Ingabe ngezinye izikhathi uzizwa sengathi umhlaba wonke umelene nawe? Akukho okukujabulisayo, uzizwa usinda kakhulu, konke kubonakala kuyisicefe... kodwa awufuni ukukhuluma nanoma ubani ngakho. Awuwedwa. Namuhla, ake sixoxe ngalokhu kucindezeleka, okungukuthi i-Major Depression Disorder (MDD), ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ekululameni kwakho, yiziphi izinzuzo zako, kufanele ukhulume nobani ngakho, nokuthi ungayiqala kanjani leyo ngxoxo.
Kungani sidinga ukukhuluma ngalokhu?
Ukukhuluma ngezinkinga zakho kungakusiza ngempela uzizwe ungcono. Lokhu akuyona nje indaba, kunencazelo yesayensi yalokhu. Cabanga nje, iqembu labacwaningi e-UCLA University e-United States licele iqembu lamavolontiya ukuba likhulume ngezinkinga zabo kanye nokukhathazeka kwabo, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, bafaka ubuchopho babo ku-MRI scan.
Abakutholile ukuthi lapho abantu beveza imizwa yabo ngamazwi bese beqala ukukhuluma, impendulo yokwesaba kobuchopho kuleyo mizwa iyancipha. Kalula nje, ukukhuluma kuyathulisa ubuchopho. Njengokukhulula umusi esitsheni sokucindezela, uma ukhuluma, ukukhathazeka okungadingekile nokwesaba ebuchosheni bakho kuyancipha.
Yile ndlela esingaqonda ngayo ukuthi sizizwa sikhululekile kangakanani uma sikhuluma ngalokho okusezingqondweni zethu, hhayi nje ngeseluleko sezokwelapha, kodwa nomngane omethembayo, ilungu lomndeni, noma iqembu lokusekelana.
Ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe - lokho kusho ukukhuluma nodokotela
Enye yezindlela zokwelapha ezivame kakhulu nezisebenzayo zokucindezeleka ukwelashwa ngenkulumo. Sikubiza ngokuthi "Talk Therapy" noma "Psychotherapy." Lokhu kuhilela ukuhlala phansi nochwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo oqeqeshiwe, njengodokotela wakho noma udokotela wezifo zengqondo, nixoxe ngezinkinga zenu. Lokhu akumelwe nibe namahloni ngakho, kuyindlela evamile yokwelapha njengokuthatha imithi yesifo sikashukela noma umfutho wegazi ophakeme.
Lokhu kwelashwa kungakusiza ngezindlela eziningi. Ake sibone ukuthi kanjani.
| Izinzuzo zokwelashwa | Incazelo elula |
|---|---|
| Ukuqonda umsuka wenkinga | Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ubone ukuthi yiziphi izenzakalo nezinkinga empilweni yakho ezibangela ukucindezeleka kwakho, futhi uqonde ukuthi zingashintshwa noma cha. |
| Ukushintsha amaphethini okucabanga anephutha | Ngezinye izikhathi indlela esicabanga ngayo iholela ekuphelelweni yithemba kanye nesizungu. Lokhu kwelashwa kusisiza ukuthi sibone futhi sishintshe izindlela ezinjalo zokucabanga ezimbi. |
| Ukuthola kabusha ukulawula impilo | Uzosusa umuzwa wokuthi "Angikwazi ukulawula lokhu" futhi uthole amandla nesiqondiso osidingayo ukuze ulawule impilo yakho futhi. |
| Ukuthola kabusha injabulo yokuphila | Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi uthole injabulo ezintweni owawuzijabulela, futhi uhlakulele isimo sengqondo sokujabula ngisho nezinto ezincane empilweni. |
Udokotela wakho angase akuncome ukwelashwa kokukhuluma kanye nemithi yokucindezeleka. Ucwaningo oluthile lubonise ukuthi zombili lezi zindlela zisebenza kangcono kunezodwa . Ngakho-ke, ungesabi ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile nodokotela wakho ngalokhu.
Tshela abantu bakho ukuthi yini ekucabangayo.
Ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo akubona bodwa abangakusiza ukunqoba ukucindezeleka. Abangane bethu, umndeni, nalabo esibaziyo nesibethembayo bangamandla ethu amakhulu. Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi ukuba nohlelo lokusekela olufana nalolu kuyinzuzo enkulu empilweni yengqondo.
Ukuthembela ekusekelweni kwabanye kungasiza kakhulu ekunqobeni izinselele zokuphila nokucindezeleka nsuku zonke. Kunganciphisa nomuzwa wokuba wedwa futhi unesizungu.
Isizungu kanye nokuzihlukanisa kungenza izinkinga zempilo yengqondo zibe zimbi kakhulu, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukukhuluma nothile.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, cabanga ngalokho okwenzekayo uma ugcina imizwa yakho kuwe futhi ungabatsheli labo abaseduze nawe? Kubeka ubunzima obungadingekile ebudlelwaneni bakho. Uma ukude futhi ungakhulumi, bangase bacabange ukuthi uthukuthele noma ukuthi awunandaba nabo. Kungabalimaza nemizwa yabo.
Ngenxa yazo zonke lezi zizathu, ukukhuluma ngalokho okusengqondweni yakho kungaba induduzo kuwe nakubantu obathandayo.
Indaba iqala kanjani?
"Kulungile, ngiyaqonda ukuthi sidinga ukukhuluma. Kodwa singakuqala kanjani lokhu?" ungase ucabange.
- Khetha umuntu omethemba kakhulu: Khetha umuntu ozolalela kahle futhi onomuzwa wokuthi ngeke akwahlulele. Lokhu kungaba umngane, ilungu lomndeni, noma umlingani wakho.
- Khetha isikhathi nendawo efanele: Khetha isikhathi nendawo lapho ningakhuluma khona ngokukhululeka futhi ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka.
- Qala kalula: Ungaqala ngomusho olula njengokuthi, "Ngibhekene nesikhathi esinzima kulezi zinsuku. Ngidinga ukukhuluma nawe ngakho."
- Yisho ukuthi uzizwa kanjani: Yisho ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngempela, njengokuthi "Ngidabukile kakhulu," "Anginandaba nanoma yini," "Ngizizwa nginesizungu kakhulu."
- Ungesabi ukucela usizo: Sho ukuthi yiluphi usizo oludingayo, njengokuthi "Ngidinga usizo lokuya kudokotela," "Ngidinga nje ukukhuluma nawe isikhashana."
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucindezeleka kuyisimo sezokwelapha. Akusibo ubuvila noma ubuthakathaka bengqondo.
- Ukukhuluma ngalokho okusengqondweni yakho kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokwelapha. Kusiza ubuchopho bakho buphumule.
- Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna iseluleko nokwelashwa kudokotela noma kumeluleki wezempilo yengqondo . Akuyona into yokuhlazeka.
- Umndeni wakho nabangani bakho othembekile bangaba umthombo omkhulu wamandla. Yabelana nabo ngemizwa yakho.
- Awuwedwa kulolu hambo. Baningi abantu abaye bahlushwa yilesi simo futhi basinqobe ngempumelelo. Ngokusekelwa okufanele, nawe ungasinqoba lesi simo.
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