Ingabe uzizwa udangele ngemva kokuthola umntwana? Ungakhathazeki, ake sixoxe ngokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha!

Akukuhle yini ukwamukela umntwana omusha emndenini? Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, umama omusha angase azizwe enovalo, ekhathazekile, ekhathele, futhi ngezinye izikhathi edabukile phakathi namasonto ambalwa okuqala. Lokhu kuyinto eyenzeka komama abaningi. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi le mizwa ingaba nkulu kakhulu futhi ihlale isikhathi eside. Yilokho esizokhuluma ngakho namuhla.

Kuyini ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha? Awukwazi yini ukujabula?

Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa zokuqala noma ngisho emavikini amabili kuya kwamathathu ngemva kokuthola umntwana, omama bangase babe nokudabuka, ukushintshashintsha kwemizwelo, kanye nokukhala nje. Lokhu sikubiza ngokuthi "i-Baby Blues." Lokhu kuvame ukudlula ngokwako ezinsukwini ezimbalwa, okungenani emavikini amabili. Kodwa-ke, uma lokhu kudabuka, ukukhathazeka, kanye nomuzwa wokuthi awukwazi ukwenza lutho kuhlala isikhathi esingaphezu kwamasonto amabili, noma uma le mizwa inamandla kangangokuthi kwenza kube nzima ngisho nokunakekela ingane, yilokho esikubiza ngokuthi ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha. Into ebalulekile ukuthi lokhu akulona iphutha lakho noma ubuthakathaka bakho . Lesi yisimo esingathinta noma ubani. Into engcono kakhulu ukuthi kukhona ukwelashwa okusebenzayo kwalokhu. Ngokwelashwa, omama abaningi bangabuyela ekuphileni kwabo okuvamile futhi bajabule ngezingane zabo.

Ziyini izimpawu zokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha ? Sikubona kanjani?

Lesi simo asithinti wonke umuntu ngendlela efanayo. Lokho kusho ukuthi izimpawu zingahluka kumuntu nomuntu. Kodwa kunezinye izimpawu ezivamile. Bheka ukuthi ubhekene nanoma yikuphi kwalokhu:

• Ngihlala ngizizwa ngidabukile, sengathi alikho ithemba, futhi ngizizwa sengathi sengiyeke konke.
• Ngihlala ngizwa ukwesaba, ukukhathazeka, kanye nokukhathazeka okukhulu.
• Bayazisola nje.
• Ukukhala ngaphandle kwesizathu, ngezinye izikhathi kakhulu kangangokuthi angikwazi ukuyeka.
• Angijabule, ngihlala ngithukuthele, futhi imizwa yami ishintsha ngokushesha.
• Ukulala akuhlali njalo, noma ulala isikhathi esingaphezu kwalokho okufanele ulale.
• Ukudla akunambitheki, noma udla kakhulu.
• Kunzima ukugxila kunoma yini, futhi nginomuzwa wokuthi inkumbulo yami ayisekho.
• Angifuni ukukhuluma nabangani bami noma umndeni wami, noma ukuhlangana nabo.
• Angizizwa nginobuhlobo obuhle nomntwana, futhi ngiphelelwa yisithakazelo sokunakekela umntwana.
• Angisenaso isifiso sokwenza izinto engangizijabulela ukuzenza.

Akuzona zonke izikhathi lapho unesinye noma ezimbili zalezi zimpawu, kubizwa ngokuthi "ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha." Kodwa uma unezinye zazo isikhathi esingaphezu kwamasonto amabili elandelana, kungcono ukubona udokotela.

Izimpawu ezingaba yingozi, kodwa ezingavamile kakhulu

Akuvamile kakhulu, okusho ukuthi akuvamile kakhulu, abanye omama bangase babe nezimpawu ezingathi sína kakhulu. Lezi akumelwe zinganakwa nhlobo:

• Kuvuka imicabango yokulimaza ingane noma ukuzilimaza wena.
• Ukubona nokuzwa izinto ezingekho ngempela (lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi `(Ukuphupha izinto ezingekho (''kusho'`), noma ukusola (''(Imizwa Yokushaqeka)'`) kuvela sengathi wonke umuntu umelene nabo futhi uzama ukubalimaza.

Uma unalezi zimpawu, kufanele uye esibhedlela ngokushesha noma ufune iseluleko sezokwelapha ngokushesha okukhulu. Lesi yisimo esiphuthumayo.

Kungani ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kwenzeka? Ziyini izimbangela?

Kalula nje, asikho isizathu esisodwa salokhu. Kuyinhlanganisela yezinto eziningana ezibangela lesi simo.

• Izinguquko zama-hormone : Ngemva kokubeletha umntwana, umzimba kamama ushintsha kakhulu amazinga ama-hormone. Lolu shintsho oluzumayo lungathinta abanye abantu ngokomzwelo ngale ndlela.
• Izinguquko Empilweni: Ukunakekela umntwana omusha kuwumthwalo wemfanelo omkhulu. Ulahlekelwa ubuthongo, ulahlekelwa ukuphumula , futhi uzizwa ukhathele usuku lonke. Konke lokhu kuhlangene kungaholela ekucindezelekeni. Cabanga nje, abanye omama kufanele bavuke phakathi kwamabili ukuze bancelise futhi bashukumise izingane zabo. Lokhu kuzwakala kukhathaza kangakanani uma kuqhubeka izinyanga?

Nakuba lesi simo singakhula kunoma yimuphi umama, abanye abantu banamathuba amaningi okuba naso. Isibonelo:

• Uma wake wahlushwa ukucindezeleka ngaphambilini (kungaba ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha ngemva kokubeletha).
• Uma kukhona emndenini (umama, ubaba, abafowabo nodadewabo) onesifo sokucindezeleka .
• Uma ubucindezeleke kakhulu ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa .
• Uma ube nezinkinga zempilo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa noma ngemva kokubeletha.
• Uma kungekho ukwesekwa okuncane okuvela ekhaya, kumyeni, noma emndenini. Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu. Umama osanda kuzalwa udinga usizo lwawo wonke umuntu ngesikhathi esinjengalesi.

Wazi kanjani ukuthi lokhu ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha? (Ukuxilongwa)

Uma unezinye zezimpawu ezishiwo ngenhla, into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukutshela udokotela wakho, udokotela wezifo zengqondo, noma isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Bazokhuluma nawe, balalele izimpawu zakho, futhi bakutshele ngqo ukuthi unalesi simo noma cha. Ngezinye izikhathi umama uyalubona lolu shintsho ngokwakhe. Ngezinye izikhathi, umyeni, ilungu lomndeni, noma umngane oseduze uzolubona ushintsho futhi akhuthaze umama ukuba afune iseluleko sezokwelapha.

Yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha? Ingabe kuyelapheka?

Yebo, impela! Kunezindlela zokwelapha ezinhle zalokhu, futhi ngokwelashwa, omama abaningi bayalulama ngokuphelele. Izindlela zokwelapha zingahluka. Kuya ngohlobo lwezimpawu zakho, ubukhali bazo, njll.

• Ukwelulekwa : Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakho nomeluleki oqeqeshiwe kungaba usizo kakhulu. Kungakunikeza nesiqondiso sendlela yokubhekana nesimo .
• Ukuzinakekela: Lokhu kuyingxenye yokwelashwa.
• Lala ngokwanele ngangokunokwenzeka. Kunzima ukulala ngokwanele nomntwana. Kodwa thatha ikhefu elincane noma nini lapho kungenzeka. Thola usizo kumalungu omndeni.
• Yidla ukudla okunempilo okunempilo.
• Ukuzivocavoca. Ngisho nokuhamba ibanga elifushane kwanele.
• Thola isikhathi sokwenza okuthile okukwenza ujabule futhi kukhulule ingqondo yakho (isib. ukufunda incwadi, ukulalela ingoma, ukukhuluma nomngane).
• Amaqembu Okusekela: Ukukhuluma nabanye omama abasesimweni esifanayo nawe nokwabelana ngolwazi kuyisici esinamandla amakhulu. Kuyaduduza futhi ukwazi ukuthi awuwedwa.
• Imithi: Ngezinye izikhathi udokotela wakho angakunikeza imithi. Le mithi ingasiza ekunciphiseni imizwa yakho yokudabuka nokukhathazeka. Kunemithi ephephile engasetshenziswa omama abancelisayo. Ngakho ungakhathazeki ngakho. Kodwa-ke, ungathathi noma yimuphi umuthi ngaphandle kweseluleko sikadokotela.

Uma ngidinga usizo, ngilutholaphi usizo?

Uma unezinye zezimpawu ezishiwo kulesi sihloko, sicela ungazindeli ukufuna usizo. Uma ushesha ukufuna usizo, kulapho ungalulama khona ngokushesha.

• Okokuqala, bona udokotela wakho womndeni (`Udokotela Womndeni / Udokotela Wezingane`), udokotela wakho wezifo zabesifazane (`VOG`), noma udokotela wezingane wengane yakho (`Udokotela Wezingane`). Bangenza lokhu:
• Bhala umuthi uma uwudinga.
• Ukudlulisela kudokotela wezifo zengqondo, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, noma esinye isisebenzi sezempilo yengqondo .
• Ngezinye izikhathi ukuhlolwa kwegazi (isib., ukuhlolwa kokusebenza kwe-thyroid) kungenziwa ukuze kubonakale ukuthi kukhona yini esinye isizathu esibonakalayo salezi zimpawu.
• Ungaya nasemtholampilo wezifo zengqondo esibhedlela sikahulumeni esiseduze.
• Okubaluleke kakhulu: Uma uzizwa sengathi ulimaza ingane yakho noma wena ngokwakho, noma uma ubona noma uzwa izinto ezingekho, hamba uye egumbini lezimo eziphuthumayo esibhedlela esiseduze ngokushesha. Lokhu akuyona into okufanele uyibambezele.

Kukhona nezinsizakalo zempilo yengqondo kanye nokusekelwa kanye nezinombolo zocingo eSri Lanka. Uma kudingeka, ungabuza udokotela ngakho.

Yini enye okudingeka siyazi ngalokhu? (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Khumbula, ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kungelapheka, futhi ukwelashwa kuyasebenza. Iningi lomama liyakwazi ukubuyela empilweni yalo evamile futhi lijabulele usana lwabo olusha phakathi namasonto ambalwa.

Awuwedwa ngalesi sikhathi. Omama abaningi badlula kulesi simo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukungesabi ukucela usizo, futhi ungabi namahloni okuziveza. Injabulo yakho, impilo yakho yengqondo, kanye neyomntwana wakho kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngakho-ke cabanga ngawe nawe.

Uma uneminye imibuzo mayelana nalokhu, sicela ukhulume nomuntu omethembayo, noma udokotela. Ngikufisela ukululama okusheshayo!

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Ukucindezeleka Kwangemva Kokubeletha, Umama, Ingane, Impilo Yengqondo, Ukucindezeleka, Ukwelashwa