba nokucindezeleka, kodwa ingozi inganda kancane.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucindezeleka akuyona nje umuzwa wokudabuka noma ubuthakathaka, kodwa kuyisimo sangempela sezokwelapha esidinga ukwelashwa.
- Ngaphezu kwezimpawu zengqondo, izimpawu zomzimba ezifana nekhanda elibuhlungu kanye nobuhlungu bomzimba nazo zingavela kulesi simo.
- Ziningi izinto ezingaba nomthelela ekucindezelekeni, okuhlanganisa izakhi zofuzo, izinguquko zamakhemikhali obuchopho, kanye nezenzakalo zokuphila.
- Uma usola ukuthi wena noma othile omaziyo unesifo sokucindezeleka, sicela ungahlupheki wedwa. Funa iseluleko sezokwelapha ngokushesha.
- Kunezindlela zokwelapha ezisebenzayo ezitholakalayo. Ngakho-ke ungalilahli ithemba. Ukusekelwa ngumndeni nabangani nakho kubaluleke kakhulu kulolu hambo.
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