Ukuba namawele kuyiphupho elihle kwabaningi. Ubani ongathandi ukubona izingane ezimbili ezifanayo, zigqoke izingubo ezifanayo futhi zidlala ndawonye? Kodwa ngokuvamile asicabangi ngeqiniso elingemuva kwaleli phupho, izindleko ezihilelekile, kanye nokuzidela okudingeka kwenziwe ngenxa yalo. Namuhla sikhuluma ngomama ogama lakhe linguLeslie owadlula kulesi simo. Indaba yakhe izoba ibaluleke kakhulu kwabaningi ezweni lakithi, ikakhulukazi labo abahlushwa ukungabi nabantwana futhi abacabangela amasu anjenge-'(IVF)'.
Indaba kaLeslie: Kusukela osizini lokungabi nabantwana kuya enjabulweni yamawele
ULeslie ungumama oneminyaka engu-33 ubudala. Yena nomyeni wakhe, uHeath, sebevele banendodana eneminyaka emi-5 ubudala. Wakhulelwa ngokwemvelo, ngaphandle kokwelashwa okukhethekile. Kodwa-ke uLeslie waba nenselele enkulu yokuba nomntwana. Wakhulelwa kaningana ngaphandle kokukhulelwa , okuyingozi kakhulu. Ngenxa yalokhu, odokotela beluleka uLeslie noHeath ukuthi bangazami ukuba nabantwana ngokwemvelo futhi.
Ngakho-ke, befisa kakhulu ukuba nomunye umntwana, banquma ukuphendukela ku-IVF. Kalula nje, i-IVF - In Vitro Fertilization inqubo lapho iqanda likamama nesidoda sikababa kuhlanganiswa khona ngaphandle komzimba elabhorethri ukuze kudalwe umbungu, bese ufakwa esibelethweni sikamama. Lokhu kwabonakala njengethuba lokugcina ababenalo lokuba nabantwana abengeziwe.
Izindleko Nemizwa: Ukukhetha Ukwelashwa Nge-IVF
ULeslie noHeath basebenzise u-$22,000 kulokhu kwelashwa , okuyimali engamakhulu ezinkulungwane zamaRandi ezweni lakithi. Lena imali eningi kakhulu. Yingakho bacabanga ukuthi, esikhundleni sokuchitha imali eningi kangaka, bazoba namawele uma kungenzeka. Ngokusho kukaLeslie, "Asizange siye kudokotela sithi sifuna amawele. Sathi, 'Asinakuba nabantwana, sidinga usizo lwakho, lena yindlela kuphela esiba nayo. Ngakho-ke kungaba ngcono nakakhulu ukube besinamawele.'" Ngoba izindleko ziyafana kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sinengane eyodwa noma ezimbili. Ngakho uma leli kuyithuba lokugcina, bacabanga ukuthi kungaba ngcono ukuqedela umndeni.
Le ndaba ayilandisayo ithinta inhliziyo kakhulu.
"Angicabangi ukuthi ungabeka intengo emndenini wakho. Indlela engikubheka ngayo iyamangalisa, ukuthi nginenhlanhla kangakanani ukuba nezingane zami... Ngiyakhala uma ngicabanga ngakho. Ingxenye enzima kakhulu ukuthi kubiza kakhulu. Olunye uhlangothi ukwamukelwa, okubiza kakhulu futhi."
Lokhu kubonisa ukuthi inani lomntwana alinakulinganiswa ngemali. Abazali abacabangi kabili ngokuzidela ngenxa yalokho.
Iseluleko sikadokotela kanye nezinqumo ezibalulekile
Ngaphambi kokwelashwa nge-IVF, udokotela kaLeslie waqinisekisa ukuthi baya ekwelulekweni ngokuzala. Lesi kwakuyisinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu ngoba phakathi nale nqubo, kwadingeka babhekane nezinkinga eziningi ezingacabangeki. Isibonelo, ukuthi benzeni ngama-embryo asele ngemva kokwelashwa, ukuthi obani ababezoba ngabanikazi bama-embryo uma umbhangqwana uhlukana, nokuthi bangabhekana kanjani nenselele yokuba namawele lapho sebevele benengane eyodwa.
Ekuqaleni uLeslie wayefuna ukufakwa ama-embryo amathathu esibelethweni sakhe. Isizathu salokhu kwakuwukuthola okuningi ngemali ayeyisebenzisile. Wayenethemba lokuthi okungenani elilodwa lizophumelela, futhi uma kungenzeka, amabili. Kodwa udokotela wakhe wayengahambisani nakancane nalokho. Wathi, "Cha." Lokhu kubonisa umthwalo wemfanelo wodokotela. Umgomo wabo oyinhloko akukhona ukudala amawele, kodwa ukusiza ekuletheni umntwana oyedwa onempilo emhlabeni.
Ekugcineni, banquma ukudlulisela imibungu emibili. Ngenhlanhla, yomibili yaphumelela!
Amawele: Iphupho liyagcwaliseka kanye neqiniso elibuhlungu
Amadodakazi kaLeslie angamawele, uBella noMaddie, aphilile namuhla. Kodwa ukukhulelwa kwakungelula kuLeslie. Kwadingeka achithe amasonto ayisithupha elele embhedeni. Uchaza unyaka wokuqala ngemva kokuzalwa kwezingane zakhe ngokuthi "unzima ngempela." Esinye isizathu salokho ukuthi indodana yakhe endala, uGarrett, yayineminyaka emibili kuphela ubudala ngaleso sikhathi.
Lapho uLeslie ephuma nezingane zakhe, abantu abaningi babeza kuye bathi, "O, nami ngifuna ukuba namawele." Kumelwe ukuba wahleka yedwa ngaleso sikhathi.
"Qaphela. Akulula. Ubungeke ufune ukukushintsha, kodwa akuwona umdlalo."
Okudingeka sikuqonde kule ndaba ukuthi iqiniso lingahluka esithombeni esihle esibonakala ngaphandle. Kodwa uLeslie ulandisa indaba enhle kakhulu ekugcineni. "Noma lowo nyaka wokuqala wawunzima kangakanani, wawufanele. Uyini unyaka owodwa noma emibili enzima ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ? Ngizoba nomunye unyaka owodwa noma emibili enzima, lapho besebancane."
| Izinto okufanele uzicabangele | Izibonelo ezivela kokuhlangenwe nakho kukaLeslie |
|---|---|
| Izindleko zemali | Ukwelashwa okuphindwe kathathu kubize u-$22,000. Lokhu kuwukutshalwa kwezimali okungenasiqinisekiso sempumelelo. |
| Ukulungiselela ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba | Ukuphumula embhedeni amasonto ayisithupha ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Unyaka wokuqala ngemva kokuba nezingane kunzima kakhulu. |
| Ukubaluleka kokubonisana nodokotela | Kuzodingeka wenze izinqumo eziyinkimbinkimbi, njengokuthi zingaki izimbungu okufanele uzidlulisele nokuthi uzokwenzenjani ngezimbungu ezisele. Isiqondiso sikadokotela sibalulekile. |
| Umthelela kwamanye amalungu omndeni | Inselele iphindwe kabili lapho kuzalwa amawele, njengoba ingane endala ineminyaka emibili kuphela ubudala. |
Indaba kaLeslie ikwenza kucace kithi ukuthi i-IVF akuyona nje indlela yokwelapha, kodwa uhambo oluyinkimbinkimbi oluhilela imali, imizwa, amathemba, kanye nezinselele eziningi.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukwelashwa kokuzala okufana ne-IVF kungaba inqubo ebiza kakhulu futhi ecindezelayo ngokomzwelo.
- Ukuthola amawele kuyinselele kakhulu kunalokho okubonakala, ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kanye nonyaka wokuqala noma emibili ngemva kokuthola abantwana.
- Inani lengane alinakulinganiswa ngemali, kodwa kubalulekile ukucabangela ngokucophelela izici zezimali ngaphambi kokusebenzisa ukwelashwa.
- Ngaphambi kokwenza noma yiziphi izinqumo ezinjalo, kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngazo zonke izindaba ngokukhululekile nodokotela wakho . Isiqondiso sabo sizokusiza ukuthi wenze izinqumo ezifanele.
- Ekupheleni kwenselele ngayinye, khumbula ukuthi injabulo nothando oluthola kubantwana bakho lubaluleke ngaphezu kwanoma yini enye.
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