Ungakhuluma kanjani nengane yakho ngotshwala? Ake sixoxe ngalesi sihloko esibalulekile!

Kulezi zinsuku, izingane zethu ezincane, ikakhulukazi eziseminyakeni yesikole, okungukuthi, ngesikhathi sesikole samabanga aphezulu, ngezinye izikhathi ziyalingeka ukuba zisebenzise utshwala ngenxa yethonya labangane noma ngenxa yelukuluku. Eqinisweni, sibona abantu besebenzisa lezi zinto ngisho noma umthetho ubavimbela. Kodwa bazali, ninamandla amakhulu okugcina ingane yenu kude nezinto ezinjalo. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhuluma nezingane zenu ngalobu tshwala kusukela zisencane, njengoba zikhula kancane kancane.

Ubachazela kanjani lokhu abantwana abancane? (Cishe abaneminyaka engu-3-5 ubudala)

Kunzima kakhulu ezinganeni zale minyaka ukuqonda okuningi ngotshwala, akunjalo? Zifuna izinto ezilula. Kodwa ungabeka isibonelo esihle . Ingane yakho izofunda okuningi endleleni osebenzisa ngayo utshwala ngokuzibophezela (noma ongazisebenzisi nhlobo), uhlale umatasa, futhi udle ukudla okunempilo. Cabanga uma ingane yakho ikubuza umbuzo mayelana notshwala? Bese uphendula kalula nangeqiniso . Awudingi ukucacisa kabanzi, vele ukusho ngendlela abangayiqonda. Isibonelo, ungasho into elula njengokuthi, "Lokho akukuhle ezinganeni ezincane, ndodana/ndodakazi, kungalimaza isisu sakho."

Ingabe kufanele sikhulume nezingane ezineminyaka ephakathi kuka-4 no-7?

Indlela engcono kakhulu yokukhuluma nezingane zalobu budala ukuveza indaba uma ivele ngokwemvelo . Isibonelo, ake ucabange ubukele i-TV. Kuvela isikhangiso sotshwala. Ngaleso sikhathi, ungabuza ingane yakho, "Ndodana/ndodakazi, uyazi ukuthi kwenzekani emzimbeni wakho uma uphuza lesi siphuzo?" Gcina ulwazi lulula kakhulu . Ungasho izinto ezinjengalezi:

• "Uma uphuza lezi zinto, umzimba wakho nengqondo yakho kusebenza kancane kancane."
• "Kuba nzima ukucabanga kahle, futhi ungase ulahlekelwe ngisho nokuzithiba lapho uhamba."
• "Kuba nzima ukubona ngokunembile izinto njengokuthi amanzi ajule kangakanani noma ukuthi imoto iseduze kangakanani emgwaqweni."
• "Ngaphandle kwalokho, umlomo wakho uyanuka!"

Ngezinye izikhathi ingane yakho ingase ibuze, "Kungani kulungile ukuthi umama/ubaba aphuze hhayi mina?" Bese uchaza: "Imizimba yezingane isakhula. Njengesitshalo esincane. Ukuphuza lezi zinto kungalimaza imizimba yazo ekhulayo kanye nobuchopho. Kunethuba elikhulu lokuba zibe umlutha walezi zinto lapho zikhula. Yingakho lezi zinto zingalungile ezinganeni ezincane."

Ake sixoxe kabanzi ngabantwana abaneminyaka ephakathi kuka-8 no-11.

Izingane zalobu budala zingayiqonda imiphumela yotshwala, okungukuthi, umonakalo obungawenza emzimbeni nasengqondweni, ngokuningiliziwe. Sebekhulile kancane manje, futhi sebeqala ukucabanga ngezinto ngendlela enengqondo.

Ungakhuluma ngemiphumela yesikhashana yotshwala. Nansi:

• Izinto ozibonayo, izinto ozizwayo, kanye nokulinganisela komzimba wakho (ukuxhumana) kuyadideka. Awukwazi ukubona noma ukuzwa kahle, awukwazi ukuhamba kahle, futhi ungase uwe ngisho.
• Imizwa nemizwa ingashintsha ngokuzumayo. Ungase uzizwe udabukile ngaphandle kokuzizwa udabukile, uthukuthele ngaphandle kokuzizwa uthukuthele, noma ujabule ngokweqile.
• Ikhono lokukhetha okulungile kokungalungile, okungukuthi, ikhono lokwahlulela (ukwahlulela okuphazamisekile), liyalahleka. Lokhu kwandisa ingozi yezingozi, ukuminza, eminye imisebenzi eyingozi , kanye nokulwa.
• Umoya omubi.
• Ngosuku olulandelayo, uzwa izinto ezifana nekhanda elibuhlungu kakhulu, umuzwa wobuthakathaka, kanye nomuzwa wokufuna ukuhlanza, okubizwa ngokuthi i-hangover .

Futhi, khuluma ngemiphumela yesikhathi eside yokuphuza utshwala isikhathi eside . Lena imiphumela eyingozi ngempela:

• Isibindi, esinye sezitho ezibaluleke kakhulu emzimbeni wethu, sonakele kakhulu.
• Ulahlekelwa yisifiso sokudla futhi umzimba wakho awukugayi kahle ukudla.
• Ngivame ukuba nezinkinga zesisu, ngezinye izikhathi i-gastritis.
• Kukhona ingozi enkulu yokulimala kwenhliziyo nobuchopho, okungaholela ezimweni ezifana nesifo senhliziyo kanye nesifo sohlangothi.
• Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, inkumbulo iyaphela kancane kancane, futhi kuba nzima ukufunda izinto ezintsha.

Izingane zale minyaka zivame ukufuna ukuba nabangani bazo futhi zenze izinto ezifanayo nezazo . Lokho kujwayelekile. Kodwa-ke, fundisa ingane yakho ukubaluleka kokuzicabangela yona nokwenza izinqumo zayo. Mkhuthaze ngokuthi athi izinto ezinjengokuthi, "Akudingeki wenze okuthile ngoba nje wonke umuntu uyakwenza, ndodana/ndodakazi. Kufanele ube namandla okukhetha okuzwakala kulungile kuwe nokuthi yini enhle emzimbeni wakho."

Yini esiyitshela izingane zethu ezincane eziphakathi kweminyaka eyi-12 neyi-17?

Lesi yisikhathi sokuba isilaleli esihle . Gcina umnyango wengxoxo nengane yakho uvulekile. Qhubeka nokuba yisibonelo esihle . Ngisho noma kungase kubonakale sengathi abalaleli lokho okushoyo, izifundo zikhombisile ukuthi isibonelo sabazali kanye nengxoxo kuyayithonya ngempela indlela izingane ezincane eziziphatha ngayo.

Khuluma nabo ngezizathu ezinhle zokungaphuzi utshwala. Nazi ezinye zezizathu ezifakazelwe ngokwesayensi:

• Uma ujwayela ukuphuza utshwala usemncane, cishe uzoba nezinkinga ezihlobene notshwala uma ukhula. Lokho kusho ukuthi ungaba umlutha wotshwala.
• Intsha esebenzisa utshwala inamathuba amaningi okuzibandakanya ocansini isencane futhi ihlanganyele ocansini olungavikelekile , okungaholela ezinkingeni ezifana nezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi kanye nokukhulelwa okungahleliwe.
• Izingane ezincane ezisebenzisa utshwala zingaba nezinkinga ngomsebenzi wesikole . Ziba nokulahlekelwa yinkumbulo, isikhathi sokunaka esinciphile, kanye nokulahlekelwa intshisekelo yokufunda.
• Utshwala bungaphazamisa ukusebenza kahle kwezemidlalo . Bungaholela ekulahlekelweni amandla, isivinini, kanye nokulinganisela.
• Akukho emthethweni ukuthi noma ubani oneminyaka engaphansi kuka-21 aphuze utshwala. Noma ubani obanjwayo uzobhekana nesijeziso.
• Utshwala bungabangela izinguquko zesikhathi eside ebuchosheni . Ikakhulukazi lapho ubuchopho busebuncane, lapho ubuchopho busakhula, utshwala bungaphazamisa lokho kukhula.

Ukufundisa nokusebenzisa amasu okwesabisa ngotshwala kungenza intsha ikude nawe. Ngakho ungakwenzi lokho.

Kodwa-ke, kwenze kucace ukuthi awufuni ukuthi asebenzise utshwala nhlobo . Uma kukhona emndenini wakho oke waba nezinkinga ngotshwala, okungukuthi, uma kukhona 'umlando womndeni wezinkinga zotshwala', tshela ingane yakho ngakho. Lokhu kungambeka engcupheni enkulu yokuba nenkinga yotshwala.

Izingane ezincane zifuna ukwamukelwa nokuthandwa ontanga bazo. Lokhu kuyaqondakala. Ngakho-ke, khuluma nazo ngendlela yokuziphatha ezimweni ezahlukene futhi uzilungiselele zona. Isibonelo:

• "Ake uzicabange usephathini futhi umngane wakho uzama ukukuphuzela utshwala. Uthini? Ungathi, 'Angifuni, angiphuzi lokhu.' Noma ungathi, 'Cha, ndoda, kufanele ngiye emsebenzini ekuseni ngakusasa.'"
• "Wenzani uma umngane ozokuthatha akuyise ekhaya edakiwe? Ungalokothi ungene emotweni nomuntu odakiwe. Ngaleso sikhathi, ungangishayela ucingo, ngizokuza ngizokuthatha."

Xoxani ngalezi zinto ndawonye. Tshela ingane yakho ukuthi ningayishayela ucingo noma niyithumelele umyalezo noma nini, ukuthi nizofika nizoyilanda, nokuthi ngeke niyifundise noma niyijezise . Ukwakha lokhu kuthembana kubaluleke kakhulu.

Yini enye esingayenza njengabazali?

Abazali nabo bayizibonelo ezinhle ezinganeni ezincane. Ngakho-ke, yibani yisibonelo esihle ngokusebenzisa utshwala ngendlela efanele (noma ukungabusebenzisi nhlobo), ukungasebenzisi utshwala njengesixazululo sokucindezeleka, futhi ungalokothi uphuze utshwala bese ushayela. Izingxoxo eziqotho njalo nezingane zakho zizobasiza ukuthi benze izinqumo ezinhle.

Ngesikhathi esifanayo, njengabazali , kudingeka niqaphele futhi nibeke imithetho . Uma ingane yakho izama utshwala, cela ukuthi ithembeke kuwe ngakho. Uma ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho isebenzisa utshwala futhi ayikutsheli, ungabushayi indiva . Uma ucabanga ukuthi inkinga inkulu, udokotela wengane yakho angakusiza.

Nazi ezinye izinto ongazenza:

• Yazi kahle ukuthi izingane zakho zikuphi nokuthi zinobani .
• Yiba nendlela yokuxhumana nengane yakho. Kufanele babe nefoni yabo, futhi kufanele ivulwe. Futhi, gcina izinombolo zabangani babo noma inombolo yendlu abaya kuyo nawe.
• Yazi abazali babangane bezingane zakho bese uthola izindlela zokuxhumana nabo. Ukusebenza ndawonye nabanye abazali kwenza kube lula ukuvikela izingane zakho.
• Imibono yakho ngotshwala, lokho okubheka njengokubalulekile (okubalulekile) ngezingane ezindala nezingane ezincaneKhuluma ngakho. Yenza kucace ukuthi awufuni ingane yakho isebenzise utshwala.
• Tshela izingane zakho ukuthi kudingeka zaziswe kangaki, okungukuthi, ukuthi "zibhalise" uma zingekho ekhaya.
• Uma ingane yakho encane ishayela, kwenze kucace ukuthi akulungile neze ukuphuza noma yiluphi uhlobo lotshwala bese ushayela . Ungenza futhi "isivumelwano" enisayine nobabili, sithi akekho emndenini ozophuza bese ushayela. Kucacise ukuthi uma wephula leso sivumelwano, ingane yakho izolahlekelwa amalungelo ayo okushayela.

Okokugcina, izinto ezimbalwa okufanele uzikhumbule

Kulungile, ngakho-ke ngithemba ukuthi uqonde amaphuzu abalulekile kulokho esikhulume ngakho. Kalula nje, uma sifuna ukusindisa izingane zethu ezingozini zotshwala, sidinga ukukhuluma nazo ngokukhululekile nangokwethembeka .

Kungcono ukuqala leyo ngxoxo usemncane.

Njengoba ingane yakho ikhula, chaza izinto ngendlela efanele iminyaka yayo. Kubalulekile futhi ukuba yisibonelo esihle futhi uveze imibono yakho kuyo ngothando, ukuqonda, kodwa ngendlela eqinile . Khumbula, ungamandla amakhulu engane yakho! Ungayiqondisa endleleni efanele.

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