Ingabe uhlushwa ukucindezeleka? Ngisho nangemva kokubona udokotela nokuphuza imithi oyinikezwe ngudokotela, awusazizwa ungcono noma ushintsha? Ingabe ugcwele imibuzo efana nokuthi, "Kungani lokhu kwenzeka kimi ngedwa? Ingabe imithi ayisebenzi? Ingabe lokhu kugula akusikho okwami kuphela?" Uma kunjalo, awuwedwa. Lesi yisimo esithinta abantu abaningi. Namuhla sizokhuluma ngalokhu. Ngokwezokwelapha, lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi ukucindezeleka okumelana nokwelashwa .
Ake sizame ukuqonda le ndaba ngokuhlangenwe nakho kowesifazane osemusha ogama lakhe lingu-Imade. U-Imade ungowesifazane osemusha onethalente, ofundile. Ngemva kokuphothula eyunivesithi edumile, wasebenza kanzima ukuthola umsebenzi omuhle. Kodwa kwakungelula kuye. Lapho eqhubeka ezama kodwa engawutholi umsebenzi, waqala ukuzwa ingcindezi enkulu kanye nokuwohloka. "Iqiniso lokuthi ngangingenawo umsebenzi, umuzwa wokuthi ngiyisehluleki empilweni, kwandise izinkinga zami zengqondo," usho kanje. Engakwazi ukuthwala le ngcindezi, waze wazama nokuzibulala. Kwakungaleso sikhathi lapho odokotela bamthola khona ukuthi une- Major Depression Disorder .
"Kwakungemva kokuba ngizame ukuzibulala lapho ngaqaphela khona ukuthi akukho neyodwa yemithi emithathu engangiyiphuza eyayisebenza," kusho u-Imade. Ingabe wake waba nokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo? Ngakho ake sibone ukuthi yini engase ibangele lokhu.
Kuyini ngempela ukucindezeleka okungamelani nokwelashwa?
Nakuba igama lingase lizwakale lesabeka kancane, kulula kakhulu ukuliqonda.
Kalula nje, ukucindezeleka okumelana nokwelashwa (TRD) kwenzeka lapho umuntu onesifo sokucindezeleka okukhulu engatholi impumuzo eyanelisayo yezimpawu zakhe naphezu kokuthatha okungenani izinhlobo ezimbili ezahlukene zemithi yokucindezeleka, ngesilinganiso esifanele nangesikhathi esifanele.
Cabanga ngalokhu. Ubuchopho bethu bufana nezisekhethi zikagesi eziyinkimbinkimbi. Ukucindezeleka yisimo lapho amanye amaswishi kuleyo sekhethi evaliwe. Imithi enikezwa udokotela ifana nezihluthulelo ezivula lawo maswishi. Ngezinye izikhathi awukwazi ukuvula umnyango ngokhiye owodwa, kufanele uzame omunye. I-TRD injalo. Umuthi owodwa ungase ungasebenzi. Mhlawumbe imithi emibili ingase ingasebenzi. Akulona iphutha lakho. Kumane kuyimpendulo yomzimba.
Khumbula, akulona iphutha lakho noma ubuthakathaka bakho ukuthi umuthi awusebenzi. Lesi yisimo sezokwelapha.
Ake sibheke leli thebula ukuze sichaze lokhu kakhudlwana.
| Isimo | Kalula nje... |
|---|---|
| Isifo Sokucindezeleka Esiyinhloko | Imizwa yokudabuka isikhathi eside, ukulahlekelwa isithakazelo kunoma yini, izinguquko zokulala nokudla, kanye nesithukuthezi ngokuphila. |
| Ukucindezeleka okumelana nokwelashwa (TRD) | Lesi simo esingenhla asikaphulukiswa naphezu kokunikezwa okungenani izinhlobo ezimbili ezahlukene zemithi yokucindezeleka, ngesilinganiso esifanele nangesikhathi esifanele. |
| Iyini imbangela yalokhu? | Umzimba nobuchopho bomuntu wonke kuhlukile. Umuthi ofanayo awusebenzi ngendlela efanayo kuwo wonke umuntu. Ngezinye izikhathi ezinye izimo zezokwelapha ezingatholakali noma izinkinga zempilo yengqondo zingaba nomthelela kulokhu. |
Akukhona nje ukucindezeleka... ingabe nezinye izinkinga zengqondo nazo ziyakuthinta?
Yebo. Leli iphuzu elibaluleke kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi isizathu sokuthi imithi yokucindezeleka ingasebenzi kungenxa yokuthi kungase kube nesinye isimo sengqondo esingaphansi.
Ake sibuyele endabeni ka-Imade. Ngemva kweminyaka eminingi yokwelashwa kokucindezeleka ngaphandle kokuthola impumuzo, odokotela bamhlola ngokwengeziwe. Yilapho bathola khona ukuthi naye unesifo esibizwa ngokuthi i-Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) .
Kuyini ukuphazamiseka kobuntu obuhambisana nomngcele (BPD)?
Okwenzekayo kulokhu ukuthi imizwa yomuntu ishintsha ngokushesha okukhulu nangokujulile.
- Ukulahlekelwa ukuzinza kwengqondo.
- Ukwesaba njalo ukushiywa abanye.
- Ukuthukuthela kakhulu noma ukudabuka kakhulu ngento encane.
- Ukusebenza ngokunganaki futhi ngaphandle kokucabanga.
Lapho u-Imade elahlekelwa umsebenzi wakhe futhi enqatshwa, waba nalezi zimpawu ze-BPD. Lokhu kusho ukuthi kwakukhona esinye isizathu esinamandla sokucindezeleka kwakhe.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ube nokukhathazeka okukhulu. "Uma ngikhathele ukuphila, anginaso isikhathi sokucabanga ukuthi, 'Ingabe nginokukhathazeka?'" usho kanje. Kamuva, ngemva kokuthola ukwelashwa kokukhathazeka, wathola ukuthula kwengqondo okukhulu.
Ingabe lokhu kusenza siqonde ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi lapho sifuna impendulo yombuzo owodwa, isizathu salokho kungaba omunye umbuzo ofihliwe ngaphansi. Njengo-anyanisi. Uma ususa ungqimba oluphezulu, kuba nolunye ungqimba. Ngakho-keUkuxilongwa okufanele kubaluleke kakhulu.
Uma umuthi ungasebenzi, ngenzenjani?
Lena yinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Uma uzizwa sengathi awululami ngemva kokuthatha umuthi, ungalokothi uyeke ukuthatha umuthi noma ushintshe umthamo ngokwakho. Lokhu kuzokwenza isimo sibe sibi kakhulu. Into yokuqala nengcono kakhulu okufanele uyenze ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokhu ngokukhululekile.
"Dokotela, bengilokhu ngithatha lo muthi izinyanga manje, kodwa angizizwa mehluko," ungasho ngokwethembeka. Lelo yilungelo lakho.
Khona-ke udokotela wakho angase abhekisele ezixazululweni ezifana nalezi:
- Ukushintsha: Kunganikezwa uhlobo oluhlukile lomuthi wokucindezeleka esikhundleni somuthi okhona njengamanje.
- Ukwandisa: Kanye nomuthi osetshenziswayo njengamanje, olunye uhlobo lomuthi lungangezwa olukhulisa ukusebenza kwawo.
- Ukulungiswa Komthamo: Ngezinye izikhathi umthamo owudingayo ungase unganele. Ngakho-ke, umthamo ungashintshwa.
- Ezinye izindlela zokwelapha: Ngaphezu kwemithi, ukwelashwa kwengqondo kungasetshenziswa. Ukwelashwa Kokuziphatha Kokukhuluma (i-DBT) kungenye yezindlela zokwelapha ezisize ukuba ngilulame.
- Ukuhlola ezinye izimo zezokwelapha: Ngezinye izikhathi ukucindezeleka kungabangelwa ezinye izimo zomzimba, njengezinkinga zama-hormone e-thyroid. Ngakho udokotela uzohlola nazo.
Uyabona? Kunezindlela eziningi zokukusiza. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukungalilahli ithemba nokusebenzisana nodokotela wakho ukuthola ukwelashwa okukusebenzela kahle. Ayikho ikhambi elilodwa elifanelana nakho konke. Ikhambi lisehlelweni lokwelashwa lomuntu siqu oluqondene nawe.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucindezeleka Okumelana Nokwelashwa kuyisimo sezokwelapha sangempela nesiqashelwayo. Akuyona into oyicabangayo.
- Akulona iphutha lakho noma ubuthakathaka bakho ukuthi umuthi wakho wokucindezeleka awusebenzi. Kunezizathu zebhayoloji zalokho.
- Uma ungazizwa kahle ngemithi yakho, into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyenze ukwazisa udokotela wakho. Ungalokothi uyeke noma ushintshe imithi yakho wedwa.
- Ngezinye izikhathi ukucindezeleka kungahambisana nezinye izimo, njengokukhathazeka noma i-borderline personality disorder (BPD). Ukuxilongwa okunembile kubalulekile.
- Ungalilahli ithemba uma imithi emibili yokuqala ingasebenzi. Kunezindlela eziningi zokwelapha ezitholakalayo, okuhlanganisa ukwelashwa kwengqondo neminye imithi.Impela ikhona indlela yokululama.
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